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[quote author=safarigirl post=56950272]it's Bob-Manuel, not Bob-Marley[/quotehmmm]

2...Desmond Elliott

3...Chidi Mokeme

4...Kalu Ikeagwu

5...Bob-Marley Udoku

I rate Ravi Dubey and Kiss Daniel as the most cutest male faces on earth

queencalipso:
Number 2&5 are so me. The rest were, but not anymore.

Am so happy I was able to overcome that part of me, being too shy can limit one's potential..

1.Work with public agencies and other organizations -- neighborhood-based or community-wide -- on solving common problems.
2. Make sure that all the youth in the neighborhood have positive ways to spend their spare time, through organized recreation, tutoring programs, part-time work, and volunteer opportunities.
3. Set up a Neighborhood Watch or a community patrol, working with police. Make sure your streets and homes are well lighted.
4. Build a partnership with police, focused on solving problems instead of reacting to crises. Make it possible for neighbors to report suspicious activity or crimes without fear of retaliation.
5.Clean up the neighborhood! Involve everyone - teens, children, senior citizens. Litter, abandoned cars, and run-down buildings tell criminals that you don't care about where you live or each other. Call the city public works department and ask for help in cleaning up.
6. Ask local officials to use new ways to get criminals out of your building or neighborhood. These include enforcing anti-noise laws, housing codes, health and fire codes, anti-nuisance laws, and drug-free clauses in rental leases.
7. Work with schools to establish drug-free, gun-free zones; work with recreation officials to do the same for parks.
8. Develop and share a phone list of local organizations that can provide counseling, job training, guidance, and other services that neighbors might need.
9. Report a crime if you witness it or something you suspect might be a crime. Agree to testify if needed.
10. Learn about hotlines, crisis centers, and other help available to victims of crime. Find out how you can help those who are touched by violence to recover as quickly and completely as possible.
11. Recognize that it's already your problem if violence is about to erupt in your neighborhood.
12. Consider an event that lets children turn in weapons, especially those that might be mistaken for real firearms, in exchange for public thank-yous, donated non-violent toys, books, or coupons from local merchants.
13. Start a discussion of neighborhood views on weapons in the home, use of toy weapons by children in play, children and violent entertainment, and how arguments should be settled.
14. Learn your state and local laws on firearms. Insist that these laws be enforced vigorously but fairly. Support police, prosecutors, judges, and other local officials who enforce laws designed to prevent gun violence.
15. Emphasize prevention as the preferred way to deal with violence. Ask what schools, law enforcement agencies, public health agencies, libraries, workplaces, religious institutions, child protective agencies, and others are doing to prevent, not just react to, violence. What policies do they have to prevent weapons-related violence? How can they help the community?
16. Volunteer to mentor young people who need positive support from adults. Programs ranging from Big Brothers and Big Sisters to Adopt-a-School include mentoring as a central ingredient.
17. Talk with children in the neighborhood about what worries or scares them and about where and how they have felt threatened by violence. Interview teachers, school staff, crossing guards, and bus aides.
18. Promote public service advertising that offers anti-violence programs and services. Get several groups to cooperate in this effort. Include programs to help kids headed for trouble.
19. Protect domestic violence victims (and their children) through policies as well as laws that offer them prompt and meaningful response to calls for help and appropriate legal recourse.
20. Organize to help clean and repair the parks and to report suspicious and illegal activity to the police. Well-kept play equipment and organized activities can attract people back to the parks in large enough numbers to discourage illegal activities. Residents should insist that local government maintain parks, immediately repairing vandalism or other damage.
21. Adopt a school. Help students, faculty, and staff to promote a sense of community in the school and with the larger community through involvement in a wide range of programs and activities.
22. Urge adoption of anti-violence courses that help children learn ways to manage anger without using fists or weapons. Second Step, from The Committee for Children, Resolving Conflict Creatively, from Educators for Social Responsibility, and We Can Work It out!, created through Teens, Crime, and the Community, are only three of many such courses.
23. Join with school and law enforcement in creating and sustaining safe corridors for students traveling to and from school. Help with efforts to identify and eliminate neighborhood trouble spots.
24. Help students through such opportunities as job skills development, entrepreneurship opportunities, and internships.
25. Encourage employees to work with students in skills training, youth group leadership, mentoring, coaching, and similar one-to-one and small group activities. Make your facilities available for these activities when possible.
26. Provide anger management, stress relief, and conflict resolution training for your employees. They can help build an anti-violence climate at home, at school, and in the community. You might gain a more productive working environment, too!
27. Speak up in support of funding and effective implementation of programs and other resources that help schools develop an effective set of violence prevention strategies.
28. Offer your professional skills in educating students on costs and effects of violence in the community (including their school). Public health personnel, trauma specialists, defense and prosecuting attorneys, and judges are among those with important messages to deliver.
29. Help employees who are parents to meet with teachers by providing flexible hours or time off; encourage employee involvement in sponsoring or coaching students in school and after-school activities.
30. Develop an anti-violence competition, including speech, dance, painting, drawing, singing, instrumental music, acting, play-writing, and other creative arts. Get youth to help suggest prizes. Make it a community celebration.
31.Report crimes or suspicious activities to police immediately. Encourage employees and families to do the same.
32.Establish business policies that explicitly reject violent behavior by employees or others on the premises.
33. Report any crime immediately to school authorities or police.
34.Help to strengthen links between school services and the network of community services that can help students and families facing problems.
35.Enlist children from elementary grades to senior high in solving the violence problems in the school and community. Encourage them to teach violence prevention to younger children, reach out to educate peers, work with adults on community-wide problems, and identify and tackle community conditions that they are concerned about.

Lalasticlala
Mynd44

baralatie:
that research you give yourself is unrealistic!
let me paraphrase it for to make it researchable
1.Causes and effects of govt laws on poor electoral performance

2.govt police effectiveness in fighting crime: case study

3Appraissal of quota system usage in Nigeria:case study of security agency recruitment

4.Inconsistent of govt economic policy:case study Nigerian 1992-2016

hmmm

rangis:
Lmao this apply to not only females..in fact i am a guy and i am soo guilty of alot of things OP posted..nice post OP..Lol

Kondomatic:
The shyness disappears the moment she becomes comfortable with you.

Causes of corruption in Nigeria
1. Weak Government institutions
2. Poor pay incentives
3. Lack of openness and Transparency in public service
4. Absence of key anti corruption tools
5. Ineffective political processes
6. Culture and acceptance of corruption by the populace
7. Absence of effective political financing Poverty
8. Ethnic and religious difference Resource scramble

Lalasticlala
Mynd44

kimbra:
Does a shy girl need signs to know she's shy?.

uhmm

dingbang:
If u are a shy girl .. Click share .

lol

1. When you’re prompted by Professors to get into groups…

You still look around the room, waiting for someone who looks semi-approachable to approach you first. You’re not trying to be rude or neglectful of the Professor’s request. You just feel awkward. The phrase “Partner up” still gives you the heebie-jeebies.

2. Even when you know the answer, your hand stays down…

Crickets are chirping and the answer to “What are the full names of the Ringling Brothers?,” is right on the tip of your tongue. But “P.T. Barnum and James Bailey,” will never hear the light of day. Your Communication Professor and classmates will be stuck in limbo, unfortunately not at the circus.

3. People still ask your friends “What’s wrong with her?” or “What’s her problem?”…

They assume you’re stuck up, because you don’t talk. I guess the dirty little secret is a bit meaner than you thought.

4. You hate talking on the phone…

When your phone rings, you check who it is and sheepishly set your phone to silent. No one will ever know, except everyone around your office cubicle and your Grandma, who just wanted to know if the pan she gave you for your apartment last Christmas is working.

(Yes Grandma, my French fries are perfectly crisp every time.)

5. You question the importance of your Facebook statuses, Twitter updates and yes, even Linkedin posts…



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Writing “I just got hired at (insert company name here), so excited!,” on Facebook makes you question whether or not people will think you’re bragging or are just plain self righteous. You delete it immediately to avoid potential backlash. On Twitter, when you tweet “Loved the newest issue of @(insert magazine alias Twitter name here),” you wonder whether or not it was a good idea- you don’t want it to seem like you’re being a butt-kisser and want free magazines. Then, there’s Linkedinn- are you even supposed to give post updates?

6. You still can’t tell people when you’re angry with them…

But your best friend- they know all about who’s grinding your gears.

7. You look and sound like you need to go to the hospital when you’re trying to tell someone ‘how you feel’…

Everything just kind of sounds like one long and jumbled word- “I like ahepoaiveaopiajrpeijapoeaoeiaeipaeoja.” Pheuw- said it!

8. You think everyone understands your subliminal messages…

“But, I told him ‘See you later.’ Doesn’t he know that means, ‘Come over so I can make you spaghetti and we can watch a romantic movie?’ Jeesh! I knew he wasn’t worth my time.”

9. When you see someone you know in public, you still walk with your head down and avoid eye contact…

You don’t want to start a conversation — not because you don’t like them, but because- well, no one’s really sure why you’re still walking with your head down actually. (Raise it and say hello!)



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10. Flashbacks about gym class locker rooms made you concerned about having a roommate…

Is she judging you and your body? It’s not perfect, but she’s a girl too, she knows the feels, right? Right?

11. When someone takes your photo, you feel like you need a bucket…

You don’t like your picture being taken, because self-indulgent selfies or even regular selfies, just sort of freak you out. You don’t want your face all over the internet and are afraid the internet doesn’t even like your face to begin with. You’re not Cara Delevingne! Who would want to see your face on the internet?

12. You still don’t laugh at funny parts of movies or television series…

You don’t want to draw too much attention on yourself, even when you’re watching SNL and the rest of the room is breaking out into mass hysteria. You just smile and nod along. Will they ever hear your weird animal-like laughter? Nope. Never.



Let’s not forget about the perks of being shy, however:

You take active responsibility to think before you speak, you appear as modest, because you don’t overcompensate by attempting to engage in overly stimulating conversation or attention-getting gestures, you have a calming presence that others are drawn to, people trust you, you develop deeper, more intimate friendships, you’re sensitive to the feelings of others and you find large rewards in small experiences. You, arguably, experience life more fully.

Everyone has quirks, Miss Shy Girl. Don’t worry about yours, because odds are your oddities are what make you pretty special too.
Lalasticlala
Mynd44

If you exhibit any of these signs it definitely means you are aging too fast.

Warning Sign 1: Cotton Mouth

Cotton mouth in the morning may be a sign of sleep apnea, a potentially serious sleep disorder in which breathing repeatedly stops and starts. To figure out if you have it, determine your “snore score” by answering the following questions. For every “yes” answer, give yourself a point:
•Do you snore?
•Do you wake up groggy or with a headache?
•Do you feel constantly tired or fatigued during the day?
•Do you fall asleep reading, watching TV, or driving?
•Do you have problems with memory or concentration?

If you answered yes to two or more of these questions, you’re at risk for sleep apnea and you should see your doctor. In the mean time, be sure to sleep on your side! Sleeping on your back can cause your tongue and soft palate to rest against the back of your throat and block your airway. Taping a tennis ball under your back or placing a pillow between your legs can be helpful way to ensure a safer night’s sleep by ensuring you stay on your side the entire night.

Warning Sign 2: Red Eyes

Inflamed eyes could be a sign of arthritis – the painful inflammation and stiffening of joints. The same cellular process that causes inflammation in your joints can cause inflammation in your eyes, turning them red.




Studies have shown that the sooner you treat arthritis, the better the long-term results, so visit your doctor at the first sign of trouble. To help stave off or relieve arthritis, try taking feverfew, a plant with a long history of use in traditional and folk medicine. Available at health food stores, feverfew has great anti-inflammatory properties; take 1 to 2 capsules per day.





Warning Sign 3: Graying Skin

If your skin doesn’t seem to “glow” in the way it used to, it may be a red flag for kidney problems. Ordinarily, your kidneys filter wastes and excess fluids from your blood, which are then excreted in your urine. When chronic kidney failure reaches an advanced stage, dangerous levels of fluid, electrolytes, and wastes can accumulate in your body. The “good news” is that kidney problems can cause anemia, which will lead to a gray-skin warning sign. If you notice your skin looking duller than usual, be sure to check in with your doctor.

Warning Sign 4: Loss of Smell

Losing your sense of smell may be an early warning sign of Parkinson’s disease. The degenerative nerve disorder usually starts slowly and worsens over time, leading with muscle tremors to slowness of voluntary movements, muscle stiffness, imbalance, changes in speech, and dementia.

Catch this debilitating disease early by testing your sense of smell. Start by holding an open rubbing-alcohol swab by your belly button and slowly raising it to your nose. If you can smell the swab 8 to 12 inches away from your nose, your sense of smell is normal. But if you only start to smell it 4 inches away, it indicates a loss of smell.

There are other reasons your sense of smell may be lacking, and alpha-lipoic acid may be able to help in some of those cases. Made naturally in the body and available from food sources like spinach, broccoli, and yeast, alpha lipoic acid has been used for decades in Europe to treat nerve conditions. Try taking just 600 mg daily; available in health food stores.

Loss of smell could also be a sign of Alzheimer's. Take the Alzheimer's smell test.

Warning Sign 5: Hairless Feet or Toes





While our culture encourages women to get rid of every last hair not on their head, hairless feet or toes are actually a red flag for vascular disease, which can lead to strokes and heart attacks!

Ordinarily, of course, your legs have hair. Beneath the skin, hair follicles are kept alive by the blood flowing through your veins and arteries. When you gain weight, over time, your cholesterol level rises and plaque builds up in arteries, clogging them up and cutting off blood flow. As a result, all the little blood vessels under the skin die off, killing hair follicles. If you notice shiny, hairless skin around your feet, it may indicate plaque buildup, which could eventually lead to a deadly heart condition.

The good news is, you can often stop or even reverse the build-up of plaque in your arteries with proper diet and exercise. Be sure to consult with your doctor.

Warning Sign 6: Bumped Toes

While you’re down checking your feet for hair, linger an extra moment to check your toes; toes that bump upward at the tips could indicate lung cancer. Known as “digital clubbing,” if you notice an elevated bump between your toe’s knuckle and nail, it means oxygen isn’t getting delivered properly throughout your body, and could indicate disease of the lung or the heart. Schedule an appointment with your doctor if you notice this
Warning Sign 7: Hearing Loss





Many of us assume hearing loss is an inevitable part of life, but it’s actually the #1 red flag you’re aging too fast, and can be a sign of developing dementia or Alzheimer’s disease. As you probably know, the brain has multiple “centers” that control different bodily functions: One part controls sight, another part controls smell, another stores memory, one controls hearing, and so on.

One of the hallmarks of Alzheimer’s disease is the formation of plaques on the brain, located between nerve cells. These plaques cause neurons in the brain to stop functioning properly, making it unable to send all the signals it wants. As a result, your various brain centers begin to shut down. Thus the hearing center’s ceasing to function may be directly linked to the formation of the plaques associated with Alzheimer’s. To make matters worse, as hearing ability decreases, our ability to function in daily life decreases as well, contributing to further mental decline.

While doctors don’t have a cure for Alzheimer’s just yet, you can start protecting your hearing right now by taking 300 mg of magnesium a day. According to a recent study, oral magnesium treatment has been shown to reduce the incidence of temporary and permanent noise-induced hearing loss.
Lalasticlala
Mynd44

It is believed that for every individual in the world there at least seven people in the world who look exactly like that person
So i was wondering if there is anybody on nairaland who looks just like me...

ArchEnemy:

Ve you had about the 48 laws of introversion?




Just kidding!

Am one there is no big deal. Its just bad for business sometimes. So you just need to shake it off atimes

Lol..Am also one

It can be difficult to admit to yourself that you may be an introvert. When we think of people as being introverted, we often wrongly assume that they are people who don’t like people. However, as Susan Cain so effectively showed the world in her book, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking, introverts can be warm, interested in others, and powerful in their own right. Yet the stigma many still attach to being an introvert may lead people otherwise inclined to have these tendencies to resist if not deny them within themselves.
These nine behavioral signs of introversion can give you a start in learning about traits and attitudes that suggest your own personality may be less outer-oriented than you realize. See how many you feel honestly apply to you:
1. You enjoy having time to yourself. When you have the chance to take a break, you’d rather spend time reading, playing video games, or just listening to music. That quiet time is important to your sense of well-being even though there are plenty of times that you enjoy social get-togethers.
2. Your best thinking occurs when you’re by yourself. You’re not opposed to group meetings or discussions, but if you want to come up with a creative solution, you need some time to work the problem out on your own. Having the opportunity to reflect quietly on a problem allows you to make the maximum use of your ability to engage in original thought, and to produce results about which you can feel proud.
3. You lead best when others are self-starters. Despite the belief that introverts are so quiet that they can’t step up to the plate and run things, under the right circumstances they can be the best leaders of all. If the group is ready to lead itself, then the introverted leader will draw the most potential out of them. It’s only when the group needs a spark provided by its head that introverts might be unable to provide the necessary guidance. Then you’ll need to partner with an extroverted yin to your yang.
4. You’re the last to raise your hand when someone asks for something from a group. As you might remember from your elementary school days, there were some fellow students whose hands shot straight up into the air when the teacher asked a question or needed someone to volunteer. Extraverts tend to be ready and eager to stand out in any academic or social situation. You are probably more of an introvert than an extravert if you are content to sit back and let others take center stage. It’s not that introverts know less than others; they just don’t feel a particular need to be in that limelight.
5. Other people ask you your opinion. Just as introverts are less likely to volunteer in public situations, they are also less likely to volunteer opinions or advice in less public settings. Whether it’s a family discussion around the kitchen table or a staff meeting to decide how to market new products, people high in introversion will keep their views to themselves and let the noisy extraverts take control. Because of this, and because your advice may indeed be highly valued, it’s likely that if you’re constantly being asked “What do you think?” it might suggest that your behavior sends cues to others of your inner desire to focus your attention and thoughts inward.
6. You often wear headphones when you’re in a public situation. Whether it’s making your way through a crowded bus station or just navigating a crowded street, if you’re an introvert you most likely don’t seek a great deal of contact with others. In decades past, if you wanted to avoid interacting with strangers, you would keep your head down and look straight in front of you. Now you have the added protection of being able to hide behind the protection of your headphones (though no one has to know whether there’s actually music coming through them or not).
7. You prefer not to engage with people who seem angry or upset. You’re likely to try to avoid people who seem like they might be in a bad mood, if not outright furious at something or someone. According to research by University College London psychologist Marta Ponari and collaborators, people high in introversion fail to show what’s called the “gaze-cuing effect.” Normally, if you were to see the image of a person’s face on a computer screen looking in a certain direction, you would follow that person’s gaze and therefore respond more quickly to a visual target on that side of the screen than when the person’s gaze and the target are pointed in opposite directions. Introverts show this effect just as extraverts do, but if the person’s face seems angry, they don’t show the gaze-cuing effect. This suggests that people high in introversion don’t want to look at someone who seems mad. Ponari and her
team believe that this is because they are more sensitive to potentially negative evaluations. If you think a person is angry because of something to do with you, his or her gaze becomes a threat.
8. You receive more calls, texts, and emails than you make, unless you have no choice. All other things being equal, people high in introversion don’t reach out voluntarily to their social circles. If they have a few minutes to spare, they won’t initiate a call just to pass the time by socializing. Similarly, they don’t generate emails and other written correspondence but instead react to the communications they receive from others. It’s quite likely that if you’re a true introvert you would avoid jobs in which you have to engage in such outreach, such as becoming a telemarketing representative. If you have no choice but to initiate communications, such as when you invite people to a social event, you will be less likely to pick up the phone and make a call and more likely to send your request through cyberspace or the post office. This may relate to the desire not to be evaluated. By calling people, you risk being told “no” in person, which you may find demoralizing. When the request happens asynchronously (that is, not in real time), you may get the same turn-down but in a way that may allow you to save face, if not self-esteem.
9. You don’t initiate small talk with salespeople or others with whom you have casual contact. It’s nearly impossible for you to imagine yourself being like that the garrulous individual in front of you in line at the supermarket who chats with everyone about the weather. If you’re late or stressed, you don’t “leak” this information out to the people around you but instead just think it quietly to yourself as you mull over your plight. You may feel that it’s no one’s business but your own, or you may prefer to come out of your bad mood through your own personal stress-busting strategies. Either way, people don’t really know how you’re feeling or thinking at any given moment, unless you feel close enough to them to share these private reflections.
Being an introvert definitely has its advantages.
You’re less likely to make a social gaffe, such as by inadvertently insulting someone whose opinion you don’t agree with. Because you enjoy reflecting on your own thoughts, you’ll be less likely to get bored when you're alone than someone who needs constant social stimulation. The only risk you face is that people who don’t know you might think you’re aloof or that you feel superior to everyone else. Giving yourself permission to be a little more open in revealing your thoughts and feelings may help you make the best of both worlds, being true to your personality while not erring in the direction of seeming antisocial.
If, on the other hand, you’re an all-out extravert, you might benefit from practicing a little introversion in your daily life. See what it’s like not to be the first one to speak, take charge, or offer your opinion. It’s possible that allowing yourself to tap into your secret introvert may help you experience the world in a new, more reflective manner.

No one likes to be around an arrogant person since it is a quality that does not attract people. Yet some people may be arrogant and find it difficult to recognize it. Here are 15 signs that you’re arrogant though you might not feel like you are.
1.You are constantly late
There is nothing absurd in being or showing up late once in a while. This may be a bad habit on your part. However when you constantly do this intentionally, this could be a sign that you are arrogant because you seem to feel like your time is more valuable than that of others.
2. You interrupt others a lot
When you interrupt others a lot to show that you have something more important to say than what others are saying, it means you have little regard for the opinion of others and this could be a sign of arrogance.
3. You believe you are better than others
Whether in terms of your looks, intelligence or in your status you believe you are better than others and deserve to be treated better, this means you show a sign of arrogance.
4. You go out of your way to be right
You can’t just accept that you are wrong or that you can be wrong at all. You go to the extreme to offer an explanation for your being right. And after all is said and done you brag about this.
5. You think your status is more important than whatever contribution you make
When you want to take a job or a task you are focused on the title or the status attached to it. You are more interested in how the job will make you feel rather than the commitments involved.
6. When asked, “can you do it?” you always say “yes”
You don’t want to be looked down at. You feel like you are always capable and anytime you back out from a task you demonstrate a flaw.
7. People constantly tell you to give them an opportunity to prove their abilities
You seem to question everyone’s ability to get a task done. You believe you are the only one who can get the job done and thus people offer or plead for you to tolerate them and believe in them rather than stifle them.
8.You despise the weak
You can’t tolerate people who show signs of being fallible. If someone backs out from accepting responsibility and taking charge of a situation, you resent and despise such a person.
9. You have a hard time self reflecting
You find it difficult to stare at the mirror and see yourself for what you really are. You have a hard time to look back at your failures and weaknesses.
10. You love to be talked about
Anytime there is a discussion you like the discussion to be about you. During a gathering you want everyone’s attention to be on you. And if it is about a general subject you want everyone to agree to your opinion.
11. You consider people you don’t like as enemies or threats
Think of the people you don’t like. Do you consider them as threats to your perfect world? Does your blood start to boil when you hear their names or concoct reasons to prove that this person is an idiot?
12. You can’t stand people who are not like you
You want everyone to be like you. You find it difficult to speak positively about anyone who doesn’t measure up to your standards.
13. You have issues building relationships
People find it difficult to flock to you. Most likely the negative quality of arrogance has a way of turning people away. Arrogant people have a way of sacrificing their relationships with friends and other people for the sake of success or self gratification.
14. You shield your inferiority with a superiority complex
Arrogant people always have an Achilles heel, but this they do not want exposed or known by people. Thus they use an invincible front to protect their vulnerabilities.
15. You show false charm but beneath it exists some cruelty
You show false charm as a tool to draw attention to you. But this element of false magnetism can be easily recognized because you cannot sustain it for so long.

Choose one

Episode 2:Apart from being mummy's pet,I am also an artiste,a rapper to be precise. I had a couple of songs which I recorded in my uncle's studio, and I was also featured on other artistes tracks.
My good looking face really helped me in my music career,because it made the ladies wanna listen to me.
I performed at many shows in my street and beyond...My friend was actually my manager since I started recording songs,we attended all the shows together,but when he met the girl of his dreams,a battle line between me and him were drawn....Sorry for the suspense..Watch out for Episode 3

My name is Prosper,am a young and very good looking guy...My female friends sometimes tease me for having natural pink lips and dimples.. .Am not really social and that's because I love staying at home,am actually mummy's pet and am the first child and only boy in my family,I have two younger sisters,maybe God knows why he didn't give me a brother.I have a very close friend,I have known him since childhood,his name is Paul,and we were birds of the same feathers...he wasn't good looking, maybe average I think,he recently asked a girl out and she accepted...Now let's talk about my relationship life.
Am just 18 and I have been single ever since and thats because I have so many female crushes flocking around me..And this is what will make my best friend to have problems with me...Follow me up for episode 2

Being a handsome or good looking is a wonderful gift of nature which every body see as a good thing. People who are born good looking are always grateful to God for creating them that way . The society always tend to think these set of people always get things done easily because of their looks. They are always believed to easily attract the female opposite sex of any type. They are given some kind of special preference most times.
But one thing people fail to notice is that these set of people are just human beings who encounter some setbacks as a result of their physical features.
following are some of these setback or disadvantages.
1) Objectification: People tend to objectify handsome or good looking guys. They tend to define you by only your superficial attributes and fail to read you as a person,,because they miss to see anything in you besides your looks. For example,, they hardly think you are good at anything else other than just being good looking. Your looks will seem to over shadow every other quality in you. This issue has tasked good looking guys to work harder and prove their worth to people that they have other things to offer than just a mere good looking physique.
2) Topic of discussion: To the Handsome guys in the house. Have you noticed that you seem to be a topic of discussion in little groups especially amongst idlers. Those who don’t really have anything doing other than gossip. They just settle down to discuss you and say all sorts of things about you. Even the things that you can never do.
3)Envy/insecurity: Sometimes people tend to get envious at you for no reason. Some get jealous by mere looking at you. You’ll have your friends whom are less good looking than you being insecure whenever you are around them. They wouldn’t let you follow them whenever they want to meet their girlfriend. You try to be nice and they accuse you of trying to snatch their girlfriends.
4) Loneliness: It is a very surprising Fact that some,,if not most good looking guys are lonely. Except maybe the extroverts who defy the odds to make friends themselves. Most people conclude that guys who are handsome already have so many people clustered around them. A girl would see a good looking guy but she will choose to ignore him because she feels he already has a lot of girls at his beck and call,,therefore it would be a waste of time getting to know him. When this keeps happening,,you discover that most handsome guys have little or few friends while some are even single without a girlfriend to call their own.
5) High Expectations: Some times people give a lot of high expectations to good looking guys. Most times they expect you to be the head or leader. They feel since you are good looking you should be able to make decisions and be charismatic. They would want to follow your every step. While this can be very difficult for the guys who aren’t outspoken/introverted,,it could work out well for the confident ones. So it’s a bit of an advantage and disadvantage. But the problem comes when you do something out of what your followers expect of you. There will now be a crisis between pleasing yourself and pleasing the people that expect so much from you.
6) Pretty girls play hard to get: Now this is a very confusing fact. But it is of a truth that girls who are also good looking will play hard to get and put up a higher wall of defence when you are trying to approach them. Have you wondered why a beautiful girl easily succumbs to the toasting of that your “not-so-good-looking” friend but she keeps posting you whenever you approach her?. It is difficult to get their sense of interest. She feels that her showing of interest in you is a massive conceit of power.
7) Intimidation: The case is not any better with a less attractive girl. When a handsome guy is talking to a girl less attractive than he is she may feel way too intimidated. She may also feel he just wants to use her for sex and she wouldn’t want to date someone more attractive than her because she can’t use her sexuality power. A guy also has to become careful of this type as they may become really clingy to him after they have gone intimate for a while. And any sign of dis interest shown by him automatically makes him a heart breaker and from there he’s tagged a “player”.
8 ) Confidence is misunderstood for arrogance: The sub heading has already explained the point briefly. Good looking guys who are confident and not shy of showing off what they have are considered to be arrogant and proud. They are looked at as condescending. It has become so bad that they don’t even know of the best way to reply to a compliment again. There is no way a handsome guy will reply such compliments without coming off as proud and ignoring the compliment completely is not even an option.
9) excessive self-confidence might turn into vanity: On the other hand,,we have some set of good looking guys who become over confident and dwell on their looks for everything. They allow the praises get to their head and concentrate on their looks alone. They ignore other important aspects of life and depend on their good looks to get them what they want. They forget that everything is vanity at the end.