₦airaland Forum

sowilli:
she says she is going to Supreme Court, yes she will face the music. It’s her right to go to court but does this show remorse of any kind. You no wan die but you fit kill. Violence is not particular to any gender. Woman this, man that does more harm in the end

Supreme court will rule against her still.

The case is too blatant.

Haba my brother tell them, men go soon die finish on top woman matter..

internationalman:
Men are not money grant to poorly raise women.

free2ryhme:
That a man is not tall does not mean he is short

since he's not tall like you said, then there's a probability of him been short.

Most Nigerian men are not raised right.

The training is focused on caging the ladies while the men are only trained on how to hustle

Mummymahdi:
Oga u better know that no woman is proud of maryam sanda, Ur comment is uncalled for here

I am entitled to my opinion Ma.
She (betty) and her likes never condemned Maryam.. Even Simi too.. but these idiots are opening their mouths to say trash coz this one it is a woman that is at the receiving end.. double standard..
Evil should be condemned irrespective of the gender that does it..
No society grows on sentiments .. No wonder Nigeria is backward..
A shame..

Claudiusdeux:
Well, the problem with beating is that it is under the law assault.

And the problem is, when you lose your temper far too many times, it can get you into trouble if you are an adult.

For example...the daughter of a friend of my aged parents was beaten by her husband, despite having three kids for him, and remaing faithful. Then they moved abroad, he beat her again, and a neigbour called the police without their knowledge.....

At the end of the day the guy wa s not prosecuted because the wife didn't press charges . To hgis credit he hasn't beaten her again and has worked on his marriage (They are still together).

As someone advised me when I was a very tempestuous youngster....if you hurt someone when you are angry, no one is going to ask you about how the anger came about...all they will see is 'You hurt someone'.

Good thing our laws don't work..you can't always interprete all beating as abuse. Some are for correction even with children. It's all about the intent. With the western laws almost all beating are considered abuse..which is a shame. I still maintain pain to a degree is functional. Just learn to apply the right dosage.

ABANGWABOI:
Let me just ASSUME that all you said is true.. Then Maryam now has the right to stab him to death abi ??

That's a nice strawman you have there. With a nice cap. But to answer your question....no.

Why couldn't she file for divorce and go her separate way ??

Because Nigerian society tends to look at divorce with one kind eye...and because she would lose status as a divorcee.

If the Young Man that was killed in cold blood is your brother.. would you write this disgusting epistle to support her ??

Your strawman has a nice coat. Must be that tailor in Lagos...

It seems you are an emotional fellow lacking cognitive thinking and logic ...
A shame..

Well, I did say that SANDA's case was blatant...meaning she is going to face the penalty because the case was so clear. She did commit murder.
So, where do you get the idea that I am defending her? Projection much?

As for Betty's comments.. I stand on my earlier opinion.. she is a demented clown.. partial and a bitter Nigerian feminist.. No cap..

[/quote]Well, you don't have to believe them femminists. I disagree with them too. BUT...you can take her advise about beating close to heart. Don't let any woman provoke you. Because assault can lead to serious injury, and as in the case o0f Sanda who could not control her emotions and anger....death.

She try every means to shift the blame to men but ended up blaming women entirely and indirectly at the end.

There are just too many badly raised men. There is too much concentration on women. This is why marriages of nowadays are an eye sore.

These species called women are the most self centred things that walk this planet earth, so all these loads of toxic, lazy,materialistic, greedy and manipulative populace of Nigerian women are properly raised? Chai men don hear am for this world..

Adakintroy:
Good thing our laws don't work..you can't always interprete all beating as abuse. Some are for correction even with children. It's all about the intent. With the western laws almost all beating are considered abuse..which is a shame. I still maintain pain to a degree is functional. Just learn to apply the right dosage.

Well, on the other hand, beating can lead to a bad end.

Like the Maryam Sanda case., She allowed her anger with her husband carry her to the bad place she is in now...(and she is in trobule. She is just using the courts to hold off the d day).

And the case with this Pius. He beat his wife, and his wife used the social media to her advantage. He would have been in a better place if he hadn't been hitting his wife.

Charlieluvboy:
since he's not tall like you said, then there's a probability of him been short.

You will never understand logic

Eriggs:
I support this. Cos marriage no be by force

But it is by force in arrewa land.

Claudiusdeux:
That's a nice strawman you have there. With a nice cap. But to answer your question....no.



Because Nigerian society tends to look at divorce with one kind eye...and because she would lose status as a divorcee.




Your strawman has a nice coat. Must be that tailor in Lagos...



Well, I did say that SANDA's case was blatant...meaning she is going to face the penalty because the case was so clear. She did commit murder.
So, where do you get the idea that I am defending her? Projection much?


Well, you don't have to believe them femminists. I disagree with them too. BUT...you can take her advise about beating close to heart. Don't let any woman provoke you. Because assault can lead to serious injury, and as in the case o0f Sanda who could not control her emotions and anger....death.

Well, Dude.. I criticized Betty cos she and her ilks including that fool (Simi) only speaks up when women suffer it and becomes mute when it is a woman that metes the same act on a man..
If you want to be a social critic then don't be biased.. Say what is right without fear or favour.. simple...
As for your advice to me.. personally even if I caught my woman in bed with a man in my home.. I won't lift a finger on her..
But I am ending the affair instantly..
The last lady that I caught in the act I just ended it.. not even an insult on her talk much a beating.. coz it is unnecessary .. I just checked my list and replaced her immeidiately.. No time..
My Motto is.. No one is irreplaceable.. and I do it without rancour or fisticuffs..

Claudiusdeux:
Well, on the other hand, beating can lead to a bad end.

Like the Maryam Sanda case., She allowed her anger with her husband carry her to the bad place she is in now...(and she is in trobule. She is just using the courts to hold off the d day).

And the case with this Pius. He beat his wife, and his wife used the social media to her advantage. He would have been in a better place if he hadn't been hitting his wife.

Notice I said beating to an extent is functional. I never said anyhow beating. The underline nature of being is hierachy and usefully dominance. Equality is not uselfull to anyone. Certain not in the most rationalize enviroment like baerucrcracy. Their are hierachies and ways of enforcing punishments..not necessarily body harm. The problem of modern marriage is the problem of clear leadership.

The man is allowed to lead only in finance and responsibilities. But when it come to decision making. He is equal to the woman. That is the problem with leftist dominated thoughts of the west. Good thing am an African man. No one school me..nature is my teacher.

internationalman:
Men are not money grant to poorly raise women.

Mumu as if some men are ain't poor too.
Learn from people's mistakes you won't.

free2ryhme:
You will never understand logic

there are three option he's either Tall, Average or Short since you've stated it that he isn't tall, there's a 50% chance of him been short.

Adakintroy:
Notice I said beating to an extent is functional. I never said anyhow beating. The underline nature of being is hierachy and usefully dominance. Equality is not uselfull to anyone. Certain not in the most rationalize enviroment like baerucrcracy. Their are hierachies and ways of enforcing punishments..not necessarily body harm. The problem of modern marriage is the problem of clear leadership.

The man is allowed to lead only in finance and responsibilities. But when it come to decision making. He is equal to the woman. That is the problem with leftist dominated thoughts of the west. Good thing am an African man. No one school me..nature is my teacher.

Well at some point you have to accept you can't beat an adult.

Besides I have met many African males who haven't beaten their wives. And they are still clearly in charge of their households.

Thing is, beating is wrong. If you are having issues with your wife, then either you didn't do due diligence in looking for the right kind of woman, or you are not ready to learn how to communicate properly in marriage .Or you have an issue with your temper, and acting in anger.

Pius kept on beating his wife. She kept quiet. Until it got to the point where she could not keep quiet any more.

I fault the way she placed the responsibility of raising a child solely on the mother. Both parents should be responsible for raising their children not just mothers only.

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BastardWike:
Rich elites are rushing after Igbo women like hot cakes. Benue first lady is Igbo. Ondo first lady is Igbo and the list goes on!

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Lawliet:
Most Nigerian men are not raised right.

The training is focused on caging the ladies while the men are only trained on how to hustle

and most Nigerian girls are trained to be money grabbing opportunistic ho"es that leech themselves to the men who's "Hussle" eventually paid off
The fault goes both ways

Claudiusdeux:
Well, Sanda's case was blatant...there were witnesses, there was even a police trail/report, and so much proof.

In this case, the man Pius admitted, on camera that he did beat up his wife.

Also, there were rumors that he was a womanizer too. Infact it was when the woman confronted him on his womanizing that led to his assaulting her.(And women , even the nice and submissive ones, don't like it when their husbands womanize. The first case of HIV i saw in my life was spread from a womanizing husband to his faithful and submissive wife. Wife fell sick first)

The best thing to do is to encourage your husband to always use protection.

Whether you like it or not the art of chasing women is here to stay

Lawliet:
Most Nigerian men are not raised right.

The training is focused on caging the ladies while the men are only trained on how to hustle

What is your bank account number?

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Womanizer:
The best thing to do is to encourage your husband to always use protection.

Oh not everyone uses or like protection by the way....plus it doesn't work all the time.

Whether you like it or not the art of chasing women is here to stay

Good then don't complain when women chase men too, and when their children call their parents out on their selfishness in being too busy having fun to cater for them.

Womanizer:
What is your bank account number?

Pm me

BastardWike:
Rich elites are rushing after Igbo women like hot cakes. Benue first lady is Igbo. Ondo first lady is Igbo and the list goes on!

The first Lady of Benue State is not Igbo.

omenka:
If anything should happen to that woman going forward, Ortom should be held responsible. That lady was bullied into reconciliation, which is the reason they had to make a public spectacle of the "reconciliation".

Marital issues of this magnitude arent resolved with the wave of a hand by someone who bears no familial relationship with the spouses. Ortom is just a governor and it ends there! The reason the woman accepted to appear publicly, feigning forgiveness and reconciliation is because of the person of Ortom, not because she truly feels that way. This is a case of abuse that transcends several years, its resolution cant be this simple.

Ortom is fantastic example of all a leader shouldnt be. He knows how to reconcile warring couples but cant resolve his issues with his first wife.

Pathetic.

In AY voice- You be correct person! That woman's facial expression affirms it.

Drinokrane:
Ondo State first lady Betty Anyanwu-Akeredolu has urged mothers to raise their sons to respect womanhood, Igbere TV reports.

Mrs Anyanwu-Akeredolu stated this on Tuesday via Twitter following news that Benue State Governor Samuel Ortom had reconciled Channels TV reporter Pius Angbo with his wife Ifeyinwa Angbo after she accused him of domestic violence throughout their six-year marriage.



https://twitter.com/floondo/status/1336194243489042433?s=20

In another tweet, she said:

https://twitter.com/floondo/status/1336195619682181122?s=20

News of the reconciliation has generated varied reactions from Nigerians on social media.

Madam, for your information, there is no amount of screaming, shouting and campaign against domestic violence that will bring it to an end. Not even the condemnation that is heaped on the man will deter others from towing the same path as long as women are continued to be brought up irresponsibly with false sense of entitlement.

Until Nigerian women stop demonising divorce (or at best separation), I cannot really pity a woman who stays with a husband who beats her especially if she is financially capable.

That said, the unemployment rate in Nigeria must be extremely high for elected officials and their wives to wade into citizens' marital affairs.