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Marriage institution in Nigeria is a microcosm of Nigeria itself. Unruly, senseless and lawless.

dominique:
Sadly a lot of women relax after marriage and become complacent. They believe they have financial security especially after having kids.

One of the biggest disservice a woman can do to herself is being 100% dependent on a man, especially one that has zero respect for her. In this woman's case now, she has been married for almost 4 decades to a man with six kids. I'm sure in all those 39 years, he must have constantly cheated on her but she kept consoling herself that as long as they're outside and she's the recognized wife, she's ok. Now she has been thrown out of the home she has kept for almost 4 decades, where does she start from?

This should be an eye opener for single ladies not to go into marriage to be a dependant but they no go hear word.

You are very sure he cheated on her, and also very sure the woman never cheated on him. In this country where faithful women are non existent.

Hypocrite

dominique:
You expect me to read that load of cow dung you posted up there? You must really think you're that important. If my post triggers you in anyway, rat poison is just N100 in case you can't afford sniper.

Hahahaha

See finishing

Fahdiga:
It baffles me on how two lovers that danced together on their wedding day will suddenly become sworn enemies. this life no balance at all

that is not what baffles me. what baffles me is after living together for so many years.. waking up side by side .. having sec countless times and decides to depart .. its crazy i dey go seminary.

Marriage in Nigeria is a thug of war.


Truly, as a woman, married or not, have a savings.


you never can tell the day you will need it.

dominique:
Sadly a lot of women relax after marriage and become complacent. They believe they have financial security especially after having kids.

One of the biggest disservice a woman can do to herself is being 100% dependent on a man, especially one that has zero respect for her. In this woman's case now, she has been married for almost 4 decades to a man with six kids. I'm sure in all those 39 years, he must have constantly cheated on her but she kept consoling herself that as long as they're outside and she's the recognized wife, she's ok. Now she has been thrown out of the home she has kept for almost 4 decades, where does she start from?

This should be an eye opener for single ladies not to go into marriage to be a dependant but they no go hear word.

You're the only one saying the man cheated, that's part of the problem u women have, assuming things that may not be true, so in addition to a woman not being 100% dependent on the man, she should also stop assuming things only going on in her emotional head. Funny enough you did not ask for the offence of the woman, lol. Is really a sick world, every tribe, religion and gender claiming to be the innocent

Segun74326:
Mrs Ikpea alleged that her husband disregarded the appeal and the motion for stay of execution and went ahead to throw her out. She said that with the help of some hefty men, her husband threw her out bare-footed without providing her with any suitable alternative accommodation as ordered by the court.

That is the result of lawlessness. When court orders are not obeyed from above, not to talk of others, how do you expect people to comply.

AmazingELixir:



If this had happened in the western world...it is the man that will be vacating their apartment for the lady.

But down here the law is dangerously skewed against the female folks...with such mentality it is common place for african men to harm or outrightly kill their spouses when they think of losing their life savings to the women they married with their sweat and hardwork.

not really

people always use a general rule on the western world

thats general rule usually applies to a couple who have kids and the kids are of school going age, the courts consider comfort to the kids etc therefore kids and wife remain in home while whatever needs to be sorted is being sorted usually court ruling etc

the difference with most african ruling is there based on traditional ruling rather then law and also women disadvantage themselves buy not getting involved with buying of building of these houses eg if a husband buys land or built a home make sure your name also appear on the title deeds

For real who want to be married to someone and get used and leave with nothing even the though wife had not contribute financially who contributed by running the house being clean etc and also cooking for you and making you feel comfortable to be able etc

You see why african we are poor we can not even pass on wealth to your own wife and kids we let relatives takesover whatever you worked for with your wife.

Righteousness2:
Irrespective of his reason to seek for a Divorce, throwing the wife of his youth out in such manner is not Fair.
Dealing treacherously with the wife of your youth is one thing that GOD hates.

Where is that in the Holy Bible ?

djon78:
But the lady you quoted she is not wrong in her comment

If it was abroad, that man can't do that.
A woman that has been with you for almost 4 decades is treated like this

That's why the oyibos will always be advanced miles ahead of us

You see billionaires paying through there nose for divorce. Jeff bezos payed through his nose to divorce his wife, infact billions of dollars

I am a man and God forbid bad thing, I and my madam will live together till end, but if for instance after staying with me for decades and things ain't working fine, it's evil for me not to pay and settle her well.


The lady you quoted is right
Because scenarios like this will teach young women to look out very well for themselves
Since men are being heartless these days and times and they have every right to use there head well

Now ask yourself would you still feel the same way if the woman tried to poison you or you found out that your kids are not really your kids? The fact remains that we don't have the full gist of the story and using a backward and skewed system like the Americans or Europeans divorce system to judge this particular situation is laughable. American court that would grant a woman the house and still require the man to pay child support and spousal support even tho the woman was the reason for the divorce. American system that does not take into acccount that a woman that cheated or acted violently should be punished by not getting the house, a system that has resulted to most men committing homicide and suicide.

J

femifemi1:
Indeed, love is over rated. When a human mention "I love you" try to identify what he/she sees. The moment those things vanish, the love seize.

That's human love for you.


My advise to the singles

"Love who you marry and marry not just for love"

Truth

Because love is a vapour.

Did I just read 39years of marriage thrown away? How old is the man now that he is divorcing his wife after 39yrs and 6children?

emeshot:
It is just natural,it is the ability to control emotions that matters in marriage.women will make you loose your mind if you are not careful.

Hmmmm. Oga while men will make you loose your what? You will lose more than your mind in men's case. So who loose pass

dominique:
Sadly a lot of women relax after marriage and become complacent. They believe they have financial security especially after having kids.

One of the biggest disservice a woman can do to herself is being 100% dependent on a man, especially one that has zero respect for her. In this woman's case now, she has been married for almost 4 decades to a man with six kids. I'm sure in all those 39 years, he must have constantly cheated on her but she kept consoling herself that as long as they're outside and she's the recognized wife, she's ok. Now she has been thrown out of the home she has kept for almost 4 decades, where does she start from?

This should be an eye opener for single ladies not to go into marriage to be a dependant but they no go hear word.

Wowwww u nailed it but dem no dey hear word....


BTW i think i love you...

Much of what is required to keep a marriage going comes from the woman (not financial).So the women who allow herself to be divorced must have lost some earlier qualities that kept the marriage going

Natuve:
Although you may ban me, but I must not hide from telling you that you're shameless and classless.


Idare you to show class and not ban me cause I'm responding to your hypocrisy, you slimy hypocrite. While it was your sole decision to not have anything to do with the male gender, day and night you continue to bombard the minds of innnocent young ladies urging them not to karry


Dem swear for you?


You disguised your hatred for men, marriage and relationships as usual with your spicy and hypocritical comment that looks disguised as genuine care and show of concern. I spit on your cunt you full


You're nothing but a wh0re that has passed her prime. Goat

I will never let you rest on this forum. Infact I will chase you till you deactivate if you continue to put up with this your jobless hypocrisy. Full


Cc : BlakKluKluxKlan Kondomatic Martinez39


Planetx13 Emeshot

That lady and mynd44 are not fit to be MOD. They both lack decorum. Always commenting on every thread, showing their bias unlike lala.
I won't be surprised if she is the same person as sapphiere.

abbey621:
Now ask yourself would you still feel the same way if the woman tried to poison you or you found out that your kids are not really your kids? The fact remains that we don't have the full gist of the story and using a backward and skewed system like the Americans or Europeans divorce system to judge this particular situation is laughable. American court that would grant a woman the house and still require the man to pay child support and spousal support even tho the woman was the reason for the divorce. American system that does not take into acccount that a woman that cheated or acted violently should be punished by not getting the house, a system that has resulted to most men committing homicide and suicide.

Whatever you can't just throw a woman that has lived with you for over decades like that

The Western world we're right in there divorce laws
You must pay for the years together

Even rich women pay there less rich husband's settlement. Adele paid her husband millions in divorce settlement

You can't just Live with a spouse for decades and just throw them out like that

It's barbaric and backward
No wonder our clime is barbaric and backward
Cause there is no respect for basic human rights
And the backwardness will continue

Kondomatic:
What's the cause of their divorce?

Whatever that may have caused it
The woman can't be thrown out of the house like that


In Western nation's laws
That woman deserves half of whatever that man is worth, having lived together for over 4 decades


And cases like this in our clime, will embolden young women to look out for themselves while in marriage, of which many have started doing nowadays. Many young women are no longer being patient. In the end, the institution of marriage is being battered

BlakKluKluxKlan:
Feminism.

How is it feminism?

or is it that you just feel like using the word "feminism"

some of you just open your mouth waaaash!

Has she said anything wrong? are women not supposed to be financially independent in the first place? or you think money is meant for just the male folks?

Being totally dependent on another human both financially and otherwise doesn't make sense.



**** Feminism is not a bad thing. So when you people call ladies feminist, do you do that to make them angry?

Do you call ladies feminist to make them ashamed?

What reaction do you expect from ladies when you call them that? I'll like to know... please tell me. Because it's actually something to be proud of.

It's better than being called a liability, dummy, prostitute, scammer or other bad names.



My head actually swells when I'm called a feminist. So you people actually are doing a bad Job shaming ladies by calling them feminist.. You guys are clown.

Lagoon0:
It baffles me that women can't take Care of themselves after break up. Were they created to be fed?

When you require a wife to abandon her career and build a home with you? It’s stupid to expect that she will suddenly have something to fall back on when the relationship fails.

This is why whatever wealth built while the woman’s career is on pause belongs to her as much as it belongs to the man. If she weren’t home tending to the kids, you wouldn’t be able to build that wealth.

djon78:
Whatever you can't just throw a woman that has lived with you for over decades like that

The Western world we're right in there divorce laws
You must pay for the years together

Even rich women pay there less rich husband's settlement. Adele paid her husband millions in divorce settlement

You can't just Live with a spouse for decades and just throw them out like that

It's barbaric and backward
No wonder our clime is barbaric and backward
Cause there is no respect for basic human rights
And the backwardness will continue

Someone tries to kill you and you are here saying the victim is the babaric one? Bullshit! My point remains we can't judge the situation without having more info.

Kondomatic:
Except the man is cheating on her with you which is not impossible, there is no way you can be sure that he cheated on her.


It's crazy how biased you lots can be on issues like this.

Since you know enough to form opinion on the man's fidelity, you should as well tell us why they're getting divorced.

It's also very possible that the woman is cheating on him the whole time right?

Sorry, I shouldn't have asked.

I just remembered that a woman can do everything a man can do except being violent and cheating.

Hope you will rest now.

For a man to act this irrationally towards his wife, there's a 99% chance that there's another woman doing washing and setting on his head and this case is not an exception

lovethchioma:
How is it feminism?

or is it that you just feel like using the word "feminism"

some of you just open your mouth waaaash!

Has she said anything wrong? are women not supposed to be financially independent in the first place? or you think money is meant for just the male folks?

Being totally dependent on another human both financially and otherwise doesn't make sense.



**** Feminism is not a bad thing. So when you people call ladies feminist, do you do that to make them angry?

Do you call ladies feminist to make them ashamed?

What reaction do you expect from ladies when you call them that? I'll like to know... please tell me. Because it's actually something to be proud of.

It's better than being called a liability, dummy, prostitute, scammer or other bad names.



My head actually swell when I'm called a feminist. So you people actually are doing a bad Job shaming ladies by calling them feminist.. You guys are clown.

What a jumble put together.
So i made you proud yet you railed all these invective on me ?

Yet i do not see what i said to warrant such bad mouthing.
I am very sorry. I regret ever coming to your comment to make a joke that turned out so needlessly expensive.
I promise to always give your comments a very wide gap.

Fahdiga:
It baffles me on how two lovers that danced together on their wedding day will suddenly become sworn enemies. this life no balance at all

D life balance na some people nor stand well

Shiiiiiittttt!


Mehn I went to school with these people's kids

BlakKluKluxKlan:
What a jumble put together.
So i made you proud yet you railed all these invective on me ?

Yet i do not see what i said to warrant such bad mouthing.
I am very sorry. I regret ever coming to your comment to make a joke that turned out so needlessly expensive.
I promise to always give your comments a very wide gap.

A joke indeed. Next time when you guys call ladies feminist, make sure to add that it's a "joke"

I asked a simple question and you're already feeling all worked up....

where are the foolish adlt children of this woman?A 39 yr old marriage will have a 38,36,34,32,30,28 consecutively,all things being equal.

They should call for peace or provide a home for their mother.This is shameful.

Women hustleooo.life continues after marriage.

Fahdiga:
It baffles me on how two lovers that danced together on their wedding day will suddenly become sworn enemies. this life no balance at all

My brother you see marriage wahala let it fly, you might not know what the man must have suffered and endured from the hands of the woman.
Na the woman part you hear.

wink2015:
I am shocked to hear this news about Chief Leemon Ikpea.

He owned Lee engineering company.

I hope enemies are not using JUJU on the chief himself to evict his wife.

Chief Ikpea is known for taking various chieftancy title from other tribes outside Edo state.

So na big man sef. Hmm