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tensazangetsu20:
I won't call it a regret per say. If I could rewind the hands of time I would get a job straight out of the university and not run to do a business. Running a business in Nigeria is very very hard and the country seems to get more difficult and poorer with each passing year.

It is not easy my brother. Sometimes I wished to have gotten a job straight out of school as well. It's not easy to breakthrough as an entrepreneur. We have to keep pushing

diamondagent:
I'm regretting that I didn't learn any skill before going to the school and studying what is not helping my situation, soon I will be 26 this year, yet don't have a thousand naira in my bank account currently, no job, no money to even learn a skill, all efforts to look for jobs has been in futility

It seems as if the future looks bleak on my side, I'm ashamed and most often depressed that at my age I can't afford to provide the basic needs of life for my self

This lock down is even making things worse, hunger has reset my body system

This touched me and you write so well. What did you study in school?

tensazangetsu20:
This touched me and you write so well. What did you study in school?

OKAY

diamondagent:
Pol.science.Education

Why not learn digital marketing and add graphic design and video editing to it. If you can really dedicate the next six months to knowing this you can start freelancing with it and earning in foreign currency.

tensazangetsu20:
Why not learn digital marketing and add graphic design and video editing to it. If you can really dedicate the next six months to knowing this you can start freelancing with it and earning in foreign currency.

I don't have much idea about that, besides it could still involve money for me to learn which I don't have at the moment

my biggest regret is going into betting , now it has eaten deep into my life and i have discover that it's a waste of time and resources.


I dont even know whether i can make it in life anymore .

this day april 13th 2020 i promise to part ways with anything related to betting....so help me God.

There are no regrets. In the eyes of nature, everything that has happened is good. You learn.

rockstarB:
It has to be my first boyfriend. I regret ever dating him. I thought I was smart. I told myself i wouldn't date a guy from school, i needed a long distance thing so i could focus on myself and school. I rejected the guys from school because of him.
My village people reasoned my matter and gave me a liar, I was with him for over 4 years, I saw the signs but couldn't let myself free from him.
Women and mothers here, please educate your daughters on sex, a lady doesnt have to be ashamed for having sex, I was too naive, I told myself "i cant break up with him, he has seen my naked body..."
I enjoy my privacy so I give him the same. I dont visit him unannounced, it has to be him that tells me to come. I was unable to catch him red handed because of this. I supported him financially, emotionally, I pray for him and all of that.
I really dont know how some guys can be intentionally wicked to a lady that clearly loves them, all his family members knew I wasnt the only one he was deceiving. 80% of the money I saved while in school or during service I borrowed him because I believed God would have found him a job before I needed the money.
The money was meant to start a business after my service year.
I didnt know my boyfriend was an SSCE holder, my money was gone, the dream of starting the business started to look blurry. He had lied to me all along, even told me about how difficult it is to get a job after school, how his dad has sent his CV to a rich uncle so he could work in his company, yet this guy was an SSCE holder!
Rumour has it that it was me that even paid part of his 100L school fee when he eventually got admitted, he lied he needed the money for something bla bla. He had no bank account and I gave a spare one of mine, the day he started making money he saved them with his new gf. He is out of school cos the guy couldn't even get serious with his educational life. I could go on and on. I didnt curse him with my mouth, my heart does that everytime I remember.
I shot myself in the leg when I concluded not to date a guy in same school as me.
I'm happy I broke with him when I did, it would have traumatized me if I had broken up with him earlier. By the time I did, the love don clear for me eye. I was free from him, he had no hold on me anymore.
Sorry for long post

The bolded is so true. Even though it's my wish for my daughter to get married in a pure state, I will teach her sex education and everything she needs to know about a sexual relationship.

rockstarB:
I want to assume the guy didnt come back because he saw her break down due to the breakup. I really hope it is real this time, else the second heartbreak will be worse

For her sake, I hope not. The first almost ruined her.

DonroxyII:
Hope they are married !

No. But whatever makes her happy anyway

DonroxyII:
At the final stage jare , just few papers to go.

best wishes

diamondagent:
I'm regretting that I didn't learn any skill before going to the school and studying what is not helping my situation, soon I will be 26 this year, yet don't have a thousand naira in my bank account currently, no job, no money to even learn a skill, all efforts to look for jobs has been in futility

It seems as if the future looks bleak on my side, I'm ashamed and most often depressed that at my age I can't afford to provide the basic needs of life for my self

This lock down is even making things worse, hunger has reset my body system

Things will get better. Hang on

diamondagent:
I don't have much idea about that, besides it could still involve money for me to learn which I don't have at the moment

There are a lot of free courses you can take online to master any skill of your choice. As for digital marketing, Google offers a comprehensive course on the subject matter and you'll even earn a certificate of completion at the end of the course. Absolutely free.

Here's the link
https://learndigital.withgoogle.com/digitalgarage

Goodluck

novice22:
my biggest regret is going into betting , now it has eaten deep into my life and i have discover that it's a waste of time and resources.


I dont even know whether i can make it in life anymore .

this day april 13th 2020 i promise to part ways with anything related to betting....so help me God.

It's never too late to begin a fresh start. Your past doesn't determine how far you go. What matters is what you're willing to do now. Take responsibility for life and have faith in yourself.

Astride:
It's never too late to begin a fresh start. Your past doesn't determine how far you go. What matters is what you're willing to do now. Take responsibility for life and have faith in yourself.

thanks madam.

What I regret most is my marriage. Wish I married someone who made me a better person. Now I'm a shadow of my former self and my family can't even come to my house to say hello. Please family should treat their daughters/sons intended spouse good even if you don't want them to get married to the supposed spouse. If my sisters had treated my ex well I wouldn't have been so secretive with my present spouse

Nooil:
The bolded is so true. Even though it's my wish for my daughter to get married in a pure state, I will teach her sex education and everything she needs to know about a sexual relationship.

It's really so annoying now whenever she tries to talk about sex, using words like "sex" "sexing" whatever that one means . She must think I am mature to have known about it, moreover girls younger than me don dey born. When I needed you to do the needful you didnt. Dad and her scored zero in that aspect biko

Emioga:
What I regret most is my marriage. Wish I married someone who made me a better person. Now I'm a shadow of my former self and my family can't even come to my house to say hello. Please family should treat their daughters/sons intended spouse good even if you don't want them to get married to the supposed spouse. If my sisters had treated my ex well I wouldn't have been so secretive with my present spouse

Sorry

Emioga:
What I regret most is my marriage. Wish I married someone who made me a better person. Now I'm a shadow of my former self and my family can't even come to my house to say hello. Please family should treat their daughters/sons intended spouse good even if you don't want them to get married to the supposed spouse. If my sisters had treated my ex well I wouldn't have been so secretive with my present spouse

Could you provide more info to this?
I feel I can learn something from this.

Astride:
Could you provide more info to this?
I feel I can learn something from this.

Yes what I mean is when I was with my ex my sisters didn't like him. They treated him badly to his face. When the guy decided to break up with me he gave the reason that my sisters didn't like him and disgraced him out of church. When I then met my present husband I didn't show him to any one and he was busy pulling me away from my family which was easy because I didn't want to show him to my family. That is how I got into this mess. If my family had left my ex alone I won't be in this mess

Emioga:
Yes what I mean is when I was with my ex my sisters didn't like him. They treated him badly to his face. When the guy decided to break up with me he gave the reason that my sisters didn't like him and disgraced him out of church. When I then met my present husband I didn't show him to any one and he was busy pulling me away from my family which was easy because I didn't want to show him to my family. That is how I got into this mess. If my family had left my ex alone I won't be in this mess

In other words, you wished you had gotten married to your ex?

Astride:
In other words, you wished you had gotten married to your ex?

Not exactly but I wouldn't have kept the present one a secret

novice22:
my biggest regret is going into betting , now it has eaten deep into my life and i have discover that it's a waste of time and resources.


I dont even know whether i can make it in life anymore .

this day april 13th 2020 i promise to part ways with anything related to betting....so help me God.

Amen


What an interesting thread... It's front page worthy...

Lamanii22:
Amen


What an interesting thread... It's front page worthy...

Indeed. I've learnt a lot.

Astride:
Indeed. I've learnt a lot.

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I wish i had lost my father ealier in life

Emioga:
What I regret most is my marriage. Wish I married someone who made me a better person. Now I'm a shadow of my former self and my family can't even come to my house to say hello. Please family should treat their daughters/sons intended spouse good even if you don't want them to get married to the supposed spouse. If my sisters had treated my ex well I wouldn't have been so secretive with my present spouse

You can leave your marriage.

xavuv:
I wish i had lost my father ealier in life

This is so sad. I hope you will make peace with what he put you through soon.

novice22:
my biggest regret is going into betting , now it has eaten deep into my life and i have discover that it's a waste of time and resources.


I dont even know whether i can make it in life anymore .

this day april 13th 2020 i promise to part ways with anything related to betting....so help me God.

Congratulations on your resolution to end it. Every day is a new beginning. It's never too late for happiness.

I regret not being more understanding and patient at times but I also know that regrets are wasted energy. We live, learn and hopefully become better and the best versions of ourselves.

(1) I regret marrying the wrong woman. She's based in the UK while I'm in Nigeria. I had a good paying job then and was always visiting. Once I lost the job, she started being irritable and quarellsome, she cut all ties with me and also cut me off from my two boys. I almost died of heartbreak and depression.

(2) believing men of God and their false prophecies