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lalopeto:
You are an unimaginable hardened hypocrite! Your thoughts are misleading. Who are you to judge me? Are you up to the standard of God your self? I guess you are a feminist. Please stop misleading humble women that are on the forum to learn and pick the areas that have to do with them rising to their own responsibility in the marriage institution. If a woman fail in considering and meeting her husbands need she sinned against God.

FrLukas:
A man who cheats only does that because that's what he wants to do. The inattentive wife is just an excuse he uses to salve his conscience.

doitforyou:
You just made my point. Why would you care about the emotions of a side chick? The only emotions you should care about is your wife’s and kids’.

yeyeosoronga:
Exactly..
The OP is just ridiculous, and doesn't want to take personal responsibility for his weaknesses. It is always someone else's fault. Such people are dangerous to have any business/relationship dealings with. They will never accept they are wrong, and hence can never change and be better.
Personally, I dont care if any man or woman decides to cheat on their spouse. It's their family problem. What I find worrying is trying to justify it and putting the blame on your spouse. Nobody is perfect, but own your mistakes and sins. If you can at least do that, it's easier to get forgiveness and to truly repent.

yeyeosoronga:
Thank God, he is merciful. However, you are on a path to self destruction trying to justify adultery because your wife "pushed" you to it. What makes it more ridiculous is that you're even bringing God into your shenanigans.
The hottest part of hell awaits you when you who claim to be a Christian cheats, lies to your wife , and then keep your concubines. All in the name of God.. Disgusting.

yeyeosoronga:
Thank God, he is merciful. However, you are on a path to self destruction trying to justify adultery because your wife "pushed" you to it. What makes it more ridiculous is that you're even bringing God into your shenanigans.
The hottest part of hell awaits you when you who claim to be a Christian cheats, lies to your wife , and then keep your concubines. All in the name of God.. Disgusting.

djon78:
1 Corinthians 7 King James Version (KJV)
7 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.

2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.

4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.


Here is what the Bible says about marriage sex. The man or woman has the right to the partners body.
Defrauding a partner sex is sin, because you are exposing the person to temptation. On the other hand the man should support the wife, maybe hire a Nanny to help in domestic and taking care of the baby as some families do so there will be a balance.

Belafonte:
Get a bloody side chick and stop disturbing us here

lalopeto:
My brother! thats still not the solution because that is not the will of God for any man. The side chicks will still disappoint. If God will help wives to take note of this and consider their husbands then the problem is solved. The children they are using to excuse their irresponsibility will soon grow up and be independent, they will have no excuse then.

lalopeto:
Madam self-righteous, I am in no way justifying adultery neither will be part of the people that will encourage others to sin. As you rightly said God is merciful and I dont think He has given any man the power to pass a sentence on a fellow man as you did. You, a corruptible man cannot judge your fellow human being because you are not omniscient, you know next to nothing on what some people are going through. These are things that words cannot explain. Go and learn how to be fair, polite and reasonable in baring your opinion publicly such that everybody will note where they are lagging behind to make necessary corrections and not make them to feel guilty or condemn instead of being quick to criticize as if you have not commited sin today.

lalopeto:
"so there will be a balance"

Now, this is a very beautiful example of a fair play, not the misleading opinion some people are downloading on the forum. This person JUST BALANCE THE EQUATION. Nobody is perfect, be it the wives that are exposing their husbands to adultery or the men that are involving in it.

yeyeosoronga:
Your own words have condemned you. I cannot take seriously, any 'born against' who thinks committing adultery can be laid down at the feet of his wife. It shows you are one of the fake born against parading about.
Like I mentioned earlier I don't care if you decide to be unfaithful to your husband or wife. I won't judge you. If you want to continue doing that, I couldn't care less. I'm actually very open minded.
What I find appalling is doing it under the guise of - its someone else's fault. You have to learn to take responsibility.
If you want to get a girlfriend or another wife, please do so because you want to. Don't blame your wife though, and say its because she's caring for your children.

lalopeto:
Your word is not holding water neither are you making sense with your unsubstantiated submissions. I don't think you are a bible believing Christian woman, rather you are just a mere social critic. Cease misleading people here, please. Is like you don't seem to understand the message the OP is passing across jare.

yeyeosoronga:
I hope you will have this same energy when you wife equally finds succour outside because you exposed her to it.
I'm still yet to find a woman who will run away from good sex. If you do not do the job of pleasuring your wife very well, she will avoid you. Sex for most men (most of the tjme) is usually basic, and most are easy to please sexually. Unlike women where it is a herculean task, that takes dedication, and even some research.
What is the point of stressing your life with poor sex? Waste of time. You will not orgasm, and will still feel frustrated at the end of it all. Double wahala.
Ask other men here to educate you on how they make their wives always come back for more.
It's a simple matter, and not all this hocus pocus hell fire you've been shouting upandan.

Sadiama:
I agree with this. The reason most women ignore sex is cos they don't enjoy it. Sex is psychological to women. A woman who is stressed with so much family chores will most likely not have sex in mind.

Pavore9:
Going to hell is a personal decision, you can't blame another human being for living a life that will make you end up there as the Creator is not interested in blame games.

faithfull18:
Lol, true, it's a personal decision.

lalopeto:
Even with the excuse Eve gave that it was the devil (family chores, the children, her being an emotional being and stuff), she still met herself outside God's paradise. So if they like let them continue to make their excuses.

lalopeto:
Yes, it is a personal decision. Adam took a similar decision and he found himself outside the garden of Eden together with his wife. It was Adam that took the decision but God punished both Adam and Eve. Even with the excuse Eve gave that it was the devil (family chores, the children, her being an emotional being and stuff), she still met herself outside God's paradise. So if they like let them continue to make their excuses.

lalopeto:
Yes, it is a personal decision. Adam took a similar decision and he found himself outside the garden of Eden together with his wife. It was Adam that took the decision but God punished both Adam and Eve. Even with the excuse Eve gave that it was the devil (family chores, the children, her being an emotional being and stuff), she still met herself outside God's paradise. So if they like let them continue to make their excuses.

lalopeto:
the devil (family chores, the children,

doitforyou:
So you agree then, that men making up excuses for cheating is crap. People cheat because they want to not because someone made them to.



God punished Eve, rightfully so, because she ate the apple too. They both paid the price for disobedience, they were both held responsible for their choices. So someone corrected you up thread and you still insist on being misleading. It seems your post was a rant so all your dude bros will come here and bash women as usual. You were never interested in an objective dialogue.

lalopeto:
If you hardened unrepentant women continue to disobey God by failing in your marital responsibility to your husbands, you will be punished also.

crackhaus:
I think we should all just calm down, almost everyone is going to hell anyway including most of you here.

sisisioge:
You are going alone, though this OP looks well on the way there too. As for me and the sane rest, heavenwards we face

crackhaus:
I like your confidence, unfortunately it's not by works or talk lest any man (or woman) should boast.

lalopeto:
If you hardened unrepentant women continue to disobey God by failing in your marital responsibility to your husbands, you will be punished also.

crackhaus:
almost everyone is going to hell anyway

crackhaus:
it (going to hell) is not by works or talk lest any man (or woman) should boast.