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King44:
[b]things have changed Yoruba's have a saying that only the parent alone can't mold the character of their child [/b]but this days it is the other way round and things that were considered uncool is now seen as the new cool trend

if I get pikin they gats greet people in the house or u receive bashing, they gats be upright

the same Yoruba also said, "IGBA O LO BI ORERE." You better leave those children with their wahala. Ba mi na omo mi o de inu olomo

I feel sorry for you on what you've been through. Sorry on behalf of your aunt. Leave the kids alone. You need to be distant from their whole family. You need to leave her to God, and prove the devil wrong, and come out of this clean and still happy, despite all.

Dont do anything bad because of anybody. At the end of the day nobody cares who hurt you and made you do it, all fingers will point to you.

OP, I just hope you won't end up in jail with this childish mindset of yours.

Is it by must to discipline your aunt's kids?

We were beaten and seriously chastised while growing up and it helped shaped us morally. If she, however, doesnt wants her kids to be disciplined, then so be it

Remember that she wouldn't have disciplined you if your Mom had refuted

Charleys:
I get my own house, but we all travel to family house during holidays.

you haven't noticed before that people who beats other people's children normally see their own like gold my own aunty that will not even allow you to cry after beating was looking for a secondary school that they won't be touching or dicipling her daughter at all even when she is wrong or right. Note that anybody that beats people's children will never allow their own to be touched at all but those who didn't will be cautioning their kids.

notoriousbabe:
the same Yoruba also said, "IGBA O LO BI ORERE." You better leave those children with their wahala. Ba mi na omo mi o de inu olomo

true

nairalandposter:
blah blah blah blah, we don't need these dumb threads, I don't know you or your relatives or associates and I don't care what transpires between or who greets who.

I don't like wasting my data on stupidity, please keep your stupid problems to yourself.

You assume everyone here is jobless therefore we have no choice but the idiotic topics opened by you and your ilk?

Why are you foaming in the mouth are you dyslexic who can not deduce caption of topic before jumping inside to yap gibberish, or were you tagged when this thread was opened?
As you can see, Op was soliciting mature advice before you came to conflagrate this thread with your rabid fatuity.

Buzz off you heap of trash, and let us not hear any more twaddle about job and joblessness, because you're a full fledge embodiment of the epithet you used on Op. If not, you wouldn't find this thread apt enough to dignify with a response.

I don't even know why every thing on here is always soused in the swamp of gender scrimmage.

Charleys:
I dont see any problem in giving my child to my brother or sister who is there to help out. If I'm going to work or something. I don't want my child to go and break someone's pot outside. It's better it happens at home.

If I'm not around, then my child tells me he or she was beaten I'll ask questions then I'll tell him or her not to do it again.

I accept that I was a little bit stubborn, and I was disciplined for it. My problem is her children are also stubborn but she doesn't want them to be disciplined.

I am their uncle and they don't even greet me good morning. Something I would never do in front of her.

Does she know they don't greet me? she does.

you're taking para on another person's headache just watch those kids grow they will still practice it on their mother. In my formal house where we use to leave before face me I slap you. The was a tiger woman who seems to be stronger than every other woman in the compound she fights with everybody weather male or female her kids behaves like princesses they don't respect or greet anyone but to her greatest surprise they're practising it on her now they even fight her most time & keep malice with her for some weeks. She is now complaining. Just leave her she is doing herself you will be surprised what the result will be later. As for the issue of mothers allowing their kids to be cautioned its still a good thing. The kids will enjoy it later even though that most times they include wickedness & power

Charleys:
I have this aunt who used to flog me, give me all sorts of punishment when I was a child.

Most of my childhood worst childhood memories are tied to her.
But she thought me lots of things, like self discipline, patience etc.

I was always with her when my mum was working.

Fast forward to now....
She has two kids (boy & a girl) very stubborn.

She doesn't want me to do the same thing she used to do to me. Is it fair at all.

Example I went home to visit during holidays, her children broke the plate they were washing...

If I was the one hell would have broken loose that day but while I was talking to them I noticed she was protecting them. I kept quiet.

Secondly when I tell them to do something they do not do it, that will be the right time to flog them.. but my aunty boldly told me not to touch her children.

I believe deep inside me I'm trying to pay her for the evil she use to do to me but I'm not aware of it.

Or am I being too harsh on them... Her kids.
Why doesn't she want me to also flog her children. My mum never had problem with her if I did something wrong. So why is she having problems with me now that her kids are doing things wrong.

I believe my generation have been cheated, children dont learn anymore in school. in fact she secretly told her children not to greet me. (This can never happen if I did this to her).

What should be my next move now. Because I believe there's a cold war going on in the house.

Note we stay at family house when we travel back to the village.

Note it's out of disrespect that makes me think this way.

You seem like a freakazoid with lots of idle time on your hands.

If you really want to discipline children why don't you get your own?

Is it your sister that you are calling your aunt?

Charleys:
The children dey insult wella, something that I can never open my mouth to say to grown ups. That's what they say.

I also believe she knows what she was doing that's why she told her children not to greet me.

In fact it is an insult to not greet her when I was small na heavy knock she go use remind me that I didn't greet her.

I need solutions.

My parents which is their grandparents can't say anything because they've gotten old. I believe this is my time to step in

Charleys:
The children dey insult wella, something that I can never open my mouth to say to grown ups. That's what they say.

I also believe she knows what she was doing that's why she told her children not to greet me.

In fact it is an insult to not greet her when I was small na heavy knock she go use remind me that I didn't greet her.

I need solutions.

My parents which is their grandparents can't say anything because they've gotten old. I believe this is my time to step in

Leave her her spoilt kids for her and obey her wishes and don't lay a finger on them. If she fails to discipline her children outsiders would gladly do her supposed job of instilling discipline in her kids for her. Your own duty is to sit back, relax and watch the whole drama unfold. You are free to laugh about their ordeals if you wish to

Charleys:
She doesn't want me to do the same thing she used to do to me. Is it fair at all?

Let's chew on this... the heart of the problem. Your aunt flogged you.... your aunt flogged her nephew. Are her children your nephew/niece?....or are they your cousins? It is fair if your mother flogs her children....she would be flogging her nephew/niece. I just hope you don't have kids..... they'll be branded with stripes of brutality.

You wanted to beat children for breaking a plate??

An accident?

Why are Nigerians such sadists?


I've also been accused of being told not to greet an elder as a child.

Come with your facts before making such big claims

You have a vengeance spirit flocking around you. I'll advise you to go back to your base and leave her family alone

Charleys:
The children dey insult wella, something that I can never open my mouth to say to grown ups. That's what they say.

I also believe she knows what she was doing that's why she told her children not to greet me.

In fact it is an insult to not greet her when I was small na heavy knock she go use remind me that I didn't greet her.

I need solutions.

My parents which is their grandparents can't say anything because they've gotten old. I believe this is my time to step in

They are children.

Violence is never the answer . If you cannot deal with a bunch of children without the need to beat them, then you lack maturity and deserve the beating even more.

Always have this at the back of your mind, they are children, prone to making mistakes.

Charleys:
I have this aunt who used to flog me, give me all sorts of punishment when I was a child.

Most of my childhood worst childhood memories are tied to her.
But she thought me lots of things, like self discipline, patience etc.

I was always with her when my mum was working.

Fast forward to now....
She has two kids (boy & a girl) very stubborn.

She doesn't want me to do the same thing she used to do to me. Is it fair at all.

Example I went home to visit during holidays, her children broke the plate they were washing...

If I was the one hell would have broken loose that day but while I was talking to them I noticed she was protecting them. I kept quiet.

Secondly when I tell them to do something they do not do it, that will be the right time to flog them.. but my aunty boldly told me not to touch her children.

I believe deep inside me I'm trying to pay her for the evil she use to do to me but I'm not aware of it.

Or am I being too harsh on them... Her kids.
Why doesn't she want me to also flog her children. My mum never had problem with her if I did something wrong. So why is she having problems with me now that her kids are doing things wrong.

I believe my generation have been cheated, children dont learn anymore in school. in fact she secretly told her children not to greet me. (This can never happen if I did this to her).

What should be my next move now. Because I believe there's a cold war going on in the house.

Note we stay at family house when we travel back to the village.

Note it's out of disrespect that makes me think this way.

Lol

I concur!
She's so crazy to be raising her kids that way, like telling them not to greet you and all that. Spank the hell outta them and scold their mum join

jenifer007:
Most relations are like that.They don't tolerate rubbish when it comes to other peoples' children but their own kids are like eggs nobody must touch them.That's total nonsense....Op if the children cross your path which I know they will because they believe they have their mother's support, show them the African method by scolding them wella, if their mum tries to shout at you in return,please endeavour to serve her tea hot too....Give her her own dose too then she will realize you are also a no nonsense person like her too and she will definitely give herself brain.

Trust me anyone that thinks say he or she get craze,that person never jam person wey get craze pass am.

Evil thing

Lol

OP,you no get wahala at all,since all you do is look for children to flog and discipline,why not go and marry and have your own kids,then flog them as you like.


Also tell that your aunty,that i said that she is an e-diot for telling her kids Not to greet you,she doesnt know the seed she is planting,when it germinates,let her not cry.

My brother, discipline those children. My sister does the same and I still discipline her son even in the presence of her hubby. That son will definitely look after my children when I have mine. If I don't discipline him now, he gets so many moral decadence and may likely pass across to my children when born.
As you can't separate two children from finding their chemistry. I still scolded the boy two days ago while I visited her and the mother said "why did you beat him"?
I responded "I did it for fun".
The boy so stubborn but I don't want such morals to be passed across to my children by him.

marvelous000:
Why are you foaming in the mouth are you dyslexic who can not deduce caption of topic before jumping inside to yap gibberish, or were you tagged when this thread was opened?
As you can see, Op was soliciting mature advice before you came to conflagrate this thread with your rabid fatuity.

Buzz off you heap of trash, and let us not hear any more twaddle about job and joblessness, because you're a full fledge embodiment of the epithet you used on Op. If not, you wouldn't find this thread apt enough to dignify with a response.

I don't even know why every thing on here is always soused in the swamp of gender scrimmage.

Shun sir! My Oga with the grammar, I greet u.

Avoid them. Don't travel home when they're there.

Guy, u are funny oooo. If I were you, I will correct the children right in front of that Aunty and if she protest, I will remind her of all she did to me. Well, u are not me because I always stand for the truth, no matter what

Charleys:
I have this aunt who used to flog me, give me all sorts of punishment when I was a child.

Most of my childhood worst childhood memories are tied to her.
But she thought me lots of things, like self discipline, patience etc.

I was always with her when my mum was working.

Fast forward to now....
She has two kids (boy & a girl) very stubborn.

She doesn't want me to do the same thing she used to do to me. Is it fair at all.

Example I went home to visit during holidays, her children broke the plate they were washing...

If I was the one hell would have broken loose that day but while I was talking to them I noticed she was protecting them. I kept quiet.

Secondly when I tell them to do something they do not do it, that will be the right time to flog them.. but my aunty boldly told me not to touch her children.

I believe deep inside me I'm trying to pay her for the evil she use to do to me but I'm not aware of it.

Or am I being too harsh on them... Her kids.
Why doesn't she want me to also flog her children. My mum never had problem with her if I did something wrong. So why is she having problems with me now that her kids are doing things wrong.

I believe my generation have been cheated, children dont learn anymore in school. in fact she secretly told her children not to greet me. (This can never happen if I did this to her).

What should be my next move now. Because I believe there's a cold war going on in the house.

Note we stay at family house when we travel back to the village.

Note it's out of disrespect that makes me think this way.

You just want to retaliate not discipline...
So that venomous act from ur wicked auntie is still in ur Gene...
Change n let the children be..
Ur harshness to them Is making u see their stubbornness n many disrespectful act..
By the way how do you know that ur wicked auntie told them secretly to stop greeting u.
Are u a witch?

jenifer007:
Most relations are like that.They don't tolerate rubbish when it comes to other peoples' children but their own kids are like eggs nobody must touch them.That's total nonsense....Op if the children cross your path which I know they will because they believe they have their mother's support, show them the African method by scolding them wella, if their mum tries to shout at you in return,please endeavour to serve her tea hot too....Give her her own dose too then she will realize you are also a no nonsense person like her too and she will definitely give herself brain.

Trust me anyone that thinks say he or she get craze,that person never jam person wey get craze pass am.

Best comment so far!

The rest are talking rubbish and speaking plenty grammar.

some people don't know how it feels like. I understand OP.

OP, if them cross your path, whether as a retaliation or as discipline, flog them well. if their mother come, change am for her too! She remembered what she did to you, that's why she's been overprotective.

Charleys:
I have this aunt who used to flog me, give me all sorts of punishment when I was a child.

Most of my childhood worst childhood memories are tied to her.
But she thought me lots of things, like self discipline, patience etc.

I was always with her when my mum was working.

Fast forward to now....
She has two kids (boy & a girl) very stubborn.

She doesn't want me to do the same thing she used to do to me. Is it fair at all.

Example I went home to visit during holidays, her children broke the plate they were washing...

If I was the one hell would have broken loose that day but while I was talking to them I noticed she was protecting them. I kept quiet.

Secondly when I tell them to do something they do not do it, that will be the right time to flog them.. but my aunty boldly told me not to touch her children.

I believe deep inside me I'm trying to pay her for the evil she use to do to me but I'm not aware of it.

Or am I being too harsh on them... Her kids.
Why doesn't she want me to also flog her children. My mum never had problem with her if I did something wrong. So why is she having problems with me now that her kids are doing things wrong.

I believe my generation have been cheated, children dont learn anymore in school. in fact she secretly told her children not to greet me. (This can never happen if I did this to her).

What should be my next move now. Because I believe there's a cold war going on in the house.

Note we stay at family house when we travel back to the village.

Note it's out of disrespect that makes me think this way.

Which one is "what is my next move" are u on a mission to discipline her kids?
Time has changed dude, my dad flogged d shiit outta my siblings and I but the last born is 10yrs younger than my immediate sis.
My parents never raised their hand on her, they even almost got a teacher sacked for beating her in school.
Just let it go

Charleys:
I dont see any problem in giving my child to my brother or sister who is there to help out. If I'm going to work or something. I don't want my child to go and break someone's pot outside. It's better it happens at home.

If I'm not around, then my child tells me he or she was beaten I'll ask questions then I'll tell him or her not to do it again.

I accept that I was a little bit stubborn, and I was disciplined for it. My problem is her children are also stubborn but she doesn't want them to be disciplined.

I am their uncle and they don't even greet me good morning. Something I would never do in front of her.

Does she know they don't greet me? she does.

This is very bad for the children. the aunty is spoiling the children with this kind of habit of not greeting

Charleys:
I have this aunt who used to flog me, give me all sorts of punishment when I was a child.

Most of my childhood worst childhood memories are tied to her.
But she thought me lots of things, like self discipline, patience etc.

I was always with her when my mum was working.

Fast forward to now....
She has two kids (boy & a girl) very stubborn.

She doesn't want me to do the same thing she used to do to me. Is it fair at all.

Example I went home to visit during holidays, her children broke the plate they were washing...

If I was the one hell would have broken loose that day but while I was talking to them I noticed she was protecting them. I kept quiet.

Secondly when I tell them to do something they do not do it, that will be the right time to flog them.. but my aunty boldly told me not to touch her children.

I believe deep inside me I'm trying to pay her for the evil she use to do to me but I'm not aware of it.

Or am I being too harsh on them... Her kids.
Why doesn't she want me to also flog her children. My mum never had problem with her if I did something wrong. So why is she having problems with me now that her kids are doing things wrong.

I believe my generation have been cheated, children dont learn anymore in school. in fact she secretly told her children not to greet me. (This can never happen if I did this to her).

What should be my next move now. Because I believe there's a cold war going on in the house.

Note we stay at family house when we travel back to the village.

Note it's out of disrespect that makes me think this way.

you have a wrong motive in trying to punish your sister's children. Revenge not correction is on your mind and that's evil

jenifer007:
Most relations are like that.They don't tolerate rubbish when it comes to other peoples' children but their own kids are like eggs nobody must touch them.That's total nonsense....Op if the children cross your path which I know they will because they believe they have their mother's support, show them the African method by scolding them wella, if their mum tries to shout at you in return,please endeavour to serve her tea hot too....Give her her own dose too then she will realize you are also a no nonsense person like her too and she will definitely give herself brain.

Trust me anyone that thinks say he or she get craze,that person never jam person wey get craze pass am.

Upon all the African method of scolding, are we better?
Is our IQ higher?
Are we not the poverty capital of the world?
After scolding and beating, we are still vehemently wicked, desperately greedy and materialistic to the core.
We grow up to jungle justice idiots, we kill with no penchant for mercy.
We are inetly wicked.

We don't know how to reprimand children
What we do is transfer of aggression.
Cos we are not naturally humane in nature.
Cos we don't know how to love.

It means go an born ur own

Charleys
I understand quite perfectly how you feel used to have an aunt like that but she wasnt like your aunt telling her kids not to greet me o, infact na me dey beg when she go dey rough handle the boy say e too dirty can stay all year without bathing he will go inside the bathroom ,dip cloth in water rub his body and say he has taken his bath lol.

But this your case,that aunt of yours is raising those kids badly, no good parent tells her kids who to greet and who not to greet.Do you still greet their mother,because if any person be you my blood tell your kids not to greet me, be rest assured i am not greeting you either, that is my own. The seeds she is planting in those kids of hers will come back to haunt her.

Lastly, she disciplined you back then with the permission of your mother, whether you found it extreme or not,you turned out well, take that with you and let it go. She wants to spoil her children rotten ,oh well let it be your pleasure to watch them bring her disgrace. Where i come from when someone says "just dey look am" to an irresponsible person it should bother you because they have washed their hands from your matter. So you too wash your hands off their matter and focus more on your future and having your own family.