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iamyemiakins:
SEVEN THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT DO WHEN MEETING YOUR PARTNER'S PARENTS FOR THE FIRST TIME.

This is a major step in a relationship, so the first impression can be a lasting impression, believe me when I say that.

1. PLAYING WITH YOUR PHONE

Avoid being on your phone, texting, checking your mail, facebooking or chatting. Sometimes most of us do it unknowingly. It is true some chicks do that just to keep themselves busy, but your spouse parents might feel dismissed and think you are not interested in getting to know them, especially, So avoid your phone at that first time.

2. LIE TO MAKE YOURSELF LOOK GOOD

Being fake instead of who you truly are is a mistake that can upset your partner's parents, and even your partner. Remember, they may get to know who you are later or in your absence, and it could really hurt your relationship. If you have told your partner the truth about you and your partner has accepted the kind of person you are, his/her parents should be able to do same. So there is no need of lying to attract their likeness.

3. BRINGING UP A CONTROVERSIAL TOPIC FOR DISCUSSION

Please don't bring up a topic like Religion, Politics, or s3x for discussion, even if you know that your believe are in line with your partner's parents. Some people still consider it bad for bringing up such topic for discussion before them. Concentrate on getting to know them more rather than those topics. If they keep discussing such topic among themselves, do more of listening.

4. DON'T GIVE LONG SPEECHES, MAKE YOUR SPEECHES BRIEF

Despite the fact that they are very interested in getting to know you, they also do not want to spend the entire time listening to your life story. Don't tell them stories about how your father divorced your mother when you were a teenager, how your community people burnt a woman to ashes for insulting her hubby, and all that. Make your speeches brief and interesting.

5. PUBLIC DISPLAY AFFECTION

Yes, public display of affection can be wonderful,but there is appropriate time for it. This does not mean you have to become cold, distant and robotic. Feel relaxed, interact with them gently, smile and be friendly, but make it neutral, rather than behaving as if you are desperate to have them as in laws.

6. DON'T FINISH ANY FOOD GIVEN TO YOU

Whether the food is small or plenty, and no matter how delicious it is. Never ask for alcohol if you are asked to make a choice of drink. Don't be carried away. This is very important.

7. DON'T PASS THE NIGHT THERE

No matter the persuation, don't pass the night in their house on your first day of visit.


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Are you married? Your number 6 is just wrong about not finishing the food. You know if na the wife you want marry cook am? So you're telling your in-laws that she can't cook or her mother can't cook. Be forming Aje at your in-laws they will just give you marriage list that will shock you.

Ur a bloody liar when it comes to number 6. I will eat and drink anything. Look at single person talking about marriage

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Chinny024:
Lol...One leggings that almost close to nylon..very light!!

Very funny o, my mom always say someone is wearing takpas when they wear very tight cloths. I av always thought she coined that word until yesterday.

Immediately I saw your post I had to call her to verify. Takia, my mama friend.

Op i disagree with number 6. Why should I not finish what my mother inlaw offered me. Vickyrotex abi o ma gbo nkan? Me I go finish am o and still ask for more. I am there sun inlaw to be now

imohchard:
lol

I DISAGREE strongly with 6.

I feel you should act normal with people you intend to be family with.

Reminds me of a friend of mine, was dating a lady from a very religious family.

On their first date, he took her to a spot. He ordered 2 bottles of Beer for himself. Babe was irritated.
She came back home and told her mom. Her mom, being a wise person, told her to marry that guy. Because he would never pretend or hide anything from her.

They've been married for 10 years now.... And the lady is now a brewery herself.

I wonder, what does not finishing food has to do with relationship?

How about dont be yourself

iamyemiakins:
SEVEN THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT DO WHEN MEETING YOUR PARTNER'S PARENTS FOR THE FIRST TIME.

This is a major step in a relationship, so the first impression can be a lasting impression, believe me when I say that.

1. PLAYING WITH YOUR PHONE

Avoid being on your phone, texting, checking your mail, facebooking or chatting. Sometimes most of us do it unknowingly. It is true some chicks do that just to keep themselves busy, but your spouse parents might feel dismissed and think you are not interested in getting to know them, especially, So avoid your phone at that first time.

2. LIE TO MAKE YOURSELF LOOK GOOD

Being fake instead of who you truly are is a mistake that can upset your partner's parents, and even your partner. Remember, they may get to know who you are later or in your absence, and it could really hurt your relationship. If you have told your partner the truth about you and your partner has accepted the kind of person you are, his/her parents should be able to do same. So there is no need of lying to attract their likeness.

3. BRINGING UP A CONTROVERSIAL TOPIC FOR DISCUSSION

Please don't bring up a topic like Religion, Politics, or s3x for discussion, even if you know that your believe are in line with your partner's parents. Some people still consider it bad for bringing up such topic for discussion before them. Concentrate on getting to know them more rather than those topics. If they keep discussing such topic among themselves, do more of listening.

4. DON'T GIVE LONG SPEECHES, MAKE YOUR SPEECHES BRIEF

Despite the fact that they are very interested in getting to know you, they also do not want to spend the entire time listening to your life story. Don't tell them stories about how your father divorced your mother when you were a teenager, how your community people burnt a woman to ashes for insulting her hubby, and all that. Make your speeches brief and interesting.

5. PUBLIC DISPLAY AFFECTION

Yes, public display of affection can be wonderful,but there is appropriate time for it. This does not mean you have to become cold, distant and robotic. Feel relaxed, interact with them gently, smile and be friendly, but make it neutral, rather than behaving as if you are desperate to have them as in laws.

6. DON'T FINISH ANY FOOD GIVEN TO YOU

Whether the food is small or plenty, and no matter how delicious it is. Never ask for alcohol if you are asked to make a choice of drink. Don't be carried away. This is very important.

7. DON'T PASS THE NIGHT THERE

No matter the persuation, don't pass the night in their house on your first day of visit.


You can also add yours...

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I totally disagree with number 6 and 7

What if they have the impression that you don't really like the food and you just ate so they don't feel like you're rejecting it.. I remember that my now in-laws asked for extra self...

Why won't you sleep in their house especially when you came from far...or do you find their house unaccommodating or what?...or what truly is your reason for not spending the night on your first day...

iamyemiakins:
SEVEN THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT DO WHEN MEETING YOUR PARTNER'S PARENTS FOR THE FIRST TIME.

This is a major step in a relationship, so the first impression can be a lasting impression, believe me when I say that.

1. PLAYING WITH YOUR PHONE

Avoid being on your phone, texting, checking your mail, facebooking or chatting. Sometimes most of us do it unknowingly. It is true some chicks do that just to keep themselves busy, but your spouse parents might feel dismissed and think you are not interested in getting to know them, especially, So avoid your phone at that first time.

2. LIE TO MAKE YOURSELF LOOK GOOD

Being fake instead of who you truly are is a mistake that can upset your partner's parents, and even your partner. Remember, they may get to know who you are later or in your absence, and it could really hurt your relationship. If you have told your partner the truth about you and your partner has accepted the kind of person you are, his/her parents should be able to do same. So there is no need of lying to attract their likeness.

3. BRINGING UP A CONTROVERSIAL TOPIC FOR DISCUSSION

Please don't bring up a topic like Religion, Politics, or s3x for discussion, even if you know that your believe are in line with your partner's parents. Some people still consider it bad for bringing up such topic for discussion before them. Concentrate on getting to know them more rather than those topics. If they keep discussing such topic among themselves, do more of listening.

4. DON'T GIVE LONG SPEECHES, MAKE YOUR SPEECHES BRIEF

Despite the fact that they are very interested in getting to know you, they also do not want to spend the entire time listening to your life story. Don't tell them stories about how your father divorced your mother when you were a teenager, how your community people burnt a woman to ashes for insulting her hubby, and all that. Make your speeches brief and interesting.

5. PUBLIC DISPLAY AFFECTION

Yes, public display of affection can be wonderful,but there is appropriate time for it. This does not mean you have to become cold, distant and robotic. Feel relaxed, interact with them gently, smile and be friendly, but make it neutral, rather than behaving as if you are desperate to have them as in laws.

6. DON'T FINISH ANY FOOD GIVEN TO YOU

Whether the food is small or plenty, and no matter how delicious it is. Never ask for alcohol if you are asked to make a choice of drink. Don't be carried away. This is very important.

7. DON'T PASS THE NIGHT THERE

No matter the persuation, don't pass the night in their house on your first day of visit.


You can also add yours...

https://m.facebook.com/103658061331200/posts/7-things-you-should-not-do-when-meeting-your-partners-parents-for-the-first-time/120618422968497/

No.6 though

That number 6 get as e be sha!
make I no finish food? make them keep their daughter!

ieemmanuel:
Don't struggle with that meat that refuse to cut with your teeth

If it's possible swallow the meat codedly, but if e choke you na double wahala for dead body o!.

Who made these rules?


Don't finish what?

Me wey be say I be consumer


@OP, you dey OYO

Kingscee:
Weda na poison Abi?

All I know is that the food can't be all bad plus they might ask you'd like to eat.... "Never complain" in that context would mean if the soup is probably a lil bit salty...

Ibmswapzer:
Please i need some advice...am a student and am meeting my girl's dad this Sunday..am so nervous nd also the shy type.
I don't know if I should inform my mum cos she isn't aware of the relationship.
What are the likely things i should expect?

Brace yourself for a number of hard-hitting questions - what are your life goals? Where do you see yourself in 5, 10 years time? Where will our daughter worship (your place or at her family's place)? How often will you visit us as a couple? Will you even allow our daughter visit us at all? Can her siblings live with you? How do you plan to take adequate care of our daughter?

Those are by no means an exhaustive rundown of queries you might receive, but the method to answering them is honesty. If you and your lady haven't decided on a certain issue, tell her parents frankly. Let them know that you indeed cherish their daughter and shall cater for her to the best of your ability, even if you are still a work in progress.

Best of the best wishes.

Just have money, nobody will care about whatever you do

yesboss20:
Brace yourself for a number of hard-hitting questions - what are your life goals? Where do you see yourself in 5, 10 years time? Where will our daughter worship (your place or at her family's place)? How often will you visit us as a couple? Will you even allow our daughter visit us at all? Can her siblings live with you? How do you plan to take adequate care of our daughter?

Those are by no means an exhaustive rundown of queries you might receive, but the method to answering them is honesty. If you and your lady haven't decided on a certain issue, tell her parents frankly. Let them know that you indeed cherish their daughter and shall cater for her to the best of your ability, even if you are still a work in progress.

Best of the best wishes.

Thanks man.
i'll try my best but pls shud i eat when served or i shouldn't and we're also of different religion.

verifiedlegacy:
seriously u want me make me lie


OK I just like the comment and fell inlove with writer. can this work??

Yes it can.... Thank you for loving me....and I love you too

payperpost:
Lolz
you know he may want to show off that he's using foreign brand on their daughter , some parent won't like that and may find it even offensive! that is why I'm saying he should hide it in his pocket.

Na so....
You are really funny
Ah swear

Ibmswapzer:
Thanks man.
i'll try my best but pls shud i eat when served or i shouldn't and we're also of different religion.

Ask your lady whether her mother likes people who waste food.

Her answer will tell you what to do.

Chommybaby:
Yes it can.... Thank you for loving me....and I love you too

can we be friends. outside NL

I did be glad

I can put my contact. or u do.
whichever

eleojo23:
Ask your lady whether her mother likes people who waste food.

Her answer will tell you what to do.

Lol
Ok na

verifiedlegacy:
can we be friends. outside NL

I did be glad

I can put my contact. or u do.
whichever

Yes we can... Give me your contact (WhatsApp)

Chommybaby:
Yes we can... Give me your contact (WhatsApp)

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Greatzeus:
You could just drive there with your Lamborghini,end of discussion

Or go with the batmobile!

IbrahimSkiba:
Another way of saying, that you are a foodie abi?

Foodie or no foodie,.....visiting ones' inlaw to be has been overrated abeg. Any babe that Wana come see my parents, just be modest in your own possible way rather than following some set out rules.
If we no go Marry, we no go Marry.

Ibmswapzer:
Thanks man.
i'll try my best but pls shud i eat when served or i shouldn't and we're also of different religion.

Blessings sir. Of course you should eat and be comfortable with them: you are their guest and it would be improper to do otherwise.

Just try to relate with them honestly and connect on a deep level. That they invited you over means your lady already sold you to her parents very well. One foot is in the door as it is!