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Jodha:
Please come and advice this confused lots deceiving themselves with red pill...


Meanwhile check my signature ka bikonu...

NiRfreak:
This post is strictly directed to young guys who have spent between 0-5 years in marriage.

Kindly share your experiences for the bachelors to learn. These are what you should include

1. Your expectations before wedding
2. Your experiences with your significant other after wedding. It could be in any area.
3 Your view about marriage and women before wedding
4. Your current view of marriage/women having experienced btw 0-5 years of marriage.
5. Your advice to bachleors based on your experience.



Thanks for your honest advice. I believe your experiences and advice will go a long way. Thanks.

yazga:
Redpill are bunch of dimwits.

yazga:
Redpill are bunch of dimwits.

yazga:
1. Build my house, career and live large
2. Bitter, arguments over sex and money
3 Marriage is not for kids but Adults, most men appear like boss and lie among their friends but can't do half the things they tell their friends
4. Divorce is a big option and being a single mom is a very good option
5. if he doesn't smoke or drink, please run really far away even if does check well ooo because alcohol goes with women
Avoid religious men, they amount to nothing, if he raises his hand that that recipe for domestic violence. If he gambes so sorry, NFA is your case even your kids may drop out

yazga:
1. Build my house, career and live large
2. Bitter, arguments over sex and money
3 Marriage is not for kids but Adults, most men appear like boss and lie among their friends but can't do half the things they tell their friends
4. Divorce is a big option and being a single mom is a very good option
5. if he doesn't smoke or drink, please run really far away even if does check well ooo because alcohol goes with women
Avoid religious men, they amount to nothing, if he raises his hand that that recipe for domestic violence. If he gambes so sorry, NFA is your case even your kids may drop out

NiRfreak:
Expatiate more on the number 5.

yazga:
1. Build my house, career and live large
2. Bitter, arguments over sex and money
3 Marriage is not for kids but Adults, most men appear like boss and lie among their friends but can't do half the things they tell their friends
4. Divorce is a big option and being a single mom is a very good option
5. if he doesn't smoke or drink, please run really far away even if does check well ooo because alcohol goes with women
Avoid religious men, they amount to nothing, if he raises his hand that that recipe for domestic violence. If he gambes so sorry, NFA is your case even your kids may drop out

cooooooks:
Some of us are worried that our religiousness will affect our chances of marrying a Nigerian.

1 serious relationship has already ended because of this issue.

cooooooks:
Some of us are worried that our religionlessness will affect our chances of marrying a Nigerian.

1 serious relationship has already ended because of this issue.

NiRfreak:
Maybe you soften religion..cos women are capable of both acting religious and irreligious at thesame time, depending on circumstances

cooooooks:
I don't understand your statement.

Please explain.

babakb:
Hmmmm, where do I start from....

My Expectations
I expected 100% loyalty from my wife, I am willing to pay all the bill as long as she stays loyal.

My Experience
I found out that her elder siblings wanted the same loyalty as me, they wanted to control her but I resisted, she was afraid to defy them probably because she was only 22 years when we got married, but I made sure she understood that she must be 100% loyal to me, 5 years down the line she overcome the fear and she is mine 100%.

My Views Before Marriage
Marriage gives you focus and happiness, Your wife creates a serene and peaceful atmosphere at home all the time.

My Views Post Marriage
Marriage is a blessing if you marry the right one, being a father makes me appreciate my parents more because I'm now parenting, another name for marriage is paying Bills but like I said I don't mind paying it all alone if my wife keep to my standards.
As for my spouse I realised she had a lot of growing up to do, my main likes in a spouse are intact so the love is still flowing, she is not superstitious, she is faithful, loyal, has good manners and can cook very well so I will bear with her short comings while she improves.

Advice to Bachelors
Don't marry a whoore, these days whoores strip and do 3soms, smoke weed and get drunk, they hate the kitchen and are too extravagant.
That decent girl is still your best option, ensure she is well mannered, don't be deceived by people that will tell you that decent girls are worst.
EARN A LIVING as in I can't over emphasize this.
Ensure you have something going on all the time, either a job or business.

NiRfreak:
You should be less religious when dealing with women in the bedroom or during date

cooooooks:
I said religionlessness.

I am not religious. I don't believe in any gods. -_-

NiRfreak:
oh...I misread you...in that case don't scare those babes with extreme atheism...just play it cool and siftt..and don't talk abt religion...it's not hard

cooooooks:
How old are you?
You don't seem to read to understand.

Whiteshield:
1. Your expectations before wedding
I expected to live happily, build my career and build a family. I expected a family of love, bliss and happiness.

2. Your experiences with your significant other after wedding. It could be in any area.
Constant friction, hostility, occasional happiness and I've withdrawn into my shell. Developed severe hypertension and grey hair under 2 years of marriage.

3 Your view about marriage and women before wedding.
Before marriage, I felt women loved marriages. After getting married, I discovered women love weddings, not marriages. There is a difference.

4. Your current view of marriage/women having experienced btw 0-5 years of marriage.
Marry your friend. Friendship with your partner is more important than love for your partner. Nothing beats rest of mind. Marriage as practiced in this part of the world has little benefits to the man apart from procreation.

5. Your advice to bachleors based on your experience.
Don't let anyone force you into marriage.
Don't overspend on your wedding. If your wife wants something classy, tell her to draw up a list and give her family. I was stupid to spend almost 5M on mine.
Don't marry a lady you can't reason with. Don't marry a lady who doesn't earn her own money.
Look at how your wife's mother treats her father. That is exactly how she will treat you.
Divorce is always an option.

babakb:
Hmmmm, where do I start from....

My Expectations
I expected 100% loyalty from my wife, I am willing to pay all the bill as long as she stays loyal.

My Experience
I found out that her elder siblings wanted the same loyalty as me, they wanted to control her but I resisted, she was afraid to defy them probably because she was only 22 years when we got married, but I made sure she understood that she must be 100% loyal to me, 5 years down the line she overcome the fear and she is mine 100%.

My Views Before Marriage
Marriage gives you focus and happiness, Your wife creates a serene and peaceful atmosphere at home all the time.

My Views Post Marriage
Marriage is a blessing if you marry the right one, being a father makes me appreciate my parents more because I'm now parenting, another name for marriage is paying Bills but like I said I don't mind paying it all alone if my wife keep to my standards.
As for my spouse I realised she had a lot of growing up to do, my main likes in a spouse are intact so the love is still flowing, she is not superstitious, she is faithful, loyal, has good manners and can cook very well so I will bear with her short comings while she improves.

Advice to Bachelors
Don't marry a whoore, these days whoores strip and do 3soms, smoke weed and get drunk, they hate the kitchen and are too extravagant.
That decent girl is still your best option, ensure she is well mannered, don't be deceived by people that will tell you that decent girls are worst.
EARN A LIVING as in I can't over emphasize this.
Ensure you have something going on all the time, either a job or business.

cooooooks:
I said religionlessness.

I am not religious. I don't believe in any gods. -_-

QuinModah:
It's truly a man's World

FreeSpirited:
why this proverb

jazon: