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femalecobra:
Doesn’t apply to logic?
Pls clarify....didn’t get
But why would you name yourself coffin It’s worse than “cobra”

You won't understand if you think the bible is not a historical book.

How come a non-living thing is worse than a dangerous living thing?

Klass99:
I like your entire take on this, it's reasonable, candid and mature.

1, 2, & 3 are so on point. I wish I could like this post 60 times.

Gracias Amiga!

Klass99:
I like your entire take on this, it's reasonable, candid and mature.

1, 2, & 3 are so on point. I wish I could like this post 60 times.

Loooool
Me three

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UjuJoan2:
I'm not sure I get you. Is it that the conversation has become dull or non-existent?

Or is it that you guys have lost the affection or the spark?

It's much too early to be feeling this way, considering you have a lifetime to go.

Maybe you really feel something is missing, kids maybe?

You need to find a way to be enough for each other, to feel like you have all you need in each other. That way, even when there's nothing to talk about you still feel comfortable with yourselves.

Dull.....like what we have to talk about is reduced or we not talking about what there is to talk about. Like not having the same view about things and that causing problem or unhappiness on the path of the guy, thus resulting in reduced discussion maybe to avoid difference of views...so sharing is reduced

Klass99:
Lol, so has he allayed your fears about marriage?

Not really
But I am beginning to accept the truth that it would have boring moments and I need to be comfortable with that feel��
And annoying moments too.
I feel like I need some sort of marriage counselling aside the church type where they just read bible verses and blanket real day to day issues inside the verses. Don’t get me wrong. The bible is potent and I know it’s d foundation. Infact when other things fail...u need it to balance your head and that of your partner. But I just wish for a more “expressive” counselling in addition.

YourCoffin:
You won't understand if you think the bible is not a historical book.

How come a non-living thing is worse than a dangerous living thing?

Hmmmm coffin is associated with death
At least snake is alive and is still associated with living

sisisioge:
Hmmmm...how is it possible that you get to a point where you have nothing to say to each other? Ofcourse, you can have quiet times but even that should be like a mutually shared time. I think when you are in sync with someone, when he/she is quiet around you....you still feel like you're communicating.

That is why it is important that couples do beyond copulating before settling down so that when the sexual fire ebbs, you will have your friendship to sustain/maintain your union. Communicate o...even with your silence.

But it’s like marriage tries friendship too right
Cus I know good friends who married and they have so much clashes. Apparently the clashes is even more with friends Cus they roll closely and so friction is easier. I don’t really know. But there are people I know who were friends for like 10years. And only them would put the true review of marriage on their status (say after one year wedding anniversary)....where they would write...we have hurt eachother...offended eachother...probably kept malice...misunderstood eachother etc but we are learning and still learning. Those general people wey just marry after 1 month dating are the people that use to write “this one year has been the best.....I have been living in heaven for the past one year”

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Klass99:
I understand you, there are pre-marital counselors (Christians) who are well rounded and don't counsel ONLY from a biblical perspective.The Bible is the core foundation for them, but they also bring their practical/real life experiences to the table.

I have heard that when counselors at the Family Worship Center, Abuja counsel intending couples it is intense, interactive, engaging and so insightful, that some couples end up breaking off their engagement, because they realize how incompatible they are during the process.

If you ask me, those counselors do a great job of rescuing two incompatible people from a lifetime of pain and misery.

But some people will disagree on the basis that if people want to marry we should just give them our blessings and let them carry on with it, after all marriage (of any kind) is better than no marriage at all.

Hmmmmm better to get sperm donor than marry wrongly ooo....abeg
Hmmmm.....

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Klass99:
I understand you, there are pre-marital counselors (Christians) who are well rounded and don't counsel ONLY from a biblical perspective.The Bible is the core foundation for them, but they also bring their practical/real life experiences to the table.

I have heard that when counselors at the Family Worship Center, Abuja counsel intending couples it is intense, interactive, engaging and so insightful, that some couples end up breaking off their engagement, because they realize how incompatible they are during the process.

If you ask me, those counselors do a great job of rescuing two incompatible people from a lifetime of pain and misery.

But some people will disagree on the basis that if people want to marry we should just give them our blessings and let them carry on with it, after all marriage (of any kind) is better than no marriage at all.

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Klass99:
First Class ke!! I graduated with a 2:2
I like to think of it as God's mercies/favour plus due diligence on my part in actually doing what is required, more than luck.
Being a single woman without a means of livelihood or source of income hurts more than it helps, because wetin married men go wan do you eehhnn.
I think God sees that and just makes a way out for me. No one receives anything unless God gives it from heaven (I think that's in the book of John) and I would rather choose a path He can bless, which is applying and interviewing, than paying a bribe and cutting corners or spreading my legs.

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Klass99:
I like your entire take on this, it's reasonable, candid and mature.

1, 2, & 3 are so on point. I wish I could like this post 60 times.

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If both of you don't have the same views on important things of life then please back out now that it is still early. You both are meant to have the same view on things or else you will always find yourself keeping quite in other not to offend him. You will never have good communication and you will find gisting with others more interesting.

For me I have noticed that relationship with friends isn't always the best, that 2 people have been friends for long doesn't mean that the relationship or marriage will work out. Most times it ends badly and the friendship is lost forever.

Lastly pray to God to direct you to your husband, believe He will answer you and everything will flow without stress. When you even meet the person, you will know within you. * you want to spend 30 years living with someone, then why can't you take 3 days to fast and pray about it?

femalecobra:
Dull.....like what we have to talk about is reduced or we not talking about what there is to talk about. Like not having the same view about things and that causing problem or unhappiness on the path of the guy, thus resulting in reduced discussion maybe to avoid difference of views...so sharing is reduced

chatinent:
So far you have happiness and rest of mind, be glad. You can always make that day-one moment again.

I won't lie if you can explain more on this and how to have happiness and peace of mind, you would be doing me a massive favour

pcguru1:
I won't lie if you can explain more on this and how to have happiness and peace of mind, you would be doing me a massive favour

What part exactly?

chatinent:
What part exactly?

Peace of mind and Happiness

pcguru1:
Peace of mind and Happiness

Personally, not being fanatical, my peace of mind and happiness comes from my religion. It totally changed the person I used to be.

chatinent:
Personally, not being fanatical, my peace of mind and happiness comes from my religion. It totally changed the person I used to be.

So i have been told, I making a conscious effort to be more spiritual. Appreciate the feedback

pcguru1:
So i have been told, I making a conscious effort to be more spiritual. Appreciate the feedback

Can we chat apart from here? I would like you be sharing you some books to read.

pcguru1:
So i have been told, I making a conscious effort to be more spiritual. Appreciate the feedback

I received the email request notification but unfortunately, that email is dysfunctional. Please reach me via Juderichlord@gmail.com rather.

Honey, you should just stop worrying about it. If only you are thinking about your relationship and caring, that is not right. Your husband should be included in this too. After all, marriage is two people, not one person.

However, there is still a solution. When my husband and I have nothing to talk about, we watch films together and then discuss them at dinner. We are looking for new topics of conversation, it really helps us. You have to talk to your husband and decide whether to fight for the marriage if you both really want to. If so, you should talk to your husband honestly and tell him what you are feeling. Without honesty, your relationship will quickly lose its charm. Understand that you should trust and love each other, and not ask questions about your relationship on the forum. Your marriage is something that only happens between the two of you. You shouldn't involve outsiders in this.

But you can contact a family counselor to solve your family problems. But if you do decide to file for divorce, do not hesitate, the sooner you do it, the more chances you have to build a new happy life. However, be mindful of your children (if you have any) and worry about their feelings during a divorce in NY, as it will be much more difficult for them to get through them. I wish you sort out this situation as soon as possible.

If you are a boring person married to an equally boring person, it is a recipe for disaster. An adventurous person, even if it is one person in the marriage will not have a bored life.

Marriage is another definition of a bipolar disorder. There is always a manic and depressive stage. You go with the flow.

Klass99:
Lol @ my love. Ebenezer ogini? Even on my ban you were still trolling me. Haba, maka why? No be you first find my trouble for here?
Abeg leave me alone, me ayam tired and today is too good a day for me to be fighting and doing e-warrior.
Something I have been working on for 3 years finally clicked today, on the eve of another birthday. I am in ecstasy.
If there's any truth to what you claim on your profile statement, join me to thank the Lord, to celebrate my good fortune and stop trolling me up and down this forum.
Onyara man

Alright I've finally unfollowed you so as to make your joy fulfilled
Guess we've finally come to a truce
No more following you anymore and congratulations

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Klass99:
Hian!!! This is not even the main account I mentioned. Na wao, how many accounts you wan open sef?

Yes to the truce, but you have to unfollow me with all of your accounts for the truce to be sincere and authentic.

to follow u again dey hungry me sha cos I can't bear the thought of missing you and our paths not crossing each other again on this forum.
Hence the reason I created these accounts just to troll you.
See screenshots of the numerous accounts below

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Klass99:
It is finished.

Unfollow me with all the ones you and I both know belong to you.

alright I'll unfollow you right away and let you be and won't call the mods to ban you anymore.
But you have to do one thing and I'll finally leave you totally

My dearest, itz either u got married during corona period or u got married outside lagos. Marriage is not boring oo, i dont see my husband as HUSBAND, i see him as my friend
/gossip mate and he gets so busy wit work that any chance to be at home wit him is not even enough for gisting,gossiping, playing n hanging out. We can talk for africa and we share alot of ideas together and as well plan abt our future. This is why whenever we ve any form of misunderstanding , we both feel it so much and we try as much to settle almost immediately.
N.B- we ve being together for 8yrs but married for 2yrs.

Am I the only one who read differently? She said they have been dating for 6 months while most people replying are saying she is married.

afilaka:
My dearest, itz either u got married during corona period or u got married outside lagos. Marriage is not boring oo, i dont see my husband as HUSBAND, i see him as my friend
/gossip mate and he gets so busy wit work that any chance to be at home wit him is not even enough for gisting,gossiping, playing n hanging out. We can talk for africa and we share alot of ideas together and as well plan abt our future. This is why whenever we ve any form of misunderstanding , we both feel it so much and we try as much to settle almost immediately.
N.B- we ve being together for 8yrs but married for 2yrs.

Wow.....lovely
Looking up to that level of love

missidy:
Am I the only one who read differently? She said they have been dating for 6 months while most people replying are saying she is married.

Yea....he had been chasing me for 2 years but we were kind of friend as I wasn’t interested but the dating is for 6months. I got to see he was a good man, sacrificial, loving etc. I slowed down on marriage part till year end else should have been this July