₦airaland Forum

Sammarshall:
It wasn’t easy, but I was determined and also I love doing it. So because enjoyed doing, it was a bit easier but it takes a lot of patience and perseverance.

Did you learn alone or someone mentored you?

SamgoldBaba:
"A marriage made in Nigeria cannot survive on the west"

In as much as I respect your opinion, I bet to disagree with you. I have seen some couples that married in Nigeria but have survived in west(USA particularly)

I believe marriage is like pregnancy, it comes in different packages. That’s why is only God that can sustain it. I see marriage as something that is holy and spiritual, and if not taken as such will not be successful.

Is not about where you got married, is about who you’re marrying, your preparedness in terms of seeking the face of God.

Nooil:
Did you learn alone or someone mentored you?

I learnt on my own with books and online.
The main thing is have a purpose and a source of motivation. Believe you can do it, start doing it it and ask God to help you.

With God nothing is impossible....

Sammarshall:
I learnt on my own with books and online.
The main thing is have a purpose and a source of motivation. Believe you can do it, start doing it it and ask God to help you.

With God nothing is impossible....

It's wonderful you learnt on your own. Paid a lady to teach me one certain time, and whenever I ask a question, she'll give it to me as assignment.

Dawned on me she has probably forgotten the things she learnt. Made me lose interest. I'll probably start again after learning graphics designing. Thanks for your replies, I really appreciate.

What u are shouting about us what men do to women as custom here ! Men proudly state that their wives must never earn as much as them , men sabotage their women’s career - all in a bid to be d primary breadwinner - but now that’s it’s a woman u all now see the cruelty !

YoungPerson:
Talk about insecurity
Women don't ever know what they want
Screaming equality all over the internet from their insecure little space


Let my guy count his losses and use less than 6 months to remarry a younger, more beautiful and voluptuous bad fuc*ing bitch just to spite her stupid, insecure black Yansh. What a waste!!!!!

The Lord will deliver una

The wonan said the man wants to compete with her.

I think they both lact understanding...


If nigeria woman don get small money body go the catch am anyhow.The wonan said the man wants to compete with her.

I think they both lact understanding...


If nigeria woman don get small money body go the catch am anyhow.The wonan said the man wants to compete with her.

I think they both lact understanding...


If nigeria woman don get small money body go the catch am anyhow.

grandstar:
What of Nigerian guys that bring their wives over from Naija to America and enrol them into nursing. Before long the wife is earning more than her her husband who might be driving taxi.

Before long, she begins to drag things with oga until the marriage breaks up

but some men can mumu sha.why not enroll urself in school with the money you make from the taxi business and develop urself.in your youth will be driving taxi and the money u make u go send go village make dem bring one village girl as wife for you in europe.u will marry her and send her to nursing school and in the end when she starts earning she will divorce u with the excuse that you not in the same class as her and start dating other younger men there.she go divorce u collect ur house,ur dog and ur kids and carry one weedboy as a boyfriend to be sharing the same house with her...ur own house oo .if you are a smart man the money u make from ur hustling job u either use it to go back to school or u develop urself.

Notasaints:
Nigerian women living in Nigeria are scammers, they are looking for someone who will take them out of Nigeria.

Cc 2Buffagain.

lefulefu

lol anything for the hustle even we guys too are no different .some guys will dump their finacee or girlfriend for one 99 yr old white american woman cos they wan jakpa go yankee.we nigerians ehn we too cunning .some days ago i uploaded a pic on facebook and cos e no look like naija some babe was sending me dm saying she is looking for oversea husband so she can leave this godforsaken country.she was asking if i am married.i asked her what of her boyfriend and she said who boyfriend help.i told her for her to get married u have to have a guy u start a reationship with first before e develop to marriage.u no jus dey jump say u want husband.she no hear oo she say she dey look for oversea husband .

bukatyne:
People championing and taking advantage of 'patriarchy' afraid of women taking advantage of 'matriarchal' system.

Hehehehehehehehehehehehehehe!

This life

Man can handle power and leadership with respect to relationship, but 99% of time women are usually found wanting; they are often influenced by feminine emotions.

Nature bequeathed a patriarchal world to humans and so shall it be. Matriarchy (as obtained in the West) is an aberration

Blu03:




I can't marry a doctor. It would be worse if he's like me, in terms of personality. We would compete.

You have a point, diversity is good in marriage, as an Engineer, while single, I couldn't picture myself marrying a lady that is an Engineer.....I went for my opposite and its been amazing.


The guy is half mad.....why didn't he study nursing all the while he's been in the UK, but waited until he married a nurse and now he wants to also become a nurse, it shows a man that lacks vision and direction; anything goes, so I wouldn't blame the lady jareh

[quote author=LosC post=86536444]A Twitter user narrates his friend's ordeal with the wife who filed for divorce because the husband came to the UK to study Nursing just because his wife is also a Nurse.

He twitted: Can't believe what I just read on my WhatsApp now, my guy that got married in June 2018 is getting divorced by his wife who's now in the UK. 'Why will you go back to study nursing when i'm already a nurse, you wanna compete with me' in her words. I told my guy to thank his stars..

https://twitter.com/Realchuka/status/1226787244259893248?s=19[/quote]

lefulefu:
but some men can mumu sha.why not enroll urself in school with the money you make from the taxi business and develop urself.in your youth will be driving taxi and the money u make u go send go village make dem bring one village girl as wife for you in europe.u will marry her and send her to nursing school and in the end when she starts earning she will divorce u with the excuse that you not in the same class as her and start dating other younger men there.she go divorce u collect ur house,ur dog and ur kids and carry one weedboy as a boyfriend to be sharing the same house with her...ur own house oo .if you are a smart man the money u make from ur hustling job u either use it to go back to school or u develop urself.

The problem at times is deeper than that. The educational background of the men maybe lamentable so furthering may be difficult. In London, I heard 2 black private guards speaking Yoruba. I took a look at them. From their appearance, I wondered if they even had School Cert. I doubt they finished secondary school.

Also, these men don’t go after “village girls”. These guys feel they’ve arrived so they will most likely pick girls in the village who are quite advance in that setting

Many of these girls can speak good English and are presentable to their Naija friends in the USA. Some even have GCE and many have plans to further. These are the type that can study nursing.

I’m from Ondo town so know what I’m saying.

Sammarshall:
In as much as I respect your opinion, I bet to disagree with you. I have seen some couples that married in Nigeria but have survived in west(USA particularly)

I believe marriage is like pregnancy, it comes in different packages. That’s why is only God that can sustain it. I see marriage as something that is holy and spiritual, and if not taken as such will not be successful.

Is not about where you got married, is about who you’re marrying, your preparedness in terms of seeking the face of God.

I so much agree with you. I curled the above quote from one of the tweets above

grandstar:
The problem at times is deeper than that. The educational background of the men maybe lamentable so furthering may be difficult. In London, I heard 2 black private guards speaking Yoruba. I took a look at them. From their appearance, I wondered if they even had School Cert. I doubt they finished secondary school.

Also, these men don’t go after “village girls”. These guys feel they’ve arrived so they will most likely pick girls in the village who are quite advance in that setting

Many of these girls can speak good English and are presentable to their Naija friends in the USA. Some even have GCE and many have plans to further. These are the type that can study nursing.

I’m from Ondo town so know what I’m saying.

to me it looks foolish.all the money u hustled for u will use it to marry and train one girl in nursing school and in the end she divorces u and takes over ur savings.there are wise guys with the savings they have they use it to enroll in school to develop themselves.i cant send money back home and be requesting to look for a woman that i will marry and train in school.God forbid..a total stranger.

Pataricatering:
What u are shouting about us what men do to women as custom here ! Men proudly state that their wives must never earn as much as them , men sabotage their women’s career - all in a bid to be d primary breadwinner - but now that’s it’s a woman u all now see the cruelty !

Big fat lie. Ask if any guy will refuse dj cuppy's hand in marriage.

Selfish woman

You didn't know before?

If only they discussed their future plans before getting married. Also, when this issue came up weren't there elders in the family that could have helped to resolve this issue? Our generation any small thing divorce.

nextstep:
Realistically, nursing abroad is a very tough job... very long hours, irregular schedule. The stress with be 3x if both of them study the same thing. I suspect we're not hearing the whole story though...

some misinformation "nursing abroad is a very tough job... very long hours, irregular schedule"
It is NO
African are making it long hours
They want all the high end stuff
You will have to pay for it NOT with a 40 hours Nursing salaryTthey end up working the long hours

grandstar:
The problem at times is deeper than that. The educational background of the men maybe lamentable so furthering may be difficult. In London, I heard 2 black private guards speaking Yoruba. I took a look at them. From their appearance, I wondered if they even had School Cert. I doubt they finished secondary school.

Also, these men don’t go after “village girls”. These guys feel they’ve arrived so they will most likely pick girls in the village who are quite advance in that setting

Many of these girls can speak good English and are presentable to their Naija friends in the USA. Some even have GCE and many have plans to further. These are the type that can study nursing.

I’m from Ondo town so know what I’m saying.

Agreed
some men create their problem
Looking for flies

franchasng:
You have a point, diversity is good in marriage, as an Engineer, while single, I couldn't picture myself marrying a lady that is an Engineer.....I went for my opposite and its been amazing.


The guy is half mad.....why didn't he study nursing all the while he's been in the UK, but waited until he married a nurse and now he wants to also become a nurse, it shows a man that lacks vision and direction; anything goes, so I wouldn't blame the lady jareh

Your comment is really sad "The guy is half mad"-- I hope you are under 25 years old
People change career at any point of their life for different reason