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Abasman007:
Hello... I had to get another account to put this up. Some people might still guess who it is though... I'll go straight to the point...

I lost my mom when I was a month away from 2 years(NOV 2000) and since then I have had to live with my dad as a single parent, my senior cousin (male, soldier now) came (2001) and took up taking care of me.. my dad later got married (2003) to a younger woman (21 years younger) I was 5 then, and I can still remember clearly the marriage and everything that happened around that time.
in 2000 My dad was among 6 people choosen from the six geopolitical zones to got Germany on an advance course on digital transmitters by NTA(which he worked for till 2016 when he retired) and were supposed to move to either Lagos or Abuja upon their return. Few days after he came back my mom died(mom worked as a senior caterer with shell, and was on maternity leave as at the time she died). Daddy refused to leave me behind to go Abuja as he was meant to, despite his mom's, and my maternal aunties plea that he should take the chance and go that i''ll be fine, instead he insisted to stay back and took the option to be put in charge of maintaining transmitters in the whole South south(meaning he travelled a lot). The faint knowledge I have About the time when it was just me, my dad and my cousin is that I enjoyed and never lacked anything, I was always by my dad's side... Untill 2002 when I was 4, I remember a younger woman from church (I tought was mom)always coming to visit dad, we got close and in 2003 they got married and I was joyous feeling mom was back from were ever she went a soon as she was married hell broke loose!! Worst when she gave birth to her own child 2004 Nov.. I was put behind and my dad became a monster, he made me believe I was being trained in God's way.. I was beaten for the slightest thing as talking to a neighbors kid, playing, I was put indoors and this alone is a major instrument to my being shy.. I noticed that my brother wasn't treated that way, but as small as I was I convinced myself that maybe am stubborn as they say I am.. the next kid (a girl) came 2006, my step mum became something worst than what she was before, I was starved, abused physically, was stopped from taking lunch to school.. and irrespective of the fact that I was 8 and had to attend lessons till 3, I was hooked on the meal I ate since morning (that was most atimes few slices of bread..) till about 4 when I came back home.
it was on a day like this that I came back home and found no one. Dead hungry as I was, went and picked up tho biscuits from the carton of biscuits meant for only my step Brother who would be picked up one while I stayed behind for lessons. I innocently was eating the biscuits when my step mum came back with my dad, saw me eating the buscuits and descended on me. the duo beat me till my cousin who was there since 2001 came back and was begging them to atleast least allow me eat, but the beatings kept coming till my dad pick up his wife's heel shoes and broke by head with it. I lay there feeling nothing but only seeing hands descending on me. My cousin seeing me in blood pushed my dad away and took me outside, poured water on me before I came back to myself.. there was a big cut on my head that needed stiches, but my dad refused to stich it and I ended up carrying the wound for months in pains before it finally healed(till today i still have occasional boils like 2 times a year on that spot). My step mum has broken my head too because I was playing with my dad's old working stick. I have been taken to our pastor not knowing what's wrong, only to be asked were our coven is, my own father calling me a witch.. Wit time I start convincing myself this woman couldn't be my mum.. in 2007 my dad was transferred to Enugu Zonal center. And I could at least breath as the Bible carrying monster was far away. But my step mum became worse and more determined in maltreating me, the starving was uncountable and as a 9 year old I have slept outside the house because as usual I came back from school, found no one and we t to wait in my neighbors place, my step mum came back and I ran home to finally eat since morning but was told to go back, the gate was locked and only unlocked for my cousin when he came back.. by cousin had to pass his little food out of the window for me to eat ..my neighbors had gone for tarry night and I ended up crying myself to sleep in our car as my ever careless step mum had left it unlocked.. waking up and finding myself in the dark Alone by 4am, I was scared, ran out and yelled for the gate to be opened, my cousin on hearing my voice took the keys and opened the gate for me. since then my cousin who more or less had been treated like me was made to leave home and I was defenceless against my stepmom and the unlucky times my dad came home
I have been pushed emotionally since I was little, sent to a Fedral government college without provisions, while my siblings get the best of everything... My dad was instrumental to my dropping out of my first university.. he kept telling me how he isn't my dad and how my mom forced herself on him, and how I am the cause of his troubles, of how am like the badluck in his life, he's tied me up and beaten me for sometimes things I haven't done or slight things like loosing my pen..he sees me as being good for nothing.. for that reason he seldoms gets me clothes, shoes or anything...
I have endured it for since 2003.. and now am 21 in another university that I have to suffer to survive...he's 60 years now and has threatened to stop my fees.. by any means we(him) are not poor at all.. I have decided that enough is enough I am not taking it anymore..
I have decided that either we get into an agreement about school or he settles me and I leave or I am going to spill out everything that has been happening since i have been little to people, starting from the church council, to the branch church the both are senior pastors in, to his siblings who know nothing about this, to people who would strip to him of his duties if they get to hear it... I have served this people as a slave,I have been loyal and have kept mum about my pains while my three younger siblings get the best of everything..... I need advice on what to , my step mum just turned 41 and there is no sign that they'll change... I take marijuana to help calm the urge not to commit suscide an tired of it..i can' keep smoking.
Please advise me on what to do.. thank you

What I don't like is the marijuana you are now taking. Please it's bad and cannot provide the escape you seek. What is your level in school and what are your bills like?

Pathetic family,a fool father.. exposed him to the world..

Ikea81:
What I don't like is the marijuana you are now taking. Please it's bad and cannot provide the escape you seek. What is your level in school and what are your bills like?

I want to stop.. but I can't ... My bills are like any other students bills... transport, books, gas, light and water,food... Eats up about 13,000 a month... And thats cause I manage to the tiniest bit...but most times it's tears before I can get even 10k to survive... Am tired....
It's the depression..

Okwuazi930:
I can feel ur pains reading this,most women av pure hatred and are envious of children born of another woman.women are naturally jealous even if she's ur blood.how I wish u can leave them and strive to make a way for urself in any little way possible except robbery ooo,if possible move out from their place.whatever u do today will define ur tomorrow,be determined to succeed,be prayerful.God will expose and punish them soon, KARMA is real.i pray for wisdom of God for u.
I was once in ur shoes,look up to God,try to make it on ur own.

thanks man..I'll do my best...
And it's just the depression..

Try to locate your mum's people. Your aunties especially. Open up to them.

Abasman007:
I want to stop.. but I can't ... My bills are like any other students bills... transport, books, gas, light and water,food... Eats up about 13,000 a month... And thats cause I manage to the tiniest bit...but most times it's tears before I can get even 10k to survive... Am tired....
It's the depression..

are you in session currently. because i hear ASUU is on strike. you can send me a PM.

Ikea81:
are you in session currently. because i hear ASUU is on strike. you can send me a PM.

we ain't in session and I fear it'll be worst coupled with how things are ..

Where you the guy that was burnt with fire?

Poster, so sorry, God will strengthen you in whatever path you choose, You will be successful in life, i understand perfectly well how you feel because life dealth me this kind of blow.. sometimes i just sit and cry. but WHY IS THAT ONCE A LOVING FATHER REMARRIES, HE TURNS A MONSTER?

People can be so terrible in the name of religion. Please the worst you could do to yourself is not speaking up. Speak out and don't let depression snap life out of you, but have enough evidence as people can go any length to cover up truth. Be strong and don't give up for your destiny is greater than you can imagine. Try and locate your biological mother's people they will help fight these monsters.

uglodoh:
Where you the guy that was burnt with fire?

no...I have never told anyone this... except for few neighbors who kept say I should endure till I grow..