A moment, please.

Let me itemize some keys points for you for easy read.

1. He is a lazy loafer. If you want to continue to feed him, look for him and stick with him.

2. You both are not legally married. The introduction was an occasion of shame shielding. You just did it because you wanted to show to the world that at least you guys wanted a future together. Introduction is not marriage.

3. Fact is the dude has moved on with his life. He did not plan to start his life the way it unfortunately started. It can be depressing to have a baby when you are not ready to cater for it. Men only smile during the birth of a baby when they are capable of caring for it.

4. You are still single. This is the bitter truth. Swallow it! Plan your life all over again. Think one hundred percent like a single lady.

5. I am not soothsayer. He may or may not come back. My advice is, if he ever comes back do not accept him. He will leave again and again and again. If you accept him back, you will be worse off afterwards because by then you could be carrying three to four children, with your youthfulness completely battered.

6. Whatever love you have for him, kill it and bury it now. But please love the child. Do not see the nonentity of a father in your child. Only see your beauty and perfection in your child. Raise your child to be different from the mistake of a man.

7. If possible, you can move back to your parent's place and start out as a single lady again. Hey, this time around, look well before saying yes. Most importantly, marry lawfully before moving in with any man.

You are blessed in JESUS' name.

Give me a moment.
Five things make a husabnd resent his wife to the extent of shaming her bodily.

1. Arrogant display by his wife. Have you become pompous in recent times? You talked about sharing bills fifty-fifty. A woman who brags about sharing bills is arrogance personified.

2. Power tussle. What decisions are you refusing to let your husband have his way on? Men progressively develop resentment towards women who threaten their decision-making position within the family.

3. Financial fights. Do you constantly fight over money to the extent that you remind him of how you "fed" him when he had nothing? You seem to acknowledge it your write-up that money is part of the issue.

4. Your personal hygiene. Sex dies with the death of body management. What has changed about the way you take care of your body? We can blame him for not "loving" your body anymore. However we must acknowledge his human sensitivity which is very natural. Your hygiene should not die because you have "secured" a man on a permanent basis especially in this age where marital sanctity means little to many.

5. Respect. Do you still respect him? Did your regard for him wane drastically after you both got married? Familiarity should never erase respectfulness. Retain your respect for your husband, and he will retain his love for you.

All said and done, find the devil that has crept into either of or both of you and kick it out now. Your home isn't lost yet. Pray, involve a counsellor that he respects, and pray more. JESUS wants your marriage to flourish! Shalom!