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Is this the best that this Prof can do?

ONOSIMUAN:
Please I will be coming to Manchester January for study, I need affordable accommodation, maybe shared apartment or roommate ( female) for the time being. I will appreciate suggestions and recommendations. Thanks

If you are still on the look out, we have a single room available in our flat in Oldham. It's going for 400, bills inclusively.

Stevenbright:
There is little you can do except you get to the root of the issues. One way to make her speak up is to help her to temporary separate from him by taking her and her children to your family house. While there, she will become sober having been out of his influence and will probably be willing to speak out.

I asked about the children because I thought if they don't have any, it might be part of the reason for the disagreement. So, that is out of it right now.

Thank you. Indeed we think they need atleast a temporary separation here. I understand that their pastor advised her not to leave her home.

She recently started teaching in a school and I was surprised to hear that her husband has her ATM pin and takes money from her account at will.

There's a whole lot wrong in their relationship that we have to figure out. The annoying thing is she hardly speaks up, my other sister only gets to notice all these when she visits.

Stevenbright:
There is little you can do except you get to the root of the issues. One way to make her speak up is to help her to temporary separate from him by taking her and her children to your family house. While there, she will become sober having been out of his influence and will probably be willing to speak out.

I asked about the children because I thought if they don't have any, it might be part of the reason for the disagreement. So, that is out of it right now.

Thanks for the workable suggestions?
God bless

Stevenbright:
You didn't state if they have children together.

Also, you may get it wrong taking actions without knowing the root cause of the issues they are having!

Talk to your sister in question to open up to you about what their instigating recurring issues are and see if there could be a civil resolution within the family before thinking of escalating it.

They've got 4 kids. Will try and have a chat with her. She's hardly forthcoming with engagements.

Padipadi:
Will you wait till ya sister become another Ekwueme or Osinachi?
Follow the steps you have highlighted. Ya sister is suffering from stockholm syndrome. She's siltjll in love with her abuser.
No appetite to write epistles. This handle hate anomalies in marriage or any sphere of life.

Thanks so much. Will do the needful. I was broken when I saw the video. I can't even imagine doing such to my wife

SeeWahala:
You better hold your own peace till you can coerce your sister to tell you the exact issue causing their fights and disagreements.

She might have been caught cheating or worse and the husband is still sore from finding out. What? You think it's not possible? lol

I like to be logical. Hence, I admit that anything is possible. To my best of knowledge, she's always been decent as she was a virgin when she got married. Graduated as the best in her department but succumbed to her husband's manipulations that kept her from pursuing a career. She's now in a state where she's been conditioned to depend on her husband and as such tolerate whatever he does

thorpido:
It's only your sister that can help herself.Like she said,she wants to keep her marriage and keep the beatings too.

The thing weak me seriously. If anything happens to her then people will start wondering why her family didn't take any action

SINisSIN:
You can't literally do anything when the victim your sister is not complaining.

Maybe when you will be able to do something without her permission is when she finally died. Then you can arrest the husband but for now, your sister is the only one that can help the situation.

It's really heart breaking. Like how does someone endure this kind of pain all in the name of saving her marriage.

gasparpisciotta:
Petition this agency https://lagosdsva.org/ on your sisters behalf with enough evidences the guy will be handled.

Your sister should be ready to be husbandless in case it goes south.

If you desire local runs share location let people pay him a visit with an offer he can’t refuse 😎

Thanks so much. Sincerely appreciate the link you shared. Unfortunately e go hard to run am street now as I understand his movements of recent are hardly predictable

This guy was literally out of work for two years and during this period all his friends deserted him. My family had all hands on deck to provide financial support for them during those trying times. To see how he became a monster after getting back on his feet hits me by surprise

Recently one of my sisters went to visit our elder sister and found out that her husband has been assaulting her. According to my sister who went visiting, she said the first time she noticed this, she perceived some struggles in the apartment and decided to check what exactly was happening only to find my elder sister pinned to the wall by her husband and held tightly on her neck that she was grasping for breath.

When I was informed about this, it felt so disheartening. I called my sister in question and enquired what was happening as none of us ever knew that she was going through such in her marriage. She swept the topic under the rug with an excuse that it had never happened before and it was just a misunderstanding. I felt something off but I thought we should let it slide since my sister does not seem interested in us taking actions.

Early this morning, I got another call from my other sister that the husband is assaulting her again and this time it was more serious. She shared a video evidence with me and it sincerely broke my heart. However, I asked her to delete the video so it does not erroneously get to the public as she was naked in the video.

It's important to mention that they have been married for more than 10 years. I sincerely don't know the root cause of their issue. However, I find it hard to understand how fellow men get to this point of battering their wives without any sense of remorse.

I'm not in Nigeria so I'm constrained on the actions I can take from my current location. I was making an arrangement with a friend to help me deploy some soldiers do their house but I had to pend it as I was informed that he has left the house and when he does that he probably stays out for a week before coming back home. I guess this is part of the issues they are having.

My parents are quite old hence, I would like to coordinate necessary actions on this issue myself. Although my sister is appealing that we overlook the matter as her concern is to keep her marriage. She's not even considering her safety.

Can I file a report with human rights activist on behalf of my sister? If yes I would appreciate advice on how to do this.