It was one of those weekends where couple usually hang out and relax after a long stressful week at work.

Aminat felt it will be the best time to inform her husband of her plan to go back to school, which was part of the agreement they had before she got married to Hassan, her husband.

The discussion ended up to be a typical husband-wife argument. She wanted to go back to school. He wanted her to stay home as a full-time house wife.

The argument led to a serious beating of Aminat by her Husband which even her parents believe it is justifiable because according to them ‘she disobeys her husband.

Most friends and Family members also believe that Aminat, who was 26 years when this took place and in her sixth year in the marriage has broken some golden rule in this part of the world; she dare challenge her husband’s decision.

Unfortunately, in the 2018 Surveys carried out by the National Demographic and Health Survey (NDHS), which is a worldwide Demographic and Health Surveys (DHS) program designed to collect, analyze, and disseminate demographic data on fertility, family planning, and maternal and child health throughout Nigeria, shows that many men and women too consider such disobedience ample justification for beating.

In a recent stats on WIFE BEATING by State: Percentage that agree the husband is justified for beating/hitting his wife for one or other reasons as released by the NDHS and published by StatiSense, it shows that a lot of men and Women justify the beating of the wife in the house.

Generally, more Nigerian women (14-59 years) believe husbands are justified for beating / hitting their wives. 28.0% of women justified this act while 20.5% of men also believe they can beat or hit their wives for one or other reasons.

The reasons are: burning of food, arguing with husband, going out without telling the husband, neglecting the children, and refusing to have sexual intercourse with the husband.

This societal problem is more acceptable in some states such as Bauchi, Kebbi, Katsina, etc. In BAUCHI state, 73.9% of women justified their being beaten by their husband and 32.3% of the men felt justified to have beaten their wife.

In KATSINA state and Kebbi state, 80.6% and 87.4% of women respectively agreed with their husband that they deserved to be beaten.

On the other hand, women from States like Anambra 0.6%, Lagos 2.9%, Ogun 1.2% and Jigawa 2.9%, do not think there is any justifiable reason to hit/beat women.

It is expected that findings such as this will help create awareness among families and society at large to provide the necessary counselling and education to both men and women that there is no justifiable reason to hit one another.

Source: https://statisense.com.ng/is-wife-beating-becoming-an-acceptable-practice-in-nigeria/

wife beating is Nigeria's #1 national sport... who are you trying to fool here?!

Yesterday I saw a man using his wife as a punch bag.

He was just too excited hitting the bag. He might be our next Mike tyson.

The day I went to deliver a letter to one of my client in his home. As I knocked at the door, the wife opened it, as I entered she told me to have a seat.

In the next two minutes, my client came out from his room, he went straight to his wife and gave her a very sounding slap saying, " I told you not to add much pepper, didn't i"

Omo, na for my face this one happen life, as he was done with his wife, he was telling me that before I get married, that I should watch well ooo, that his wife confused him with "yash and bobs"


Marry wife way no go give you HBP, women, marry men that would give you peace and happiness and not money, money, money.


Money cannot buy happiness, if not many marriages today won't fault.

Even if the society and culture approves of it someday...i wont try it.

I don't support beating of women and I will never practice it, but if you look deep into how most wives are frustrating there husband if you can't control your temper you will kill them.

It is heavily encouraged in our society. Is it acceptable? The question is, was it ever acceptable? I doubt it is praised openly. It was an open secret that many men beat their wives within closed doors. Now things are changing. In the same way a low cut is no longer the standard for adult males, parents have reduced beating subordinance into children and both adults in a household have to contribute financially — men hardly indulge in domestic violence. How I wish think tanks exist in this jungle to justify my findings. Until then, we can only assume the case is growing.

meobizy:
It is heavily encouraged in our society. Is it acceptable? The question is, was it ever acceptable? I doubt it is praised openly. It was an open secret that many men beat their wives within closed doors. Now things are changing. In the same way a low cut is no longer the standard for adult males, parents have reduced beating subordinance into children and both adults in a household have to contribute financially — men hardly indulge in domestic violence. How I wish think tanks exist in this jungle to justify my findings. Until then, we can only assume the case is growing.

But I found out women like beating. Treat them well and the next thing you see is misbehaviour, trying to exact control where they have none and lashing out with their tongue in public for no justifiable reason.
The America we want to emulate is in tartars with no family discipline. Children shooting others in school because no one corrects them on what is good and acceptable in the society as is also creeping in on us as evidenced in Street gangs and yahoo Yahoo.
There is difference between beating and pummeling.