kunleweb:


Start by trusting her and then your instincts

Yes, also be very sure with her moves that she is a good girl

Solacemk:
I've been in love with a lady that i'll soon marry. We've never had sex, and she claimed she's a virgin. Pls how will i confirm that on our first night? I don't want to go to the hospital for a test.. please i need your suggestions m thanks.

You did not tell us your part of the story. Are you a virgin? Remove first the log in your eye...........

olu77:
Good attitude is more desirable than virginity.

Can you have the former without the latter?

A girl can easily sleep with any man, security guard, investment banker, pastor or student.

If you randomly pick 10 girls in their prime (19 - 25), today you cannot find more than 3 virgins.

The more economically disadvantaged the source of your sample is, the lower the count of virgins.

Now, if you go to an economically disadvantaged neighborhood; randomly picked 10 girls of ages 19 - 25.
What will be your position when you find 1 virgin and 9 unvirgins?

If you value the wisdom in the bible; See Leviticus 21:13
_{13 And he shall take a wife in her virginity.[a] 14 A widow, or a divorced woman, or a woman who has been defiled, or a prostitute, these he shall not marry. But he shall take as his wife a virgin[b] of his own people,}

You want riches which is scarce and unevenly divided.
You want influence which is scarce and unevenly divided.
You want prosperity which is scarce and evenly divided, and good health and peace of mind all of which can be considered scarce and unevenly divided.

And still, you deceive yourself that such women (unvirgins) can be considered of more virtue than virgins; of whom are scarce and unevenly divided!

See Psalm 4:13
_{Always remember what you have learnt. Your education is your life - guard it well.}

olabrinks:
The hymen is not the only way to know. You will know if you’re having intercourse with a virgin.

Only an experienced person can tell the difference ...:the Op is obviously a virgin or hasn’t disvirgined a lady b4.....no matter how experienced I am fvcking women..: if I’ve not disvirgined a lady b4....I won’t know how they truely behave and feel...theory isn’t the same with practical experience
If women can fake orgasm ...believe me there’s nothing that cannot be faked during sex...

The first girl I slept with in 100level lied to me...I was so young and inexperienced.. I ddnt have any friends at that time, no one lectured me.. I wasn’t even expecting any hymen or blood.i was complete geek with zero info on sex ..sometimes ignorance is blissful on some matters cos we ran the relationship for 2years, when we had a fight she would always bring it up that I disvirgined her....
later in 300level I met a Girl..One thing led to another we became friends and started studying together, during a cult clash she came to my place to pass the week cos the fight was hot in her area....sex happened btw us...b4 I located the place seff was hard let alone getting in..cos we were in the dark...It was then i could tell my real girlfriend lied...it’s hard to fake what u don’t have but it’s easy when who u are faking it to doesn’t know what to expect at all

the best is to hope the hymen is still intact anything asides that could be scam..

paix:
You did not tell us your part of the story. Are you a virgin? Remove first the log in your eye...........

So he has to be a virgin before confirming if someone is lying to him about a virginity status.??

How is this even a log in his own eye? Being a nonvirgin isn’t a bad or evil thing...why are u making it sound like it is...
did he tell u he’s lying to the girl he’s a virgin when he’s not yet trying to get if he’s being lied to..

1StopRudeness:



So he has to be a virgin before confirming if someone is lying to him about a virginity status.??

How is this even a log in his own eye? Being a nonvirgin isn’t a bad or evil thing...why are u making it sound like it is...
did he tell u he’s lying to the girl he’s a virgin when he’s not yet trying to get if he’s being lied to..

That's exactly my point. Why was he emphasising on the lady's virginity.

paix:
That's exactly my point. Why was he emphasising on the lady's virginity.

Becos she claimed to be a virgin....which is something people lie about these days....that’s what the world has become....this isn’t even a discussion many years ago. it was normal for a non married girl to be a virgin..a girl ddnt have to say I’m a virgin because everyone that isn’t married unless raped is most of the time a virgin....
Just like if u tell a girl u are single, she will have to confirm cos these days adultery has become a norm...

GrossPrice:


Can you have the former without the latter?

A girl can easily sleep with any man, security guard, investment banker, pastor or student.

If you randomly pick 10 girls in their prime (19 - 25), today you cannot find more than 3 virgins.

The more economically disadvantaged the source of your sample is, the lower the count of virgins.

Now, if you go to an economically disadvantaged neighborhood; randomly picked 10 girls of ages 19 - 25.
What will be your position when you find 1 virgin and 9 unvirgins?

If you value the wisdom in the bible; See Leviticus 21:13
_{13 And he shall take a wife in her virginity.[a] 14 A widow, or a divorced woman, or a woman who has been defiled, or a prostitute, these he shall not marry. But he shall take as his wife a virgin[b] of his own people,}

You want riches which is scarce and unevenly divided.
You want influence which is scarce and unevenly divided.
You want prosperity which is scarce and evenly divided, and good health and peace of mind all of which can be considered scarce and unevenly divided.

And still, you deceive yourself that such women (unvirgins) can be considered of more virtue than virgins; of whom are scarce and unevenly divided!

See Psalm 4:13
_{Always remember what you have learnt. Your education is your life - guard it well.}

That someone is a virgin does not make them saints in my humble opinion. I will rather marry someone who has seen it all and spend the rest of my life with her than marry a virgin who might be tempted to catch up with the life she missed. I have seen many homes destroyed because the woman ventured out for lack of experience.
That was not to say I don't value virginity, it's just that I don't think it's a prerequisite for a perfect union.

However, that a woman has lost her virginity does not imply lack of character or discipline. There are too many issues some of which you have highlighted including economic, that surround why women loose their virginity. As a man I can't stand in a place of righteousness to blame women for not keeping their virginity while we are the ones pressurizing them for sex. It takes two to tango

olu77:
^{I will rather marry someone who has seen it all and spend the rest of my life with her than marry a virgin who might be tempted to catch up with the life she missed. I have seen many homes destroyed because the woman ventured out for lack of experience.}

First, ever played with Lego?

There are two kinds of Lego; the first is classic and the other "thematic lego".
With classic what you build is up to your imagination, with the thematic you can only build what you see on the box.

The virgin is the classic Lego, and the unvirgin is thematic.

Secondly, your statement above is not different from saying; I'd rather buy a used car with 30K miles over a brand new car - because it has proven to be reliable. Your thinking, it has gone 30K miles, it must be able to go another 30K miles without breaking down. I can't buy a new car, it has not passed through the rigors of Nigerian roads, neither has it experienced the prowess of Nigerian mechanics nor has it drank the elixir that is adulterated Nigerian fuel.

That was not to say I don't value virginity, it's just that I don't think it's a prerequisite for a perfect union.

Really, you sincerely believe - the man who married an unvirgin has a far more peaceful and prosperous marriage compared to the other
who married a virgin.

GrossPrice:


First, ever played with Lego?

There are two kinds of Lego; the first is classic and the other "thematic lego".
With classic what you build is up to your imagination, with the thematic you can only build what you see on the box.

The virgin is the classic Lego, and the unvirgin is thematic.

Secondly, your statement above is not different from saying; I'd rather buy a used car with 30K miles over a brand new car - because it has proven to be reliable. Your thinking, it has gone 30K miles, it must be able to go another 30K miles without breaking down. I can't buy a new car, it has not passed through the rigours of Nigerian roads, neither has it experienced the prowess of Nigerian mechanics nor has it drank the elixir that is adultrated Nigerian feul.

I'm sorry oga, this ur post is for brainiacs.

GrossPrice:


First, ever played with Lego?

There are two kinds of Lego; the first is classic and the other "thematic lego".
With classic what you build is up to your imagination, with the thematic you can only build what you see on the box.

The virgin is the classic Lego, and the unvirgin is thematic.

Secondly, your statement above is not different from saying; I'd rather buy a used car with 30K miles over a brand new car - because it has proven to be reliable. Your thinking, it has gone 30K miles, it must be able to go another 30K miles without breaking down. I can't buy a new car, it has not passed through the rigors of Nigerian roads, neither has it experienced the prowess of Nigerian mechanics nor has it drank the elixir that is adulterated Nigerian fuel.



Really, you sincerely believe - the man who married an unvirgin has a far more peaceful and prosperous marriage compared to the other
who married a virgin.

what's dis one saying?

GrossPrice:
First, ever played with Lego?

There are two kinds of Lego; the first is classic and the other "thematic lego".
With classic what you build is up to your imagination, with the thematic you can only build what you see on the box.

The virgin is the classic Lego, and the unvirgin is thematic.

Secondly, your statement above is not different from saying; I'd rather buy a used car with 30K miles over a brand new car - because it has proven to be reliable. Your thinking, it has gone 30K miles, it must be able to go another 30K miles without breaking down. I can't buy a new car, it has not passed through the rigors of Nigerian roads, neither has it experienced the prowess of Nigerian mechanics nor has it drank the elixir that is adulterated Nigerian fuel.

Really, you sincerely believe - the man who married an unvirgin has a far more peaceful and prosperous marriage compared to the other
who married a virgin.

Wow

GrossPrice:


First, ever played with Lego?

There are two kinds of Lego; the first is classic and the other "thematic lego".
With classic what you build is up to your imagination, with the thematic you can only build what you see on the box.

The virgin is the classic Lego, and the unvirgin is thematic.

Secondly, your statement above is not different from saying; I'd rather buy a used car with 30K miles over a brand new car - because it has proven to be reliable. Your thinking, it has gone 30K miles, it must be able to go another 30K miles without breaking down. I can't buy a new car, it has not passed through the rigours of Nigerian roads, neither has it experienced the prowess of Nigerian mechanics nor has it drank the elixir that is adultrated Nigerian feul.

Well, I have seen from many people's experience that, a used toyota could outlast a new bmw if they both go through thesame level of activities. That does not necessarily mean a new car is bad but a used car is not either. Some cars even have second hand values while others don't. Look I have nothing against virgins but virginity is not a yardstick in determining a good wife I know atleast 3 people who married their wives as a virgin and it didnt stand the test of time.

How do I know if a guy is a virgin?

I want a virgin man ... Nor be only men like pristine things

Solacemk:
I've been in love with a lady that i'll soon marry. We've never had sex, and she claimed she's a virgin. Pls how will i confirm that on our first night? I don't want to go to the hospital for a test.. please i need your suggestions m thanks.

If you really want to marry her because she said she is a virgin, engage her with a ring and go down there, if you are satisfied she is a virgin, good then and if you are not satisfied she is a virgin tell her how disappointed you are

But if you want to marry her for the love you ha e for her, virgin or no virgin, go ahead and marry her and after your wedding you can have your way

Virginity can be manufactured back.
You can't be certain these days again.
Besides, don't let proclamation of being a virgin blind you to the real traits of the person. she might not be a virgin and be a better person and wife while the so called virgin you assumed her virginity was a result of good character might be terrible. Her reason being a virgin is no opportunity or missed opportunity from men not insistent enough but have done every other thing possible.

olu77:


Well, I have seen from many people's experience that, a used toyota could outlast a new bmw if they both go through thesame level of activities. That does not necessarily mean a new car is bad but a used car is not either. Some cars even have second hand values while others don't. Look I have nothing against virgins but virginity is not a yardstick in determining a good wife I know atleast 3 people who married their wives as a virgin and it didnt stand the test of time.

God bless you sir. Character is the main thing.

olu77:


That someone is a virgin does not make them saints in my humble opinion. I will rather marry someone who has seen it all and spend the rest of my life with her than marry a virgin who might be tempted to catch up with the life she missed. I have seen many homes destroyed because the woman ventured out for lack of experience.
That was not to say I don't value virginity, it's just that I don't think it's a prerequisite for a perfect union.

However, that a woman has lost her virginity does not imply lack of character or discipline. There are too many issues some of which you have highlighted including economic, that surround why women loose their virginity. As a man I can't stand in a place of righteousness to blame women for not keeping their virginity while we are the ones pressurizing them for sex. It takes two to tango

Funny enough I posted something similar just this morning on my facebook.
It's a funny coincidence that I just clicked on recent on home page and this topic happens to be the first I saw.
you have spoken the truth I wish I knew earlier.

olu77:
^{Well, I have seen from many people's experience that, a used toyota could outlast a new bmw if they both go through the same level of activities. That does not necessarily mean a new car is bad but a used car is not either. Some cars even have second hand values while others don't. Look I have nothing against virgins but virginity is not a yardstick in determining a good wife I know atleast 3 people who married their wives as a virgin and it didnt stand the test of time.}

Shope, D., & Broderick, C. (1967). Level of Sexual Experience and Predicted Adjustment in Marriage. Journal of Marriage and Family, 29(3), 424-427. https://doi.org/10.1007/BF01541486

I have grown weary of this conversation.

I have provided you with Religious references, logical references and now I have given you scientific references.

You will always find evidence for and against any position you choose. But only a simpleton, will plant corn and hope to harvest wheat!

gbadexy:

Funny enough I posted something similar just this morning on my facebook.
It's a funny coincidence that I just clicked on recent on home page and this topic happens to be the first I saw.
you have spoken the truth I wish I knew earlier.

If you value the wisdom in the bible
See proverbs 13:20

Try and study the difference between "Wisdom" (Principles) and "Knowledge" (Methods) or in some cases (Practise).

Let me assist if I am allowed.

Take for instance the popular and expensive couture maker - Gucci. Why is it expensive? It is not scarce like Hermes!
Are there are other designers who make equally or even better quality fashion items but still cheaper than Gucci; so it is not quality.

So if Gucci's value is not from scarcity, and it is not from its quality, why is Gucci expensive?

Simple - Marketing and Advertising .. LIES told to you over and over again by providing confounding proof that Gucci is expensive.
So, when the lie is told over and over again in entertaining and captivating scenes, people get caught in the "madness of crowds" and like lemmings, everybody believes and repeats "Gucci is expensive" and so it is.

In summary, if you tell your self "black is white" enough times, you actually believe it. But it does not make it so.


True Value vs Percieved Value

Gold is valuable because it is scarce
Oil is valuable because it is scarce
Water is valuable because quality drinking water is scarce
Air is valuable because the earth is running out of clean air.
Virgins are valuable because they are scarce, the supply cannot meet the demand.

Unvirgins are valuable to you because of your "good character" clause, however, it is perceived value.
The demand for unvirgins is lower than the supply. See brothels, Imessage, Instagram, including your sexually active girlfriend or sidechick.

So unvirgins no matter the "good character" cannot hold more value than a virgin - regardless of the virgins character
"bad or good" because that is not what is used to determine the TRUE VALUE.

The reason why they lie to most of you is that you can’t take no for an answer .
You keep harassing and manipulating just to get them to have sex with you.
A simple no should be enough.

And even after living you whole lives trying to get in between women’s legs and rejoicing in the number of vaginas you’ve managed to enter, when you’re ready to marry you start to looking for those that no one has slept with.

Someone explain how it makes any sense.

Solacemk:
I've been in love with a lady that i'll soon marry. We've never had sex, and she claimed she's a virgin. Pls how will i confirm that on our first night? I don't want to go to the hospital for a test.. please i need your suggestions m thanks.

hmmm.