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Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by maya007: 9:27am On Oct 20, 2019 |
Lmao so cause she discipline u u must do ur own back? Pls if ur looking for who to discipline go and born your own children...deres a huge change in discipline den and now o |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by flexindino(m): 9:27am On Oct 20, 2019 |
hello ma'am....I knw how you feel when someone maltreats you in a way of discipline....remember, ur aunt's discipline added value to you....now my suggestion to your statement is for you to allow ur nephew and niece behave d way they like (don't beat dem or discipline them since her mom doesn't allow that)..... just pray for more life so as to see d outcome of what her mom wants her kids to turn out to..... remember a saying "is berra to uproot a plant wen it's small, cos it becomes difficult when it grows into a tree".....so free ur aunt ad and her kids......I'm saying this outta experience..... bless ya |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by mercyviv(f): 9:36am On Oct 20, 2019 |
In truth, discipline died a long time ago. What we have now is shadow of what it used to be. Aside that, the more we grow the more we get enlightened, what we used to accept as norm using canes and physical punishments as means to curb children excesses years back is now becoming somewhat child abuse. You need to grow up to accept that logic. By the way, your aunt is protective of her children and you can't blame her for that. If your mom had been protective of you also while growing up, perhaps she wouldn't have had the audacity to mete those mistreatment on you. So, just accept it as that and move on. By the way, I see no reason why you can't address your aunt about the children misbehavior and what she would have done if they were other's kids. Then you simply share memories of similar events in your past and what she did to you then. Then, ask her what has changed? That's what I will do if I'm in your position. Meanwhile... Are you a teacher? Get FREE access to the best compilation of school lesson notes/plans, curriculum and exams. Visit my signature for details... 3 Likes |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Charleys: 9:38am On Oct 20, 2019 |
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Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Prince202020(m): 9:56am On Oct 20, 2019 |
jenifer007: Chai babe na you talk everything, you too much. |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Nobody: 10:11am On Oct 20, 2019 |
Charleys: Lol. I don't know why I find this so damn funny. Ignore her and ignore her kids. The training you got when she was disciplining you has become yours for life. People who are harsh with other people's kids always spoil and over-pamper theirs. If I were you I'd avoid those spoilt brats like the plague. Let her train them best she knows how to. 2 Likes |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by midnighter(f): 10:19am On Oct 20, 2019 |
OvaSabi1: Lol your moniker really says it all. Is it not better to solicit for advice about an issue than go ahead and commit atrocities in the name of "I too know"? You have obviously not experienced how painful it is as a child to be castigated unnecessarily by snobby relatives, only to watch them change their tune years later when it comes to their own children If you dont want to advise him then why comment? What have his age and level got to do with recalcitrant children? 2 Likes |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by deavicky(m): 11:11am On Oct 20, 2019 |
Is that why u are there? |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by BRATISLAVA: 11:51am On Oct 20, 2019 |
badman007:was he not a child too, when she was going aggro on him? They are children, they are children indeed. Why was she so evil to him and now expects her children to be pampered by the same person? |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by BRATISLAVA: 11:55am On Oct 20, 2019 |
chris51:so what happened to him? It was not abuse? She didn't know it was evil? Stop justifying evil. Let the same mete be used to measure on her children. People do evil and then want to escape it. I despise people who abuse other people's children, then when they gave theirs they want their kids to be sacred. No. They will suffer it, too |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by vezycash(m): 12:06pm On Oct 20, 2019 |
Charleys: If you really want to retaliate, do exactly what your aunt wants: Pamper them very well. I don't know why you're still in her house but if you must stay there, do all the work. Don't let those kids do house work. Allow em watch tv all day long. Do their home work for them. That's all. In a few years, you'll see the result. |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by marvelous000: 1:51pm On Oct 20, 2019 |
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Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Nobody: 2:14pm On Oct 20, 2019 |
marvelous000:I've forgetten Sir. Kindly remimd me |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by PeachtreeReside(f): 2:33pm On Oct 20, 2019 |
Remind her how badly she is bringing up her kids. Use style to mock her that it will be a pity if others she trained turned out well while hers are badly behaved. It's more out of retaliation. |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by marvelous000: 3:57pm On Oct 20, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe:I asked you where in abuja do you domicile. |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Nobody: 3:59pm On Oct 20, 2019 |
marvelous000:OH OK. Bwari |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Nobody: 4:09pm On Oct 20, 2019 |
marvelous000: ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Nairaland is coming back to what it used to be before ![]() ![]() Are u a new member? If yes, u are talking to our legendary tpia. Anybody that knows that moniker know better not to get hbp over her posts ![]() Cos she knows how to rile one up ![]() See as venom is puffing out already ![]() There was a time we all agreed she is a troll,seun, we gave her all manner of names, and at a point started liking her( that was the only option then)etc. The more u get enraged, the more she annoys and troll u more but she is intelligent when she choose to be. So no vex ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by realGod(f): 4:17pm On Oct 20, 2019 |
Please don't if she doesn't want that before you will turn to her worst enemy.talking with experience |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by realGod(f): 4:19pm On Oct 20, 2019 |
Please don't if she doesn't want that before you will turn to her worst enemy.talking with experience. |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by executive12: 5:20pm On Oct 20, 2019 |
LadySarah: Good response. Op, leave your Aunt's kids alone. Reserve your disciplinary measures for your kids (when you have them). |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by marvelous000: 5:37pm On Oct 20, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe:What a coincidence. that's where I stay too(kubwa to be precise). maybe one of these days, we'll get to meet each other. |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Nobody: 5:50pm On Oct 20, 2019 |
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Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Bigblessed: 5:59pm On Oct 20, 2019 |
[Funny you ![]() quote author=Charleys post=83098163] The children dey insult wella, something that I can never open my mouth to say to grown ups. That's what they say. I also believe she knows what she was doing that's why she told her children not to greet me. In fact it is an insult to not greet her when I was small na heavy knock she go use remind me that I didn't greet her. I need solutions. My parents which is their grandparents can't say anything because they've gotten old. I believe this is my time to step in[/quote] |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Nobody: 6:02pm On Oct 20, 2019 |
marvelous000:That sounds cool ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Bigblessed: 6:05pm On Oct 20, 2019 |
Better still, if you can; erect your own house in the village and be separated from the family house stuff so that you will not be sèeing those shits. Channel the energy you are reserving for their punishment into something meaningful while in your own village house and they will come looking for you and serving you too. Charleys: 1 Like |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Nobody: 6:06pm On Oct 20, 2019 |
FrLukas:Avoid like plaque? Remember we in a communalistic society and not an individualistic |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Charleys: 6:16pm On Oct 20, 2019 |
PeachtreeReside:nice 1 Like |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Nobody: 6:55pm On Oct 20, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe: But the aunty is not behaving like she's in a community now? Where I come from we have a saying that everyone is the primary teacher of a child and no parent can train the child alone. Since she doesn't want people to correct her kids, let them be ignored. |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by NiCurious: 7:34pm On Oct 20, 2019 |
sassysure: Aside from your pessimistic conclusion, this is a very good post, and these are excellent questions that you ask...was thinking about starting another thread asking these very questions, but will invite you to do that, as you spoke first. Some people here have said they came out better from having been "disciplined" (meaning flogged). Would they not have come out equally well or better, from being corrected without flogging? 1 Like |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by midnighter(f): 8:03pm On Oct 20, 2019 |
NiCurious: The problem is not the flogging or the discipline but the way the person uses it Even people who have never hit their children are capable of abusing them with shouting, humiliation, emotional manipulation and insults that still constitute abuse Most people lean on physical violence as a punishment in a lazy way without taking the time to reason with the child or use punishment proportionate to the wrong they have committed. As a result the child gets messed up If OPs aunt had meted out punishment fairly instead of taking her problems out on him as a boy I dont think he would have minded they have just banned smacking and made it a criminal offence in Scotland but not everybody agreed with it. Some oyinbo still believe that theres nothing wrong with giving a mischievous child a light slap because children are not automatically logical and dont always understand the scale of their actions But all this stuff we do here about bicycle chains, slippers, spoons, koboko just brutalises us and makes us psychologically unviable. Even the politicians we venerate after stealing millions were beaten as children and it didnt teach them anything except how not to get caught 1 Like |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Eternitymedia88: 8:08pm On Oct 20, 2019 |
![]() My brother, you sound like a wicket man ni... God will punish you. Is it your shidren? Go and born ur own and punish them however u want. maybe when doing that u will end up in the news as somebody that beat their shidren to death. |
Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by NiCurious: 8:46pm On Oct 20, 2019 |
midnighter: Well said. It seems that parents forget about the "raising" part of "raising children". They have them, but don't take the trouble to teach them what TO do; instead, they wait until the kids do something wrong, then smack them down. Hard. To me that's like planting a fruit tree or vine, and every time a branch grows in a wrong direction, cutting off the branch instead of redirecting it so that it can bear fruit. Besides scarring kids, psychologically or physically, this sort of treatment stifles their curiosity, exploration, discovery, learning, initiative, and growth, on an individual, and dare I say societal, level--coming back to the questions that[b] sassysure[/b] raises, and leads to intergenerational transfer of aggression, as seen in the original post. |
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