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@ everyone,

First of all, let me state here that my Username has nothing to do with my Personality, i'm nothing even close to a materialistic or demanding type of person (he knows it and luvs me for it). I luv him for who he is and not what i can get from him. Thanks for bashing me and making me look like a convict and materialistic person. I never said i don't appreciate all the things he's done for me. He is a good person, that i thank God for. I'm not saying that he should spend all he's got on me, I don't even know how much he earns. I always show sincere appreciation for EVERYTHING he does for me including that first gift and he knows.

I guess he's not the gift type of person like some of you have said, i just thought one of the ways Love is usually expressed with is Giving. Sometimes i feel sad when my own thoughtful gestures are not reciprocated.It would make me feel special if he at least gives me something for my birthday. I don't want a car, a designer shoe, bag or an expensive wristwatch. What i cherish most is the gesture in it than the gift itself (that don't mata but the gesture).

Hi NL, This is something that has been going on in my relationship for a long time now and have just been too scared to tell it to him for fear that he might think I'm one of those materialistic girls or gold diggers, who just wants him for his money. My bf and I have been dating for two years and so far, he's never bought me gifts (no mata how little). The only time he got me something was when we initially started dating of which he painfully told me it was expensive ( made it look like i was not worth spending that much on). Basically, I'm a giving type of person and i love it when he at least gives me stuffs and not seeing it as a burden. On his birthdays, i buys gifts for him, cake and make sacrifices for him and give him small gifts randomly (not on special occasions)

I do love him genuinely cos he's caring, affectionate, humorous,a wonderful person and a whole lot more. He takes me out on  dates, makes me feel special and treats me very well. But it just makes me sad that i don't even have one thing in my possession that makes me proud to say was given to me by him. What I'm mostly concerned about is that he has a very good paying job and i feel bad that he doesn't spend on me. Sometimes i feel he's not that into me or is it that he just doesn't love me that much to want to spend on me. I've been the faithful, good and trustworthy girl, so i deserve to be treated more than this. I don't ask him for money whatsoever and he doesn't give me. I can't say I'm  that rich and at the same time I'm not poor, I'm satisfied with what i have, so i guess am not demanding. I don't know if he's being stingy or it's me that's just being unrealistic.

Pls Nldrs, what should i do in this situation cos it's really getting to me? Is he being stingy or careful with me not to spend anything on me (maybe from bad past experiences from girls). Do you think it might affect our relationship? pls kindly give your honest views about this.

Thanks for  reading!