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femi4:
Tell him to marry a 2nd wife

Seems his wife's libido is low

Unnerve:
Lol, it's not about paying bills, man's got it wrong.
The only reason your friend's wife can withhold sex without any care in the world is because she knows that it gets to him, it's the power she wields from it that makes her continue to withhold sex for as long as she wants.

Some men really need to understand Game Theory, not just in relationships but in every aspect of life. The last thing you ever want to do is give someone the idea that you are a prisoner to what they can offer you.

Some men out there don't pay no bills and are still getting steady sex from their wives.
Some men are the least romantic husbands ever, yet sex is never their problem.
Some are paying all the bills, are very romantic, getting sex from the wife, but still keeping a side chic for the culture.
Then there are some (a category your friend falls under) who are being sex-starved for one reason or the other, but they have mastered game and are not so bothered. They don't even make any moves to try getting sex anymore, could be because they're getting it elsewhere or maybe they're not. The idea is, they just don't give in.

Your friend needs to man up. If he has done all he can and all he keeps getting is the tired excuse, he should step back.
The more he asks for it, the more power she gains and that will solve nothing in the long run.

femi4:
Tell him to marry a 2nd wife

Seems his wife's libido is low

Sixfeetbelle:
Well, this can happen when men marry virgins who don't know their libido





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Righteousness89:
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We are Here to Give you what Makes God Happy!

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Sixfeetbelle:
Well, this can happen when men marry virgins who don't know their libido





I don't reply mentions.

Sixfeetbelle:
Why is it that men never seem to agree that they're just not that good in bed in some of these "wife denies sex" cases? Sticking it in always can get boring and uninteresting very quickly for someone who seeks enjoyment in the bedroom.

You, sef, you sabi knack woman into seventh heaven? Different women against different styles?

Tunjingwu:
So I met my childhood friend yesterday at lekki.
He is still the elegant young man he has always been.
We spoke at length.
Nothing much has changed about him.
He is still very enthusiastic about life.
An Engineer who after working with a firm,is now on his own.
Things are not very rosy but he can still hold his own.
We started talking about family since we all are married abielt for few years.
Here is the gist.....
He is contemplating having a girlfriend.
His wife hardly have sex with him.
Sometimes it takes 2 months for them to make love once.
Nothing appears to be the problem other than the wife complaints of tiredness and not being in the mood for almost every time.
They have two kids(twins).
He had come to tell me to either approve or disapprove his strong intention of keeping a lady by the side since he can afford it comfortably.
I felt for him.
I disuaded him though I know how it feels to stay without sex with your wife under the same roof for months.
You pay all the bills yet you don't eat from the goody bag to your test.
Since yesterday,I have been a little worried for him.
I do not know whether to call him and advise him to go ahead with his plan but try and be careful.
It's a dicey situation especially when the wife is not ready to change.

Tunjingwu:
So I met my childhood friend yesterday at lekki.
He is still the elegant young man he has always been.
We spoke at length.
Nothing much has changed about him.
He is still very enthusiastic about life.
An Engineer who after working with a firm,is now on his own.
Things are not very rosy but he can still hold his own.
We started talking about family since we all are married abielt for few years.
Here is the gist.....
He is contemplating having a girlfriend.
His wife hardly have sex with him.
Sometimes it takes 2 months for them to make love once.
Nothing appears to be the problem other than the wife complaints of tiredness and not being in the mood for almost every time.
They have two kids(twins).
He had come to tell me to either approve or disapprove his strong intention of keeping a lady by the side since he can afford it comfortably.
I felt for him.
I disuaded him though I know how it feels to stay without sex with your wife under the same roof for months.
You pay all the bills yet you don't eat from the goody bag to your test.
Since yesterday,I have been a little worried for him.
I do not know whether to call him and advise him to go ahead with his plan but try and be careful.
It's a dicey situation especially when the wife is not ready to change.

Do the right thing:


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We are not Hhere to Give you, what you wanna Hhear, or Wwhat will make you Hhappy! Far from it! We are not Ccomedians!

We are not Hhere to go with what the Mmultitude thinks or says! No! We are Hhere to Ggive you what God says!

We are Hhere to Ggive you Wwhat you Tthe Ggospel Ttruth about Llife..

We are Hhere to Ggive you what Mmakes God Hhappy!

We are Hhere to Ggive you what will Pprovoke you to Rrepentance..

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Tunjingwu:
So I met my childhood friend yesterday at lekki.
He is still the elegant young man he has always been.
We spoke at length.
Nothing much has changed about him.
He is still very enthusiastic about life.
An Engineer who after working with a firm,is now on his own.
Things are not very rosy but he can still hold his own.
We started talking about family since we all are married abielt for few years.
Here is the gist.....
He is contemplating having a girlfriend.
His wife hardly have sex with him.
Sometimes it takes 2 months for them to make love once.
Nothing appears to be the problem other than the wife complaints of tiredness and not being in the mood for almost every time.
They have two kids(twins).
He had come to tell me to either approve or disapprove his strong intention of keeping a lady by the side since he can afford it comfortably.
I felt for him.
I disuaded him though I know how it feels to stay without sex with your wife under the same roof for months.
You pay all the bills yet you don't eat from the goody bag to your test.
Since yesterday,I have been a little worried for him.
I do not know whether to call him and advise him to go ahead with his plan but try and be careful.
It's a dicey situation especially when the wife is not ready to change.

ZIMDRILL:
we need to look at her daily routine, do they have a maid? how old are the kids

Having kids can change sex life

remember load of work towards kids is twice and as she deals with eg 2 kids of the same age especially twins they can require attention at the same time

by the time hubby comes back from home she would be already tired and hubby want sex.

So we need to know her daily routine life

Kalatium:
Still doesn’t make sense.
You mean the Husband who goes to work and hustle for the family doesn’t get tired.
She doesn’t want to have sex with him period

sisisioge:
Hmmmm....when sex is off the table, the marriage is already one leg out.

Biko stay our of their business. Here is what will happen anyways...

1. He will stay focused at home for another few months until he meets a girl he likes, fall into her cookies jar, stay in there a happy man, come to terms with madam cookie hoarding,.”..

2. He stays focused at home until December when he does his yearly reflection and decides he couldn't continue.

Tallesty1:
Here's what I will do if I were in his shoes.



She complains of being tired, why? From what? I will personally help with whatever it is that's making her tired, so that she will not be tired all the time. So that tiredness will not be an excuse.

She's not in the mood, there's a problem with this one. I mean, she's not in the mood alright but does she allow him to get her in the mood? If yes, how does he go about it?


Y'know, there's a way you will treat a woman during the day and she will look forward to fvcking you in the night.

You can't just be there doing nothing all day to excite her and then climb bed for night to ask her to turn nyash.


Tell the guy to work on rekindling the romance they had in the beginning and everything will be fine.

He should be part of her during the day.
Play with her, kiss her, be there for her.

ZIMDRILL:
you are missing the big picture being a mother or parent is 24/7 job you dont take a break out of it

he doesnt work 24/7 most likely 8 hours 5 days a week

then looking after kids is 24/7 if you dont have help, the only time you rest is when they sleep

so she looks after twins the younger they are the more they keep you busy, then on top of kids there is general house chores

ZIMDRILL:
we need to look at her daily routine, do they have a maid? how old are the kids

Having kids can change sex life

remember load of work towards kids is twice and as she deals with eg 2 kids of the same age especially twins they can require attention at the same time

by the time hubby comes back from home she would be already tired and hubby want sex.

So we need to know her daily routine life

Hathor5:
I am delighted a few men on this forum can be so sentiment-free and unbiased and give a piece of mature advice.
Your (future) wife is a lucky woman.

Tunjingwu:
She works with a financial institution.They have a maid that does everything in the house except cooking what the guy eats as he stated he is not ready to eat what the maid cooks.

pocohantas:
3. The girl’s bf would open an alternate account to wail. “What I saw in my gf of 3yrs phone, help, I can’t breathe.”

4. He will swallow one factory of red-pill and start disturbing us online.

5. The girl would realize there is a reason most divorce are initiated by women. She’ll get angry for the time wasted and move on with her life.

Hopefully it is not too late for every party to fix things. It is a vicious cycle.

Ishilove:
Women, guard your homes diligently.

Hathor5:
Someone explain to me, at best OP, how bills and the wife's libido are connected.

Hathor5:
You have made this story up, haven't you?

sisisioge:
Inside life

Tunjingwu:
She works with a financial institution.They have a maid that does everything in the house except cooking what the guy eats as he stated he is not ready to eat what the maid cooks.

Tunjingwu:
She works with a financial institution.They have a maid that does everything in the house except cooking what the guy eats as he stated he is not ready to eat what the maid cooks.

Hathor5:
I am delighted a few men on this forum can be so sentiment-free and unbiased and give a piece of mature advice.
Your (future) wife is a lucky woman.