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Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Ladycewhy(f): 6:07pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
Duggedised12:don't mind them, very any how human beings ,the same ones that will blame dead girls for being murdered even when it is not proven she was a prostitute o, the same ones that will blame rape victims forgetting its someone's daughter and sister too he is talking about caring for someone's daughter, where as he is more interested in looking out and maintaining the bro code. 4 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Duggedised12(f): 6:10pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
Ladycewhy:You have hit the nail on the head jare. Make we leave matter for Mathias. |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by KanuSE: 6:13pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
[s] Ladycewhy:[/s] All I know is that you are not allowed to give advice as per this sensitive matter. You're toxic to this wonderful thread. You opinion doesn't count... period! |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Duggedised12(f): 6:18pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
KanuSE:trash. I have followed this thread ,you are the toxic one.seems you have a special spot for dead beat dads. Supporting toxic behavior,irresponsibility and people not being accountable for their actions . 2 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by KanuSE: 6:22pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
Duggedised12: Abeg point out where I have shown support for deadbeat dads... I'm waiting? Let's start from there please... 1 Like |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Duggedised12(f): 6:29pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
KanuSE:first you seem to have a problem with the word "deadbeat" . Then in your reply to some you said "It's natural for people to do right or wrong and it's not out of the ordinary but our intelligence can help to leverage.". So in oder words men abandoning their kids is natural . Let's not forget you have attacked virtually everyone who is not in support of deadbeat dads even guys too. Lol.You and your people have been doing high five on the thread since forever,you have co-signed all their toxic outbursts on this thread ,that to me is enough support bro. 2 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by luminouz(m): 6:33pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
Ladycewhy: If you had joined,it would have meant you had no handle on your emotions. Control those emo-gases and fluids or they control you |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Ladycewhy(f): 6:42pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
luminouz:its not about control, these boys here were already calling their baby daddy friends on nairaland to come and gloat ,lol. Anyway ,i am glad i didnt tho it was tempting to join in the dart throwing sections with the boys 1 Like |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Martinez39(m): 6:45pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
JONNYSPUTE:GBAM!
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Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by midnighter(f): 6:46pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
mapet: Thank you Sir, I am flattered. |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by KanuSE: 6:47pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
Duggedised12: Now you're beginning to twist my words. I'm not saying there ain't runaway dads but to use a disparaging and vicious word such as 'dead' in the combination of descriptive words connotes the depth of the bitterness which lingers. Here in Sambisa, we call them 'Runaway Dads'. Secondly, people often behave badly and also do the right thing - these are what humans do & I hope we both agree on that. So how to leverage in such situations is what we all have intelligence to do in order not to make a bad situation worse. Lastly, it would be wrong or inappropriate to use the word 'attack' in the context which it's used in your last paragraph. This is because I have only tried my possible best to put people back in line that we have a choice either to 'make better' or 'make worse'. In this case, the Op chose the former and now he has peace of mind. He has done well for himself. |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by luminouz(m): 6:50pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
Ladycewhy: Leave the Boys alone babe. You and you alone decide what gets to you or not. That's your power. |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Ladycewhy(f): 6:51pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
luminouz:bros bros,you na man wey sabi right from time. |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Duggedised12(f): 6:54pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
KanuSE:but it has been proven that even the so called peace of mind the op was seeking was all a misguided statement . The real gist is his mum and other siblings have already made up with his dad,infact his mum and dad even live together . The op is the only who hasn't patched things up with his dad. Its all there on page 11 . 3 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by KanuSE: 6:54pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
Ladycewhy: New eyelashes called lies...can see you have a pair on.
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Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by KanuSE: 7:00pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
Duggedised12: That's after the fact - do u gerrit? It doesn't change the narrative or some people's positions with regards to what's in the child's best interest. I hope you also read some nasty comments about excluding the said runaway dad from the child's life by stealth. C'mmon! |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by luminouz(m): 7:02pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
midnighter:Dont flatter yourself, you still owe me pounded yam. |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Duggedised12(f): 7:04pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
KanuSE:the reason i quoted you is you calling ladycewhy toxic, of which she was among the few who were interested in getting to the root of the matter and put the pieces together while you were busy giving your baby daddy friends a high five ,gloating in your testosterone and shutting people who dont support dead beat dads up. She was busy asking salient questions that is what i wanted to point out. so next time before to you call people names ,do a back track on your own path, shalom!. 5 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by midnighter(f): 7:13pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
luminouz: Lol what |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by luminouz(m): 7:18pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by midnighter(f): 7:24pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
luminouz: That wasn't me dear why not get down to Kilimanjaro and give yourself a Friday night treat 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by djon78(m): 7:25pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
emmaodet: You aptly put Many men, once they begin to face life's responsibility, have a deeper understanding of what it is to be a man, a father. While growing up I seriously disliked my father It was until I became a man, my eyes opened. My Dad is my hero, my best friend. I talk with him weekly anywhere I am. Many women can never understand what it means to be a father. Some on this post were calling them sperm donors. A woman's womb and egg is like the ground, the seed for that womb to be fruitful is in between the legs of a man. Without a man, that your egg, will fizzle out in form of blood. Until many women begin to respect men and give them there due diligence, many will never know peace. Man is man 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by luminouz(m): 7:26pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
midnighter: Lmaoooo.... At least the bickering on thread don reduce now on the thread. A dose of comedy works everytime |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by midnighter(f): 7:38pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
luminouz: I didn't see it as bickering; people were just annoyed at the tone the OP was taking He was using reconciliation as a guise to cover up his personal problem with his dad |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by gerizzim: 7:44pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
chriskosherbal: my broda, I tell you. It is wen u leave d huz ND starts struggling for ursef, u will appreciate ur dad's effort over u as a son. |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by BRATISLAVA: 7:52pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
Omakraid:you did good on that. I've decided to ignore other mentions on the thread. His modifications came later on, and honestly, he should've said those things in the very first instance. It still doesn't justify parental negligence and abuse, though. 1 Like |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Nobody: 8:12pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
JONNYSPUTE: I can't. No apology. 1 Like |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by KanuSE: 8:23pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
[s] Duggedised12:[/s] Now you're beginning to make a mess of a bad situation. If you haven't forgotten, you quoted me that I'm the toxic one coz I have been supporting runaway dads and I asked you to point out where I have shown to be doing so - you're yet to fish out a comment where I demonstrated such. You shot yasef in the foot by bringing one ladycewhy into the discourse as if she's making any sense whatsoever. Try and comb through ladycewhy's comments and point out where she supports the reconcilation effort btw Op & his dad. The only thing/word being used is deadbeat deadbeat and deadbeat as if that's all there is. Well, you can side with ladycewhy and cherry pick whatever comments you desire but it doesn't change anything. I understand you people's pain but it doesn't change the fact that children(when they're of age) continue to seek&know the truth as they go in search of their loving fathers. Only if men can begin to voice out like y'all do... Nonsense! |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by emmaodet: 8:42pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
djon78: You are 100% right bro. E no easy but women don't just understand because they find life very easy for them due to having lot of admirers that are willing to do things for them freely 1 Like |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Tunbolity(m): 9:18pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
obamartins:Your comment struck me so hard. I was 9 in 1998 when dad stopped visiting us (mum, my sis and I) and by 2000, he stopped reaching out to us. Mum saw us through school with her meagre income, and to the glory of God today, my sibling and I are university graduates. Though my sis still talks to him, I am just too pained to reconcile with him knowing the hardship we went through and bitter experience of my mum in raising us. Though still struggling to find my feet in my profession and relatives have constantly pressured me to call him and check on him, I just can't find a space to forgive him in my heart. But your comment got me thinking that could my rigid stance on not forgiving and reaching out to him be responsible for my slow career progress even when I'm clearly not at fault? I find it hard to reconcile your point of view with the fact that God does not pay the good with evil, I never wronged him, he wronged me, he left me in the cold, he tormented me emotionally and psychologically by abandoning me, he made my family suffer, he killed my self esteem and why do I have to agree that it is only when I make peace with him that I can achieve desired progress? Anyways, I'd give it a thought and see if I would need to get his number and say hello 3 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by paroh137(m): 9:54pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
This thread is funny because everyone is seeing things from a very biased point of view. Please ishilove and dominique, if the woman was the one that abandoned her family and left the kids with their father, would you have this same energy? Imagine leaving your 3 month old kid for no tangible reason for months at a time. After several attempts over the years by the man to reconcile with his wife, she finally demanded he pay her 5m naira to come back. 5m from where kwanu? Just last year the kids (now adults) reconciled with their mom even though she abandoned them as kids. Are you really in opposition to reconciliation in this regard, or y'all just hate men? Would you advise these kids to ignore their mom too? |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by abimbola74(m): 10:32pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
BRATISLAVA:Sounding as if you lived with them. Did you even know what he went through @ll? He is responsible for whatever decision he makes so respect that. ✌�. God will continue to guide us . |
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