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If my little understanding of Igbo culture serves me right, then, it amounts to grave self injury for a young Igbo man to pour away the palm wine given to him by his bride, during their traditional wedding.


Apart from the fact that such act stems from a place of ignorance and self degradation, pouring away the palm wine when it's presented to you by your wife signals rejection. It means that you have rejected the woman who gave you the drink. It means that you have rejected the marriage.

Let me not sound overly superstitious by delving into the implications of this act on the marriage. Let me just keep it at the fore, where everyone can understand the issue on the peripheral level.

Nobody is forcing you to do a traditional wedding. Nobody at all. You can do a Court wedding. You can do the white mans traditional wedding where you wear white wedding gown and suit in the church. You can do all these without doing your own traditional wedding. Nobody will talk or say anything. But the moment you opt to do the Igbo traditional wedding, it is expected of you to do it right by following the basic traditional laid down rules.

Don't use your hand to bring curse to your marriage out of ignorance.

If somebody wants to poison you on your wedding day, they can do so via many means. Through the garden eggs you'll eat. Through the bottled water you'll drink. Through the food. Through other means too.

The idea that a groom can be poisoned only through the palm wine his wife gives to him, is not steeped in reality or fact, but..

https://www.ojamedia.com/2020/11/how-igbo-couples-curse-their-marriage.html

People started pouring it away amd even sometimes d bride presents an empty cup due to incidences of the groom being poisoned through such palmwines by some evil village pple.

And about the "Nobody is forcing you to do traditional wedding..." the culture mandates youbdo traditional wedding else your marriage to the bride is not cemented by the bride's kinsmen amd to them the marriage is null and void.



#Better to be safe than sorry

MaziSpartan:
If my little understanding of Igbo culture serves me right, then, it amounts to grave self injury for a young Igbo man to pour away the palm wine given to him by his bride, during their traditional wedding.


Apart from the fact that such act stems from a place of ignorance and self degradation, pouring away the palm wine when it's presented to you by your wife signals rejection. It means that you have rejected the woman who gave you the drink. It means that you have rejected the marriage.

Let me not sound overly superstitious by delving into the implications of this act on the marriage. Let me just keep it at the fore, where everyone can understand the issue on the peripheral level.

Nobody is forcing you to do a traditional wedding. Nobody at all. You can do a Court wedding. You can do the white mans traditional wedding where you wear white wedding gown and suit in the church. You can do all these without doing your own traditional wedding. Nobody will talk or say anything. But the moment you opt to do the Igbo traditional wedding, it is expected of you to do it right by following the basic traditional laid down rules.

Don't use your hand to bring curse to your marriage out of ignorance.

If somebody wants to poison you on your wedding day, they can do so via many means. Through the garden eggs you'll eat. Through the bottled water you'll drink. Through the food. Through other means too.

The idea that a groom can be poisoned only through the palm wine his wife gives to him, is not steeped in reality or fact, but..

https://www.ojamedia.com/2020/11/how-igbo-couples-curse-their-marriage.html

You can't poison water spiritually! As for the groom, drinking or pouring the palm wine given to him by his bride is his business.

dawnomike:
People started pouring it away amd even sometimes d bride presents an empty cup due to incidences of the groom being poisoned through such palmwines by some evil village pple.

And about the "Nobody is forcing you to do traditional wedding..." the culture mandates youbdo traditional wedding else your marriage to the bride is not cemented by the bride's kinsmen amd to them the marriage is null and void.



#Better to be safe than sorry

As the full article portrays, it is just mere superstition to think that the palm wine is the only way the groom can be poisoned! the writer argued that it was just a mere projection by nollywood that stuck

Here to learn.

God will punish the generalissimo of this country

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