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Barbie15:
But my husband will find out, I am so scared..I can't even blink

Let him find out. He needs to know that his wife is an adulteress.

So you want to eat your cake and have it. You want his money, but nothing in exchange. Now you don't even think of telling the truth to your husband, apologizing or even at least try and becoming a better person. Your own concern is how to hide it after you don chop and clean mouth. While you will look for the next Maga to scam. I don't blame you. I blame the boy.

When a man has money and he will be unfaithful left right and center, you will be name calling him, not knowing you women are the cause. You don't support a man when he most needs it. When he finally breaks through, you now want him to be faithful to you. Well,

Moral of the story for men: make sure you secure that bag else all the love she is talking about is illusion. These days no money, no love.

Cc. ThothHermes

LoJ:
So you want to eat your cake and have it. You want his money, but nothing in exchange. Now you don't even think of telling the truth to your husband, apologizing or even at least try and becoming a better person. Your own concern is how to hide it after you don chop and clean mouth. While you will look for the next Maga to scam. I don't blame you. I blame the boy.

When a man has money and he will be unfaithful left right and center, you will be name calling him, not knowing you women are the cause. You don't support a man when he most needs it. When he finally breaks through, you now want him to be faithful to you. Well,

Moral of the story for men: make sure you secure that bag else all the love she is talking about is illusion. These days no money, no love.

Cc. ThothHermes

Baba i agree with you 100%. No Money, No love o.
M.I said something..."money changes everything..."

Barbie15:
I didn't think it was a big deal since he was far away from me. He was in PH, and he always adviced me to stand with my hubby. He gave me so many good advices , I never knew he would wanna even touch me for any reason. That was the reason I went

So he was giving you money for what reason. Are you his sister? When he was sending you money did you tell your husband or hid it? We know the answer

Any excuses you are giving are lies to yourself and to the world. You knew Damm well the guy was all about the cookie. You live in Nigeria, not in heaven, and you know how things work there. Moreso, you even had the gut to go to his place alone without informing your husband.

Look young lady, the only long lasting solution to this is truth. If you tell the truth and apologize it will be difficult for the husband to forgive. He may leave you for good. But eventually, because you told the truth yourself without any need to, he may realize that you are truly sorry and did not mean it. Then he will also learn to Hustle for his family.

Eventually he may forgive. Maybe he won't. At least you would have paid your karmic debt and open your way for your future and that of your children.

If it were only for nairaland I will never get married.

Asquare84:
try and see a strong pastor for prayers to block the guy eyes from releasing the video

Any pastor doing anything for her except telling her to tell the truth to her husband is likely a fake pastor. He will eat the tithes and offerings and perhaps ask for the cookie too. We know them.

A real spiritual guide will tell her that the only long lasting solution to this problem is telling the truth. Anything short of that will only delay the problem and never solve it.

People sow happily but come reaping season they want to pray their way out of the issues they themselves have created. God can't be mocked

Don't make any hasty decisions, just drop your SIM card for now

Marriage this day is a scam

MMotimo:
You urgently need to toughen up!
Why are you constantly playing the victim?

Lack of money caused you to cheat on your husband and now you’re on the brink (yes you are) of continuing because your oppressor considers you too poor to fight back.

Listen! Sit yourself up and talk to yourself! Are you now going to become a toy to a stray man because of N50k? You don’t fix a mistake by making another one. You tried that already and see where it got you.

Turn the tables on him! Is he texting you this nonsense or calling you on the phone? Have a record of his threats, make sure you know his workplace and tell him you will make sure his story goes viral, two can play the game. Is his job worth losing just so he can continue having sex with another man’s wife? Tell him to go and do his worst, that him and his friend who live there in Aba will see pepper. Don’t you have friends, brothers, sisters, anyone you can confide in? Let him know you have an army. Reactions like yours is what perpetuates nonsense behaviour like this. Time to fight fire with fire. Tell him if he messes you up you will do worse and disgrace him mightily. Go gangsta on him and stop doing smesme. You can be poor and still have dignity. Yes, you sacrificed your dignity the moment you started flirting with him. You got burnt and you’ve learnt your lesson. Instead of begging a predator, FIGHT BACK!

Stop feeling sorry for yourself and losing sleep while he plays cat and mouse with you. He has chopped your body and you’re still allowing him to chop your peace. N50k is not worth your peace!

As for your marriage, you and your husband need to work on it and you need to go to the streets and find work to do with your hands. Stop cheapening your body, using it as a tool for small change.

This is really want I need, thank you. He has not even showed me the video but just that pic. I have blocked him everywhere for now.

Barbie15:
Hello Everyone, I am still awake by this time cause couldn't sleep. I have invited the ant infested fire wood. I am a married house wife , though a graduate but jobs weren't coming fourth. My husband is not really trying his best to provide for us ,I do some online stuffs to assist. My hubby lives in fantasy,he always believes that tomorrow will be better, he will build mansions etc but he doesn't do any practical hustle. He believes in that one political appointment can make him super rich but year after year there will be no progress.

I became frustrated that I can't even make my hair nor buy creams. I was so in lack with my kids. My online biz doesn't pay every time. There was this guy I met online and we moved our conversation to whatsap. He chat like old school friends. He works with a bottling company in PH. I started asking him for assistance, he will send 10k, 5k and at one time 15k for me. It was quite a relieve for me. It happens that he decided to spend his leave in Aba at his friends place. We decided to see for the first time. I went to the place and surprisingly he was all alone. He was tall and huge and obviously younger. We gisted, talked about vancancies in his place of work. We had a little to drink and he kissed me ,one to led to another and we had a very hot sex together right in the sitting room. I felt guilty but he started petting me to relax that I am not the first married woman he has made love to. He gave me 20k but I still felt guilty.

5 days later he called me to come to same house but I objected and I even stopped taking his calls. I was shocked when I entered my whatsap and saw him threating to expose me and post my nude on Facebook that he recorded us and me after we finished when I was nacked and crying...He said his friend was actually inside the room and on the passage recording me. He said I must come for him to keep having sex with me till he leaves Aba. That all the money he spent me on I must pay it back. I am really confused cause I am not sure if he really recorded the videos but he only showed me a picture of me nacked and anyone that doesn't know me too well won't recognise that it's me. He promised to show me the video tomorrow afternoon. I don't know what to do. Please I don't need insults kindly advice me

did he had raw sex with you?

aro1:
did he had raw sex with you?

Seems he was prepared for it, he had a protection

Hi Ma, sent you an email.

dominique:
Has he sent the nudes he promised to send? If no, he probably doesn't have them. Still go and report him to the police. If your husband finds out and decides to end the marriage, so be it. A responsible married woman person has no business engaging in chats with online strangers, requesting for money and going to see them in their apartments. Be ready to face whatever consequences your brought upon yourself

Barbie15:
Thank you for not bashing me ,I have learnt my lessons. Please how do I go about this without involving my husband

Arrange with the police that someone you slept with out of depression wants to black mail you

Arrange with him on where to meet him and go with the police and he will be arrested and charged to court for defermation of character

But bear in mind that your life will be at risk if you don't relocate

Alternatively, don't respond to his threat

Leave him alone and let him keep threatening, the more you are afraid the more he will be threatening you

Stop all forms of communication with him, let him do his worst

You on your own side, start preparing for your defense that you were drugged and raped in the cause of your transactionif your husband ask you why you kept silent over it, tell him you were not happy about it and doesn't want to hurt him

Hmmm

Wonders shall never end

frozen70:
Arrange with the police that someone you slept with out of depression wants to black mail you

Arrange with him on where to meet him and go with the police and he will be arrested and charged to court for defermation of character

But bear in mind that your life will be at risk if you don't relocate

Alternatively, don't respond to his threat

Leave him alone and let him keep threatening, the more you are afraid the more he will be threatening you

Stop all forms of communication with him, let him do his worst

You on your own side, start preparing for your defense that you were drugged and raped in the cause of your transactionif your husband ask you why you kept silent over it, tell him you were not happy about it and doesn't want to hurt him

"Ofcourse, especially a woman like you"

You must be well schooled in cover-ups

Barbie15:
I didn't think it was a big deal since he was far away from me. He was in PH, and he always adviced me to stand with my hubby. He gave me so many good advices , I never knew he would wanna even touch me for any reason. That was the reason I went

Awwwwwwww

The guy has nothing to do with money again than to gift a random married chic on SM.

If you were single, we would say he is prepping you for marriage.

All these strange stories sef.

loshybab:
"Ofcourse, especially a woman like you"

You must be well schooled in cover-ups

Women have learnt how to lie from men and it has come to stay

Men can lie for Africa once they catch them with a woman

abiolert:
This is what you should do, call him and record your conversation, with him, make him understand that what he intends to do is called blackmail and its a crime in Nigeria which carries jail term. He should be made to understand that he stands to lose a lot if he tries to blackmail you. If he insist, then take your recorded conversation to the station and get him arrested. You too should be ready for the outcome too because your husband will definitely know that you are a hoe without shame, just beg for his forgiveness and tell him its his fault for not putting food on the table for you.

Very brutal honest advice

frozen70:
Women have learnt how to lie from men and it has come to stay

Men can lie for Africa once they catch them with a woman

I believe and I'm convinced women are better liars

loshybab:
I believe and I'm convinced women are better liars

Not true, rather better manipulators

frozen70:
Not true, rather better manipulators

Or maybe both

Marriage na scam aswear, we all just want to be married for the sake of not been stigmatized. I can boldly say we all cheat... In our head and all, it's just Bleep Bleep and more Bleep. Just imagine her describing him and tagging the Bleep hot. Goes on to show she didn't regret it. She's only afraid coz of the blackmail.

And she said they had hot sex.

I stopped reading right there.
What a shame to womanhood.

You started it so fix it if you your husband has not cheated b4 them there is a problem you did it because of money, that's where you offended ur hubby, if you tell the police he will know but it will put a stop to it if the guy post it, he will see it and will b more painful and disgraceful, is a tough call, just look beyond the shame and report this guy, it may destroy ur marriage, but ur hubby loved u, he can 4gve and try to 4get, in every decision or action we take it do, there is always a price, I hope the price comes cheap 4 you, but if not that d guy treatened u d banging would have go on because of the financial gain