there was a topic i saw this morning on NL on how a lady who works at some kind of registry said that 99.9% of women dont use their husbands as next of kin but 90% of men use their wife as next of kin!

then something hit me! i use my wife as next of kin in my banking and financial activities which involves quite some large amount - who does she use in hers?

i decided to ask her!

oboy! the answer shock me!

her reasons even shock me more!




GO FIND OUT WHO YOUR WIFE IS USING FOR NEXT OF KIN - BRO! THE ANSWER WILL SHOCK YOU!

AND I WILL BET YOU THAT IT WILL NEVER EVER BE YOU!

Either they use any of their children or any of their siblings...shikenah!

colorsofrainbow:
Either they use any of their children or any of their siblings

bros! you have said it all!

do u know what she gave me as her reason for using her sister before migrating to our child

that she felt i dont need any thing she owns - that after all. . .

i asked her after all what? i sensed like she wants to say after all husbands die before their wife -but seeing the look on my face she now changed it to "you already have everything -all the money so why should she still use me as her next of kin?"


oboy! i felt really slighted bc my wife is like my best friend and i really never thought she will even think twice before using me as her next of kin even if i get money like dangote!

i just jejely enter my private bath role a wrap to stop me from over reacting - she knows i use that bathroom whn am really pissed.

Na small small men go dey wise.

Such union is not a marital but conditional incase of any eventuality. The world will continue to see surge in such marital aberration because that's what the society promotes.

yomi007k:
Na small small men go dey wise.

i no go lie you bro THE THING SHOCK ME!


being a girl i always thought we are on the same page in almost everything - THIS REALLY SHOCK ME!


THE PERSON THAT SAID "YOU CAN NEVER KNOW WITH WOMEN" - THAT PERSON DESERVE A NOBEL

obiekunie2:



i no go lie you bro THE THING SHOCK ME!


being a girl i always thought we are on the same page in almost everything - THIS REALLY SHOCK ME!


THE PERSON THAT SAID "YOU CAN NEVER KNOW WITH WOMEN - THAT PERSON DESERVE A NOBEL"

Thank God for the oyinbo woman.

Just calm down bro so that you can think properly. Don't say much or do much for now.

serious O!
Love na scam. Real men wey sabi no dey dull.

No woman truly loves the stranger forced on her by the societal norm as husband other than for procreation.

Women can only love/trust their DNA carrier.
As husband you have 0% of your wife DNA.
The children have 50% while her siblings have 100%

Think about it....!

TooMuchStuff:
serious O!
Love na scam. Real men wey sabi no dey dull.

No woman truly loves the stranger forced on her by the societal norm as husband other than for procreation.

Women can only love/trust their DNA carrier.
As husband you have 0% of your wife DNA.
The children have 50% while her siblings have 100%

Think about it....!

Something to think about indeed...

Lol, sometime ago, we were on a medical outreach and I observed something somewhat similar. Most of the women requested that we give them meds (anthelmintics and antimalarials) to take home to their kids, while the men were requesting for their wives.

E shock me.

yomi007k:
Na small small men go dey wise.

I don't see anything wrong using your wife who has kids for you as next of kin so far your children aren't old enough to sign and run some affairs.

What I feel is wrong a wife complaining about not being used as next of kin or the husband worried as to why the wife isn't using him as the next of kin..

KevinDein:
Lol, sometime ago, we were on a medical outreach and I observed something somewhat similar. Most of the women requested that we give them meds (anthelmintics and antimalarials) to take home to their kids, while the men were requesting for their wives.

It's simple. Men by nature are providers and protectors.
And what do men get at the end of the day? Nagging from wife and children who thinks you've not done enough

TooMuchStuff:
serious O!
Love na scam. Real men wey sabi no dey dull.

No woman truly loves the stranger forced on her by the societal norm as husband other than for procreation.

Women can only love/trust their DNA carrier.
As husband you have 0% of your wife DNA.
The children have 50% while her siblings have 100%

Think about it....!

@bold:

Are you suggesting that women would love their siblings more than their kids?

Oga, go and re-do your analysis.

The reasons for the OP:

1. When men really love, they love deeper than women;

2. The belief that husbands die before wives;

3. The belief that the NOK is the benefiary hence the properties should not fall into the hands of the husband's family;

4. As a form of protection for the kids;

5. The wife's individual reason;

6. For wives who use siblings or parents, not updating the NOK officially;

7. Men are natural provides which ties into point 3. So they make their wives NOK as another means of provision and protection.

obiekunie2:
there was a topic i saw this morning on NL on how a lady who works at some kind of registry said that 99.9% of women dont use their husbands as next of kin but 90% of men use their wife as next of kin!

then something hit me! i use my wife as next of kin in my banking and financial activities which involves quite some large amount - who does she use in hers?

i decided to ask her!

oboy! the answer shock me!

her reasons even shock me more!




GO FIND OUT WHO YOUR WIFE IS USING FOR NEXT OF KIN - BRO! THE ANSWER WILL SHOCK YOU!

AND I WILL BET YOU THAT IT WILL NEVER EVER BE YOU!

Oga nor vex.

Sometimes, people do things as robots or 'that's how it has been' without thinking of their unique circumstances.

bukatyne:


Oga nor vex.

Sometimes, people do things as robots or 'that's how it has been' without thinking of their unique circumstances.

This is off topic

I want you to know i respect your views on here alot

Don't relent in your efforts to restore sense in the minds of people as you've been doing, sanity is needed and you've dished out alot of it

Voices like yours are needed as an antidote to obscene ones that are around today

Have a good day

It is right to marry one's true best friend and it settles all these matters. In reality, using a husband as next of kin is the right thing to do but women generally assume that if they die, he would own all their property and still marry another wife or spend it on another woman. on the other hand, a man knows that a normal woman would take care of her children first even if they end up remarrying after their husband dies. It is more common for men to cheats woman than for a woman to cheat a man. If a man does not use his wife as next of kin, his family can cheat his wife but it is rare for a wife's family to try to inherit her property after she died if she is survived by a husband.

When I was married, I used my husband as my next of kin only because he would kill me if I did not and he would surely go out of his way to find out. He used me as his next of kin only because he had no educated close family member and is enemies with the educated brother. He also trusted me so much that I am not the type to squander anything if he should die and high possibility that I would not remarry. Even though we both used each other as next of kin, it was for the wrong reasons.

TooMuchStuff:
serious O!
Love na scam. Real men wey sabi no dey dull.

No woman truly loves the stranger forced on her by the societal norm as husband other than for procreation.

Women can only love/trust their DNA carrier.
As husband you have 0% of your wife DNA.
The children have 50% while her siblings have 100%

Think about it....!

this is confirmed thinking!

This is something you both should've sat down to discuss together as husband and wife early on in your marriage.
Nonetheless, she should've been transparent enough to tell you she had decided to user her sister as her NOK, w/o you asking.

Chiquitq:
It is right to marry one's true best friend and it settles all these matters. In reality, using a husband as next of kin is the right thing to do but women generally assume that if they die, he would own all their property and still marry another wife or spend it on another woman. on the other hand, a man knows that a normal woman would take care of her children first even if they end up remarrying after their husband dies. It is more common for men to cheats woman than for a woman to cheat a man. If a man does not use his wife as next of kin, his family can cheat his wife but it is rare for a wife's family to try to inherit her property after she died if she is survived by a husband.

When I was married, I used my husband as my next of kin only because he would kill me if I did not and he would surely go out of his way to find out. He used me as his next of kin only because he had no educated close family member and is enemies with the educated brother. He also trusted me so much that I am not the type to squander anything if he should die and high possibility that I would not remarry. Even though we both used each other as next of kin, it was for the wrong reasons.

@bold:

Hmmmmmm

Another angle.

Ayaaz:


This is off topic

I want you to know i respect your views on here alot

Don't relent in your efforts to restore sense in the minds of people as you've been doing, sanity is needed and you've dished out alot of it

Voices like yours are needed as an antidote to obscene ones that are around today

Have a good day

Thanks alot .

I appreciate.

She never forced you to be her next of kin. Moreover before she married you, she was using another person as her next of kin. It may not even have occurred to her that using her spouse as her next of kin is very important.

Sit down and discuss it about her. But there shouldn't be a big issue about who and who is a signatory as next of kin

obiekunie2:
there was a topic i saw this morning on NL on how a lady who works at some kind of registry said that 99.9% of women dont use their husbands as next of kin but 90% of men use their wife as next of kin!

then something hit me! i use my wife as next of kin in my banking and financial activities which involves quite some large amount - who does she use in hers?

i decided to ask her!

oboy! the answer shock me!

her reasons even shock me more!




GO FIND OUT WHO YOUR WIFE IS USING FOR NEXT OF KIN - BRO! THE ANSWER WILL SHOCK YOU!

AND I WILL BET YOU THAT IT WILL NEVER EVER BE YOU!

Unfortunately this just shows how little you know about your wife.

Are you sure you are married?

Praxis758:
Such union is not a marital but conditional incase of any eventuality. The world will continue to see surge in such marital aberration because that's what the society promotes.

Its just unfortunate.

obiekunie2:



i no go lie you bro THE THING SHOCK ME!


being a girl i always thought we are on the same page in almost everything - THIS REALLY SHOCK ME!


THE PERSON THAT SAID "YOU CAN NEVER KNOW WITH WOMEN - THAT PERSON DESERVE A NOBEL"

The bolded,
That saying is for beta men or simps. Men who have refused to understand the true nature of women and safeguard against it.

bukatyne:
The reasons for the OP:

1. When men really love, they love deeper than women;

2. The belief that husbands die before wives;

3. The belief that the NOK is the benefiary hence the properties should not fall into the hands of the husband's family;

4. As a form of protection for the kids;

5. The wife's individual reason;

6. For wives who use siblings or parents, not updating the NOK officially;

7. Men are natural provides which ties into point 3. So they make their wives NOK as another means of provision and protection.

This is probably the first time i dont agree with you at all.

angelfallz:


Unfortunately this just shows how little you know about your wife.

Are you sure you are married?

bros!

idont even understand your point!

are u claiming you know your wife thru and thru??

see dont get me wrong - i know women and their mischievous ways in general, am just saying that i didn't know my wife will still feel its better she uses our son or her sister for next of kin.

not that it means anything to me but i felt there is no need using reverse psychology for such unnecessary thing despite the fact tht i use her as my next of kin for most of my finances.

obiekunie2:


bros!

idont even understand your point!

are u claiming you know your wife thru and thru??

see dont get me wrong - i know women and their mischievous ways in general, am just saying that i didn't know my wife will still feel its better she uses our son or her sister for next of kin.

not that it means anything to me but i felt there is no need using reverse psychology for such unnecessary thing despite the fact tht i use her as my next of kin for most of my finances.

the bolded,
my brother this something you both should have discussed. thats where i am coming from.

KevinDein:
Lol, sometime ago, we were on a medical outreach and I observed something somewhat similar. Most of the women requested that we give them meds (anthelmintics and antimalarials) to take home to their kids, while the men were requesting for their wives.

E shock me.

Lol....

If you understand women, nothing will catch you off guard.

Majority of women love you for what you can provide not really for who you are. Its nature.

The true test of a good wife is in old age, when you are vulnerable and probabaly retired. This is the time you are discardable as a man.

My appeal is to Men.

Please take care of yourself, health and enjoy your life while you have it. Leave with no regret. Let nothing suprise you about women, it is what it is.

This one eye just they open.

obiekunie2:
there was a topic i saw this morning on NL on how a lady who works at some kind of registry said that 99.9% of women dont use their husbands as next of kin but 90% of men use their wife as next of kin!

then something hit me! i use my wife as next of kin in my banking and financial activities which involves quite some large amount - who does she use in hers?

i decided to ask her!

oboy! the answer shock me!

her reasons even shock me more!




GO FIND OUT WHO YOUR WIFE IS USING FOR NEXT OF KIN - BRO! THE ANSWER WILL SHOCK YOU!

AND I WILL BET YOU THAT IT WILL NEVER EVER BE YOU!

I work in an industry that gives me access to see who people use as their next of kin as well as their beneficiary. And out of 100 women, only about 2 used their husband as next of kin. The rest used their mother and siblings.

I was working on a financial investment for my wife and kids. When i got to the next of kin part, i asked wifey who i should use as her next of kin, she ssid, her younger sister. To say i was shocked was an understatement.
I clearly told her that i won't fund an investment that her family members would be used as beneficiary, that she should go invest her own money and use whomever she deem fit as her beneficiary, that my investments are for my immediate family.

99% of women are illogical beings and unpredictable