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friendlyadvice:
Even if na e sugar daddy build house I go still dey der, she married me I married her and naija too hard for priding

woman no dey marry man for Africa....

truthsayer009:
All your points are valid, as we know about Women not having those equal opportunities & being marginalised. Then also treated unfairly by the society.

But then you are totally ignoring the fact that When a woman is playing your Role in an African home, what you get is total reproach, disregard & contempt. This is due to the Fact that they are brought up with those Old Mothers whom you speak of. I totally have respect for women but you cannot deny the Fact that this is true with Women brought up in Africa.

I really don't like to be one sided in my opinions. I see the truth, I speak it.

That is really a question of character. Just as some male breadwinners will lord it over their wives some female breadwinners will do the same.

I know a couple that eventually divorced. They built house together, husband put it in his name only. Husband lost job, wife was carrying them, and he expected her to be home on time to cook his food ( vi to iyana ipaja)

Anyway, they are divorced now. She did her Best but the guys ego. And of course there was domestic violence.

We will live in my small house for a short while then I will upgrade to a modern bungalow. I will never live under a woman's roof.... Not out of pride, am just respecting myself coz even if she don't insult u someday her family or relatives will.

Bizibi:
i am Not whipping up sentiments, you are making it look like it is a feminist thing. Well do what suits yourself.we all have our lives to live.

Once it doesn't go their way, expect one word

FEMINIST.

Feminist is the name for any woman who thinks the way they do. Which by the way, is the exact way to keep ones sanity amongst wolves.

I have argued enough for today, thank you guys.

Ephesians 5:31

New International Version "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.
Hope you get the gist here... (don't quote me and say thats not what the bible meant)

In this case, I will unite with my wife. (I won't let pride deprive me.)

pray for a good wife and be humble.

I will say this based on what i have seen, men never move into a woman's house immediately after marriage if finances go bad in the marriage and you have to move into your wife's house that is a different thing.

Women never allow a man move into your house straight from the altar. Put your house up for rent and move in with him. I have seen real life examples,it wasn't pleasant both on the man's side and the woman.

Bizibi:
it is one of the reasons why couples in that bracket buy a house together in other societies, here in Abuja, I know many married women that own properties here and they don't have problem staying with their husbands, there is one I know that her husband serves in this administration government,there is another one that owns an apartment she resides in,the husband travels to stay with her for some months then go back.....

Even if the woman is humility personified and doesn't humiliate the man with it, what about the in-laws? Honestly, in the African settings, a man being housed by a woman is never regarded by his in-laws

To me,I'll sell both of houses and build another one for both of us

Duggedised12:
I will say this based on what i have seen, men never move into a woman's house immediately after marriage if finances go down the line in the marriage and you have to move into your wife's house that is a different thing.

Women never allow a man move into your house straight from the alter. Put your house up for rent and move in with him. I have seen real life examples,it wasn't pleasant.

True story babe. Tbh, I wouldn't even want him moving into mine neither will i convince him to do such . I can't live life walking on eggshells.

I’ve always loved bungalows so I’d love to live with him in one

tosyne2much:
Even if the woman is humility personified and doesn't humiliate the man with it, what about the in-laws? Honestly, in the African settings, a man being housed by a woman is never regarded by his in-laws

in-laws will worship the woman, that is why it is always good to support a wife in marriage. In-laws dare not misbehave,there are men here that put their wives in good government ministries and agencies,when my dad passed away, my mother's in-laws dare not talk down on my mother because they know who she is and if she coughs everybody must maintain his/her lane.

It is a thing of pride to see your wife influential with humility.

solasoulmusic:
I’ve always loved bungalows so I’d love to live with him in one

Hahahaha this one say na bungalows, Madame we are not talking about bungalows here oh

AdoIfHitlerr:
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shatap there

dont mind the gold digger

Wiifesnatcher:
you this girls sef, must everything go verbatim before you comprehend simple sentence


I'm contented with what I have means my status won't change who I'm if I meet Rich people and that was related to the Op question, so how is that a contradiction to I can't marry a Rich lady that won't bless me to be rich before marriage, it means I'll stick with the lady of my status while we struggle together to achieve our dream if she want to force herself to be the Breadwinner



my post was in conditional form and it requires logical understanding, all words must not go verbatim

Continue confusing yourself jare

In this part of the world we love to paint marriage as a competition, where the man must be on top always. that trend isn't good at all

tosyne2much:
Even if the woman is humility personified and doesn't humiliate the man with it, what about the in-laws? Honestly, in the African settings, a man being housed by a woman is never regarded by his in-laws

LMAO, i never even thought of this We are our own problems

Bizibi:
in-laws will worship the woman, that is why it is always good to support a wife in marriage. In-laws dare not misbehave,there are men here that put their wives in good government ministries and agencies,when my dad passed away, my mother's in-laws dare not talk down on my mother because they know who she is and if she coughs everybody must maintain his/her lane.

It is a thing of pride to see your wife influential with humility.

Yeah! It's always very good to support your wife and empower her to attain greatness.

It's good to put your wife and children on the safe side so even when you pass on, no in-law will come and try any shit

Risingblue008:
To me,I'll sell both of houses and build another one for both of us

ole,as if she will agree and if she did I will call her a fool

AntiBrutus:
True story babe. Tbh, I wouldn't even want him moving into mine neither will i convince him to do such . I can't live life walking on eggshells.

The stories long my dear. Sometimes we have to look to what is obtainable in the real world to make decisions. And i have seen it from the vantage point of both the woman and the man, and while i agree there are exceptions out there ,i wont advise a man to move in with his wife straight out of the altar neither will i advice a woman to accept a man to move in with her ,lai lai

truthsayer009:
LMAO, i never even thought of this We are our own problems

Ehn now!

You become a subject of mockery and irresponsible to the people you came to prostrate to when you came to ask for her hand in marriage

ornicus:
That is really a question of character. Just as some male breadwinners will lord it over their wives some female breadwinners will do the same.

I know a couple that eventually divorced. They built house together, husband put it in his name only. Husband lost job, wife was carrying them, and he expected her to be home on time to cook his food ( vi to iyana ipaja)

Anyway, they are divorced now. She did her Best but the guys ego. And of course there was domestic violence.

Are you for real? Why can't he cook since he his at home.

Also why would he put the house only in his name. Me I no go gree sha. Whether as a Man or Woman.

truthsayer009:
Hahahaha this one say na bungalows, Madame we are not talking about bungalows here oh

I believe I responded to the thread not to you I’d live where he lives is that wrong

I’m talking about what I can maintain I don’t plan to have help so it’s what I can manage and keep spotless not what the community sees our relationship is about

solasoulmusic:
I believe I responded to the thread not to you I’d live where he lives is that wrong

I’m talking about what I can maintain I don’t plan to have help so it’s what I can manage and keep spotless not what the community sees our relationship is about

I was just pulling your legs LMAO

Duggedised12:
The stories long my dear. Sometimes we have to look to what is obtainable in the real world to make decisions. And i have seen it from the vantage point of both the woman and the man, and while i agree there are exceptions out there ,i wont advise a man to move in with his wife straight out of the altar neither will i advice a woman to accept a man to move in with her ,lai lai

Lol. This thing wey you see strong. One day you will tell me the story.

Since they both have houses, then they are alright and as far as I am concerned- none is overly dependent or screwed without the other.

truthsayer009:
Miss, it's not about country, It is global. This is the Sole reason women marry men in their class or upper class so as to maintain the same lifestyle or a better one.

Men are not meant to be dependent. Seems harsh but we never created ourselves.

Apart from that Women globally look down on dependent men and they are not attractive.

Same way most men look down on their dependent wives and see it as a reason to treat her like less than human. But to you men it's normal since it's women at the receiving end. Turn the tables a bit and we start seeing wails about how selfish and evil women are.

AntiBrutus:
Anywhere he wants us to live, na him sabi.

As long as I still have my house, in my name.

Women, women. Choi! This one just came out of nowhere to justify the men's assertion. Selfishness nor go kill you o

smartoliver:
Women, women. Choi! This one just came out of nowhere to justify the men's assertion. Selfishness nor go kill you o

Trust me, I have no time to beg a man or negate his assertions. That is the fastest way to die...

tosyne2much:
Yeah! It's always very good to support your wife and empower her to attain greatness.

It's good to put your wife and children on the safe side so even when you pass on, no in-law will come and try any shit

exactly,it is very important, especially if she is the serious type of person. It becomes easy when your wife is well respected and she gives you that respect...... I remember the owner of a popular hotel in ihama road, G.R.A,benin city,the man and the wife are simple,but their wealth alone..... Some of us thought the woman was richer than the man until she told us not compare her to him. They stayed together and raised their children,one of their sons is managing the hotel now.

Honestly it is a thing of joy to work together as one,when you see some marriages, to marry go sweet you.

AntiBrutus:
Lol. This thing wey you see strong. One day you will tell me the story.

Since they both have houses, then they are alright and as far as I am concerned- none is overly dependent or screwed without the other.

Lol ,inside life my sister, things we see inside life.Atleast this ones both have houses and not only the woman having a house and the man renting.

AntiBrutus:
Trust me, I have no time to beg a man or negate his assertions. That is the fastest way to die...

I actually think it's the other way round. But either way, in this case, love hardly wins... We are too selfish to see that everything she has becomes his and everything he has becomes hers.


As for me, I'll live in OUR HOUSE.. Not in hers or his but OURS. if we can't have that, then what's the point of getting married in the first place.?

franchasng:
they are example we can point at when making references, or who else can we use


Majority of Nigerian women are selfish, toxic and wicked to their male lovers and husbands, only very few are exception but majority are not good to their men when it comes to financial and material matters.

They can be good to their family members but to their boyfriends and husbands, they are selfish, wicked and toxic most times, its a known fact by all Nigerian men and even foreign men

guess you're speaking for your mother and sisters cos they are women also