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My dad was a very fine military man with a pretty wife and 4 children. He voluntarily disengaged from the military in 2003 and was about having a good civil life as he had secured a very lucrative job that takes him away on 2 weeks on 2 weeks off. Our dreams were short lived when he started falling sick. This was a very healthy nigga that people envied in the hood. Very quite and gentle. Prior to his ailment, he suddenly started mixing ginger and garlic and honey and some other stuffs in large quantity and was consuming these mixes so religiously. He asked my mum to drink as well. We never asked why the sudden rush in taking herbs!.

When he started falling sick, he was admitted in a private clinic for about a month in 2006. He later recovered and was discharged. By this time, he was a shadow of himself but we all were told it was typhoid fever in its chronic stage.

He was later admitted again after spending just a week at home. This time, he was in the hospital for about a week and I chose to visit him that faithful Tuesday evening. He told me he wont die tgat God bas healed him. He forcefully yanked off the drip amd spilled his blood on my skin (as at then, i did not know what's up so didn't border) His situation became critical so the clinic had to refer him to the teaching hospital of the state which was were we got the greatest shock of our lives. When we got to the teaching hospital, the resident doctor asked my mum after looking at the former doctor's notes; do you know what is wrong with your husband? My mum said he has typhoid. The Dr said that is not what I saw on this paper. Your husband has AIDS. My mum was like no that is not possible. She turned and looked at My dad on wheelchair in the presence of one of my relatives asking him that is it true you have AIDS? He said yes. My mum was like and you never told us? We were all shocked to our bones and he was so weak to talk. He only nodded his head in response.

Where is the remaining story

At the break of this super sad news, I just knew he was better dead than alive because men that guy was already gone. I went back home that night and called my elder brother outside to tell him the sad News that bro our dad has AIDS and he ain't gonna make it. He was just looking at me with disbelief. We kept it to ourselves as our two younger siblings were too young to assimilate. We went to bed and the next morning at 7am of Wednesday, my mum called me that i should not come to the hospital again that she will be back home soon. I asked why is she coming back home when our dad is clearly in a criticsl stage? She then cut the call. Some minutes later my cousin called me that my dad was dead.

We now had a potential issue in our hands as it will be impossible for my mum to be HIV negative. We encouraged her to go for test but she was too afraid to go for it. 2 years later she summoned the courage to go for a test and was confirmed HIV negative. The one time God answered my prayers that i can vividly remember . Life would have been messed up if my mum had it too and died. She is very much alive till date and no sickness whatsoever.

AIDS IS REAL. ABSTAIN OR REMIAN FAITHFUL please.

From your write up, it seems like you are already judging your dad, you don't know his reason for not disclosing his HIV status, too bad his no longer alive to explain, but keep an open mind.

Lastly HIV/AIDS is gotten through sex alone, according to your closing remarks, there are so many other ways u can contact the disease.

Thank God for your mum though.

Baba I judged him well and I am still judging him till date and will still judge him till I die because he should still be alive today. He would have been 61 if he was still alive. He scared us for life. My bro is still afraid of women because of my dad. What if he gave it to my mum? What if he gave it to me assuming i had an open sore when he yanked off the syringe and his blood touched my skin? He was careless and his children suffered and was raised by his wife alone.

We suffered cos we were all young. But glory be to God we are all graduates now and doing well.
Remember he died at 46. Too young an age to leave your children.

Op ur story sounds like mine, Dad was a militaty personnel, He had tested positive to HIV for over 6 years without any of us knowing and till date, i'm d only one dat knew (few days b4 he died). He was on his medication during this times so i guess that's what boost his immune system and for just dis act i wont judge him. My mum had her last child and both seems healthy with no sign of been positive (she is like 13yrs now).

QuantumR:
Op ur story sounds like mine, Dad was a militaty personnel, He had tested positive to HIV for over 6 years without any of us knowing and till date, i'm d only one dat knew (few days b4 he died). He was on his medication during this times so i guess that's what boost his immune system and for just dis act i wont judge him. My mum had her last child and both seems healthy with no sign of been positive (she is like 13yrs now).

Yours did the needful. Mine didn't take ARV and I'm sure he didn't believe it or I don't even know sef. Alot of military men have aids.

Hmmm...


The above testimonies prove that many military men harbour HIV/AIDS.

Op there are so many other ways a person can get HIV apart from sex, infact it's not easily transmitted through sex like we all think. Ever wondered why your Mom didn't get it? Including how long the sex lasted, if or not it's anal sex, and if you sustained micro cuts in the process, viral load etc. I'm not encouraging people to live carelessly! I'm only trying to say you're in no position to conclude where he got it from. But hiding he's status is stubbornness, and very irresponsible of him. But Let the man rest please.

Bluezy13:
Hmmm...


The above testimonies prove that many military men harbour HIV/AIDS.

Baba, for real. I personally know and can count over 5 people that died of AIDS in my compound while I was living in the barracks in the north.

Even young people in the barracks have it especially girls. I have a friend who works in the lab then so he gives me live updates of who is infected. You will be shocked.

grossintel:
Op there are so many other ways a person can get HIV apart from sex, infact it's not easily transmitted through sex like we all think. Ever wondered why your Mom didn't get it? Including how long the sex lasted, if or not it's anal sex, and if you sustained micro cuts in the process, viral load etc. I'm not encouraging people to live carelessly! I'm only trying to say you're in no position to conclude where he got it from. But hiding he's status is stubbornness, and very irresponsible of him. But Let the man rest please.

Bros just imagine that his blood touched an open wound on my body. I would have been hiv positive at 20 and a virgin. Innocent me. Na God save me.

That your friend is just a useless MLS who doesn’t deserve the white overall he is wearing, his license needs to be revoked for leaking out sensitive information.
Spit on him

MARSONE:
. I have a friend who works in the lab then so he gives me live updates of who is infected. You will be shocked.