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I feel.sorry for you op,if you're story is true.
First do a DNA test,to see if that girl is truly your child.
It's weird how she wanted you to get her pregnant.
If you don't have money now,find your feet first before you do the DNA test.
If the child is yours,do all you can to take care of her, financially and otherwise.
Also try to let her spend some time with you.

As for the mum,leave her.
Totally,and don't go back to her.

merieam16:
calm down bro, no b fight lol

lolz, if nah fight no quote u mariam...it alrite

Martinez39s:
You were a careless man.

••>> FIRST MISTAKE: not running away when she insisted on get pregnant before you went back to the UK. At this point, her plans were laid before, but you couldn't grab because you weren't redpilled and your third leg clouded your thinking. She was using you to secure her future, and she thought she would go to the UK.
••>> SECOND MISTAKE: getting her pregnant. Lmao. Na you do yourself biko. Why be so careless?
••>> THIRD MISTAKE: marrying her, and accepting responsibility for the child without conditions.

Once you told her that you couldn't get your visa, and you wanted to face life in Nigeria, she saw she could no longer derive the benefits she wanted from you: using you to secure herself financially, and going to the UK. At that point, the chameleon revealed herself; her veneer of kindness and good personality cracked in infinite places. (Briffault's law). Her subsequent actions are enough proof that she never loved you one bit. You were too easy for her to game.

When I say it pays to take the redpill, beta simps like you ridicule me. If you had taken the redpill, you wouldn't be in this mess. Why do men of today still believe in love and get married? Anyway, if possible, go to court and make it known that you have no problem providing for your kid, and you want to put a stop to your wife alienating you from your kid. You are a father, and you have parental rights, why not fight for joint custody? Seems misandric courts are here in Nigeria too. Iammo (iammolise) help this men IF POSSIBLE.

It pays to take the redpill.

He did not know that when "you play with fire you must know you might get burnt". It is surprising that men this days still believe that women are capable of love. Well that is just life.

Instead of you to be celebrating that God has delivered you from bondage, you are here mourning over your victory. Channel your energy more to be more resourceful and forget about women for now due to your current frame of mind. Work towards financial stability, and heal completely from the past, then you can give love a chance. Remain blessed!

ModestGal:
Brother, please take heart, don't be sad. I really feel sorry for you. This is what I want you to do, 1. Focus on your life while seeing if you can get any lady
2. Don't ever get a girl based on whether shes religious or not, just look for a good hearted person
3. Build yourself in all aspects, don't let her weigh you down. Your looks, your posture, etc
4. Try your best for the child, pay visits, buy her things etc. Write letters for your baby daughter whenever you have the chance and keep it for her till shes old enough to understand it.

Trust me brother, she would live to regret every of her decision, and even that child would hate her for doing that to you

Try processing traveling when you have the chance, she would later cry and beg you

I dont need to type any sh!t, this is it all here, sense too full am.

And whenever things change for good for you dont be a simp again. send the fu*k girl fu*king away.

chukwuibuipob:
I guess u are a gentle that’s why some lowlife Dey threaten to kill u,.If u can’t fight back,report dem NOT to police but Pythons .And congrats!God just delivered u from dat jezebel girl.Gather itself together and move on.

Thanks bro but who are the Pythons

LadySarah:
Screenshot and also record ur conversations and take it to welfare.

The question is will you be around to take care of her and not to leave her with your family to turn her to family help?

I already have all that , my mum will do the job ..thanks

sexylassie2:
Next time, don't be broke.

Put your life together and work to get a better life for yourself.

She played a fast game on you, since you can't afford the life that she wants, she changed.

Also go check the paternity of the child and confirm if it is yours.

Nobody have control over brokenness and failure even Jesus Christ was broke in his entire life on earth, he borrowed donkey to ride and also seek volunteers for food to feed people. Brokenness and failure are part of life as death is for everyone , anyone that is scared of Brokenness is a coward and not ready to learn the true meaning of life and God . Brokenness and failure are the best time to rediscovered yourself for the next journey of life ..Thanks for your advice , I already picked mine between the lines ..

2special:
It's well with you bro...wishing you the best...remain calm and reorganize your life..you will end in praise

Amen

Soldiers/Military

Bostin:
Thanks bro but who are the Pythons

Omar09:
Look bro, forget about them. Your daughter and your wife, you will be alright without them. If you want to fight for them, you will loose. If you want to fight for your daughter alone, you will still loose. Your daughter is not old enough to decide for herself and when she's old enough, what makes you think she will choose you? She will be brainwashed into thinking you are the bigger devil. Until she's old enough, that's when you can try to get your daughter back. But for now, document all the threats from her brother, record your calls any time you call your wife and make sure you request to speak with and see your daughter, obviously she will reject it, save it and back it up to your Google drive. When she's old enough, show her those evidences. Don't also forget to screenshot all your chats with her and her family and back it up to your Google drive. If after you show your daughter (when she's old enough) and she still sees you as a devil, bro move on.

And until she's old enough, look for other countries to migrate to and move on with your life. Do not base it on this girl and your daughter. How do I mean, don't waste your time trying to bring her back or trying to clean the bad name she's given you. It's not your burden but hers. At the fullness of time, she will come to her senses and then it will be too late. Focus on something. If you want to stay back here in Nigeria, fine hustle. Chat emmaodet up for little beginnings he will guide you just like he is guiding me. Also least I forget, save every money you make via child support on your daughter, they are your weapons. In the end she will cry!

OK

chukwuibuipob:
Soldiers/Military

Lol ... I love peace oo bro , I will leave them to God to deal with them .

merieam16:
Ehya pele, wont comment until i hear ur baby's mama version


btw, u didnt give enough information abt her, u should av added her name, age,d course she studied, nd d year she graduated, cos d name of d church is nt enough. iranu

Why are you so pained sis , if you read between the lines of my story you would see I did not accused her of anything, I got all the information's through the yahoo boyfriend she ran to when she left me. The yahoo guy posted the message on her Facebook page to embarrass her of sleeping with his friend he tested her with and also with the guy who gave her to him to marry. She did not deny it when I sent her the screenshot rather warned me to mind my business as she could f**ck anyone she likes ...I still have her warning text message on my phone .

How are you sure you are the father of the child? Please go for DNA.

Bostin:
Nobody have control over brokenness and failure even Jesus Christ was broke in his entire life on earth, he borrowed donkey to ride and also seek volunteers for food to feed people. Brokenness and failure are part of life as death is for everyone , anyone that is scared of Brokenness is a coward and not ready to learn the true meaning of life and God . Brokenness and failure are the best time to rediscovered yourself for the next journey of life ..Thanks for your advice , I already picked mine between the lines ..

the reality is people have control over brokenness, it is like saying people are born to be forever poor, people change their conditions, it has been done many times, dont compare yourself with jesus, jesus was a popular religious leader, he was never broke.

My simple advice, cut your cut according to your size, work hard, save for emergency

Bostin:
Why are you so pained sis , if you read between the lines of my story you would see I did not accused her of anything, I got all the information's through the yahoo boyfriend she ran to when she left me. The yahoo guy posted the message on her Facebook page to embarrass her of sleeping with his friend he tested her with and also with the guy who gave her to him to marry. She did not deny it when I sent her the screenshot rather warned me to mind my business as she could f**ck anyone she likes ...I still have her warning text message on my phone .

pained ? nahh...watever d situation is i guess u'v learnt ur lessons nd moved on so.....

People don't read. They were never legally married, just cohabiting.

Op people have advised you ( with the exception of a few very senseless comments). Do what you feel is right and going forward always factor God in your life's decisions.

Ishilove:
People don't read. They were never legally married, just cohabiting.

Op people have advised you ( with the exception of a few very senseless comments). Do what you feel is right and going forward always factor God in your life's decisions.

Thank you

Graxie:
How are you sure you are the father of the child? Please go for DNA.

That your monika

sexylassie2:
the reality is people have control over brokenness, it is like saying people are born to be forever poor, people change their conditions, it has been done many times, dont compare yourself with jesus, jesus was a popular religious leader, he was never broke.

My simple advice, cut your cut according to your size, work hard, save for emergency

You can be broke even if you lives in a mansion and ride luxury cars . Brokenness doesn't mean you have nothing , even if you save for the raining days you still can't correctly predict the future . There are some unforseen circumstances and unpredictable crisis like the Covid-19 now , the whole world is broke .. If you won't take mine I take yours , case closed .

I know how you men are . . . Lying and decieving women into dating you. How did she find out you were a UK returnee with plans of going back? Did you dangle it in a bid to get her. Probably thought you could do a quick hit and run, but this one stuck.

Worst part is that you didn't even have any concrete plans, just wishful thinking. You just suceeded in making her a baby mama for nothing.

It's one thing to support a man who has a dream and working towards it. It's another thing to be stuck with a laibility for a spouse.

Even if you were in her shoes you would probably have changed too.

Don't put this all on her . . . Take some responsibility for yourself.

She basically loved the UK Idea... She never really loved you... Anyone who loves you would stand by you regardless.....

Bostin:
You can be broke even if you lives in a mansion and ride luxury cars . Brokenness doesn't mean you have nothing , even if you save for the raining days you still can't correctly predict the future . There are some unforseen circumstances and unpredictable crisis like the Covid-19 now , the whole world is broke .. If you won't take mine I take yours , case closed .

1-You cant be broke and live in mansion and ride luxury cars.
2-People who save for raining day, never get broke
3-people are profiting from covid-19 crisis, even in recession, people profit from it.
4-the whole world isnt broke,don be deceived.

sexylassie2:
Next time, don't be broke.

Put your life together and work to get a better life for yourself.

She played a fast game on you, since you can't afford the life that she wants, she changed.

Also go check the paternity of the child and confirm if it is yours.

See advise. Do anyone ever wish to be broke? Sometimes, I wonder how some of you respond to people in this forum.

Dainy1:
See advise. Do anyone ever wish to be broke? Sometimes, I wonder how some of you respond to people in this forum.

Many men don't sit to think thoroughly and develop a real plan, spend time working towards it and striving to achieve real fininancial independence.

A lot of men are uninspired and keep trashing around hoping for a miracle, and in the meantime they drag a poor woman into their life and their mess and expect her to 'understand'.

Well, not every woman would.

Lamanii22:
She basically loved the UK Idea... She never really loved you... Anyone who loves you would stand by you regardless.....

What's your understanding of LOVE?

You are OBO, and not the female Instruments and not the Davido kind. The other type.

It is impossible to advise people like you. Just enjoy the life you have created for yourself. And be a man and take responsibility for the poor decisions you routinely make in your life and stop blaming God for allowing a demon into your life. Egbe eye l'eye nwo to. Birds of the same feather flock together. Eniyan bi ikarahun ni he igbin.

You dey fvck you dey fvck, you dey press your thing reach the end of her value, you no call us and you no give yourself advice, and now fvck dey fvck you you come dey cry. Nonsense!

Bostin:
Dear NL family ,this is my bitter experience . She was a Deeper Life girl when I met her back then in 2014 but now a Devil in human form . She brought Pains and shame into my life and took the only daughter I suffered for away from me because I was broke and helpless., I never did anything wrong than being broke , I put in my best and treated her like a Queen with humility but she betrayed my trust.
Let me start from when I met this babe back then at National Open University when I just returned from the UK, we were both student back then. We started as a friend but later end up dating. She later knew I just came back and planning to go back soon .We do have Sex as she wishes being her addicts, though I'm not too sex freak but I always respect her demands. Soonest , She started begging me to impregnate her before I travel back but I refused , shortly she planned the pregnancy and succeeded. Initially , I felt bad and disappointed for what I have no plans for but later take my faith due to my late age.I told my parents about it and they agreed to a family introduction which we eventually did .Aftermath I told her to stay with her parents to have the baby to let me have time to work things out before we could live together as family but she refused and reigned her job and moved in with me with the pregnancy .
To God be the glory we had a baby girl though through CS because the she is asthmatic. We started living happily in a small rented apartment because I wouldn't want to use my savings to further my greener pastures journey on bigger rent and at the same time had an ongoing two bedroom bungalow project in my town. I tried applied for visas in six different attempt but to all avail, I told her about the last visa refusal and also told her I won't be process anything for now again but face life here in Naija for awhile. My NL Fam , that was the beginning of my sorrow. She changed totally and started disrespecting ,arguing and violence. She seized being my friend but gave me depression. Instead she returned all her attention to her Ex and her family. At last , She left with my daughter to her mum's house because her dad is late ..
She did not end it there as she go about telling people bad things about me and my family to justify her actions of leaving. She threatened she won't let me see my daughter again. Later I received letters from Welfare to come talk on child support ,then proceed to the Court where the judge grant her the custody of the child and instructed me to be paying monthly support . Many time she won't pick my calls to talk to my daughter unless I beg. I was thinking suicide but God saved me with his blood.
Recently , I saw a Facebook message a guy sent to her, whom happened to be her boyfriend and accused her of sleeping with his friend, the guy said " you were complaining about your ex daddy something not knowing you're the Demon, if you continue like this you won't have a home of yours " .
I showed my mum this message and we both cried heavily that why did God allowed this Demonic girl in our life . I also sent her the screenshot of the message, she did not deny but warn me to mind my business and let her enjoy her life and F*ck whomever she want .
I tried to chat the boyfriend to find out what was wrong to know if truly I was a bad person she told everyone. The guy was so angry and told me he has nothing to do with her and don't want to see her again. He said someone gave him my baby mama and he intended marrying her because he's a single Dad of two with late wife but he later find out that the guy that gave him my baby mama also has slept with her which they both lied but he find out himself. He said that reason and some other things make him to send her out of his house when he got another woman to marry . This boy is a Yahoo guy , his profile says it all and I heard about a deal of 2m naira they both did , him and my baby mama through my baby mama younger brother . I asked the guy , he said Yes , he had a deal and used her account and gave her her share . He advise me to focus on my daughter and forget about her for life .. Fam , you won't believe the boy that gave my baby mama to the yahoo boy is her ex which I know very well and stayed in the same city where we lives when together . This boy used to call her day and night back then but she always told me he's her brother calling nothing knowing that was the evil that destroyed my happiness ...
I am at the middle of a deadly ocean of life , my daughter is with her and She now said I shouldn't call her again but go to the welfare if I need to see my daughter , her younger brother threatened he would kill me if I do .. Please be my guides I'm confused and depressed .
Thank you and God bless

First of all, go confirm if the child is even truly yours, since she was desperate for a child and you are not, there is a possibility that she got it elsewhere and wanna cuckold you to father the child.

Secondly, you should be happy that she is not in your life anymore. If the child is yours truly, then go get equal parental rights and be a good father to your child.

Thirdly, hope yoy know that you messed up completely (see martinez39s post). You are the architect of your problems. She is playing the fast game from the beginning, but like many men, you are fooled with romance and not bringing your A game from the start. You failed to lead and get what you want from the relationship.

Lastly and most importantly, do everything you need to do, to be better and not fall into this nonsense anymore. The world is a jungle, no such thing as love. Love without sacrifice is selfishness. She never loved you, she only wanted to secure the bag, and her behaviour was a result of securing the wrong bag.

pansophist:
First of all, go confirm if the child is even truly yours, since she was desperate for a child and you are not, there is a possibility that she got it elsewhere and wanna cuckold you to father the child.

Secondly, you should be happy that she is not in your life anymore. If the child is yours truly, then go get equal parental rights and be a good father to your child.

Thirdly, hope yoy know that you messed up completely (see martinez39s post). You are the architect of your problems. She is playing the fast game from the beginning, but like many men, you are fooled with romance and not bringing your A game from the start. You failed to lead and get what you want from the relationship.

Lastly and most importantly, do everything you need to do, to be better and not fall into this nonsense anymore. The world is a jungle, no such thing as love. Love without sacrifice is selfishness. She never loved you, she only wanted to secure the bag, and her behaviour was a result of securing the wrong bag.

Preach brother! Preach!

Bostin:
Dear NL family ,this is my bitter experience . She was a Deeper Life girl when I met her back then in 2014 but now a Devil in human form . She brought Pains and shame into my life and took the only daughter I suffered for away from me because I was broke and helpless., I never did anything wrong than being broke , I put in my best and treated her like a Queen with humility but she betrayed my trust.
Let me start from when I met this babe back then at National Open University when I just returned from the UK, we were both student back then. We started as a friend but later end up dating. She later knew I just came back and planning to go back soon .We do have Sex as she wishes being her addicts, though I'm not too sex freak but I always respect her demands. Soonest , She started begging me to impregnate her before I travel back but I refused , shortly she planned the pregnancy and succeeded. Initially , I felt bad and disappointed for what I have no plans for but later take my faith due to my late age.I told my parents about it and they agreed to a family introduction which we eventually did .Aftermath I told her to stay with her parents to have the baby to let me have time to work things out before we could live together as family but she refused and reigned her job and moved in with me with the pregnancy .
To God be the glory we had a baby girl though through CS because the she is asthmatic. We started living happily in a small rented apartment because I wouldn't want to use my savings to further my greener pastures journey on bigger rent and at the same time had an ongoing two bedroom bungalow project in my town. I tried applied for visas in six different attempt but to all avail, I told her about the last visa refusal and also told her I won't be process anything for now again but face life here in Naija for awhile. My NL Fam , that was the beginning of my sorrow. She changed totally and started disrespecting ,arguing and violence. She seized being my friend but gave me depression. Instead she returned all her attention to her Ex and her family. At last , She left with my daughter to her mum's house because her dad is late ..
She did not end it there as she go about telling people bad things about me and my family to justify her actions of leaving. She threatened she won't let me see my daughter again. Later I received letters from Welfare to come talk on child support ,then proceed to the Court where the judge grant her the custody of the child and instructed me to be paying monthly support . Many time she won't pick my calls to talk to my daughter unless I beg. I was thinking suicide but God saved me with his blood.
Recently , I saw a Facebook message a guy sent to her, whom happened to be her boyfriend and accused her of sleeping with his friend, the guy said " you were complaining about your ex daddy something not knowing you're the Demon, if you continue like this you won't have a home of yours " .
I showed my mum this message and we both cried heavily that why did God allowed this Demonic girl in our life . I also sent her the screenshot of the message, she did not deny but warn me to mind my business and let her enjoy her life and F*ck whomever she want .
I tried to chat the boyfriend to find out what was wrong to know if truly I was a bad person she told everyone. The guy was so angry and told me he has nothing to do with her and don't want to see her again. He said someone gave him my baby mama and he intended marrying her because he's a single Dad of two with late wife but he later find out that the guy that gave him my baby mama also has slept with her which they both lied but he find out himself. He said that reason and some other things make him to send her out of his house when he got another woman to marry . This boy is a Yahoo guy , his profile says it all and I heard about a deal of 2m naira they both did , him and my baby mama through my baby mama younger brother . I asked the guy , he said Yes , he had a deal and used her account and gave her her share . He advise me to focus on my daughter and forget about her for life .. Fam , you won't believe the boy that gave my baby mama to the yahoo boy is her ex which I know very well and stayed in the same city where we lives when together . This boy used to call her day and night back then but she always told me he's her brother calling nothing knowing that was the evil that destroyed my happiness ...
I am at the middle of a deadly ocean of life , my daughter is with her and She now said I shouldn't call her again but go to the welfare if I need to see my daughter , her younger brother threatened he would kill me if I do .. Please be my guides I'm confused and depressed .
Thank you and God bless

where una dey jam these coven women biko.... im sure u fell for the clove of deeper life she adorned herself with..... are there no legal actions u cud take too? .....

pansophist:
First of all, go confirm if the child is even truly yours, since she was desperate for a child and you are not, there is a possibility that she got it elsewhere and wanna cuckold you to father the child.

Secondly, you should be happy that she is not in your life anymore. If the child is yours truly, then go get equal parental rights and be a good father to your child.

Thirdly, hope yoy know that you messed up completely (see martinez39s post). You are the architect of your problems. She is playing the fast game from the beginning, but like many men, you are fooled with romance and not bringing your A game from the start. You failed to lead and get what you want from the relationship.

Lastly and most importantly, do everything you need to do, to be better and not fall into this nonsense anymore. The world is a jungle, no such thing as love. Love without sacrifice is selfishness. She never loved you, she only wanted to secure the bag, and her behaviour was a result of securing the wrong bag.

Honestly I'm not that type of a weak man , I was coming from a lonely planet where I lives for more than two years with a girlfriend nor sex . I don't double date neither do I really have time thinking about woman , she left more than two years now and no girlfriend whatsoever in my life ..She just caught me that's all and I blamed myself as well .

sexylassie2:
Next time, don't be broke.

Put your life together and work to get a better life for yourself.

She played a fast game on you, since you can't afford the life that she wants, she changed.

Also go check the paternity of the child and confirm if it is yours.

Your point and advice are good but it's never one's choice to be broke....


I will strongly ask him to go for D.N.A. Test for the child ....