Good Afternoon Famz


I decided to bring this here because i need mature advice from the family section. I avoided the romance section because of the kind of comments i see there.


So to the issue, I have this girl i like, we attend the same fellowship on campus, i will be graduating this year. All through my stay as a student i decided not to enter into any relationship.

How do i tell this girl i like her and would like to have a serious relationship that would lead to Marriage(reason for not having gf). She is currently in her penultimate year. I have plans for my life for those who would advise me to focus on my career first.


For the guys who have asked a girl out, what punch lines do i use. How do i go about it . Mind u she is the church type.


N. B: Am a semi extrovert and semi introvert (just between the two)


Your matured advise would go a long way to help

Thanks


Please don't mind my misconstrued sentences

What do you stand to lose if she accepts PR declines?


What would you gain if she accepts or declines?


The price should be what motivates you bro


Rest assured you're good enough to kick start of not sustain a relationship




Keep your eye on the target. Let the target motivate you




Enjoy

There are no rules.

You can build familiarity gradually by little talks occasionally, or just go for the kill if you're in a hurry to get the show on the road. And brace yourself for the response.

With women, it's try your luck things.

But money as usual, opens all doors and turns every 'NO' to a 'YES'

It’s simple nah.. just call her and be like; “wos, wos, wobi... kilonsele gangan na? Mofe kiniyen koja lara e, se waa gboriduro?” Then she’ll answer; “baba o, kosiwere, emi ti setan lati gboriduro tipetipe, eyin le o tete jasi.” And the rest tey say is history.

Thank me later

Punchlines?...just to razzle babe...ok oo,make i ask vector the viper...on a serious note;tell her she's the only rose flower dat grows in the desert,even when she smiles,the moon,sun and stars met and hugged themselves...tell her,her beauty so glows dat angels wishes to be like her...lastly,tell her dat her beauty is a song unsang.

elmagnifico411:
It’s simple nah.. just call her and be like; “wos, wos, wobi... kilonsele gangan na? Mofe kiniyen koja lara e, se waa gboriduro?” Then she’ll answer; “baba o, kosiwere, emi ti setan lati gboriduro tipetipe, eyin le o tete jasi.” And the rest tey say is history.

Thank me later

please translate i don't understand youruba

Nnaabros:
There are no rules.

You can build familiarity gradually by little talks occasionally, or just go for the kill if you're in a hurry to get the show on the road. And brace yourself for the response.

With women, it's try your luck things.

But money as usual, opens all doors and turns every 'NO' to a 'YES'

Will cahtting her up on whatsapp be advisable?

you CANT seriously expect anyone to believe you... if you approach this person (you know nothing about) and tell her you want a serious r/ship that would lead to marriage.... not only would you sound foolish, but also you have to get to know someone intimately FIRST before you can say such thing.

why dont you instead try to be her FRIEND, and take it from there.

as for any punchline, have you tried :"hi, how are you?"

MrBrownJay1:
you CANT seriously expect anyone to believe you... if you approach this person (you know nothing about) and tell her you want a serious r/ship that would lead to marriage.... not only would you sound foolish, but also you have to get to know someone intimately FIRST before you can say such thing.

why dont you instead try to be her FRIEND, and take it from there.

as for any punchline, have you tried :"hi, how are you?"

Thanks A lot... very helpful

Jentle244:



Will cahtting her up on whatsapp be advisable?

Honestly, it's better you get her to know you in person first and be sure she gave you her number herself, before launching a whatsapp interaction.

They have this 'self-defence' wall they instinctively put up when a guy expresses interest in them for the first time, and it's worse when you meet them first online. They'll first ask you “How did you get my number?” As if you're a criminal who just invaded their property, or a pest they want to quickly eliminate.

Whatsapp chat would only work is she knows you already and youre sure she has some interest in you already.

Women are very complex beings. Do you know how many volumes of books have been written trying to explain their nature?

You just have to try and take whatever you get.

Nnaabros:


Honestly, it's better you get her to know you in person first and be sure she gave you her number herself, before launching a whatsapp interaction.

They have this 'self-defence' instinct they always put up when a guy expresses interest in them for the first time, and it's worse when you meet them first online. They'll first ask you “How did you get my number?” As if you're a criminal who just invaded their property.

Whatsapp chat would only work is she knows you already and youre sure she has some interest in you already.

Women are very complex beings. Do you know how many volumes of books have been written trying to explain their nature?

You just have to try and take whatever you get.

We ve known for sometime.... but the relationship has been the hi hello type

Jentle244:




We ve known for sometime.... but the relationship has been the hi hello type

Try this:

Hi, I'm James, like you probably already know. I've been seeing around for a while and I would like us to hang out (go out) some time to get to know each other better.

If she responds well, ask for number for further talks and arrangements.

Nnaabros:


Try this:

Hi, I'm James, like you probably already know. I've been seeing around for a while and I would like us to hang out (go out) sometime to get to know each other better.

If she respondeds well, ask for number for further talks and arrangements.

kudos i will try this

rule1; never ask a girl out rule2; never say 'i love u to a girl' rule3; never forget the rules above.

follow the moniker harddon and read his posts on dating drill

MrBrownJay1:
you CANT seriously expect anyone to believe you... if you approach this person (you know nothing about) and tell her you want a serious r/ship that would lead to marriage.... not only would you sound foolish, but also you have to get to know someone intimately FIRST before you can say such thing.

why dont you instead try to be her FRIEND, and take it from there.


as for any punchline, have you tried :"hi, how are you?"

Sir Brown, I hear say " hi, how are u" no dey work again ohhhh. There was a guy that shared the new "punchline" sometimes ago.

But on a serious note, I wonder why asking a lady out will become this hard. It sounds like a project to me.

@op,
You are really making it extremely difficult for u. Just chat with her freely, along the line u express ur feelings. There is no big deal here.

amtheone:


Sir Brown, I hear say " hi, how are u" no dey work again ohhhh. There was a guy that shared the new "punchline" sometimes ago.

But on a serious note, I wonder why asking a lady out will become this hard. It sounds like a project to me.

@op,
You are really making it extremely difficult for u. Just chat with her freely, along the line u express ur feelings. There is no big deal here.

bro, HI or HELLO HOW ARE YOU is the foundation upon which any man should start his journey into getting to know someone. the answer to this question (or evil look received) will determine whether you smile and continue talking to the babe, OR simply carry your cross and go disturb somebody who actually cares.

there are so many different outcomes to "hi" or "hello how are you".... babe could:
- say "hi" back, with a smile
- say "hi" back, while frowning
- say "hi, i am great what about you?"
- say "hi, i aint go your time, pls leave me alone"
- say nothing but smile back at you
- say nothing while frowning at you

each of the above scenario, would demand a different reaction from the guy. so truly, nobody can give the OP a plan of attack until we actually know what her answer to "hi" or "hello how are you" would be.

Get her pastor's attention and let him endorse your CV

You don't need punch lines bro. Be free, be natural. Just try to engage her in conversations, notice her response and body language.... Confirm if she vibes with you... She dey look at your side at all? I mean does she give green lights?

Ok!
Fess, befriend her friends, or the high class ladies in the fellowship.

Take things very very slow, no need for punches

and dont ever tell her you want a relationship that could lead to marriage.

I repeat dont EVER use that line... from my lil experience it only induce unnecessary pressure...

Laslas keep an open mind, if shes not ready or unavailable you can be friends with her.

Wish you luck bro

Its easy.. The best method is indirect approach.. Don't act like you want relationship from her,just act normal like you're talking to your sister or someone you already know.. Tease her from time to time.. That will reduce her defense..

My guy above suggested Harddon.. He is good,if you can find his thread..

Or....

Pm me . I will give you a book to read to overcome the fears and to understand indirect approach better..You will see basic examples there too.. Its FREE..

No matter how girl fine or classy reach,she too small to dey give you tough time na..Man na Man She is lucky to have you around her,not d other way round..

Tell her you want to get to know her. Do that gradually and take it from there - one step at a time.

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ASKING A FELLOWSHIP GIRL OUT 101

The question is, What kind of fellowship do you attend? Because except you were blind or you were not paying attention, you should have noticed that there are two main categories of fellowships on Nigerian campuses and asking them out were not the same.. I guess U got

1.The headscarf wearing fellowships and
2. "The weave on " or come as u are fellowships

The headscarf wearing fellowships :
You need only three things for the sister to accept u or for u to be qualify for dating..
<<know your bible
<<ability to speak in Tongues
<<Ability to teach chemistry, mathematics and physics ..

So if her course is related to yours, it is quite simply. Introduce yourself in that fellowship. Ask her of her department... ask the course that was posing as a challenge to her.. give her the tips... U can even volunteer to teach her. From there, you can teach your way into her heart.. simple.

If your course were not related do not worry..Still introduce yourself, do a research about where she lives, drop by @ her place unannounced with school bag . Say you were at the neighbourhood on group study. Since u were around, u decided to drop by to say hello... she might ask how you happens to know where she was living. Just say that a brother told you..Be fast to think on your feet..

Act like you were in a hurry to leave..Stay for 5-10mins collect her number and promise to visit again. Second time, while going, Buy biscuits with can cokes(depending on number of her room mates. It is not compulsory just common curtsey ), or fruits like banana and groundnut.. U don't need much money to impress the sisters... If she accept your gift u are good to go.. because God gave the female specie third sense to know when a man was interested..

Just ask her out.. u don't need a killer pick up line... u don't also need money.As a matter of fact, sisters spends on brothers in this category.. it is painful and annoying to watch. They cook for him with their own money just to be like Ruth in the bible..


<<The come as u are or Weave On fellowships
For u to qualify or have a successful date you will need

1.To have a good dress sense..
2. Your house / hostel room must be clean and not crowded and in order. when I say in order,( I mean TV, good rug, good bed with clean sheets maybe a table top fridge)
3. Little cash to assist when the time comes because it will definitely come
4. Good command in English language. If u got British fake accents the better chance..

If these were all yesssses, then you are good to go. Just boldly approach her, introduce yourself and your department. After the fellowship. Tell her u want to know about her a little more.. she will smile and ask why.. simply say it's not easy to find a beautiful lady that loved the lord.. just take it from there... U need to think on your feet more while talking to this category because most of them are street smart..

Remember she will score you based on your confidence, dress sense and Mannerism or the ability to express yourself in English.. please do not smell of sweat.. just a roll on will be fine. And don't beat around the bush... This category will like some one that is bragging.Never..OK never ever try it.be humble and be your self.

But on a serious note, This should be the work of your Uncle @ home.. He should be the one explaining all these to you with humour.. That is why nature gave them to you... u don't call them uncles for nothing.. God knows how many times I have explained similar stuff..but with warning for my younger nephews to be careful.. So, like them, I will still ask you to be careful.. protect yourself..Don't jump into something you never bargained for.. Your Dad will not like it if u bring shame to the family... Also remember being in final year is not a yardstick for asking a lady out.. you need to be prepared mentally for any outcome that involves relationship and u take responsibility. The heartache, the disappointment, pregnancy etc..So as an Uncle, i am saying be warned.

Jentle244:

I decided to bring this here because i need mature advice from the family section. I avoided the romance section because of the kind of comments i see there.

First, you need to accept that you may not end up with your current "love interest"; it really does not matter if you want to court or date her.
Second, I advise you to consider more girls. If possible up to 10.

Why do I insist you meet more women?
You are looking for the best fit for your use case. Like buying a car or laptop; what features or functions would you prefer e.t.c
As time goes by and you meet more women, you will review these "features" - some will be no-compromise other's not so important.

A strong caveat, however - do not talk to a girl your interested in. At least until you have observed her for a while.
People are like chameleons, it is said that "when in Rome, do like the Romans".

Unwittingly, you may end up with a gentile woman, who simply mastered the art of the "roman way". Yet, all this while you thought, she was
a Roman. As such watch from afar like the wise owl and approach like a fox, lest you be beguiled by the bountiful breast, and heart-shaped hips of the gentile woman.

And I mean it. Men are incapable of making logical choices in the presence of a woman or women they are attracted to. So keep your distance until you are sure. 70% of the features you want in a woman can be observed and confirmed without speaking a word to her. And, I am not talking about physical features; my 13-year-old nephew can figure that one out.

Once you are sure, you won't need a second opinion. And, that's why you are here, and that's why I said: "you may not end up with here".

If you were 90% sure there is gold under your feet would you not be digging by now.
And, if you are 90% sure, she has 70% of the features you want in a girl, would you not find a way to speak to her, discounting all the challenges you may perceive.

Richy4:
ASKING A FELLOWSHIP GIRL OUT 101

The question is, What kind of fellowship do you attend? Because except you were blind or you were not paying attention, you should have noticed that there are two main categories of fellowships on Nigerian campuses and asking them out were not the same.. I guess U got

1.The headscarf wearing fellowships and
2. "The weave on " or come as u are fellowships

The headscarf wearing fellowships :
You need only three things for the sister to accept u or for u to be qualify for dating..
<<know your bible
<<ability to speak in Tongues
<<Ability to teach chemistry, mathematics and physics ..

So if her course is related to yours, it is quite simply. Introduce yourself in that fellowship. Ask her of her department... ask the course that was posing as a challenge to her.. give her the tips... U can even volunteer to teach her. From there, you can teach your way into her heart.. simple.

If your course were not related do not worry..Still introduce yourself, do a research about where she lives, drop by @ her place unannounced with school bag . Say you were at the neighbourhood on group study. Since u were around, u decided to drop by to say hello... she might ask how you happens to know where she was living. Just say that a brother told you..Be fast to think on your feet..

Act like you were in a hurry to leave..Stay for 5-10mins collect her number and promise to visit again. Second time, while going, Buy biscuits with can cokes(depending on number of her room mates. It is not compulsory just common curtsey ), or fruits like banana and groundnut.. U don't need much money to impress the sisters... If she accept your gift u are good to go.. because God gave the female specie third sense to know when a man was interested..

Just ask her out.. u don't need a killer pick up line... u don't also need money.As a matter of fact, sisters spends on brothers in this category.. it is painful and annoying to watch. They cook for him with their own money just to be like Ruth in the bible..


<<The come as u are or Weave On fellowships
For u to qualify or have a successful date you will need

1.To have a good dress sense..
2. Your house / hostel room must be clean and not crowded and in order. when I say in order,( I mean TV, good rug, good bed with clean sheets maybe a table top fridge)
3. Little cash to assist when the time comes because it will definitely come
4. Good command in English language. If u got British fake accents the better chance..

If these were all yesssses, then you are good to go. Just boldly approach her, introduce yourself and your department. After the fellowship. Tell her u want to know about her a little more.. she will smile and ask why.. simply say it's not easy to find a beautiful lady that loved the lord.. just take it from there... U need to think on your feet more while talking to this category because most of them are street smart..

Remember she will score you based on your confidence, dress sense and Mannerism or the ability to express yourself in English.. please do not smell of sweat.. just a roll on will be fine. And don't beat around the bush... This category will like some one that is bragging.Never..OK never ever try it.be humble and be your self.

But on a serious note, This should be the work of your Uncle @ home.. He should be the one explaining all these to you with humour.. That is why nature gave them to you... u don't call them uncles for nothing.. God knows how many times I have explained similar stuff..but with warning for my younger nephews to be careful.. So, like them, I will still ask you to be careful.. protect yourself..Don't jump into something you never bargained for.. Your Dad will not like it if u bring shame to the family... Also remember being in final year is not a yardstick for asking a lady out.. you need to be prepared mentally for any outcome that involves relationship and u take responsibility. The heartache, the disappointment, pregnancy etc..So as an Uncle, i am saying be warned.

Hmm, Ekun!!!

Am sure u scatter campus very well.

J4JUVENTUS:
Its easy.. The best method is indirect approach.. Don't act like you want relationship from her,just act normal like you're talking to your sister or someone you already know.. Tease her from time to time.. That will reduce her defense..

My guy above suggested Harddon.. He is good,if you can find his thread..

Or....

Pm me . I will give you a book to read to overcome the fears and to understand indirect approach better..You will see basic examples there too.. Its FREE..

No matter how girl fine or classy reach,she too small to dey give you tough time na..Man na Man She is lucky to have you around her,not d other way round..

I don pm u.. E get one babe for fellowship wey I like too

DenreleDave:


I don pm u.. E get one babe for fellowship wey I like too

Badt guy She is yours already bro..I go find time reply your pm later..

Jentle244:
Good Afternoon Famz


I decided to bring this here because i need mature advice from the family section. I avoided the romance section because of the kind of comments i see there.


So to the issue, I have this girl i like, we attend the same fellowship on campus, i will be graduating this year. All through my stay as a student i decided not to enter into any relationship.

How do i tell this girl i like her and would like to have a serious relationship that would lead to Marriage(reason for not having gf). She is currently in her penultimate year. I have plans for my life for those who would advise me to focus on my career first.


For the guys who have asked a girl out, what punch lines do i use. How do i go about it . Mind u she is the church type.


N. B: Am a semi extrovert and semi introvert (just between the two)


Your matured advise would go a long way to help

Thanks


Please don't mind my misconstrued sentences

If you need people to tell you how to ask someone out then you’re not ripe to be in any form of relationship with the opposite gender . Focus on making money

Nnaabros:
There are no rules.

You can build familiarity gradually by little talks occasionally, or just go for the kill if you're in a hurry to get the show on the road. And brace yourself for the response.

With women, it's try your luck things.

But money as usual, opens all doors and turns every 'NO' to a 'YES'

The earlier you know all women ain’t the same the better for you

Plead:





The earlier you know all women ain’t the same the better for you

OK, thanks.

Although I think this reply is completely irrelevant and unnecessary.

Jentle244:
Good Afternoon Famz


I decided to bring this here because i need mature advice from the family section. I avoided the romance section because of the kind of comments i see there.


So to the issue, I have this girl i like, we attend the same fellowship on campus, i will be graduating this year. All through my stay as a student i decided not to enter into any relationship.

How do i tell this girl i like her and would like to have a serious relationship that would lead to Marriage(reason for not having gf). She is currently in her penultimate year. I have plans for my life for those who would advise me to focus on my career first.


For the guys who have asked a girl out, what punch lines do i use. How do i go about it . Mind u she is the church type.


N. B: Am a semi extrovert and semi introvert (just between the two)


Your matured advise would go a long way to help

Thanks


Please don't mind my misconstrued sentences

Tell her you want to enter a courtship with her that will lead to marriage. �