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CsRockefeller:
Okay, I remember.

Alright.No problem

ibkayee:
Lol that's the thing with no premarital sex, it's definitely a gamble, good thing I'm asexual phew

Not necessarily. If both are sincere, there is no reason why they shouldn't talk about their expectations (sexually) in marriage. They should be able to talk about their stance in sex, the man should be able to talk about his penis and vice versa. He knows if he has erections or not and most importantly, both should express their level of openness as there are other means to sexual satisfaction beyond penetrative sex.

GboyegaD:
Not necessarily. If both are sincere, there is no reason why they shouldn't talk about their expectations (sexually) in marriage. They should be able to talk about their stance in sex, the man should be able to talk about his penis and vice versa. He knows if he has erections or not and most importantly, both should express their level of openness as there are other means to sexual satisfaction beyond penetrative sex.

I wouldn't blame someone for preferring to try it for themselves than relying on the product 'description' lol. It will be more of a gamble to some than others, naturally, the risk depends on what you want and consider a deal-breaker. Sexual compatibility is very important to a lot of people

No sex before marriage is over rated as far as I'm concerned.

Virginity till marriage didn't do anything for me at all,13 years down the line and sex is still blehhh.

We just do not sync sexually at least from my own end ,but this issue is small in comparison to the fact that he's an amazing human being.

Fact is sexual compatibility is extremely important,if sex is necessary to your well being,better test and know what you can or cannot manage because a good number of men believe it's all about thrusting like someone performing an exorcism for 1 hour.

There's a host of other sexual.problems outside erectile dysfunction or impotence.

The difficulty in virginity is that you do not even know what you like ,add that to a partner whos idea of sex is fixed,you get into a pattern that's difficult to correct to the point where even showing what you like becomes an exercise frought with torture.

You carry hand to put here,the hand is not really doing well,Oya carry mouth put here,disaster.


Some men will be great at a load of things not just Sex,same as some women,that doesn't take away their awesomeness.

There's also the element that the things that interest me are things that cause the husband to shout God forbid,

It can be frustrating ,I won't lie and may cause a person to dabble into a few things but it is what it is.

Thanks to the universe for toys and well timed mas turbation otherwise someone's daughter would have turned into a graven image.

If I could turn back time,I would test and test and teeeesssstttt till I receive the correct result.

Would.i choose another spouse?Never but I would have done things a bit differently.

Just here to drop comments not to engage in Q&A or counselling

ibkayee:
Lol that's the thing with no premarital sex, it's definitely a gamble, good thing I'm asexual phew

Who cares?

Iceyjays:
Who cares?

About what?

ibkayee:
About what?

What you said.

Iceyjays:
What you said.

Don't spoil this sane thread with your pre-school trolling lol

ibkayee:
Don't spoil this sane thread with your pre-school trolling lol

Absolute trash that's what you typed, you still have alot of learning to do.

Takotsubo:
No sex before marriage is over rated as far as I'm concerned.

Virginity till marriage didn't do anything for me at all,13 years down the line and sex is still blehhh.

We just do not sync sexually at least from my own end ,but this issue is small in comparison to the fact that he's an amazing human being.

Fact is sexual compatibility is extremely important,if sex is necessary to your well being,better test and know what you can or cannot manage because a good number of men believe it's all about thrusting like someone performing an exorcism for 1 hour.

There's a host of other sexual.problems outside erectile dysfunction or impotence.

The difficulty in virginity is that you do not even know what you like ,add that to a partner whos idea of sex is fixed,you get into a pattern that's difficult to correct to the point where even showing what you like becomes an exercise frought with torture.

You carry hand to put here,the hand is not really doing well,Oya carry mouth put here,disaster.


Some men will be great at a load of things not just Sex,same as some women,that doesn't take away their awesomeness.

There's also the element that the things that interest me are things that cause the husband to shout God forbid,

It can be frustrating ,I won't lie and may cause a person to dabble into a few things but it is what it is.

Thanks to the universe for toys and well timed mas turbation otherwise someone's daughter would have turned into a graven image.

If I could turn back time,I would test and test and teeeesssstttt till I receive the correct result.

Would.i choose another spouse?Never but I would have done things a bit differently.

Just here to drop comments not to engage in Q&A or counselling

Thanks for sharing maami...I guess as expected, the guys hunting virgins aren't taking into full account her true self/feeling. They mostly think virgins won't really have desires cos what do they know! A man cant honestly understand the feelings in a woman's body no matter how much they pretend to.

Anyways, may God's mercy continue to flow in your family. Last last, while sex is highly important, a wonderful spouse is second to none! Cheers.

sisisioge:


Absolutely true!

It just gets weird if the new car gets in the hands of an experienced driver then the narrative changes. Ain't nothing like a good experienced driver handling the wheels papi... Isn't life just perfect?

But I definitely understand the under equipped driver wanting a never been driven car before sha. Some of them get lucky enough to never get a second driver sample their wheels

Hahaha, giiiiiiiiiirl

And later women will be pretending as if its only men that likes sex.

They condemn men for wanting sex...and wanting before marriage, yet here they are acting like it is men that want it after marriage.

These women are pretenders and hypocrites

sisisioge:
Anyways, may God's mercy continue to flow in your family. Last last, while sex is highly important, a wonderful spouse is second to none! Cheers.

Sister Philomena,

Now you are talking. A wonderful spouse is all that matter's. Peace of mind in marriage.

When you carry sex matter for head like Cecilia, you miss the mark. You test and test until you test away the wonderful partners.

Omotola Jolade did not test. Look at her today. Even Regina did not test look at her today.

Your testing policy may actually bring more trouble than good.

Bottom line is that issues regarding marriage have gotten very complicated.

Neither abstinence nor indulging will actually guarantee you happiness in the marriage. But finding a good man will.


Peace.

MrBrownJay1:
sexual compatibility is a must in marriage....how will you know you guys are sexually compatible if you dont go for a test ride?!

This argument is not sound, cos Sexual compatibility can be FAKED even with the so called testing. We have heard many stories of Ladies who pretend to be wild with sex only to get the Ring and relax. And Guys who Pretend to have sexual power through various drugs Only to marry and change ringtone to " Eh woman,I can't kill myself ." he knows he now owns her, and you hear the woman or man say " He/She wasn't like this before we marry " . This is worse if you ask me . men are victims of this more.

Takotsubo:
No sex before marriage is over rated as far as I'm concerned.

Virginity till marriage didn't do anything for me at all,13 years down the line and sex is still blehhh.

We just do not sync sexually at least from my own end ,but this issue is small in comparison to the fact that he's an amazing human being.

Fact is sexual compatibility is extremely important,if sex is necessary to your well being,better test and know what you can or cannot manage because a good number of men believe it's all about thrusting like someone performing an exorcism for 1 hour.

There's a host of other sexual.problems outside erectile dysfunction or impotence.

The difficulty in virginity is that you do not even know what you like ,add that to a partner whos idea of sex is fixed,you get into a pattern that's difficult to correct to the point where even showing what you like becomes an exercise frought with torture.

You carry hand to put here,the hand is not really doing well,Oya carry mouth put here,disaster.


Some men will be great at a load of things not just Sex,same as some women,that doesn't take away their awesomeness.

There's also the element that the things that interest me are things that cause the husband to shout God forbid,

It can be frustrating ,I won't lie and may cause a person to dabble into a few things but it is what it is.

Thanks to the universe for toys and well timed mas turbation otherwise someone's daughter would have turned into a graven image.

If I could turn back time,I would test and test and teeeesssstttt till I receive the correct result.

Would.i choose another spouse?Never but I would have done things a bit differently.

Just here to drop comments not to engage in Q&A or counselling

The problem with people like you is You shy away from sex talks before marriage or probably Marry a man you are not attracted to. That two people decide not to have sex before marriage doesn't mean they won't discuss some intimate things from which they gonna get loads of ideas about their partner.

And again Testing before Marriage Guarantees nothing as it can also be FAKED

GboyegaD:
Not necessarily. If both are sincere, there is no reason why they shouldn't talk about their expectations (sexually) in marriage. They should be able to talk about their stance in sex, the man should be able to talk about his penis and vice versa. He knows if he has erections or not and most importantly, both should express their level of openness as there are other means to sexual satisfaction beyond penetrative sex.

Thank you for this .

Peacefullove:
Thank you for this .

It worked for me and God has been faithful.

Peacefullove:
This argument is not sound, cos Sexual compatibility can be FAKED even with the so called testing. We have heard many stories of Ladies who pretend to be wild with sex only to get the Ring and relax. And Guys who Pretend to have sexual power through various drugs Only to marry and change ringtone to " Eh woman,I can't kill myself ." he knows he now owns her, and you hear the woman or man say " He/She wasn't like this before we marry " . This is worse if you ask me . men are victims of this more.

we all know that many are faking it, but if you were wild in bed before marriage then thats exactly what your spouse will expect from you (after marriage)....which is fair. now compare that with expecting for someone to do things (after marriage) that she is fully against OR that she does not believe in?!

Peacefullove:
The problem with people like you is You shy away from sex talks before marriage or probably Marry a man you are not attracted to. That two people decide not to have sex before marriage doesn't mean they won't discuss some intimate things from which they gonna get loads of ideas about their partner.

And again Testing before Marriage Guarantees nothing as it can also be FAKED

Madam,you know nothing about me or a person like me.

I never knew I would fancy using restraints on my partner (DH)during sex - he's not into this.

I didn't ever know my libido would be raging.

No amount of discussions would have revealed this to me. So many examples sef.

Some people will never be sexually compatible, and unfortunately I'm one of them.

Others don't test and end up with amazing sexual vibes and that's fine.

End result of sex should be both partners clim axing ,there's no in-between,it's either you do or don't.

In my next life,I shall be testing to make sure I cli max every damn time,no time for fruitless theory.

sisisioge:
Thanks for sharing maami...I guess as expected, the guys hunting virgins aren't taking into full account her true self/feeling. They mostly think virgins won't really have desires cos what do they know! A man cant honestly understand the feelings in a woman's body no matter how much they pretend to.

Anyways, may God's mercy continue to flow in your family. Last last, while sex is highly important, a wonderful spouse is second to none! Cheers.

Nobody really knows what they want from sex till they actually start doing it.I even used to think of myself as well informed, I read everything readable ,watched some watchables but actually engaging in intercourse shows you the female body is crazily mysterious.

I believe problems set in when one of the partners thinks of sex in a particular way or has been sexually active before you.They usually come with pre conceived notions of how it's done.

Imagine if the person's experience is from ladies who have been faking it and calling him skilful,it becomes difficult for the person to believe he's not doing it right.

Throw in a lady that does not know her left from right into this mix and then there's confusion, complaints destroy the fragile ego,more attempts to rectify the situation leads to more frustration etc then a pattern is formed.

Effects of a mismatch can be devastating.If you wil not test to make sure,just ready your mind for anything.

A very large number of women in their prime go off sex with their spouses,how is that possible if the sex is mind blowing and earth shattering?What does that tell you?

My consolation has just been how wonderful he is,that's the only reason I've been managing to contain myself.

A good spouse really covers a multitude of sins.. I'd rather have bad sex with an excellent personality husband than good sex with jerk.

Abi this is what I tell.myself to prevent mental breakdown

Back to stealth mode abeg.

Cheers

AllforJesus7:
Sister Philomena,

Now you are talking. A wonderful spouse is all that matter's. Peace of mind in marriage.

When you carry sex matter for head like Cecilia, you miss the mark. You test and test until you test away the wonderful partners.

Omotola Jolade did not test. Look at her today. Even Regina did not test look at her today.

Your testing policy may actually bring more trouble than good.

Bottom line is that issues regarding marriage have gotten very complicated.

Neither abstinence nor indulging will actually guarantee you happiness in the marriage. But finding a good man will.


Peace.

Bro Joshua , truly I agree regarding the importance of having a wonderful human as a spouse but I still maintain that marrying someone blindly without knowing your sexual compatibility is a serious nono. Did you read @ Takotsubo 's account well? She's wasn't speculating like you and I, she was talking from experience. Many women in her position would just either cheat or completely avoid sex with their partners which is the root cause of most failed marriages.

About Omotola, if only you know the story behind her story...the many gist those that know her know (I have a movie producer friend) . Let's just say Mr. Ekeinde is a wonderful patient partner. As for Regina, are we talking about the one that married Ned Nkoyo? ...may God continue to really shelter that your innocent soul.

It is well my brother, it is really well.

Takotsubo:
Nobody really knows what they want from sex till they actually start doing it.I even used to think of myself as well informed, I read everything readable ,watched some watchables but actually engaging in intercourse shows you the female body is crazily mysterious.

I believe problems set in when one of the partners thinks of sex in a particular way or has been sexually active before you.They usually come with pre conceived notions of how it's done.

Imagine if the person's experience is from ladies who have been faking it and calling him skilful,it becomes difficult for the person to believe he's not doing it right.

Throw in a lady that does not know her left from right into this mix and then there's confusion, complaints destroy the fragile ego,more attempts to rectify the situation leads to more frustration etc then a pattern is formed.

Effects of a mismatch can be devastating.If you wil not test to make sure,just ready your mind for anything.

A very large number of women in their prime go off sex with their spouses,how is that possible if the sex is mind blowing and earth shattering?What does that tell you?

My consolation has just been how wonderful he is,that's the only reason I've been managing to contain myself.

A good spouse really covers a multitude of sins.. I'd rather have bad sex with an excellent personality husband than good sex with jerk.

Abi this is what I tell.myself to prevent mental breakdown

Back to stealth mode abeg.

Cheers

Hmmm...well done maami. You are truly a good woman. But you know you could get that man of yours some serious education through movies and books, since talking hasn't really helped.

ibkayee:
Lol that's the thing with no premarital sex, it's definitely a gamble, [b]good thing I'm asexual [/b]phew

we don't even mind buh whats good about been asexual ... its an abnormality not something to be proud of, as a woman yu will neva know what is like to av & feel orgasm n you think yu are better than a normal woman. smh

Takotsubo:
Madam,you know nothing about me or a person like me.

I never knew I would fancy using restraints on my partner (DH)during sex - he's not into this.

I didn't ever know my libido would be raging.

No amount of discussions would have revealed this to me. So many examples sef.

Some people will never be sexually compatible, and unfortunately I'm one of them.

Others don't test and end up with amazing sexual vibes and that's fine.

End result of sex should be both partners clim axing ,there's no in-between,it's either you do or don't.

In my next life,I shall be testing to make sure I cli max every damn time,no time for fruitless theory.

Not blaming you .. Sorry if I come across that way.
My point is even if you test and he wasn't into it ... You might still marry him considering his other qualities that endear you to him with the mantra of " He will change " . and besides if your husband was a Good Christian he should know the Bible says a man should Please his wife Sexually . its a command.



" The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs , and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. " 1 Cor 7:3

Its true the Bible God is against premarital relation but then he wants anyone considering marriage to realize this is one of the Duties of marriage. But unfortunately in this part of the world , Hypocrisy and the fact that many so called Christians dont know shit in their Bible is killing them. If your libido is low and you ain't interested in sex. You have no business getting married.

sisisioge:
Hmmm...well done maami. You are truly a good woman. But you know you could get that man of yours some serious education through movies and books, since talking hasn't really helped.

Point . but then in this part of the world most women marry for Money , So forget the testing before marriage , as long as their Ned Nwoko is around .. They dont care . So testing is just another excuse to be wayward as far as am concerned. Most girls even with the testing will still Marry that One minute man as long as he has Money . its after marriage they start crying

Peacefullove:
Not blaming you .. Sorry if I come across that way.
My point is even if you test and he wasn't into it ... You might still marry him considering his other qualities that endear you to him with the mantra of " He will change " . and besides if your husband was a Good Christian he should know the Bible says a man should Please his wife Sexually . its a command.



" The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs , and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. " 1 Cor 7:3

Its true the Bible God is against premarital relation but then he wants anyone considering marriage to realize this is one of the Duties of marriage. But unfortunately in this part of the world , Hypocrisy and the fact that many so called Christians dont know shit in their Bible is killing them. If your libido is low and you ain't interested in sex. You have no business getting married.

@bold

A plate of pepper soup for you o jare.

You have hit the nail on its head.

The average Nigerian is just a church goer.

bukatyne:
@bold

A plate of pepper soup for you o jare.

You have hit the nail on its head.

The average Nigerian is just a church goer.

Too many hypocrites carrying bible every Sunday especially the silly religious ones that enter marriage forming Holy. Its like they remover that part from their bible. The Bible God is not the problem, Humans are . They stupidly ignore his direction and start complaining that it's because they didn't test . rubbish and nonsense.

Peacefullove:
Too many hypocrites carrying bible every Sunday especially the silly religious ones that enter marriage forming Holy. Its like they remover that part from their bible. The Bible God is not the problem, Humans are . They stupidly ignore his direction and start complaining that it's because they didn't test . rubbish and nonsense.

100%

The Bible / God is the problem if we are serious and all parties can obey.

This is one of the major reasons people should marry their kind spiritually so they are governed by same constitution.

Emaprince:
And later women will be pretending as if its only men that likes sex.

They condemn men for wanting sex...and wanting before marriage, yet here they are acting like it is men that want it after marriage.

These women are pretenders and hypocrites

Women want sex, and rightly so.
Nothing beats good sex. At least have that experience in your lifetime.
I am eternally grateful for all the experience I gained before marriage.
I have been married now for over a decade, so no small pikin should come and try to tell me some kin thing. Go and marry first and stay married with a family, before you come tell me nansense
I still appear like a new bride before my partner, and we both enjoy ourselves. Infact, during our heyday, we don do 12 rounds before. Yes, all day. Now, sex is the least of my worries.
Of course, you reminisce sometimes about the past, laugh about a lot of things, but I even wish I had partied harder then. I still have my friends from way back, and atimes we remind ourselves of how silly we were, and we laugh about stupid gists.
Now I feel too old to do certain things, even with my partner.
What better time could I have done these things na, if not when I was single?
I wouldn't touch my ex escapades with a barge pole now btw, just saying. Simply because I loved on. I also moved on too.
I have no single regrets. None whatsoever.
As a young person, remember to live life.
If you're down with premarital sex, stay protected. Insist you're both tested for diseases before getting down, insist on condoms, and use contraceptives.
Many nasties out there.

Deepocean:
A lady wrote this on her wall on Facebook, she's a nurse by profession.

A man's penis remains the same, whether he has sex with different vaginas of different sizes.
He doesn't even need to do kegels to keep his penis in its original state.
It is strange that you find some women trying to compete with their men using their private parts.
A penis does not lose shape, tightness or looks, but when you abuse your vagina, it eventually does.
You'll start noticing that thing that looks like a liver sticking out and no longer retracting.
Then you will start to fill up with air when you have sex.
Then you will no longer feel certain dicks and only feel huge ones.
Then you won't feel any dick at all.
You will then go around saying so and so has a small dick, forgetting that you have a stadium between your legs and one man can never fill up the whole stadium.
A man and a woman are not built the same.
You can compete with him, but you will be the one who will get finished and not him.
Ladies respect yourself.

I rest my case.......

Nobody is competing with men.
It's not a competition that I want to have sex and enjoy sex. Why are you telling me not to do so, while you're enjoying the same thing.
Don't be evil.
What makes a vagina wall loose is hormones and having a baby, and not sex.
In this day and age, any woman with a loose vagina even after a baby wants one. There are several ways to make your vagina walls firmer, and kegels is just one of them.
Where are the gyne physiotherapists here

Takotsubo:
No sex before marriage is over rated as far as I'm concerned.

Virginity till marriage didn't do anything for me at all,13 years down the line and sex is still blehhh.

We just do not sync sexually at least from my own end ,but this issue is small in comparison to the fact that he's an amazing human being.

Fact is sexual compatibility is extremely important,if sex is necessary to your well being,better test and know what you can or cannot manage because a good number of men believe it's all about thrusting like someone performing an exorcism for 1 hour.

There's a host of other sexual.problems outside erectile dysfunction or impotence.

The difficulty in virginity is that you do not even know what you like ,add that to a partner whos idea of sex is fixed,you get into a pattern that's difficult to correct to the point where even showing what you like becomes an exercise frought with torture.

You carry hand to put here,the hand is not really doing well,Oya carry mouth put here,disaster.


Some men will be great at a load of things not just Sex,same as some women,that doesn't take away their awesomeness.

There's also the element that the things that interest me are things that cause the husband to shout God forbid,

It can be frustrating ,I won't lie and may cause a person to dabble into a few things but it is what it is.

Thanks to the universe for toys and well timed mas turbation otherwise someone's daughter would have turned into a graven image.

If I could turn back time,I would test and test and teeeesssstttt till I receive the correct result.

Would.i choose another spouse?Never but I would have done things a bit differently.

Just here to drop comments not to engage in Q&A or counselling

you nailed it.
sex after marriage is one gamble am not willing take.

Peacefullove:
The problem with people like you is You shy away from sex talks before marriage or probably Marry a man you are not attracted to. That two people decide not to have sex before marriage doesn't mean they won't discuss some intimate things from which they gonna get loads of ideas about their partner.

And again Testing before Marriage Guarantees nothing as it can also be FAKED

they will discuss things like what?