₦airaland Forum

luminouz:
The girls here impressed me today.
They made salient points based on logic and zero emotion. They didn't go with the male vs female bullcrap or justify underage violence.

Nice one.

eni4real:
What if the side-chick is hiding her true nature too??

chrismymen:
Story story.
My brother you are not alone [color=#000099][/color]

I got married late 2018, I could not live with my wife for even 90days
Our problem start few weeks after weddings, we cant argee on any thing together as husband and wife, I also discovered that most of the things my wife told me about her where lies . Can you image lying with pregnancy, Age, Educational qualifications.( On my mind I done enter 1 chance.)
We start counselling 201 because the once we did before wedding was not enough.
I wanted to make it clear to my wife that lying to me will destroy trust between us which can damage the relationship.
We are in marriage already let us find a ways to make peace and live happily together.

Early this year 2019 Jenuary we had a argument which I did not handle maturely, that was the last time I saw my wife.
What was the arugment about?
I came back from work met her at home early. So I step out to a close friend who live around our house to watch football. When I came back to the house about 9:00 pm, our door was locked, I nocked the door perhaps she has slept off.
I discovered she was not at home.
I called many times but there was no answer.
After about an hour, I sent her a text message that I was out side because I did not go out with my keys. When I called again she answered and said she is coming.
11:pm I was still out side waiting,
I became very anger
When she finally came it was 11.05 pm
Out of anger I collected the keys from her and ask her to go back to where she was coming from.

That was the last time I saw my wife
The family came two weeks later with her to pack her things.
That if I want my wife back, I should come and re-marry her again.
I am 34yr my wife should be 29-31yrs.
Since Jenuary 2019 till now we are not together.
What should I do.

midnighter:
Depression presents in different ways in different people and there are different kinds. Paranoia is a symptom of psychotic depression. Depression can cause aggressiveness in some people

Depression doesn't just mean somebody feels sad or wants to commit suicide.

I agree with you that she needs psychiatric intervention but I don't accept that just because she is exhibiting extreme behaviours, it must mean she is suffering from some fantabulous condition

She may just be somebody whose symptoms got out of control on top of not being a nice person in the first place

midnighter:
You can be depressed and narcissistic at the same time. You can be depressed and mean to other people's kids at the same time.

Depression doesnt only happen to "nice" people

If he still wants her he will have to treat both her Bleep up and her mental problem because she may still have some remaining

pocohantas:
She was calm to you.

Did you ever take out time to find out how she was to every other person? People she considered defenseless and below her? People she wanted nothing from?

No campaign after election, be like na her real character she dey show now.

I saw the part you hit her and you are obviously sorry for it. Considering her history of doing same to kids, isn't she being hypocritical here? People can't take what they dish out sha.

All I see is a woman trying to emotionally blackmail you with silence, make you do her bidding, while she continues breaking heads.

Abeg, do what gives you peace.

DeeMain:
She is a broken person that may also be depressed.

Depression is one of the symptoms she exhibits. Depression is not an 'all-join' condition.

The solution will start when the roots of what broke her is found.

wirinet:
Yes agreed that she can be depressed and narcissistic, it not the depression that causes someone to enjoy inflicting pain on others without remorse, that's narcissism.
Yes depression can happen to everyone and does to some extent affect everyone. I was very depressed in my teens, my remedy was to work harder, play harder and avoid idleness.
Laziness, idleness and lack of purpose in life is a strong recipe for depression.

iamJ:
Plot twist


The person that is fuvking the wife will still be here advising op


I fear who no fear marriage

iamJ:
Plot twist


The person that is fuvking the wife will still be here advising op


I fear who no fear marriage

Filmewell:
Bros which one is in my house again? So na visitor she be?

ksstroud:
Here in this part of the world, truly, marriage is a very big SCAM.
That's the fact Bro.

ednut1:
the stories i have read here is making me feel i should not marry and marriage is a scam. with all the problem in life person go add wife wahala join. our mothers and grandmas really tried

Pearl05:
Marriage is not a scam. If everyone comes online to share their sweet marriage story, people will see it as show off and even curse them in their heart. So we just quietly protect our sweet homes by keeping them away from social media.

Pray to marry your own wife, the woman that best complement you and enjoy heaven on earth.

Peace.

Fountainofyouth:
I only blame you for apologising when you beat her, you suppose beat her back to back so that she'll know how it feels injuring other people's children to the extent of pool of blood and rushing to hospital, very inhumane somebody, and she has children oo, na her type dey cause havoc if anybody so much as touch her own kids, infact divorce her b4 she pushes you to suicide or murder, nonsense


Modified; I never finish she is a narcissist and a passive aggressive human, how would somebody be keeping malice with the husband, for months? See the way she confuse your brain accusing you wrongly just to prove she's right, very manipulative irritant, na her type dey make good men turn to bad aśshole, rubbish

chrismymen:
Story story.
My brother you are not alone [color=#000099][/color]

I got married late 2018, I could not live with my wife for even 90days
Our problem start few weeks after weddings, we cant argee on any thing together as husband and wife, I also discovered that most of the things my wife told me about her where lies . Can you image lying with pregnancy, Age, Educational qualifications.( On my mind I done enter 1 chance.)
We start counselling 201 because the once we did before wedding was not enough.
I wanted to make it clear to my wife that lying to me will destroy trust between us which can damage the relationship.
We are in marriage already let us find a ways to make peace and live happily together.

Early this year 2019 Jenuary we had a argument which I did not handle maturely, that was the last time I saw my wife.
What was the arugment about?
I came back from work met her at home early. So I step out to a close friend who live around our house to watch football. When I came back to the house about 9:00 pm, our door was locked, I nocked the door perhaps she has slept off.
I discovered she was not at home.
I called many times but there was no answer.
After about an hour, I sent her a text message that I was out side because I did not go out with my keys. When I called again she answered and said she is coming.
11:pm I was still out side waiting,
I became very anger
When she finally came it was 11.05 pm
Out of anger I collected the keys from her and ask her to go back to where she was coming from.

That was the last time I saw my wife
The family came two weeks later with her to pack her things.
That if I want my wife back, I should come and re-marry her again.
I am 34yr my wife should be 29-31yrs.
Since Jenuary 2019 till now we are not together.
What should I do.

Ayodelejohn2018:
On what foundation was d relationship/marriage built?
U cannot marry d child of d devil n not expect satan as d father in law.
If forget about what she was b4, women r very cunny just like a serpent dat can live with u for several years bt attack u at a little provocation

midnighter:
Haha! You dont know what the signs of depression are or how vast they are, yet I wont accept being wrong. "that girl indeed"!

Just because you dont like the sound of the woman, she cant be depressed. She must be suffering from one crazy grammatical illness that one will only see in oyibo film

So according to you, depression only happens to people who cant find a job or people who want to drink sniper because they lost 1million on bet9ja

Stop adding your emotions to the issue and making judgements that dont make any sense. You dont know anything about depression or how it manifests in some extreme cases.

You dont even understand how mental health professionals make clinical diagnoses. Youll just be saying what you dont know

Mrcashman87:
Thanks guys . Yesterday I didn't go back home after work , I booked a hotel ( alone) just wanted to chill and have a stress free night . She called me at 2am wondering where I was and i have told her I'm having fun with friends , she cut the phone . Then she rang numerous times 4am onwards I didn't picked it up . I havnt heard from her since and not looking forward to go back home any time soon.

Genqq:
Sometimes? Dude you should regret that sham of a marriage ALL the time.

Moreso, that dirty thing you call a wife should be in jail for the ABUSE she inflicted on those little CHILDREN. You are also an enabler of child abuse by refusing to report her to relevant authorities.

Forget these women citing "depression" etc.. sometimes a badly behaved woman is simply a badly behaved woman and should be treated accordingly.

I can't stand simps who employ KIDS for their LAZY wives in the guise of "housemaids" and further turn a blind eye to the maltreatment of these innocent maids

You and that w!tch must be jailed.

Mrcashman87:
I am not new to Nairaland but I have to use this account for my story . I have met her in 2009 she was calm , doesn’t talk much but easily get angry and I also noticed that she wasn’t a good cook but was good in other things ( chores) , it didn’t stopped me from loving her, I didn’t tell any of my people even though I have sisters that are good cook but I decided to take her to catering school to learn how to cook which she went for lessons to practice.

We got married in 2013 , she got pregnant that same month and she became so lazy that I will go to work and come back to found the house very messy with everything’s all over the places , dirty dishes and not dinner yet, and I have to take over cleaning and cooking dinner for us. She claimed she could not longer clean the house , she is tired and need to rest so I have decided to get a house help for her , a small 14 years old, this girl was hard working , very obedient but to my wife she is evil , every single day I comes back from work , this girl is always in tears my wife will beat the hell out of her to the extent of giving her black eye , if I confront her she will start accusing me of sleeping with the girl which is not true, I can never stoop so low to sleep with an underage girl. I have nieces of similar ages what I wouldn’t want another person to do to my nieces and wouldn’t do to another person daughter.

One time I came back from work to found the girl in a pool of blood , that my wife hit her with a wooden chair and she had a deep cut on her head , I got angry with my wife even her reasons didn’t make sense to me , all because she asked the poor girl to warmed up the baby milk and she mistakenly left it for too long , the milk was too hot to give to the crying baby so she got angry at her and hit her . I have told my wife she shouldn’t act like that no matter what and here come again you are sleeping with her and that’s why u are siding with her , we had an heated argument that I have left the house to cool down , I came back after 5 hours and next morning I have send for my brother to take the girl back to her parents , I have given her money 30k to manage that was how the girl left the house.

When our first child was 6 months , we found out she was 2 months pregnant she cried that the baby is too small , she can’t keep the pregnancy , I have begged her to keep that everything will be alright . Our twins were born a girl and boy , having 3 children under 2 wasn’t easy for us and I have to go to work while she staying with the kids all alone and she was depressed , I have decided to bring in a house help 15 years old boy , the same thing repeated again , she was maltreated him the same thing she did with the girl , that boy didn’t even stays with us for 2 months , he run away . I came back to found her crying that the boy has slapped her and run away, I was angry for what he did even swear if I catch him , he will regret the day he was born but the other way I knew that boy did it for self defence .

After the boy left I said no more e help , she will have to manage alone because I couldn’t help her anymore , but my house become dirty that I wouldn’t even want to bring in visitors because of the state of the house , dirty plates can stay in the sink for 3 -4 days , laundry she has a washing machine but she couldn’t bother to do , cooking we eats take away every single night , imagine I comes back home 9pm due to my job and Lagos traffic , at that time I’m even exhausted but I have to started cleaning , one time I got pissed with her that she didn’t wash the eldest daughter school uniform and all her uniform 5 sets of uniform were dirty and she had no clean one to put on in the morning , I have to wash them at 10pm and for her she didn’t see anything wrong with that.

When the twins were 1 years she told me she is tired of staying at home that she wanted to go to work , I have told her to wait at least for them to be a year and 6 months to start school before she can pursue her career but she disagreed with me, so I gave her money for business , she opened a shop . We had an agreement that she should be closing down her shop at 7pm so she could be home with the kids and take care of the house , she was ok and I got a elderly woman as a help , she doesn’t lives with us , she comes at 6 am and closes at 8pm and I also brought 2 of my nieces 18 and 11 to the house. Every since she started working she has never get home on time , sometimes she stays until 10pm , if I talk she get angry and will start raining insults on me , we haven’t make love in a long time , she always complains of being tired , her stomach is paining her etc etc. I have decided to leave her alone and not bother her about sex anymore , and it doesn’t bother too. She acts as im a nobody to her. So it happened in July I came back home to found my niece 11 years old with a deep cut and blood on her eyebrows and my wife did it just because the girl broke a plate so she hit the girl with the broken plate , first all I had to rush her to the hospital and she had 11 stitches and went back home, all I wanted to sit with her and to talk sense with her but she wasn’t even interested all she could do was shouting at me , accusing me of sleeping with both my nieces and the elderly house help , was so angry that I have beaten her badly which I later regretted and apologise to her.

That was the first time I have lay my hand on her something I vow not to do to the woman I love but she pushed me so bad and I have been remorseful but she refuse to forgive me . It’s now 4 months we don’t talk , we don’t sleep in the same room , she just do her own and come home anytime she pleases. I just don’t know what to do anymore , I love my wife and children but her attitudes isn’t right. We have 3 beautiful children 5and twins are 4. Sometime i want to divorce her but when I think about my children I just don’t feel like going ahead with divorce but I’m also a human and can’t stop living like this .

Please my brothers and sisters help me with your advices

Mrcashman87:
all I wanted to sit with her and to talk sense with her but she wasn’t even interested all she could do was shouting at me , accusing me of sleeping with both my nieces and the elderly house help , was so angry that I have beaten her badly

Mrcashman87:
which I later regretted and apologise to her.

Mrcashman87:
Please my brothers and sisters help me with your advices