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Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by salt1: 3:21pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
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Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by zeb04(f): 3:27pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
DaphneBr:you are doing the right thing. Your child is still young you should not force an absentee father down her throat because you want to please society. When she grows, give her the Dad’s number so she will not accuse you later in life that you lied and spoilt the relationship she should have had with her dad. Let him ruin himself by himself. But you cant do that now, she isn’t ready for that. 5 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Nobody: 3:28pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
Ladycewhy:my baby is just 7months but everyone including my own family knows what's going on |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Nobody: 3:31pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
zeb04: thank you |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Ladycewhy(f): 3:33pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
DaphneBr:well,don't dull yourself o, even if you have money,go meet the people giving excuses for him and collect money from them , collect food stuff if you have to , bug them so bad so they too in turn will let their brother know. Nor form super woman, Cos las las when he comes back now and buys fancy toy for his child ,e don end be that o. Dont dull yourself o. 11 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Xeexeex: 3:37pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
Don't know about you but most Dads never listen. They feel they are always right. They never listen to their wives and even their children. Their wives must vent to someone who is likely to be the children. The children are not blind to they see and notice everything. I'm from a house where my dad feels he is doing well in his career and he is sending his children to school so he won't listen to anyone. He doesn't want to learn and when you question what he tells you he paints you black in the face of the other siblings. He wants you to take everything he tells you without question. Sometimes I blame my mom for being so tolerant with him from the start making him feel what he is doing is OK. He will sit in the sitting room watching TV and complaining how things are not done well in the house or how slowly food is cooked. The whole family will leave the house early in the morning for an event, Mom will wake up earlier than everyone to put bathing water and stuff. We'll come back in the evening he will sit down in front of TV while mom won't even sit small, she will be in the kitchen working, trying to prepare food, he will start complaining saying that she cannot plan ahead. Early morning? If you can plan better why not be preparing food. For the other siblings they're self righteous and pretentious. The apple does not fall far from the tree. I'm in a state of discomfort in that house and I'm trying all my best as an undergraduate to move out. Respect to my mom all the time for keeping the house together. If she was half as my dad I'll probably grow up in a broken home. 7 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Martinez39(m): 3:38pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
emmaodet:I too suspect BRATISLAVA is Marialavina. She said something about me (something I stopped doing during Marialavina's time. Something that anyone active in the romance section during Marialavina's time on nairaland should know). She might be Marialavina. Anyway, I haven't forget the annoying, taunting, bipolar, and entitled child called Marialavina. |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Martinez39(m): 3:45pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
zeb04:You gave DaphneBr a sound advice. I would advise DaphneBr to give her daughter the father's phone number and shouldn't, in anyway, hinder the child from connecting with her father. While doing this, she should also tell the child the truth that her father was plain deadbeat but not in a way of attempting to create enmity between father and child. Let her keep a clean record as well. 2 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Defenderalert(m): 3:46pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
BRATISLAVA: God bless you. He thinks his father is rich but a leopard never changes its spots. Reconnecting with a father like that is like getting struck by thunder twice. His father will still hurt them again. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by JONNYSPUTE(m): 3:56pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
zeb04:.. Nice one. |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by mt77: 4:40pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
What are the solutions to this problems? Wives be submissive to your husbands. Husbands love your wives. Let there be one head of the family. Let everyone respect the marriage vow and remain faithful each other. Live within your means and be content with what God had blessed the family with.And above all walk in the fear of God. 2 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by royalamour(m): 4:44pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
BRATISLAVA: What's your own, if I may ask? Why are you bent on destroying his family reunion? 1 Like |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by emmaodet: 4:47pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
Martinez39: My broda, it's well |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by eazzzy1(m): 4:59pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
bukatyne: I totally understand your points. However, in this case; 1. As a child whenever you see your mum cry, it is interpreted as due to maltreatment, you don’t care to find out what happened, whose fault it was etc. It is always natural to be on the side of whoever tells you the story of what transpired, usually the mothers and definitely they tell the story in their favour. 2. This guy never said his dad kicked him out or stopped taking responsibility, he said he disconnected from his father in protest to the way he ‘heard’ his mom was been treated. So I’m guessing he had several fights with his dad and the relationship went sour over something he clearly never understood as a child. 3. The mother being the only parent who was there for him is an absolute great thing. No one should downplay that, but she wasn’t perfect and that’s what the OP is acknowledging. When couples fight, it is the responsibility of the adults to ensure the kids do not pick sides. It is best not to tell them in details what is happening. Tell them your dad and I loves you but we aren’t happy together etc. That way nobody is blamed in separation or divorce. 4. The father isn’t poor or on his dying bed, he isn’t the one seeking reconciliation. The OP is trying to fill a void hence he’s asking for his dad forgiveness and not the other way round. I do not believe that it is culture and religion that make people seek forgiveness from a wicked person. I have a friend whose dad left them, he never wants to talk about the man at all and my guy na pastor. I think it’s the realization that things were not how I saw it as a youngster that make people repent. E.g the prodigal son. 5. I hope you will agree not to involve the children in parents conflict. A child never easily forgives someone who maltreated them, they only forgive the misunderstood. See Tonto Dike’s case? Tomorrow if king wants a relationship with Churchill, will you call him ungrateful? That your mom loves you doesn’t mean she can’t manipulate you. 3 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Omakraid(f): 5:01pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
BRATISLAVA:I quoted you cos I wanted you to stop the back and forth as the post as misled all enough and started causing irrelevancies before he mentioned it to someone else that mum and dad are good with his siblings excluding him. Such things makes everyone look like a joke and it's not funny. Op did not try at all by keeping that part to himself 2 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by emmaodet: 5:02pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
Martinez39: Na wa ooooooooo, So much anger, venom and bile from all these ladies because a child determines to re-trace his steps. God save us all from Karashikas in human form. When i was younger, my mum painted a picture of my dad to us as someone not really trying and lazy. Sometimes during there occasional arguments and quarrels she will mock him that his mates are out there hustling but my dad is too contented and satisfied with the meagre civil servant salary. Sometimes she sobs that what kind of head and destiny did she chose to deserve all these because she didn't bargained for this in life. Adagbe, adaso. She is one doing the duty of a man instead of him. One thing people don't understand is that not all men are business savvy or inclined and God made them all. Some just like the quite, not stressful, administrative life. Then, i do see my dad as lazy despite giving my mum 95% of what he earns for her to manage it, despite not fornicating, drinking and always given my mum rest of mind. It was when i became an adult, married and feeding a wife and son did i know that uneasy lies the head that wears the crown. I had to prostrate and begged him for forgiveness 6 months ago for regularly not in his good book because i was rebellious to him. It's well 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Ladycewhy(f): 5:05pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
KanuSE:yen yen yen, i have not seen a single advice from you to her ,lets hear your own advice na ,all this running around my comments like a headless chicken,you must be exhausted 1 Like |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Martinez39(m): 5:12pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
emmaodet:That's the power of brainwashing. Despite your father giving 95% of his earnings to the family, you were still able to see him in a bad light. Despite him being around, you were still able to see him in a bad light. That's the power of brainwashing. Now imagine how worse it is for those fathers that are mostly away from home due to work. Brainwashing is very powerful. 6 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by DRPAIT123(m): 5:14pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
KanuSE:my comment was nothing close to a criticism, it is out of a borne intention to laud everyone that contributed to the topic Including you |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by KanuSE: 5:18pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
DRPAIT123: Thanks |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by KanuSE: 5:21pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
Ladycewhy: She's yet to ask me for an advice and as manners demand, I don't poke my nose into people's stuff. So be quiet and dress up for our night out. |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Ladycewhy(f): 5:24pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
KanuSE:sharap ,she didnt call any particular person or your head is turningonimown . You either drop your advice for her or gerrarahia 1 Like |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by KanuSE: 5:27pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
Ladycewhy: Lol so you just barged into her mention uninvited giving her cow dung you call advice... hahahaha Stop farting around and dress up for our night out. |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Ladycewhy(f): 5:30pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
KanuSE:says the one who has pile , because i have been keeping your dirty little secret? 1 Like |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by KanuSE: 5:32pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
[s] Ladycewhy:[/s] Lol sense is far from you walahi, I wonder how your family and friends cope. |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Ladycewhy(f): 5:34pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
KanuSE:ode, you better go and insert that tablet into your asshole,pile man . And by the way i am still waiting for you to drop your wonderful advice for her 2 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by KanuSE: 5:40pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
Ladycewhy: Lol you're very funny! I don't poke my nose into people's stuff like you, I don't. Be like say u don chop fowl yansh sef coz I smell your stench from afar. |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Ladycewhy(f): 5:43pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
KanuSE:nah, the stench is from your leaking anus,pile man . You cant give advice but you can be bothered about other people giving advice sotey you nearly get high bp begging her not to listen to me lol. Guy go wear adult pampers for your leaking anus so the smell you are perceiving will go 1 Like |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by JONNYSPUTE(m): 5:48pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
Martinez39:.. Men should wake up. Like I said in that thread,I ve stopped giving my wife money to go pay school fees. I either transfer from my account or go there myself. Take the kids out once i'm around. Sleep with them on my bed and play around. Since the birds has learn to fly without perching,the hunter has also learnt to shoot without aiming. 3 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by KanuSE: 5:50pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
Ladycewhy: Maybe your bf/husband is struggling with pile presently, the reason you know about pill-insertion through the anus... hahahaha Secondly @bolded, I won't allow you mislead DaphneBr coz someone who's yet to find their bearing in life shouldn't be allowed to give advice in such matters. You need guidance as well coz u don miss road sotey u com dey fart for thread...lol |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Ladycewhy(f): 5:57pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
KanuSE:lol,i knew about it through you na, stop it jor,because i have been keeping it a secret? This boy sef Guidance? says a boy who co-signed on the "maternal slavery" comment. Lol you and your goons have issues with women for whatever reason and will lead even your own sisters astray just to maintain your "bro code". So shut up your mouth. And be more focused on healing from your so called maternal slavery y'all have been through. 1 Like |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Duggedised12(f): 6:04pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
Ladycewhy:flesh and blood did not reveal this to you. |
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