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As your own sister said you should leave them alone, you too face front na.

Gaggi:
Take advice and go back to school. You're not smart enough to know what a c.v. is.

I no go school...but I can pay ur salary.

Send ur account number lemme help u

Smhaykins:
I no go school...but I can pay ur salary.

Send ur account number lemme help u

Squatter wants to pay my salary? Óde. Rent a house for yourself and your sister first.

Gaggi:
Squatter wants to pay my salary? Óde. Rent a house for yourself and your sister first.

Werey ni e.... U always av response...i agree say u don win...

Abeg forgive me na small pikin dey du me

Smhaykins:
Werey ni e.... U always av response...i agree say u don win...

Abeg forgive me na small pikin dey du me

Mumu child. It's a pity we have to share the same cyberspace with simpletons.

Gaggi:
Mumu child. It's a pity we have to share the same cyberspace with simpletons.

But have apologized, why are you still abusing me.

Once again, am sincerely sorry.

Am fasting, am not suppose to fight.

Gaggi:
Squatter wants to pay my salary? Óde. Rent a house for yourself and your sister first.

U catch this one fast fast

Why can't you just use "is" what is "z" ? Are you retarded?

Smhaykins:
Hello peeps,

Please advice.

I stay with my sister, they av a 3 bedroom apartments. And I stay in one of d room because z closer to my office and I go to my house on weekends.

But since I moved in, I observed dat her husband always beat her.. I don't know if he just started or he has been doing dat before...because my sister has never complained to us.

Though, if not dat I leave with dem, I will advice every lady to pray for dat kind of guy...cos he z so caring, Av time for his family, comes home early, religious, doesn't smoke nor drink. Most times do d cooking if he comes home before my sister.

We r a bit close, cos z a cr7 fan, n we go to viewing center to watch champions league together, ( he prefers viewing centre Dan watching at home).

When I tried to discuss the issue of him beating my sister with him, he was so angry, and he replied dat z not my fault, dats y dey don't want a third party in der ouse cos ppu will never mind der business.

I also tried talking to my sister, she said do I want her to pack out of her husband ouse or wat do I want her to do if av not gotten another husband for her. Dat every marriage has issues. N she warned me not to tell our parents.

Actually, z not always a serz beating, may be a slap or two, den my sister will lock his shirt n dey will start abusing each other...after some minutes dey will enter d room n by d time dey come out z always settled. Most times I will just hear d sound of d slap in my room, by d tym I rush out out, my sister wud av locked his shirt n dey will start abusing each other. When I try to intervene or settle it. The two of dem will tell me to leave dem alone dat dey will settle it. But I feel bad whenever it happens cos I will feel guilty for not speaking out if domestic violence leads to my sister's death someday.

Please advice if I shud report to our parents or not.

your inlaw disrespected you and indirectly telling you to leave their house.You should be concerned about moving out afterwards you inform your parents.Hes wasting his energy and muscles on his wife instead of being productive with it.

Smhaykins:
Hello peeps,

Please advice.

I stay with my sister, they av a 3 bedroom apartments. And I stay in one of d room because z closer to my office and I go to my house on weekends.

But since I moved in, I observed dat her husband always beat her.. I don't know if he just started or he has been doing dat before...because my sister has never complained to us.

Though, if not dat I leave with dem, I will advice every lady to pray for dat kind of guy...cos he z so caring, Av time for his family, comes home early, religious, doesn't smoke nor drink. Most times do d cooking if he comes home before my sister.

We r a bit close, cos z a cr7 fan, n we go to viewing center to watch champions league together, ( he prefers viewing centre Dan watching at home).

When I tried to discuss the issue of him beating my sister with him, he was so angry, and he replied dat z not my fault, dats y dey don't want a third party in der ouse cos ppu will never mind der business.

I also tried talking to my sister, she said do I want her to pack out of her husband ouse or wat do I want her to do if av not gotten another husband for her. Dat every marriage has issues. N she warned me not to tell our parents.

Actually, z not always a serz beating, may be a slap or two, den my sister will lock his shirt n dey will start abusing each other...after some minutes dey will enter d room n by d time dey come out z always settled. Most times I will just hear d sound of d slap in my room, by d tym I rush out out, my sister wud av locked his shirt n dey will start abusing each other. When I try to intervene or settle it. The two of dem will tell me to leave dem alone dat dey will settle it. But I feel bad whenever it happens cos I will feel guilty for not speaking out if domestic violence leads to my sister's death someday.

Please advice if I shud report to our parents or not.

when love hurts it won't work. I can almost manage anything else except for this
there's clearly something more than love in their relationship and that thing is terminal.
marriage is overrated to me.
so your sister is convinced staying married will save her from societal hurt but is almost not aware she's on a death part.
if you love your sister don't stop at just telling your parents, get evidence of the domestic violence, get your sister a psychiatrist or psychologist to make her know her husband is gradually killing her then sue the black son of bitch. (divorce)

unless you are not a "recent man"

The matter worry o....

Smhaykins:
Hello peeps,

Please advice.

I stay with my sister, they av a 3 bedroom apartments. And I stay in one of d room because z closer to my office and I go to my house on weekends.

But since I moved in, I observed dat her husband always beat her.. I don't know if he just started or he has been doing dat before...because my sister has never complained to us.

Though, if not dat I leave with dem, I will advice every lady to pray for dat kind of guy...cos he z so caring, Av time for his family, comes home early, religious, doesn't smoke nor drink. Most times do d cooking if he comes home before my sister.

We r a bit close, cos z a cr7 fan, n we go to viewing center to watch champions league together, ( he prefers viewing centre Dan watching at home).

When I tried to discuss the issue of him beating my sister with him, he was so angry, and he replied dat z not my fault, dats y dey don't want a third party in der ouse cos ppu will never mind der business.

I also tried talking to my sister, she said do I want her to pack out of her husband ouse or wat do I want her to do if av not gotten another husband for her. Dat every marriage has issues. N she warned me not to tell our parents.

Actually, z not always a serz beating, may be a slap or two, den my sister will lock his shirt n dey will start abusing each other...after some minutes dey will enter d room n by d time dey come out z always settled. Most times I will just hear d sound of d slap in my room, by d tym I rush out out, my sister wud av locked his shirt n dey will start abusing each other. When I try to intervene or settle it. The two of dem will tell me to leave dem alone dat dey will settle it. But I feel bad whenever it happens cos I will feel guilty for not speaking out if domestic violence leads to my sister's death someday.

Please advice if I shud report to our parents or not.

Na small beating, abi life-threatening?

sadly some relationships are generaly like that.. they would fight and make up till they die... it happens when two uncompatible people fall deeply in love and they forget their differeces but never know compatibility in marriage far outweighs love


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bukatyne:
@bold:

This is not 'domestic violence', it is two 'fighting'.

You told us that outside the slap and shirt grabbing before she starts to rain abused on him, they are a good couple.

I see that they have a terrible conflict resolution skill which they will pass on to their kids if they do not wean themselves of that nonsense.

Ask your sister's husband why he slaps her. Not as an accusation: you can whine him that you admire the man he is apart from the slap. He should be able to tell you and you relay the feedback to your sister.

Also engage not accuse your sister why she locks his shirt and abuses him. Also pass on the information to the husband.

Then you can have a joint session with them in a polite manner.

You can even muster up some tears if possible.

Goodluck

In a bid to stay on the good books of those you see as masters, you actually said this is not domestic violence.

Really? Because it is only domestic violence if the woman didn't fight back? Or if the beating is not the result from a conflict? or people who suffered domestic violence didn't have good times with their partners?

I knew your esteem has been taking a sad direction but didn't envisage this pace. You knew you were trying to herd please and ran away with 'good luck' line against your usual trail of endless questions.

BDSM on deck.

sisisioge:
Whew! The couple said you should leave them alone but you insist on dragging even us into it

Hahaha that one or two slaps will soon escalate to kicking and punching.. she will soon find herself in the hospital... domestic violence starts with one or two slaps then apologies follows with flowers and chocolates... soon it stops coming..

The guy is just worried about his sister. That's what every helpless and loving brother will do

I don’t know why some people are making light of the two slaps. How do they think domestic abuse start? There’s nothing normal in receiving slap from your husband.

This is a dicey situation because most abused victims don’t leave until they are ready to. If you tell your parents, your sister will shut all of you out and then you will never know when things escalate and you can’t help her.

The best option is to remind her daily that you’re there for her, when and if she’s ready and keep saying or doing things that would improve her or help her self esteem.

I noticed that a lot of men aren't mentally ready for marriage. The feminine folk aren't men so you don't expect them to think like you. Until you understand all these basics, marriage will look like a warzone to u. How can u be slapping your wife to the point that it's now a Normal thing...
Sometimes my wife can be very unbelievable but all I do is to calm down..sometimes i may even be wrong... There are only a few percentage of women that thinks like a man.
A woman will always be a woman

bestabigaelever:
Your sister is old enough
Don't fight her battle
She can decide or fight for herself

...... and this is coming from a lady?
So, U gonna shoot up ur brother when ur husband is abusing u?
I have slap and beat my aunt's husband d last time he beat her. Warned him when ever he try again

Richy4:
Hahaha that one or two slaps will soon escalate to kicking and punching.. she will soon find herself in the hospital... domestic violence starts with one or two slaps then apologies follows with flowers and chocolates... soon it stops coming..

The guy is just worried about his sister. That's what every helpless and loving brother will do

Since she doesn't know that already, I think she should be allowed to find out. Abi what else sha we call her attitude to her brother's concern?

Your sister likes it rough, it seems mild violence turns her on .

sisisioge:
Since she doesn't know that already, I think she should be allowed to find out. Abi what else sha we call her attitude to her brother's concern?

A lot of ladies never found out.. they ended up in a body bag.. I wish there's something I can tell the young man. so he can explain it to the sister.
What can u tell a woman that loves MRS title and doesn't wanna relinquish it?

We want to beat people's sister but we don't want ours beaten

Richy4:
A lot of ladies never found out.. they ended up in a body bag.. I wish there's something I can tell the young man. so he can explain it to the sister.
What can u tell a woman that loves MRS title and doesn't wanna relinquish it?

"We will always remember you as Mrs" ...my humour is getting darker

sisisioge:
"We will always remember you as Mrs" ...my humour is getting darker

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Gaggi:
Writing like an illiterate. One person writes all these fictitious stories and then deliberately use grammatical errors to make it seem like it's written by different people.

Nairaland has degenerated, when you no longer have intelligent people who can come up with good topics, they get dumb people to come up with fictitious stories to drive traffic.

For real, man. This particular OP always has salacious and sensational stories to tell.

I think he’s one of nairaland’s paid writers. I guess Seun pays them per view and comment.

hapydaddy:
I noticed that a lot of men aren't mentally ready for marriage. The feminine folk aren't men so you don't expect them to think like you. Until you understand all these basics, marriage will look like a warzone to u. How can u be slapping your wife to the point that it's now a Normal thing...
Sometimes my wife can be very unbelievable but all I do is to calm down..sometimes i may even be wrong... There are only a few percentage of women that thinks like a man.
A woman will always be a woman

Are you saying women are incapable of rational thought and also lack civil and reasonable conflict resolution skills?

Sisisioge, is this guy right? Should I be worried?

Smhaykins:
Hello peeps,

Please advice.

I stay with my sister, they av a 3 bedroom apartments. And I stay in one of d room because z closer to my office and I go to my house on weekends.

But since I moved in, I observed dat her husband always beat her.. I don't know if he just started or he has been doing dat before...because my sister has never complained to us.

Though, if not dat I leave with dem, I will advice every lady to pray for dat kind of guy...cos he z so caring, Av time for his family, comes home early, religious, doesn't smoke nor drink. Most times do d cooking if he comes home before my sister.

We r a bit close, cos z a cr7 fan, n we go to viewing center to watch champions league together, ( he prefers viewing centre Dan watching at home).

When I tried to discuss the issue of him beating my sister with him, he was so angry, and he replied dat z not my fault, dats y dey don't want a third party in der ouse cos ppu will never mind der business.

I also tried talking to my sister, she said do I want her to pack out of her husband ouse or wat do I want her to do if av not gotten another husband for her. Dat every marriage has issues. N she warned me not to tell our parents.

Actually, z not always a serz beating, may be a slap or two, den my sister will lock his shirt n dey will start abusing each other...after some minutes dey will enter d room n by d time dey come out z always settled. Most times I will just hear d sound of d slap in my room, by d tym I rush out out, my sister wud av locked his shirt n dey will start abusing each other. When I try to intervene or settle it. The two of dem will tell me to leave dem alone dat dey will settle it. But I feel bad whenever it happens cos I will feel guilty for not speaking out if domestic violence leads to my sister's death someday.

Please advice if I shud report to our parents or not.

4th April 2020, you were thinking of carrying sacrifice for your fiancé

21st April 2020, your two year old daughter can't talk

1st May 2020, your sister whom you live with gets slapped by her husband.

One needs to be more diligent before wasting time to answer people's fantasies.

I pity your family.

Please learn to type like a human

Belafonte:
Are you saying women are incapable of rational thought and also lack civil and reasonable conflict resolution skills?

Sisisioge, is this guy right? Should I be worried?

The way you dey always call me on top matters sef.

Please don't bring your parents into this.
Best thing is to mind your business