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MamaEEE:
I go use pigin answer you. So in all[b] when[/b] I write , na to correct English pain you. Living the message... You no even fit think go Autocorrect or typo... You for start the correction from your user name... Try they mind your business if you no get anything good to say

Naira235:
I doubt if you know what's operating in UK at all?? Domestic workers are different from Care assistant and also different from Child minders. Care assistant is different from live-in-carer and nanny. Everyone is proud of their profession and no one , I repeat none of the above can work , save £15,000 for school fees within 9- 12 months , and sponsor themselves with both feeding, accommodation and living expenses.

cooooooks:
*wey*
*Leaving*
*dey*

MamaEEE:
I[b] can see[/b] that you are a very STUPID person,
Now run along...

Naira235:
Hi Everyone,
I have been paying high money for childcare here in UK and its giving me a second thought. My husband is a medical doctor and I work as a nurse for half days in a week, so we don't have to work all day and time to be financially okay as this is our first child and she is just 8 months old.

I can only afford to sponsor one person for MSc and the person has to be assisting me in childcare as a compensation.

I have a younger sister whom I am 6 years older than, she is a graduate but not currently working. She is a spoilt child been the last born and I am the first born. I found it very difficult to control her as an elder sister while in Nigeria. She is a graduate, and she is tired of Nigeria, she is also a burden on my parents as she has been living and feeding on them. Most times I send them money she spends 80% of it for herself and she is been treated as a pet been last child. I am afraid I won't be able to control her as my sister when she comes over.

I have another lady, she was the daughter of my boss where I was learning Tailoring in Nigeria. She and her mother were so respectful and caring. They are very poor and have no support anywhere so I am thinking of inviting her over for her MSc abroad and to also be taking care of my child for few days in return for her school fees.
Note : that is aside from their 20 hours work per week allowed on their student visa, so they can also work and have money.

The childcare is just few days in a week from 8am to 2pm. And I am hopeful it won't affect their studies.

Who is the right person to invite? Please I need your advice . Thanks all

Naira235:
thanks. I will hide the whole thing from my parents. Last born are always over pampered and most doesn't have what it takes to work for their family.

cooooooks:
The website above is a UK website.

A friend (white Canadian) went to the UK for masters and worked as a nanny. This is not uncommon. The point is to not change the nanny life to what we do to house helps in Nigeria.

Don't become another example of immigrants who bring people from their countries to become, in the eyes of charities and the govt, slaves.

Like I said before, what you're offering is a good opportunity, especially if they can stay after studies. However, if you overdo it, if they are on call throughout the day, the amount they're supposed to be paid will quickly skyrocket. That 15,000 will begin to look like child's play.

Naira235:
Hi Everyone,
I have been paying high money for childcare here in UK and its giving me a second thought. My husband is a medical doctor and I work as a nurse for half days in a week, so we don't have to work all day and time to be financially okay as this is our first child and she is just 8 months old.

I can only afford to sponsor one person for MSc and the person has to be assisting me in childcare as a compensation.

I have a younger sister whom I am 6 years older than, she is a graduate but not currently working. She is a spoilt child been the last born and I am the first born. I found it very difficult to control her as an elder sister while in Nigeria. She is a graduate, and she is tired of Nigeria, she is also a burden on my parents as she has been living and feeding on them. Most times I send them money she spends 80% of it for herself and she is been treated as a pet been last child. I am afraid I won't be able to control her as my sister when she comes over.

I have another lady, she was the daughter of my boss where I was learning Tailoring in Nigeria. She and her mother were so respectful and caring. They are very poor and have no support anywhere so I am thinking of inviting her over for her MSc abroad and to also be taking care of my child for few days in return for her school fees.
Note : that is aside from their 20 hours work per week allowed on their student visa, so they can also work and have money.

The childcare is just few days in a week from 8am to 2pm. And I am hopeful it won't affect their studies.

Who is the right person to invite? Please I need your advice . Thanks all

Naira235:
No, I only met her all through my 3years training in her mom's shop like 8 years ago. The mother and her daughter still called or chat me up often to say hello to me, always asking about me during this pandemic, without asking or demanding for money or anything. My sister only call me whenever they are broke at home or my parents are sick.

Think9ja:
They are all telling you to do what they themselves can't do. That's the situation with Nigerians

For me, if I can't invite both of them, then I will find someone in that country to do that job for me. But I'm never picking anybody over my own flesh and blood.

I cannot pick someone ahead of my sister simply because my sister is a "spoilt" child. This is not a government affair where people will say you're being nepotic, this is strictly a family affair and family members should be considered first.

No matter how "spoilt" your sister is, I don't think she'll abandon her niece whenever she needs her.

It's not as if your sister is a criminal or a loose girl. Her problem is common with most last borns due to too much pampering.
What you just need to do is to present your terms and conditions to her before she applies for visa.

If your sister finds out that you pick this lady over her, she'll never forgive you.

If you feel you want to help your former bosses' daughter for what her mum did for you, credit her account let her start something here.

Besides, that same girl can change once she steps into that country.

Our problem in this country is that we like telling others to do what we ourselves can't do.

Family first abeg.

UjuJoan2:
As a last born I take serious exception to that statement. I was pampered and protected. I never even cooked untill I got into the University. My roommate taught me how to cook. My elder sisters washed my clothes and did everything for me (I had a lot of elder sister). And no, I wasn't allowed to sleep all day. I did other chores like cleaning, washing dishes E.t.c.

People blame last-born's for being spoilt, but it's not their fault they are spoilt. It's the way they were raised.

Last born or not, I could never get away with some selfish traits your mentioned about your sister. Your parents let her get away with too much. You need to set rules, boundaries for her. And if she doesn't follow them, let her know there will be consequences.

Naira235:
Inviting her over is applying for student visa through MSc route which cost over £15,000 and I see no evidence of slavery there.

I don't need any house help, but just a childminder. I have been paying childminder here but thought it will be additional advantage to someone else inform of tuition fees instead of paying over £700 every month for childminder . The only agreement is to pay their school fees direct to the school account in exchange for the work.

Naira235:
thanks. I will hide the whole thing from my parents. Last born are always over pampered and most doesn't have what it takes to work for their family.

bukatyne:
@bold:

What do you suggest in her circumstance?

Naira235:
thanks. I will hide the whole thing from my parents. Last born are always over pampered and most doesn't have what it takes to work for their family.

Naira235:
Hi Everyone,
I have been paying high money for childcare here in UK and its giving me a second thought. My husband is a medical doctor and I work as a nurse for half days in a week, so we don't have to work all day and time to be financially okay as this is our first child and she is just 8 months old.

I can only afford to sponsor one person for MSc and the person has to be assisting me in childcare as a compensation.

I have a younger sister whom I am 6 years older than, she is a graduate but not currently working. She is a spoilt child been the last born and I am the first born. I found it very difficult to control her as an elder sister while in Nigeria. She is a graduate, and she is tired of Nigeria, she is also a burden on my parents as she has been living and feeding on them. Most times I send them money she spends 80% of it for herself and she is been treated as a pet been last child. I am afraid I won't be able to control her as my sister when she comes over.

I have another lady, she was the daughter of my boss where I was learning Tailoring in Nigeria. She and her mother were so respectful and caring. They are very poor and have no support anywhere so I am thinking of inviting her over for her MSc abroad and to also be taking care of my child for few days in return for her school fees.
Note : that is aside from their 20 hours work per week allowed on their student visa, so they can also work and have money.

The childcare is just few days in a week from 8am to 2pm. And I am hopeful it won't affect their studies.

Who is the right person to invite? Please I need your advice . Thanks all

Naira235:
thanks. That same question has been on my mind too. I don't know what will be my parents reaction if I ever mention to them that my boss daughter was invited. I am planning of doing it as a secret without informing my family, but again... I am scared of what might happen later on.

Naira235:
Hi Everyone,
I have been paying high money for childcare here in UK and its giving me a second thought. My husband is a medical doctor and I work as a nurse for half days in a week, so we don't have to work all day and time to be financially okay as this is our first child and she is just 8 months old.

I can only afford to sponsor one person for MSc and the person has to be assisting me in childcare as a compensation.

I have a younger sister whom I am 6 years older than, she is a graduate but not currently working. She is a spoilt child been the last born and I am the first born. I found it very difficult to control her as an elder sister while in Nigeria. She is a graduate, and she is tired of Nigeria, she is also a burden on my parents as she has been living and feeding on them. Most times I send them money she spends 80% of it for herself and she is been treated as a pet been last child. I am afraid I won't be able to control her as my sister when she comes over.

I have another lady, she was the daughter of my boss where I was learning Tailoring in Nigeria. She and her mother were so respectful and caring. They are very poor and have no support anywhere so I am thinking of inviting her over for her MSc abroad and to also be taking care of my child for few days in return for her school fees.
Note : that is aside from their 20 hours work per week allowed on their student visa, so they can also work and have money.

The childcare is just few days in a week from 8am to 2pm. And I am hopeful it won't affect their studies.

Who is the right person to invite? Please I need your advice . Thanks all

zed7:
Who chooses a stranger over family? You've never been stabbed before. I'll rather be stabbed by a family member than a stranger. How will I feel when I see a stranger progressing whilst my own family suffers because she is 'spoilt?
My dear, this is deeper than her being spoilt, you have a personal grudge against your sister which you ain't saying here. Maybe she is prettier, got more complements, better grades etc.

Ayofaks:
Please invite who won't smash your husband behind your back to avoid stories that touch the oesophagus

iamloyalty:
She should also look at this angle too. Friends do it and sisters also do it.

Queenslander:
Sisters is rare,. The devil you know is better than the angel you don't know.. She should choose the lesser evil. Which in this case happens to be her sister..