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Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by midehill(m): 11:29pm On Oct 03, 2020
Dear guys,

I humble write to you all. I am sure some of you will go against me and some of you will surely support me. Anywhich way, I got to say what is on my mind.

Before I start, pardon me for my use of words, I am not perfect.

I humbly beseech my humble men to stop deceiving women mainly because you want to sex her. If you eventually have your way with her, what did you gain. Absolutely nothing. You only enjoyed it when you are doing it but after the deed is done, you feel so tired and empty.

Most men have loose it because they want to have their ways with the girls... The reason why most guys does this is because maybe the girl is sexy, that is having a big boobs and a gorgeous ass with a beautiful face. But I tell you, all this are just materials things because when you eventually reach there, you will realise all this things are just vanity.

Most men have married wrong wives just because they were deceived with the ladies structures which is having a sexy body features, beautiful face and a cool voice. I am telling you, so many men married their partner based on this assertions.

After some years or months into the marriage, they begin to see that they made the wrong choice because the wife is no longer cute like before again, no longer sexy also like before again. Even though she is still sexy, there will come a day when the solid breast will fall. When her beautiful face will become wringle, when her cool voice will be coarsed.

So men, before you marry any lady, ensure you pray about it earnestly. I know no one is perfect but at least when you pray about it, you receive directions from the spiritual sides. Nowadays people just jump into marriage without doing any courtship, without getting to discuss together things they can accept and things they can't.

After getting into the marriage, they will now be maltreating their wives by not taking care of them, by not paying school fees, by not paying house rents, by becoming totally irresponsible.

Some even beats their wives, some shouts on their children, some comes late at home, some run away from their wives when thy are pregnant. Though I know some women too are terrible but we dont have to pay evil with evil.

Let me summarize what I am trying to pass across below:

--- when we maltreat our wives, we are hurting ourselves also in one or the other because when we do this, we are hurting another guy brother, mother, sister, child which is the wife you married.

What I am saying here is your wife is either any of this, (a wife to a guy, a child to guy, an elder sister to a guy, a junior sister to a guy. So When we hurts her or maltreat her or start coming home late, we are also hurting ourselves as the male species on the long run) I hope you grab my point.

--- Dear men, are you finding your wife unattractive, this is what you should do. Take her to get new clothes, the ones that turns you on, take her to a makeup shop, let them make her up for you... Make her happy and give her peace of mind and you will see your wife very attractive to you once again.

--- Men, don't act like a weakling in your home... Always be in charge and also give her a chance to say her mind also...


Dear guys, please let us stop hurting women or deceiving them. If you know you don't love her, please avoid her, don't engage with her.

If you love her, don't tell her yet, make friends with her to be able to know who she is exactly. Then this will let you know if you want to stay with her or not.

Guys, so tell me why are you hurting your wives or girlfriends, why are you maltreating them...
Let's discuss

Kind regards!!!

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Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by padi94(m): 11:37pm On Oct 03, 2020
Booked
Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by padi94(m): 11:38pm On Oct 03, 2020
Me buying two plots
Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by TonyeBarcanista(m): 11:44pm On Oct 03, 2020
You have spoken well
Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by crackhaus: 12:54am On Oct 04, 2020
A splendid write-up, quite selfless and a good read.

But believe me when I tell you that women, these beautiful creatures called women, even they themselves desire to be deceived and led on – whether they understand this about themselves, is another matter entirely.

Most of them (especially those of a certain generation today) don't value the real things, the little things, the sublime things, the truthful things – these are not the stimuli that gets their romance reservoir overflowing.
As a matter of fact, hit them with hard facts about themselves and the world, it will probably piss them off.

Instant gratification is a woman's utmost desire, most don't have the spirit/patience for delayed gratification – and it's solely for this reason they get easily deceived by men who simply know what to say/do.
You claim that men in bad marriages were deceived by a sexy woman's curves. Well did you stop to think that maybe it was the woman who deceived herself into believing she was actually sexy just because a man who hid his own flaws perfectly, told her so?

There is a fantasy – the idea of a prince charming, the 'Diego', the man who gets/brings her anything she wants whenever she wants it, the man who doesn't let a single frown appear on her face... These are the dreams of most women.
And guess what? Men who can act/pretend to be all of that for however long a time it takes to bed/marry a woman, are never in short supply.

We must not forget, it's not only men who are guilty of all this. On the other side of the aisle, there are also women who mastered game and are also deceiving men... they only show their true colours much later in the relationship/marriage.

The only reason it seems like more of the victims are women, is because females by nature know how to garner sympathy.
Most men who are victims would rather suck it up, count their losses, and move on quickly to the next available pucci without involving a community.



Anyhow... like I stated at the beginning, your write-up was splendid and a good read.

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Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by midehill(m): 4:13pm On Oct 04, 2020
crackhaus:
A splendid write-up, quite selfless and a good read.

But believe me when I tell you that women, these beautiful creatures called women, even they themselves desire to be deceived and led on – whether they understand this about themselves, is another matter entirely.

Most of them (especially those of a certain generation today) don't value the real things, the little things, the sublime things, the truthful things – these are not the stimuli that gets their romance reservoir overflowing.
As a matter of fact, hit them with hard facts about themselves and the world, it will probably piss them off.

Instant gratification is a woman's utmost desire, most don't have the spirit/patience for delayed gratification – and it's solely for this reason they get easily deceived by men who simply know what to say/do.
You claim that men in bad marriages were deceived by a sexy woman's curves. Well did you stop to think that maybe it was the woman who deceived herself into believing she was actually sexy just because a man who hid his own flaws perfectly, told her so?

There is a fantasy – the idea of a prince charming, the 'Diego', the man who gets/brings her anything she wants whenever she wants it, the man who doesn't let a single frown appear on her face... These are the dreams of most women.
And guess what? Men who can act/pretend to be all of that for however long a time it takes to bed/marry a woman, are never in short supply.

We must not forget, it's not only men who are guilty of all this. On the other side of the aisle, there are also women who mastered game and are also deceiving men... they only show their true colours much later in the relationship/marriage.

The only reason it seems like more of the victims are women, is because females by nature know how to garner sympathy.
Most men who are victims would rather suck it up, count their losses, and move on quickly to the next available pucci without involving a community.



Anyhow... like I stated at the beginning, your write-up was splendid and a good read.


You said it all

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Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by RightToReject(m): 5:33pm On Oct 04, 2020
The truth is that only conscientious - humble and selfless - women deserve honest and queenly treatment as women, wives, and girlfriends. So, they're the ones I'll always hold their brief.

However, opportunistic and conceited/wannabe woke women - haughty and disingenuous or just the disingenuous ones - the pleasure someone like me derives subjecting them to emotional and mental stress or having them doing everything possible to get back at me after giving them a dose of their medicine remains unquantifiable.

Peace is only priceless when obtained within the confines of mutual goodness. Say no to servility. Only a weak man will hurt an ethically sound woman; of course, only a weak man too will encourage or be at the mercy of an unethical woman.

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Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by bukatyne(f): 5:44pm On Oct 04, 2020
midehill:
Dear guys,

I humble write to you all. I am sure some of you will go against me and some of you will surely support me. Anywhich way, I got to say what is on my mind.

Before I start, pardon me for my use of words, I am not perfect.

I humbly beseech my humble men to stop deceiving women mainly because you want to sex her. If you eventually have your way with her, what did you gain. Absolutely nothing. You only enjoyed it when you are doing it but after the deed is done, you feel so tired and empty.

Most men have loose it because they want to have their ways with the girls... The reason why most guys does this is because maybe the girl is sexy, that is having a big boobs and a gorgeous ass with a beautiful face. But I tell you, all this are just materials things because when you eventually reach there, you will realise all this things are just vanity.

Most men have married wrong wives just because they were deceived with the ladies structures which is having a sexy body features, beautiful face and a cool voice. I am telling you, so many men married their partner based on this assertions.

After some years or months into the marriage, they begin to see that they made the wrong choice because the wife is no longer cute like before again, no longer sexy also like before again. Even though she is still sexy, there will come a day when the solid breast will fall. When her beautiful face will become wringle, when her cool voice will be coarsed.

So men, before you marry any lady, ensure you pray about it earnestly. I know no one is perfect but at least when you pray about it, you receive directions from the spiritual sides. Nowadays people just jump into marriage without doing any courtship, without getting to discuss together things they can accept and things they can't.

After getting into the marriage, they will now be maltreating their wives by not taking care of them, by not paying school fees, by not paying house rents, by becoming totally irresponsible.

Some even beats their wives, some shouts on their children, some comes late at home, some run away from their wives when thy are pregnant. Though I know some women too are terrible but we dont have to pay evil with evil.

Let me summarize what I am trying to pass across below:

--- when we maltreat our wives, we are hurting ourselves also in one or the other because when we do this, we are hurting another guy brother, mother, sister, child which is the wife you married.

What I am saying here is your wife is either any of this, (a wife to a guy, a child to guy, an elder sister to a guy, a junior sister to a guy. So When we hurts her or maltreat her or start coming home late, we are also hurting ourselves as the male species on the long run) I hope you grab my point.

--- Dear men, are you finding your wife unattractive, this is what you should do. Take her to get new clothes, the ones that turns you on, take her to a makeup shop, let them make her up for you... Make her happy and give her peace of mind and you will see your wife very attractive to you once again.

--- Men, don't act like a weakling in your home... Always be in charge and also give her a chance to say her mind also...


Dear guys, please let us stop hurting women or deceiving them. If you know you don't love her, please avoid her, don't engage with her.

If you love her, don't tell her yet, make friends with her to be able to know who she is exactly. Then this will let you know if you want to stay with her or not.

Guys, so tell me why are you hurting your wives or girlfriends, why are you maltreating them...
Let's discuss

Kind regards!!!


Interesting write up.

From a fresh angle: when you maltreat a woman, she is somehow connected to a guy, your G.

We need more of this.

@OP: more inspiration where this came from.

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Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by naija4life247: 5:46pm On Oct 04, 2020
We the executive members if the Yoruba Demons Association (YODA) and the Sweet Boys Association (SBA) are disappointed in the OP
Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by midehill(m): 9:37pm On Oct 04, 2020
naija4life247:
We the executive members if the Yoruba Demons Association (YODA) and the Sweet Boys Association (SBA) are disappointed in the OP

Itz allowed... The article is not meant to please u
Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by bukatyne(f): 9:48pm On Oct 04, 2020
midehill:


Itz allowed... The article is not meant to please u

grin
Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by ImaIma1(f): 9:55pm On Oct 04, 2020
Op, some of them can't help it.

Some do it as a way of getting their pound of flesh after being hurt or deceived too. While some just feel they are playing smart.

Either way, you made valid points.
Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by midehill(m): 11:06pm On Oct 04, 2020
bukatyne:


grin
Art thou a girl?
Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by cassyrooy(m): 11:35pm On Oct 04, 2020
I love this, sincerely, we need to phase out the old ways of treating women and be better men to them because our mothers, sisters, daughters et al deserves our best too.

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Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by bukatyne(f): 11:58pm On Oct 04, 2020
[quote author=midehill post=94615582][/quote]

Yep!

My husband's baby girl kiss
Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by midehill(m): 11:30am On Oct 05, 2020
bukatyne:


Yep!

My husband's baby girl kiss

Married?
Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by midehill(m): 11:31am On Oct 05, 2020
cassyrooy:
I love this, sincerely, we need to phase out the old ways of treating women and be better men to them because our mothers, sisters, daughters et al deserves our best too.

You said it all bro... We end up hurting ourselves if we continue to do this

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Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by MissJoy29(f): 9:51pm On Oct 28, 2020
cassyrooy:
I love this, sincerely, we need to phase out the old ways of treating women and be better men to them because our mothers, sisters, daughters et al deserves our best too.
Cassy love...are you safe? Hope you are good. My phone is bad
Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by Janosky: 10:07pm On Oct 28, 2020
midehill:
Dear guys,

I humble write to you all. I am sure some of you will go against me and some of you will surely support me. Anywhich way, I got to say what is on my mind.

Before I start, pardon me for my use of words, I am not perfect.

I humbly beseech my humble men to stop deceiving women mainly because you want to sex her. If you eventually have your way with her, what did you gain. Absolutely nothing. You only enjoyed it when you are doing it but after the deed is done, you feel so tired and empty.

Most men have loose it because they want to have their ways with the girls... The reason why most guys does this is because maybe the girl is sexy, that is having a big boobs and a gorgeous ass with a beautiful face. But I tell you, all this are just materials things because when you eventually reach there, you will realise all this things are just vanity.

Most men have married wrong wives just because they were deceived with the ladies structures which is having a sexy body features, beautiful face and a cool voice. I am telling you, so many men married their partner based on this assertions.

After some years or months into the marriage, they begin to see that they made the wrong choice because the wife is no longer cute like before again, no longer sexy also like before again. Even though she is still sexy, there will come a day when the solid breast will fall. When her beautiful face will become wringle, when her cool voice will be coarsed
.

So men, before you marry any lady, ensure you pray about it earnestly. I know no one is perfect but at least when you pray about it, you receive directions from the spiritual sides. Nowadays people just jump into marriage without doing any courtship, without getting to discuss together things they can accept and things they can't.

After getting into the marriage, they will now be maltreating their wives by not taking care of them, by not paying school fees, by not paying house rents, by becoming totally irresponsible.

Some even beats their wives, some shouts on their children, some comes late at home, some run away from their wives when thy are pregnant. Though I know some women too are terrible but we dont have to pay evil with evil.

Let me summarize what I am trying to pass across below:

--- when we maltreat our wives, we are hurting ourselves also in one or the other because when we do this, we are hurting another guy brother, mother, sister, child which is the wife you married.

What I am saying here is your wife is either any of this, (a wife to a guy, a child to guy, an elder sister to a guy, a junior sister to a guy. So When we hurts her or maltreat her or start coming home late, we are also hurting ourselves as the male species on the long run) I hope you grab my point.

--- Dear men, are you finding your wife unattractive, this is what you should do. Take her to get new clothes, the ones that turns you on, take her to a makeup shop, let them make her up for you... Make her happy and give her peace of mind and you will see your wife very attractive to you once again.

--- Men, don't act like a weakling in your home... Always be in charge and also give her a chance to say her mind also...


Dear guys, please let us stop hurting women or deceiving them. If you know you don't love her, please avoid her, don't engage with her.

If you love her, don't tell her yet, make friends with her to be able to know who she is exactly. Then this will let you know if you want to stay with her or not.

Guys, so tell me why are you hurting your wives or girlfriends, why are you maltreating them...
Let's discuss

Kind regards!!!


The bolded is very honest and straight forward submission.

The woman of Proverbs chapter 31 is the marriage mate a servant of the true God, Jehovah, should pray for.

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Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by cassyrooy(m): 6:42pm On Nov 15, 2020
MissJoy29:

Cassy love...are you safe? Hope you are good. My phone is bad
Uto'm, I am fine now!

Yeah, I'm doing great dear. So sorry about your phone.

How are you doing yourself?
Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by MissJoy29(f): 6:55pm On Nov 23, 2020
cassyrooy:
Uto'm, I am fine now!

Yeah, I'm doing great dear. So sorry about your phone.

How are you doing yourself?
Baby m...thanks

I'm ok now. It's ok.
Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by tobechi74: 8:10pm On Nov 23, 2020
midehill:
Dear guys,

I humble write to you all. I am sure some of you will go against me and some of you will surely support me. Anywhich way, I got to say what is on my mind.

Before I start, pardon me for my use of words, I am not perfect.

I humbly beseech my humble men to stop deceiving women mainly because you want to sex her. If you eventually have your way with her, what did you gain. Absolutely nothing. You only enjoyed it when you are doing it but after the deed is done, you feel so tired and empty.

Most men have loose it because they want to have their ways with the girls... The reason why most guys does this is because maybe the girl is sexy, that is having a big boobs and a gorgeous ass with a beautiful face. But I tell you, all this are just materials things because when you eventually reach there, you will realise all this things are just vanity.

Most men have married wrong wives just because they were deceived with the ladies structures which is having a sexy body features, beautiful face and a cool voice. I am telling you, so many men married their partner based on this assertions.

After some years or months into the marriage, they begin to see that they made the wrong choice because the wife is no longer cute like before again, no longer sexy also like before again. Even though she is still sexy, there will come a day when the solid breast will fall. When her beautiful face will become wringle, when her cool voice will be coarsed.

So men, before you marry any lady, ensure you pray about it earnestly. I know no one is perfect but at least when you pray about it, you receive directions from the spiritual sides. Nowadays people just jump into marriage without doing any courtship, without getting to discuss together things they can accept and things they can't.

After getting into the marriage, they will now be maltreating their wives by not taking care of them, by not paying school fees, by not paying house rents, by becoming totally irresponsible.

Some even beats their wives, some shouts on their children, some comes late at home, some run away from their wives when thy are pregnant. Though I know some women too are terrible but we dont have to pay evil with evil.

Let me summarize what I am trying to pass across below:

--- when we maltreat our wives, we are hurting ourselves also in one or the other because when we do this, we are hurting another guy brother, mother, sister, child which is the wife you married.

What I am saying here is your wife is either any of this, (a wife to a guy, a child to guy, an elder sister to a guy, a junior sister to a guy. So When we hurts her or maltreat her or start coming home late, we are also hurting ourselves as the male species on the long run) I hope you grab my point.

--- Dear men, are you finding your wife unattractive, this is what you should do. Take her to get new clothes, the ones that turns you on, take her to a makeup shop, let them make her up for you... Make her happy and give her peace of mind and you will see your wife very attractive to you once again.

--- Men, don't act like a weakling in your home... Always be in charge and also give her a chance to say her mind also...


Dear guys, please let us stop hurting women or deceiving them. If you know you don't love her, please avoid her, don't engage with her.

If you love her, don't tell her yet, make friends with her to be able to know who she is exactly. Then this will let you know if you want to stay with her or not.

Guys, so tell me why are you hurting your wives or girlfriends, why are you maltreating them...
Let's discuss

Kind regards!!!

Best advice I have read on nairaland in a long run, you deserve a packet of unadulterated, undilluted, condom for this.

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Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by midehill(m): 11:09pm On Nov 23, 2020
tobechi74:

Best advice I have read on nairaland in a long run, you deserve a packet of unadulterated, undilluted, condom for this.

Tnkz man
Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by cassyrooy(m): 3:53pm On Nov 26, 2020
MissJoy29:

Baby m...thanks

I'm ok now. It's ok.
That's really good to hear.

Just keep holding on for me o, things are going to pave way soon enough.
Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by Nobody: 7:06am On Nov 27, 2020
Op, bless you. You are one in a million.

Most men of this generation are after beauty and nice body stucture and they Marry based on that forgetting a time will come when those things will depreciate and then they realize no solid foundation holding the marriage.

Let them keep deceiving themselves. Marriage is an eye opener.
Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by MissJoy29(f): 4:07pm On Nov 27, 2020
cassyrooy:
That's really good to hear.

Just keep holding on for me o, things are going to pave way soon enough.
I believe you hun...thanks!
Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by cassyrooy(m): 6:28pm On Nov 27, 2020
MissJoy29:

I believe you hun...thanks!
I actually read this in your voice... wink wink

I'm still awaiting for you to send that “thing”.
Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by SAMBARRY: 6:57pm On Nov 27, 2020
grin

Abi one hanty has 419 this broda grin

Because when dog bites man,that's not news but when man bites dog we suppose check wetin dey sup grin


Sorosoke broda what exactly are you on about wink grin


Na so Majid Micheal, Ramsey Noah, Desmond Elliot etc use take run the Nollywood girls.this your scope don expire grin it's so 1999 grin
Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by MissJoy29(f): 9:51pm On Nov 27, 2020
cassyrooy:
I actually read this in your voice... wink wink

I'm still awaiting for you to send that “thing”.
Lol..& how did it sound?

I will send it dearie
Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by cassyrooy(m): 11:29pm On Nov 27, 2020
MissJoy29:

Lol..& how did it sound?

I will send it dearie
It felt so touching I got weak in the knees, you know that type you used on me on Wednesday shebi? Naim I use read. grin grin
Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by Baueress: 9:05am On Nov 29, 2020
So you don turn male.
Re: Men... We Need To Stop This!!! by RedPanthar: 11:42am On Dec 11, 2020
Nice piece


Cc Thattallgirl

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