There was once a time I dreamt of having the life I have now but now that I do, I don't feel so sure again.
2019, I was so optimistic i'll settle down before the end of 2020. Well, I would blame it on the pandemic but not entirely. I would say it was my fault in some way.

2020, I said i'll try again in 2021. Guess what, I got a job offer which pays double of what I currently earn. It's too good an offer to pass by, but then it reduces my chances of getting married this year.

Oh, I also forget that I'm travelling to the U.S this March on a type rating course which will take a couple of months. After that, I'm thinking of relocating to S.A for the new job.

In a nutshell I've zeroed any plans of settling this year.
I feel like my career is the problem here or am I procrastinating too much?
I have all I need except time.

If you've ever been in such a situation how did you handle it?

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It better you have your career first

Where in the scheme of your priority do you have your family of procreation? Once you can fix this then, you will know how to plan and put everything in place.

Zayttoven:


If you've ever been in such a situation how did you handle it?

Age is the determinant here, you somehow feel like you still have enough time to spare in chasing your career & you are not wrong. If not, you wouldn't be creating this thread at all.

Men who are 38 & above won't ask this question because they know their time is up, irrespective of the career opportunities in front of them.

Other factors include someone pressuring you desperately to settle down because time isn't on her side too. You need to analyze every angle & make your decision.

So in conclusion, if you know age is on your side. Focus on your career.

Rubbish

Type rating?
You are a pilot,aren't you?
I know how it feels not to be stable and somehow want to build a solid relationship.Its very hard.
But then go Southy,you'd find very pretty girls there who are less materialistic than their Nigerian counterparts,more romantic,sex explicit and would do anything to be with a Nigerian man.
Ps;
They are way prettier and heater than their Nigerian counterparts so I don't think you'd regret it.
Goodluck.

Zayttoven:
There was once a time I dreamt of having the life I have now but now that I do, I don't feel so sure again.
2019, I was so optimistic i'll settle down before the end of 2020. Well, I would blame it on the pandemic but not entirely. I would say it was my fault in some way.

2020, I said i'll try again in 2021. Guess what, I got a job offer which pays double of what I currently earn. It's too good an offer to pass by, but then it reduces my chances of getting married this year.

Oh, I also forget that I'm travelling to the U.S this March on a type rating course which will take a couple of months. After that, I'm thinking of relocating to S.A for the new job.

In a nutshell I've zeroed any plans of settling this year.
I feel like my career is the problem here or am I procrastinating too much?
I have all I need except time.

If you've ever been in such a situation how did you handle it?

Male or female?

Age range?

Career?

Why must it be all or nothing?

Are there no successfully married people in your field?

TransAtlanticEx:
Type rating?
You are a pilot,aren't you?
I know how it feels not to be stable and somehow want to build a solid relationship.Its very hard.
But then go Southy,you'd find very pretty girls there who are less materialistic than their Nigerian counterparts,more romantic,sex explicit and would do anything to be with a Nigerian man.
Ps;
They are way prettier and heater than their Nigerian counterparts so I don't think you'd regret it.
Goodluck.

The way you jump on threads to downgrade and talk down on Nigeria women is sickening tbh.
I guess the woman who made you suicidal left you mentally damaged beyond repairs Mr Logobenz.

You need help!

poshestmina:



The way you jump on threads to downgrade and talk down on Nigeria women is sickening tbh.
I guess the woman who made you suicidal left you mentally damaged beyond repairs Mr Logobenz.

You need help!

Mentally damaged?
Is this the new way y'all respond to reality ?
Have you been to South Africa or atleast been with their women?
If so then how is what I said not true or downgrading Nigeria women for speaking an obvious truth?
I have no time for feminine stupidity this afternoon,I'd appreciate it if you take it somewhere else,
Thanks.

bukatyne:


Male or female?

Age range?

Career?

Why must it be all or nothing?

Are there no successfully married people in your field?

Definition of successful marriage can differ.

TransAtlanticEx:
Mentally damaged?
Is this the new way y'all respond to reality ?
Have you been to South Africa or atleast been with their women?
If so then how is what I said not true or downgrading Nigeria women for speaking an obvious truth?
I have no time for feminine stupidity this afternoon,I'd appreciate it if you take it somewhere else,
Thanks.

South Africa where they are only saints and Angels ?
There are good,bad and evil people in every part /countries.
The fact you've met some good SA babes doesn't make them all perfect and better than their Nigeria counterparts.

There are well cultured , beautiful,sexy and career women in Nigeria too...that you've been meeting the shafts and leeches and why ,is upto you to figure out.

Y'all castigating Nigeria women online and crying Rivers in the Dms. .
I don't have time too for gross masculine foolishness .

Bye!

poshestmina:


South Africa where they are only saints and Angels ?
There are good,bad and evil people in every part /countries.
The fact you've met some good SA babes doesn't make them all perfect and better than their Nigeria counterparts.

There are well cultured , beautiful,sexy and career women in Nigeria too...that you've been meeting the shafts and leeches and why ,is upto you to figure out.

Y'all castigating Nigeria women online and crying Rivers in the Dms. .
I don't have time too for gross masculine foolishness .

Bye!

The bolded is true,but how old are the ones in this category?We all know by the time these women in Nigeria get comfortable,they are already close to the dreaded wall and is barely few years away to hitting their calamity phase(degradation,etc...).
Before them finish with ASUU strike,dwindling funding for education induced delays,almost nonexistent job market,etc.....they are already metusellah's agemates
So what comfortable man will want that?
Who told you I've been meeting only shaft and leeches?Do you know my circle?
I've met Nigerian women from almost all social strata(elite,upper and lower middle class,dregs) so I could pass for an authority figure on these matters so keep your useless sermon for someone inexperienced enough.The elites are better and more refined though,but grossly inaccessible.
But you see the widely accessible lower middle class ehn,e go tey ooo...
Crying in whose DMs?Anyways definitely not y'all so no ,I can't be bothered.
Goodluck with finding worthy men to you all,for this to happen to you people,then a lot has to change honestly.
Again,go and do your research on South African women and come back with a better argument as to why you think y'all are better.
I'd be waiting....what a dreamer.
Ha!

I still don't get how settling down will affect ur career

TransAtlanticEx:
The bolded is true,but how old are the ones in this category?We all know by the time these women in Nigeria get comfortable,they are already close to the dreaded wall and is barely few years away to hitting their calamity phase(degradation,etc...).
Before them finish with ASUU strike,dwindling funding for education induced delays,almost nonexistent job market,etc.....they are already metusellah's agemates
So what comfortable man will want that?
Who told you I've been meeting only shaft and leeches?Do you know my circle?
I've met Nigerian women from almost all social strata(elite,upper and lower middle class,dregs) so I could pass for an authority figure on these matters so keep your useless sermon for someone inexperienced enough.The elites are better and more refined though,but grossly inaccessible.
But you see the widely accessible lower middle class ehn,e go tey ooo...
Crying in whose DMs?Anyways definitely not y'all so no ,I can't be bothered.
Goodluck with finding worthy men to you all,for this to happen to you people,then a lot has to change honestly.
Again,go and do your research on South African women and come back with a better argument as to why you think y'all are better.
I'd be waiting....what a dreamer.
Ha!

In all your endless years of research on women Mr Authority de Metusellah ,you haven't met yet a YOUNG beautiful and successful woman in NIGERIA? or they're inaccessible to you?

poshestmina:


In all your endless years of research on women Mr Authority de Metusellah ,you haven't met yet a YOUNG beautiful and successful woman in NIGERIA? or they're inaccessible to you?

Because they are almost nonexistent in Nigeria,a very minute percentile.So you see,what are the odds of meeting a single one in Nigeria?
It's so scarce so much that it makes it look like a myth.
I wouldn't blame them though,Nigeria is a very poor country with so little middle class.
PS;Almost all of your gender in Nigeria is very accessible to me
My reach is that long.
Ha!

TransAtlanticEx:
Because they are almost nonexistent in Nigeria,a very minute percentile.So you see,what are the odds of meeting a single one in Nigeria?
It's so scarce so much that it makes it look like a myth.
I wouldn't blame them though,Nigeria is a very poor country with so little middle class.
PS;Almost all of your gender in Nigeria is very accessible to me
My reach is that long.
Ha!

Very typical Logobenz response.
Keep fanning your already bruised online ego .
There are accessible young marriageable Women in Nigeria.
If they feel like a myth to you ,check your circle and prolly change them .

This isn't a dick measuring argument.
Braggart .
I'm out!

angelfallz:


Definition of successful marriage can differ.

There would be someone married in his field according to his/her definition of 'successfully' married.

poshestmina:


Very typical Logobenz response.
Keep fanning your already bruised online ego .
There are accessible young marriageable Women in Nigeria.
If they feel like a myth to you ,check your circle and prolly change them .

This isn't a dick measuring argument.
Braggart .
I'm out!

Should I have thwart my reality just so that it can sit well with you?
Do you have self esteem problems,mina?
Can you atleast point to me just one young(25 or less) gainfully employed woman that you know personally?This way we can comfortably boast on how plentiful women in these category are in Nigeria
I didn't say women like this don't exist in Nigeria but the sheer scarcity of it makes it look like a myth.The ones we keep seeing are the ones that are waiting patiently for you to come and marry them out of misery na,who would probably come to your house with just boxes of clothes in her name,that's all and you feed and cater for them all through your life like infants.
This is the Nigerian woman reality I'm sorry to say,forget the bickering you lots do online.
You say I should change my circle or upgrade them,but when I try to describe my circle or my reach,you pick offence and say I'm bragging
Who does that?Girl you've got serious esteem issues I swear.

JustMichael:
I like to consider you a reasonable woman but I feel you shouldn't be too hasty with this career thing if you definitely have intentions to settle down soon as most men are uninterested in really independent ladies. Just be moderate in your finances and socialise more with prospective suitors and I think you're good to go.

I don't know much but a good marriage have more honour and happiness to a lady than a career, that I assure you.

The OP is a man.

Ur career first.Wen d time is ripe, u will definetly settle down

Zayttoven:
There was once a time I dreamt of having the life I have now but now that I do, I don't feel so sure again.
2019, I was so optimistic i'll settle down before the end of 2020. Well, I would blame it on the pandemic but not entirely. I would say it was my fault in some way.

2020, I said i'll try again in 2021. Guess what, I got a job offer which pays double of what I currently earn. It's too good an offer to pass by, but then it reduces my chances of getting married this year.

Oh, I also forget that I'm travelling to the U.S this March on a type rating course which will take a couple of months. After that, I'm thinking of relocating to S.A for the new job.

In a nutshell I've zeroed any plans of settling this year.
I feel like my career is the problem here or am I procrastinating too much?
I have all I need except time.

If you've ever been in such a situation how did you handle it?

Get your career going first, OP. Remember, you can always get a good woman as far as you are discerning, but a career may not wait.

But then, if you are a good multi-tasker, you can get along with marriage. I don't see how marriage thwarts your career advancement if you are very determined, and are ambitious.

TransAtlanticEx:
Should I have thwart my reality just so that it can sit well with you?
Do you have self esteem problems,mina?
Can you atleast point to me just one young(25 or less) gainfully employed woman that you know personally?This way we can comfortably boast on how plentiful women in these category are in Nigeria
I didn't say women like this don't exist in Nigeria but the sheer scarcity of it makes it look like a myth.The ones we keep seeing are the ones that are waiting patiently for you to come and marry them out of misery na,who would probably come to your house with just boxes of clothes in her name,that's all and you feed and cater for them all through your life like infants.
This is the Nigerian woman reality I'm sorry to say,forget the bickering you lots do online.
You say I should change my circle or upgrade them,but when I try to describe my circle or my reach,you pick offence and say I'm bragging
Who does that?Girl you've got serious esteem issues I swear.

Thankfully,' your' reality is solely yours and unsolicited for ...
I have/know/met many...so many! Who are financially free and doing well on their own and maybe family support.

Not all are beggars and waiting for giveaway husbands.

TransAtlanticEx:
Type rating?
You are a pilot,aren't you?
I know how it feels not to be stable and somehow want to build a solid relationship.Its very hard.
But then go Southy,you'd find very pretty girls there who are less materialistic than their Nigerian counterparts,more romantic,sex explicit and would do anything to be with a Nigerian man.
Ps;
They are way prettier and heater than their Nigerian counterparts so I don't think you'd regret it.
Goodluck.

Heater indeed, I hope you don't have sisters who are married to Nigerian men.

People come online to dish out advice they won't take.

faithfull18:

Heater indeed, I hope you don't have sisters who are married to Nigerian men.

People come online to dish out advice they won't take.

I have.
My sisters aren't liabilities,neither are they materialistic.
I have nothing against Nigerian women ,I just gave him a better alternative.

poshestmina:



Thankfully,' your' reality is solely yours and unsolicited for ...
I have/know/met many...so many! Who are financially free and doing well on their own and maybe family support.

Not all are beggars and waiting for giveaway husbands.

When you talk about my circle or try to describe it which often times you'd get it wrong,you've clearly solicited for my reality cos I'd have to correct where you went wrong.
Many indeed,haha!Tell that to the birds.
There is so little of U25 women doing well in Lagos and Abuja,let alone impoverished PH.
So my dear friend,where did you meet these women and what do they do?
Apparently "well-to-do"ness is relative so we might have different definitions to it

TransAtlanticEx:
When you talk about my circle or try to describe it which often times you'd get it wrong,you've clearly solicited for my reality cos I'd have to correct where you went wrong.
Many indeed,haha!Tell that to the birds.
There is so little of U25 women doing well in Lagos and Abuja,let alone impoverished PH.
So my dear friend,where did you meet these women and what do they do?
Apparently "well-to-do"ness is relative so we might have different definitions to it

Wait .....What?
Phc is impoverished?. .
You're definitely waaay less Intelligent and exposed than I thought!

Bye!

poshestmina:



Wait .....What?
Phc is impoverished?. .
You're definitely waaay less Intelligent and exposed than I thought!

Bye!

A city can be rich(oil) but it's people are dirt poor.
That's exactly the case with PHC.
That's why ikwerre landlords rent out shacks and barely survive with their families off that miserly rents,all their kids(daughters) in universities are in one form of runs or the other,they all drive cheap cars and the cycle continues.
Can you point me just one proper affluent neigbourhood in PH?
I live on the "supposed" affluent part of town and trust me it's nothing to write home about.
My dear we see things from different perspective,probably because we have different exposures and it's getting clearer to me who amongst us is lacking in exposure.
Don't forget to name that affluent part of PH to me

GboyegaD:
Where in the scheme of your priority do you have your family of procreation? Once you can fix this then, you will know how to plan and put everything in place.

Definitely top priority and yes I do plan but certain factors keep disrupting the plan. So I'm back to ground zero every time.

truthsayer009:


Age is the determinant here, you somehow feel like you still have enough time to spare in chasing your career & you are not wrong. If not, you wouldn't be creating this thread at all.

Men who are 38 & above won't ask this question because they know their time is up, irrespective of the career opportunities in front of them.

Other factors include someone pressuring you desperately to settle down because time isn't on her side too. You need to analyze every angle & make your decision.

Thank you

TransAtlanticEx:
Type rating?
You are a pilot,aren't you?
I know how it feels not to be stable and somehow want to build a solid relationship.Its very hard.
But then go Southy,you'd find very pretty girls there who are less materialistic than their Nigerian counterparts,more romantic,sex explicit and would do anything to be with a Nigerian man.
Ps;
They are way prettier and heater than their Nigerian counterparts so I don't think you'd regret it.
Goodluck.

Well, you know every where you go, you'd always meet the good and bad.
I've also met Nigerian girls who weren't after the money or materialistic but they didn't want the same thing as me, they were considering marriage anytime soon.
So I let them be.
We also have very pretty Nigerian girls, I've met a lot.