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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Theyoungmatron: 7:29pm On Feb 08, 2020
You said the only thing your wife is good at is pressing phone grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin
Lets do the maths
Baby 1 is 19 months while baby 2 is 5 months. Baby 1 was just 6 months when you let in the swimmers cheesy cheesy cheesy.
Both of you are frustrated and you are letting out the anger on an unsuspecting teenager who was willing to clean up your messes. Now, due to bad temper you guys are going to loose a good help and if you think your wife is going to pick up the slack without your input then you are a joker. More frustrations are coming.
I will be too, if i have 2 babies under 2 years and had to scurry round the town to meet a friend for used clothes and shoes.

Ticking time bomb.

Did you tell her mother that you slapped her daughter?
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by ireneidiva(f): 8:15pm On Feb 08, 2020
greatme2good:
Return the sister to her parents and don't let her have any house girl or relative to stay with again. Let's see who she will leave the kids for while going out.
But Op you are wrong to have slapped her and it seems there's no deep communication between the two of you coz her cursing you and her sister means there's something she's suspecting. Do not slap your wife again, apologize to her for slapping her.
So the woman is never supposed to leave the house because she has kids? Mind you I don't support leaving the sick child for a long time.
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by ireneidiva(f): 8:18pm On Feb 08, 2020
Theunbreakablem:
Thanks have spoken to my mother in law on the phone , have told her everything that has happened in the house that I wanted to send the girl back to her but she pleaded with me that my wife had called her earlier in tears narrated everything and she admitted to be wrong and will change , begging her mother to plead with me to keep her sister with us. She promised to come over next week and have a chat with both of us.
Hitting your wife is wrong. Learn to communicate and avoid violence. Send that girl back. That talk about sleeping with her from your wife is disgusting. That girl is a teenager and shouldn't be in such a violent and unhealthy situation.
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by JONNYSPUTE(m): 8:35pm On Feb 08, 2020
There are things I don't seek for advice from anybody before taking any action.

For her to have left a sick child only to go collect cloths from her friend shows she has no regard for her kids.

What happened to telling her friend something like,Nne my baby is not feeling fine so I can't come out. If that her said friend is truly a good friend,she will not see anything wrong in coming over to your house to deliver those things and see the sick baby.

I'm not against her going out,but not when you have a very sick child.

She came back and didn't show any remorse and even lied about the time.

Well bros, since you ve reported to her mum,it's ok. You guys should sort yourselves out. As per her younger sis,pls send her back.

For your wife to have said such,never allow that girl to stay. No matter the pleadings from your wife,don't accept. If you do,she will use it against you.

Don't slap her again. Once you beat your wife,you ve lost the case.
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by abimbola74(m): 8:46pm On Feb 08, 2020
Theunbreakablem:
I’m speechless but you may be right because when she came back that day , she lied to me about leaving the house at 6.30pm but her sister has already told me she left at 4pm. I’m confuse now
Don't let what that dude posted confuse you bruh , he may be wrong as well. Maybe she lied about the time so as not to give you the impression it's been long she left the house .
Abeg Dnt start suspecting ur wife ooo cos when u start doing that, you are writing a lengthy message to problem niyen ooo
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by greatme2good(f): 9:07pm On Feb 08, 2020
ireneidiva:
So the woman is never supposed to leave the house because she has kids? Mind you I don't support leaving the sick child for a long time.
Leaving without at least informing her husband?
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by ireneidiva(f): 9:19pm On Feb 08, 2020
greatme2good:
Leaving without at least informing her husband?
She was supposed to inform him. But saying let you see how she will go out and leave the kids at home is not cool. She can't be around 24-7.
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by PrimadonnaO(f): 10:09pm On Feb 08, 2020
Theunbreakablem:
There is nothing going on between me and her sister , the only thing that I’m never happy with my wife is the way she send the girl on errands without break and she does everything including cooking , dishing out my food from the pot and serving it for me which I don’t like , she knows that I hate anyone else cooking my food apart from her but she still make the girl cook and all my wife does is pressing phone 24/7. Whenever I complains about this issues , it doesn’t always ends up well.
Your wife is quite an unpleasant woman.
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by dingbang(m): 6:56am On Feb 09, 2020
You did the right thing. cool incase she misbehaves again, please do it again and again
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by yeyeosoronga: 7:35am On Feb 09, 2020
Theunbreakablem:
Yes she is a stay at home mom and I take care of her with the little that I have . I cut my coat according to my size.
It's high time your wife gets a job, and you both settle down to raise your children together, and not leave her alone to do it.
Send your SIL back, and also take part in looking after your children when they are well, or ill. Remember you both created them.
It's also probably time you updated your children's clothes as they are growing , and will grow out of them fast. Only few will refuse awoof clothes, especially when they are of good quality, since they are so expensive in Nigeria
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by sisisioge: 7:50am On Feb 09, 2020
You are on the right track...send her back home. Then settle with madam and live happily ever after. Her chores will help further reset her.
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by cyndy1000(f): 8:28am On Feb 09, 2020
Theunbreakablem:
There is nothing going on between me and her sister , the only thing that I’m never happy with my wife is the way she send the girl on errands without break and she does everything including cooking , dishing out my food from the pot and serving it for me which I don’t like , she knows that I hate anyone else cooking my food apart from her but she still make the girl cook and all my wife does is pressing phone 24/7. Whenever I complains about this issues , it doesn’t always ends up well.
Pls her sis should go back.
The work load on her is even much and your wife isn't appreciating her efforts, she may one day get frustrated and beat the kids with anger.
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Samyj247: 9:39am On Feb 09, 2020
Thank u for giving her that hot slap. It will surprise u to know that ur wife is a cheat
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by nams77: 10:56am On Feb 09, 2020
Vyolet:
A man can buy clothes for his mistress's children, heck he can even buy for you the husband. grin
Leave that guy make e dey yarn dust. I know s guy that bought gift items worth 50k for his mistress child during the little princess birthday. cool
The husband dey house o and things ruff for the guy man
. As a man, just pray and hustle real hard
Las las,anything wey u see, just take it and bounce. No need to dey form Rambo or else na jail go be your portion
A man got info that someone was straffing his beloved wife in his bedroom. Dude teamed up with his bro and stormed his house when the unfortunate mofo was around digging his wife and cut the guy like suya meat.
He was arrested and was heard saying he is happy that he has send the mofo to hell but i know by now he will be regretting. You can. Also ask Mrs sanni how she feels now.
My advice to any man... When shit hits the fan, just bounce. There are other sweet women out there. Life is too sweet to get locked up on death row as Rambo
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by nams77: 11:15am On Feb 09, 2020
Op, dont let anyone set doubts in ur mind for your wife o
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Nephilim: 11:32am On Feb 09, 2020
You caused the whole drama! You shouldn't have dragged it too long. When she came around she apologized you should have pegged it there, thank God ur child did not have convulsions, thank God nothing happened to your children! If they are to have issues not even you can stop it while with them, just thank God everything was normal, and please apologize to your wife and she too should apologize to you and her sister and you guys should keep living in peace.
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by zed7: 12:09pm On Feb 09, 2020
You married a problem and trust me, this her attitude will continue. Your marriage is still young.
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Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Nobody: 2:53pm On Feb 09, 2020
crackkhaus:
You don't know what is called a thunder slap.
The only thing you will have the strength to do after receiving it is to be moving your lips, using it to ask rhetorical questions like did you just slap me, or using it to rain abuses that don't make sense.

It's like having a concussion.


See them...even their own blood sister living in their matrimonial home is still a big problem.
https://www.reactiongifs.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/12/disgusted.gif
Walahi, Thunder slap off me ������. This man is harsh !!!!
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Alooone: 3:32pm On Feb 09, 2020
You seem like a good man... Most men could support the way she is treating her sister...but you, you stood against it...i think the best thing is to send the girl back to her parents...
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by crackkhaus: 7:02pm On Feb 09, 2020
Fiyinfoluwa20:
Walahi, Thunder slap off me ������. This man is harsh !!!!
Lol
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Belafonte(m): 7:16pm On Feb 09, 2020
Theunbreakablem:
Hmmm I don’t think she is cheating on me and if that was the case it is possible for another man to buy clothes for the children that doesn’t belong to him ?
Nigerian men that lie that their wives are dead jut to eat another babes coochie? You never jam. Men pay school fees of children of married women in Nigeria. If you no know, know today. Men will do whatever it takes
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by JONNYSPUTE(m): 7:17pm On Feb 09, 2020
crackkhaus:
You don't know what is called a thunder slap.
The only thing you will have the strength to do after receiving it is to be moving your lips, using it to ask rhetorical questions like did you just slap me, or using it to rain abuses that don't make sense.

It's like having a concussion.


See them...even their own blood sister living in their matrimonial home is still a big problem.
https://www.reactiongifs.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/12/disgusted.gif
.. Hahahahahahahahaaaah. I don die here bro.
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Belafonte(m): 7:20pm On Feb 09, 2020
Theunbreakablem:
There is nothing going on between me and her sister , the only thing that I’m never happy with my wife is the way she send the girl on errands without break and she does everything including cooking , dishing out my food from the pot and serving it for me which I don’t like , she knows that I hate anyone else cooking my food apart from her but she still make the girl cook and all my wife does is pressing phone 24/7. Whenever I complains about this issues , it doesn’t always ends up well.
You are sitting on a keg of gunpowder and when it explodes your injury go plenty gan. Your wife is non conscientious and that’s always a bad sign.

I’d advise you to send the girl back irrespective of what your mil says. It’s time to set things straight in your home. Stop getting scared of nagging from your wife and show who’s boss. Whether na you or your wife make una sabi who be Oga. Appeasing a badly-behaves women will not end well. Just wait till the children stop breastfeeding and can stay a while without her, your ear go full for stories.

You have been warned
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Belafonte(m): 7:22pm On Feb 09, 2020
Theunbreakablem:
I’m speechless but you may be right because when she came back that day , she lied to me about leaving the house at 6.30pm but her sister has already told me she left at 4pm. I’m confuse now
Your wife is a liar. No offense. What else is she lying about?
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Belafonte(m): 7:23pm On Feb 09, 2020
mankettle:
1. On the issue of the leaving children.. Warn her strongly. That next time....

2. On the issue of the slap, beg her to forgive you.. No be u she slap. She just talk u know how women be.. When annoyance enter their head they go carry small matter turn am to waec exam. Just let her be.

3. As for the sis, out of the abundance of the heart.. The mouth speaketh.. She must have thought of it, so she said it. So instead of unnecessary stress and jealousy send the sis home so that peace will reign.
This is how you people encourage bad behavior in women. Tufiakwa
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Belafonte(m): 7:26pm On Feb 09, 2020
ireneidiva:
Hitting your wife is wrong. Learn to communicate and avoid violence. Send that girl back. That talk about sleeping with her from your wife is disgusting. That girl is a teenager and shouldn't be in such a violent and unhealthy situation.
Not that I support physical violence o. But as an expert communicator, what would you say is the appropriate answer to her telling him she’d pour water on him too ? Because I truly don’t know what I’d have done. I’d be speechless probably
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by ireneidiva(f): 7:34pm On Feb 09, 2020
Belafonte:
Not that I support physical violence o. But as an expert communicator, what would you say is the appropriate answer to her telling him she’d pour water on him too ? Because I truly don’t know what I’d have done. I’d be speechless probably
Walk away. The problem is that the issue escalated till it went out of control. The period the wife was given silent treatment and maltreating the girl should have been used to communicate and sort out the issue.
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Belafonte(m): 7:37pm On Feb 09, 2020
ireneidiva:
Walk away. The problem is that the issue escalated till it went out of control. The period the wife was given silent treatment and maltreating the girl should have been used to communicate and sort out the issue.
Walking away is not proper communication. That’s a recipe for her even becoming more brazen.

I agree he let it linger too long though
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by ireneidiva(f): 7:39pm On Feb 09, 2020
Belafonte:
Walking away is not proper communication. That’s a recipe for her even becoming more brazen.

I agree he let it linger too long though
You cant reason with a mad person. Walk away and come back when she is calmer.
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by crackkhaus: 7:42pm On Feb 09, 2020
JONNYSPUTE:
.. Hahahahahahahahaaaah. I don die here bro.
cheesy
Re: Please I Need Your Advise by Belafonte(m): 7:50pm On Feb 09, 2020
ireneidiva:
You cant reason with a mad person. Walk away and come back when she is calmer.
True you can’t reason with a mad person, but walking away doesn’t cure madness, it only postpones your interaction with said madness
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