Question
I have read the words of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), “I have not left behind me any fitnah (temptation) more harmful to men than women.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5096; Muslim, 2740.
My question is: how can I save myself from this temptation, when I see it everywhere – in the street, on TV, on the internet, at work…?.

Answer
Praise be to Allaah.
Allaah has created man in a world of trials and tests, and He has made Paradise the abode of His friends and beloved ones, who preferred His pleasure over their own and preferred obedience to Him over their physical comfort. And He has made Hell the abode of those among His slaves who disobey Him and preferred their own whims and desires to the pleasure of their Lord. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Such is the Paradise which We shall give as an inheritance to those of Our slaves who have been Al-Muttaqoon (the pious)”
[Maryam 19:63]

“But as for him who feared standing before his Lord, and restrained himself from impure evil desires and lusts.
Verily, Paradise will be his abode”
[al-Naaz’i’aat 79:40-41]

And He says concerning the people of Hell (interpretation of the meaning):

“Then, there has succeeded them a posterity who have given up As-Salaat (the prayers) [i.e. made their Salaat (prayers) to be lost, either by not offering them or by not offering them perfectly or by not offering them in their proper fixed times] and have followed lusts. So they will be thrown in Hell”
[Maryam 19:59]

And He says (interpretation of the meaning):

“That shall be their recompense, Hell; because they disbelieved and took My Ayaat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) and My Messengers by way of jest and mockery”
[al-Kahf 18:106]

“Then for him who transgressed all bounds, (in disbelief, oppression and evil deeds of disobedience to Allaah).
And preferred the life of this world (by following his evil desires and lusts),
Verily, his abode will be Hell-fire”
[al-Naazi’aat 79:37-39]

So the Muslim must strive to worship Allaah and keep away from that which angers Allaah, for Allaah will not cause the reward the one who does good to be lost:

“As for those who strive hard in Us (Our Cause), We will surely guide them to Our paths (i.e. Allaah’s religion — Islamic Monotheism). And verily, Allaah is with the Muhsinoon (good-doers)”
[al-‘Ankaboot 29:69 – interpretation of the meaning]

One of the fitnahs (temptations) with which we are tested is the fitnah of women, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “I have not left behind me any fitnah (temptation) more harmful to men than women.” There follow some of the methods by which we can avoid this temptation. We ask Allaah to set the affairs of the Muslims straight.

1 – Faith in Allaah.
Faith in Allaah and fear of Allaah provide a safety valve and protect a person against committing haraam actions and following his own whims and desires.

If the believer becomes aware that Allaah is always watching and if he ponders the meanings of His names and attributes, such as the All-Knowing, the All-Hearing, the All-Seeing, the Watchful, the Reckoner, the Preserver, the All-Encompassing, that will generate fear of Him in secret and in public, and will put a stop to disobedience towards Allaah, and will reduce the strength of desire that leads many people to commit haraam actions.

2 – Lowering the gaze and avoiding looking at haraam things
The gaze can generate bad thoughts in the heart, which then lead to ideas and then to desires, then to will and resolve, and then inevitably to doing haraam things. Think about the meaning of this verse which makes a connection between the first steps towards haraam and the end result. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts). That is purer for them. Verily, Allaah is All-Aware of what they do”
[al-Noor 24:30]

Ibn Katheer said: “This is a command from Allaah to His believing slaves, to lower their gaze and avoid looking at that which is forbidden to them so that they only look at that which they are permitted to look at. If it so happens that a person’s gaze accidentally falls upon something haraam, he should turn his gaze away from it quickly.

3 – Warding off evil thoughts
Bad thoughts pose a danger to the heart… If a person dwells on them and does not push them away, they will develop into an idea, then into will and resolve, then this will inevitably lead to haraam actions. Beware of dwelling on passing thoughts; rather what you must do is to ward them off and crowd them out with good thoughts.

The treatment, then, is to ward off these passing thoughts and keep yourself busy with beneficial thoughts.

4 – Marriage
It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him get married, and whoever cannot, let him fast, for it will be a shield for him.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5065.

5 – Fasting for those who cannot afford to get married
– because of the hadeeth quoted above, in which it says, “…and whoever cannot, let him fast, for it will be a shield for him.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5065.

Al-Qurtubi said:
The less a person eats, the weaker his desire becomes, and the weaker his desire is, the less sins he commits.

6 – Keeping away from bad companions.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “A man will follow the way of his close friends, so let each one of you look at who he takes as a close friend.” Narrated by Abu Dawood, 8433; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood, 4046.

7 – Keeping away from places of temptation.
It is obvious that we are living in a society that is filled with temptation – media of all types, magazines, flirting in the marketplaces, satellite TV, the internet, etc… So you have to flee from all of these in order to keep your religious commitment sound.

8 – Do not make your houses graves.
Make your house a reminder of obedience, not of sin. If a room is connected to sin for example, that will make a person commit sin repeatedly, because every time he enters that room he will remember the sin and may be provoked to commit the sin again. So he should make his room and his house a reminder of obedience to Allaah, so when he enters he sees the Mus-haf which he reads, and he remembers praying qiyaam al-layl for Allaah, and the regular Sunnah prayers that he offers in this room. Doing a lot of acts of worship in your house will make a connection in your mind between the house and doing good deeds, so you will do more and will think less of sin, and the calls of desire will grow less.

9 – Trying to make the most of your time in worshipping and obeying Allaah.
Time is one of the great blessings that Allaah has bestowed upon His slaves, but there are many who are not making the most of it. It was narrated that Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Two blessings which many people do not make the most of: good health and spare time.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 6412.

10 – Remembering the blessings of the Hereafter.
Particularly appropriate in this context is remembering al-hoor al-‘iyn and their attributes, whom Allaah has prepared for those who are patient and steadfast in avoiding sin. This can help the Muslim to look at these transient haraam pleasures which only lead to regret and loss.

We ask Allaah to help us to avoid temptation, both obvious and hidden. Praise be to Allaah the Lord of the Worlds.

IslamQA

Jazakallahu khairan,when any person commit a sin,who so ever it may b,he will b haunted by the consequences of the evilness of what he did.Every son of Adam sins but the best of them are those who repent.so hasten to d faith of mercy and Forgiveness from Allah,And the path which leads to paradise.Ya Allah we seek for protection from evil of our self and others.

okay brother

Fitnah Of 72 Virgins

Please,those of you who infiltrate into this space to cause your usual problems .
Please, for the sake of our general sanity ask questions regarding to what you find odd or strange from us so we can have a respectable and mutually benefitting understanding.
There is absolutely no gain insulting anyone for what they practice.
Like myself, I don't go to Christian threads to insult them ,I may read to understand certain things there ,but insulting or trying to ridicule them in their own space shows foolishness and lack of respect which many non mulsims often display here every Friday.

I am begging you on behalf of all well meaning Muslims here ,but if you insist on doing what you like then don't blame us if some of us decide to give you a dose of your own medicine.

Please,be guided!

AgentNairaland:
Fitnah Of 72 Virgins

How about this?
What's wrong in being a virgin?

koolaid87:
Yes, we have issues with the temptation of women but not with minors.

What kind of religion propagates child marriage and the treatment of women as slaves, reward for acts of terror?

Islam needs full reformation.

The question is,are you a Muslim?
If not,how is how we practice our religion your business?

Barakhallahu Fii Op.

As usual, the children of hate will always pokenose, insult and never mind their business.

koolaid87:
Yes, we have issues with the temptation of women but not with minors.

What kind of religion propagates child marriage and the treatment of women as slaves, reward for acts of terror?

Islam needs full reformation.

Pure hate.... May Allah forgive you and guide you to the right path

Friend22:
Please,those of you who infiltrate into this space to cause your usual problems .
Please, for the sake of our general sanity ask questions regarding to what you find odd or strange from us so we can have a respectable and mutually benefitting understanding.
There is absolutely no gain insulting anyone for what they practice.
Like myself, I don't go to Christian threads to insult them ,I may read to understand certain things there ,but insulting or trying to ridicule them in their own space shows foolishness and lack of respect which many non mulsims often display here every Friday.

I am begging you on behalf of all well meaning Muslims here ,but if you insist on doing what you like then don't blame us if some of us decide to give you a dose of your own medicine.

Please,be guided!

Please brother don't give them the dose of their own medicine quran has described them has Deaf, dumb and blind - so they will not return [to the right path]

koolaid87:
Yes, we have issues with the temptation of women but not with minors.

What kind of religion propagates child marriage and the treatment of women as slaves, reward for acts of terror?

Islam needs full reformation.

Islam has been PERFECTLY built seen before d birth of ur Ancestors, so no need for Reformation.

Op unfortunately Muslim men are the fitnah for the women. Who is sexually harassing women during tawaf around the Kaaba.?

All sorts of sexual harassments take place at Islamic 'holiest' site, the house of Allah in which for years women are sexually harassed and some of them have started speaking out with hashtag #MosqueMeToo

"It is during the tawaf that many women experience groping, handling and grabbing, says Eltahawy, according to the responses she's heard from women. "It's very crowded. At any given moment, there are thousands of men and women [circling Kaaba at one time].""
https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2018/02/26/588855132/-mosquemetoo-gives-muslim-women-a-voice-about-sexual-misconduct-at-mecca?t=1589006156833

JazakAllahu khairan

[quote author=koolaid87 post=90831916]Yes, we have issues with the temptation of women but not with minors.

What kind of religion propagates child marriage and the treatment of women as slaves, reward for acts of terror?

Islam needs full reformation. Islam is perfect ,therefore, it cannot be reformed because it is already in form . May Allah mercy on you,allahu yahidiyka,ameen.

Jazakallahu khairan op. The fitnah of women we are faced with in this world today is so much that only the mercy of Allah that can save us from it.

JazakAllahu Khairan

I wonder when you guys will talk about child marriages...
continue dealing with the temptation of women buh open your arms to screwing children in the name of marriage

koolaid87:
Yes, we have issues with the temptation of women but not with minors.

What kind of religion propagates child marriage and the treatment of women as slaves, reward for acts of terror?

Islam needs full reformation.

What's your problem, must you comment?

Can Muslims resist women and small girl child ?No
We are 5 and 6 and we prefer them small small like 8-12 years .
We can carry them in the hand and Bleep well well even if the intestine go comot , we no send

Kherdija:
Jazakallahu khairan,when any person commit a sin,who so ever it may b,he will b haunted by the consequences of the evilness of what he did.Every son of Adam sins but the best of them are those who repent.so hasten to d faith of mercy and Forgiveness from Allah,And the path which leads to paradise.Ya Allah we seek for protection from evil of our self and others.

amin khadija yar kanawa.

usmanbaba:

What's your problem, must you comment?

Scared of the truth?

A religion with so many loopholes... And double standards

koolaid87:
Yes, we have issues with the temptation of women but not with minors.

What kind of religion propagates child marriage and the treatment of women as slaves, reward for acts of terror?

Islam needs full reformation.

you need that instead .

Kherdija:
Jazakallahu khairan,when any person commit a sin,who so ever it may b,he will b haunted by the consequences of the evilness of what he did.Every son of Adam sins but the best of them are those who repent.so hasten to d faith of mercy and Forgiveness from Allah,And the path which leads to paradise.Ya Allah we seek for protection from evil of our self and others.

Aameen!!! BerakalLahu Fiihi sister. After seeking for forgiveness, evil consequences won't haunt the sinner.

[quote author=Schrodinger1 post=90840107]

Aameen!!! BerakalLahu Fiihi sister. After seeking for forgiveness, evil consequences won't haunt the sinner.[/quote

Allahumma Ameen.

usmanbaba:

What's your problem, must you comment?

Yes, I must comment Motherfucker.

why not address the msg instead of attacking the messenger.

Dumb followers of a paedophile

koolaid87:


Yes, I must comment Motherfucker.

why not address the msg instead of attacking the messenger.

Dumb followers of a paedophile

You will be unfortunate with this comment for the rest of your life except you desist from writing nonsense as the one above.