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Adasun, gentlegiant95 come check this out..

When she tells you “ no sex before marriage…”


There’s nothing inherently wrong with that statement. On the surface, it’s simply a woman expressing her boundaries, and that deserves basic respect.

But as a man, how you respond to it should be dependent on two critical questions:

#1. What kind of woman is saying it?

And

#2. Why is she saying it?



Let’s begin with… what kind of female is telling you that?

— Is she a virgin, or semi-virgin (no penetration but other activities)?

Or

— Has she already had sex in the past?
But unfortunately… In 2026 Nigeria, “almost” no woman above 19 years is still a virgin. In fact, many start sexual experiences way before 16.

And once a girl has had sex… even once...it is ruined. Her heart has lost its innocence.


I saw that Nairaland front-page post where the guy dropped this gem:


“If she says no sex before marriage, support it… but tell her it also means no sex with anybody else before marriage.”


I laughed so hard I nearly spilled my drink. Bro, whoever you are… bless your pure heart, but you’re one hell of a naive guy.


It sounds principled on the surface. But the reality is... Modern Naija women in 2026 are far less likely to actually keep to your little no sex with anybody else deal.


Here's why:

Modern women have ridiculously more sexual options than at any point in history. The kind of options and body counts most girls rack up? Only men who are A-list or B-list celebrities are playing in that league.


When she gets Hot for sex, she just scrolls through her hundreds of DMs or picks from the squad of guys hovering around her like vultures.


For most guys, when they get Hot for sex? Their options are usually porn videos and a lonely night of "handling business" till they sleep.


So when you agree to her “no sex before marriage,” understand this: she’s not making the same sacrifice you are.


The power dynamic is lopsided from start. She’s asking you to give up something that's already scarce for you, while she’s only “sacrificing” something she has in ridiculous abundance for her. That’s not equal sacrifice, bro… that’s a psychological setup.


Also, one dark truth about the female species:


Women wear different faces for different guys.


When she's around the street-wise, raw, scumbag, sexually experienced dudes… she lets her real naughty freaky nature breathe freely.


But when she's around the nice, gentlemanly, “intentional,” pedestalizing brother? She suddenly becomes Sister Mary: proper, wholesome, holy, sexually reserved wife-material.


She doesn’t want you “good & intentional” men to know she loves sex just as much as (sometimes more than) men do. So she puts on the perfect Virgin Mary act, hoping the good boys will commit.



Anyway… back to the topic.

The dark truth most men refuse to swallow:

A woman who truly wants you romantically will usually find a way to get sexual with you — even before marriage — if the attraction and connection are high enough.

That brings us to the real question:

Why is she telling you “no sex before marriage”?

It’s usually one of two realities:

#1. She’s not that attracted to you.
You’re the safe, stable provider backup while she quietly gets her sexual needs sorted elsewhere.

Or

#2. She’s genuinely into you, but she’s carrying shame, religious guilt around sex with a man who hasn't paid her bride price, or… most likely… she just doesn’t trust you enough yet. She’s scared you’ll smash and dash once you get it.

Both sound the same on the surface (“no sex before marriage”), but they’re worlds apart for your future.

#1 is straight manipulation dressed as virtue.

#2 is real desire for you but blocked by fear of being used, or guilt from her mum, pastor, or imam’s sermons.



So what's the real move?

When she drops the “no sex before marriage” line, don’t argue or simp. First, figure out if she’s actually in category #2: that is, she genuinely wants you but is blocked by fear, guilt, or past trauma.

The cleanest way to test it? Make her invest in you: real effort, helping out, and yes, even spending money on you.

From my own experience:

I was vibing with this babe, things moving smooth, then one evening she hit me with the “no sex before marriage bla bla.” I found it funny because it was my first time hearing that one. I didn’t argue, didn’t negotiate, didn’t simp. Just replied calmly: “I get you. I’m not rushing anything either. We’ll see how it develops naturally.”

Then I flipped the frame and made her pay[b] the toll[/b] to stay in my world… through real effort and financial investment.

Effort like: “Come through and help me with this: cook, organize, even review boring work documents…

If she resisted, I already knew she was a time-waster.

I ask for financial investment in different ways. For example… I once spotted a nice fancy shoe I liked and boldly told her to buy it for me. She laughed, said she no get money… then offered to pay half.

Throughout all her efforts and financial gifts, I never pushed for sex or seduced her hard. Why? Because her investment in me was doing the real seduction.

With time, she got comfortable. Touching started, lap sitting, kissing… everything.

That’s when I realized her “no sex before marriage” was never about holiness… she was just scared I’d use her body and dump her.



There’s more wisdom I could drop, but I’ll stop here:

Understand this: Her giving sex isn’t the only compatibility test. But refusing it *while* also refusing to invest in you? That’s not virtue, bro… that’s straight manipulation or exploitation.

Biggest red flag? You ask for even small financial investment and she hits you with:

“Are you not the man? Aren’t you supposed to be the one to provide and pay?”

My brother, run. You’re dealing with a woman who has zero genuine interest in you…just future problems wrapped in entitlement.

Here’s the harsh reality even your pastors won’t tell you:

If she’s not genuinely into you, or you’re incompatible on key things, waiting till marriage won’t magically fix shit.

Plenty men have waited, married, then regretted it bitterly when the bedroom turned cold and the sexual/romantic mismatch slapped them in the face: issues they should have discovered during courtship.

gentlegiant95:
I'm also interested in the thread. I'd appreciate it if you mention me as well

Sure, bro.

Adasun:
Pukkalolo, how do you handle those that said no sex before marriage...

U show them logical reasoning why they should mate with you, or plainly tell them it can't work if sex is not involved or you play along and seduce or....

This is an interesting question. I'll create a thread/topic on it and mention you, so you won't miss it.

floss:
Sexx is overrated… I don’t really see how people talk about it as if it’s a project…. Normally In every scenario, a vessel isn’t more important than the content… women are vessels, while men are the content…. Without the content, the vessel is useless and just empty, even in the absence of a vessel to accommodate the content, the content is still very valuable and useful…

It’s reverse psychology that made the first man that paid a woman for sex… did that…. Assuming the male organ has the powerful sensation the female clito has … that means men will be slaves to women then

Truth bomb! 💣

emperor4love:
that's y women talk shit on them lik Annie and others how she fed tuface wen he no get nothing as if tuface was a nonentity and was not making money from little show he do go bck then, this is the result, women spending on one brings alot of insults not only to you but people around such

Bro... The bolded is false.

A woman spending her own money on you doesn’t bring insults. It paradoxically brings respect... from her, from outsiders who notice, and even from other men who see she’s locked in.

The only people insulting it are broke, insecure guys who’ve never experienced it.

Real ones watch a woman drop cash on her man and think: “Damn, she’s really into him.”

Look, Guy... Her money on you is quiet power. Men who call it insulting are just advertising they’ve never had real female investment.

kingthreat:
When it comes to having sex without emotions, men are the kings.
Infact your theory works for men more than women. Just that men can have sex with a woman, even give her money and still feel nothing afterwards. But for our wives, our number one girlfriends or concubines, we spend more on them to keep them happy.

You're completely wrong... and it shows you don't understand women's true sexual nature at all.

Women want to Bleep just as much as men do. Often more. They just do it smarter and way more low-key.

A woman can ride a random guy, then go home to her husband/boyfriend and act like nothing happened... zero emotional fallout.

Your "men are kings of emotionless sex" line is crap. Women have been having emotionless sex behind closed doors forever with their side guy while collecting money and gifts from their main man.

She gives her body casually. She guards her money fiercely.

goran3310:
Have you ever heard a rich successful man complain about women?


Poor wretched people would even take money from women.🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮

Rich successful men complain about women all the time... especially in divorce court.


They quietly watch their ex-wives walk away with half (or more) of everything they've built: houses, investments, businesses, even future earnings through alimony.

Many rich men call it the biggest financial mistake of their lives.

The problem is... Those men usually didn't have her spending meaningfully on them during the relationship.

Her spending on you isn't about "taking from women."

It's the only real proof she genuinely likes you.

carlo90:
True !
A woman can spend on a man.
If the woman have the cash , why not ?
However ,spending of money on someone should not be a guage to know true love .
Maybe the woman just love the sex and wants to keep the man hooked down with money .
Lust they call it .
Another thing is that the man should not be relaxed when a woman is spending on her .
Oga , step and go find hustle out some income source .

Spending isn't the only proof of love... but it's one of the strongest and rarest.

Because when she opens her wallet... her hard-earned money, her resources... that's when her psychology forces her to justify it: 'He must be worth it."

voortrekker966:
A woman spending on a man doesn't guarantee the woman is meant for the man. Women also use money to hook men when they are desperate for marriage. Once in the marriage, they withdraw that financial support or start disparaging the men.

Wrong.

When a woman spends her own money on a man, she is the one getting hooked... not the other way around.

Dtruthspeaker:
I have told them but they cannot accept the pain of Truth especially those wey don already put hope say she love them.

https://www.nairaland.com/8427188/see-why-sometimes-women-give#135393099

True.

The ones who accept the truth early are the ones who eventually heal and level up.

dangermouse:
True talk. A woman who truly loves you will spend her money and invest on you.

Sex can be transactional devoid of emotions as long as the man is willing to pay the lady. it only takes emotions and love for a lady to spend her money on a man.

Big facts... no debate.

The more she spends, the deeper she gets hooked, because now her resources and identity are tied to you.

angelboy01:
Nice read. You are spot on. Women who spend on you will surely end up with you and they are most likely the woman meant for you.

Real talk.

The women who willingly spend on you are usually the ones who will stick with come rain come shine.

Women who gives you sex but rarely spend money on you are just enjoying the ride until someone better (or richer) shows up.

Simple as that.

This truth is so dark most men will never accept it.

A woman can give you sex while feeling almost nothing real for you. She can ride you, moan your name, cum, and still wake up emotionally detached, ready to ghost or treat you like an option.

Plenty of women are married to men they don’t genuinely like. They still give him sex… but to her, it’s nothing.

For many women, sex is just a physical release or a handy transaction. It costs her almost nothing in ego, identity, or long-term risk. She can sleep with a man she barely likes, one she’s using, or one she’s about to discard, and still walk away with her self-image perfectly intact.

But when a woman spends her own money on you: real cash, her hard-earned naira, her time turning it into a gift, a meal, transport, or bailing you out… something much deeper shifts.

She has now invested her resources in you.

The more she spends, the more she convinces herself you’re worth it. The more attached and emotionally locked in she becomes.

This is dark psychology 101.

For women… sex can be given casually.
Money cannot.

You hear women say, “My money is my money, his money is our money.”


Most men never truly get what that means.

A woman can give you her body, but it’s genuinely hard for her to give you her money. That’s why her spending on you — even occasionally — is the only real proof she actually likes you.

Women dump or divorce men they’ve slept with, even when the sex is great.

But a woman can’t easily wake up and dump the man she’s been spending money on. That’s logically and emotionally impossible.

Women who spend on a man often turn strangely loyal… even if he’s average or toxic. Their money is on the line. Their identity is now tied to the story “he’s worth it.”

Compare that to sex.

A woman can Bleep you and still feel zero love towards you. She can give you her body while keeping her heart, loyalty, and resources completely separate.

Sex is temporary. Money is cumulative.

Every naira she spends on you adds another brick to the emotional wall she builds around you.

Most men reject this truth because it shatters their provider fantasy. They want to believe being the financial rock is enough. It isn’t… not if she isn’t investing back.

The woman who spends on you is showing you something far more valuable than sex.

She’s showing you that she’s decided you’re worth her resources.

And that decision is what creates real emotional attachment.

Sex can be faked or given casually.

Money cannot.

Let me hit you with a truth so ugly that might make you hate me after reading this:


A woman’s real job is not to love you. Her real job is to catch you and put you in the cage called “commitment”

Once she succeeds: once you commit, once you make it obvious you’re fully satisfied with her. Meaning you're not trying to escape from the cage… her job is done.

And when a woman’s job is done,
She stops trying to please you. She starts misbehaving. She starts looking outside.

Because a caged lion that stops trying to escape is no longer exciting.
It’s just furniture.

Think about it like this:

Commitment and marriage are a cage, and
Her mission is to lure the wild, dangerous man inside and lock the door. The satisfaction for her doesn’t come from catching a man who WANTS to be in the cage.

That’s boring. That’s weak. That’s prey walking willingly into the trap.

The real thrill: the thing that keeps her wet, respectful, attracted and on her toes… is catching a man that is constantly looking for ways to escape. A man who she knows, deep down, can walk away at any moment if she bleeps up.

One of the oldest tests a woman run on her Man is:

She open the cage door to see if you'll escape

She opens the cage in form of:

Disrespect.
Silent treatment.
Withholding sex.
Threatening to leave you.
Flirting with other men in front of you.

What is she really doing?

She's checking: “Will this man stay in the cage like a domesticated cat… or will he have some backbone and walk out of this cage?”

If you stay, that's, you apologize, beg, chase, and stay put like an intentional good boy — she knows her job is finished.

Game over.

From that moment, she starts looking for someone more challenging. Someone who still feels dangerous.

If you walk out of the cage — go no-contact, flirt with other women, enforce real consequences, or straight-up dump her — something magical happens.

She respects you more. She suddenly remembers how to be sweet, submissive, and sexually available again.

The dark truth:

A woman needs a little bit of fear that one day her man might walk out of the cage and never look back. That fear keeps her on her toes. That fear makes her bring her best behavior, her best sex, her best effort.

If your wife or girlfriend is disrespecting you, denying you sex, giving attitude, or treating you like an option… it’s not because she’s “changed.”

It’s because she knows you’re 100% satisfied with her and have no intention of leaving the cage.

Be wise brothers.

thesicilian:
You can't be an abusive man if you're single. By definition an abuse is always with respect to a partner.

That’s cute logic, but it’s complete nonsense.

You don’t need to currently have a partner to be an abusive man.

Calling someone “not abusive because he’s single” is like saying a man isn’t a thief because he hasn’t robbed anyone this week.

Abusive men are rarely single for long precisely because they’re skilled at hiding the poison until a woman is already hooked.

ElasmoBranchii:
Some guys think that cold approach begins and ends at spamming many girls with "I like you".

But that just leads to a lot of shit test if she isn't attracted to you. If you persist for long enough you might later get the girl but for me that's just too much work. I'm here to have fun not to stress myself trying to win you over.

To consistently crack different girls using cold approach it requires you to get really good at game.

Getting good at game requires some trial and error and experimenting with different styles and methods to see what works best for you. That's why I always say don't be afraid to fail an approach. You will learn from it.

You can't even use another guy's method to get results because his identity and everything about his existence is quite different from yours but you can learn something from his style of approach, if you really try to understand why his approach works but there are somethings that work in general.

Cold approach is like a playing field for you to experiment many ideas in game and redpill. You will see a lot of things that the redpill has told you about and laugh.

You can't even get far with cold approach without developing this "Testing the waters approach" mindest. You need to have fun with it.

That's why in the past I posted something about playful banter. You shift your mindset from trying to score the girl for a minute to having fun in an interaction with a human. Amusing yourself by seeing how good you can whine someone.

If you see that girl is having fun too then you start escalating. (Although you should have started escalating slowly from the start)

But I get it, this might not be exciting to some guys. To each his own. Use

Among other things you said... You’re also absolutely right about this:

“Cold approach is the ultimate playing field for testing red-pill ideas and game in real time.”

It’s actually hilarious how some guys on here drop heavy red-pill and game advice like they’re seasoned veterans… yet proudly admit they don’t (cold) approach.

In my mind, I'm like “bro, where exactly are you getting all this experience from?”

Because any man who is truly good with women: the kind who can read women in seconds, spot manipulation, smell genuine desire, and move with zero hesitation… didn’t get that knowledge from watching YouTube videos or reading redpill stuff from the Internet.

He got it from taking raw action. That's it: From approaching hundreds of women. From seeing every possible female reaction, excuse, shit-test, and genuine green light in the wild.

I don’t do cold approaches anymore…because I’m busy with work, hustle, and building my biz.

But back in the day? I was a menace.

I initiated conversations with countless random girls. Not because I was thirsty for every single one, but because I treated it like a laboratory. I tested playful, bold, straightforward, sometimes sexual shit on complete female strangers.

If she responded well, I doubled down and vibed.

If she gave me dry energy or attitude… I smiled, said “nice meeting you,” and moved on like nothing happened.

Each interaction was meaningless because I could just try again with a new girl.. No attachment, no one approach felt special. I once accidentally re-approached the same girl twice in one week because I talked to so many that I genuinely didn’t remember her.

I initiated conversations with so many girls that none of those interactions with the women felt worth telling... unless I actually slept with any of them.

Meanwhile, my guy I rolled with would approach one girl in a whole month… then spend the next three weeks telling war stories about that single interaction like he just survived a battlefield. Bro didn’t even smash her. Yet, his stories lasted longer than the actual conversation.


Because I had seen it all: the sweet girls, the manipulative ones, the secretly Hot ones who hadn’t been bleeped properly in months, the time-wasters, the “good girls” who turned naughty behind closed door… nothing surprises me anymore.


I can spot genuine interest in the first 30 seconds, even when she’s pretending to be hard.

I can detect the manipulator who’s about to waste my time…

I can tell when a girl is down to Bleep but fighting herself.

I can tell a lot about a girl just by observing her body language and the way she says things… not necessarily what she says.

All of that came from raw experience. .

And funny enough… That same experience spilled into every other area of my life: business, negotiations, leadership, reading people. Once you’ve learned how to handle unpredictable female energy under pressure, almost nothing else intimidates you.

So when guys preach red-pill wisdom but admit they don’t approach… I just laugh.

You can’t become dangerous with women by theory alone. It takes raw practical.

JESHAL007:
To be clear, engaging with women in permanent living arrangement would involve some level of "simping" as you'll be expected to provide as a man to get sex, companionship and your bloodline passed on. Realistically, you can't always hold frame 100% of the time but at least, be smart enough to recover when you seem to be losing

The bolded is one of the saddest, most beta statements I’ve heard in a long time.

Providing in and of itself is not simping.

In a healthy, genuine relationship, provision flows both ways. Not just financially, but emotionally, sexually, and energetically.

In relationship, A woman who genuinely wants you doesn’t just receive… she GIVES.. She disturbs you for sex. She spends on you too. She protects the relationship like it’s hers too. Because it is.

If the only reason she opens her legs or gives you affection is because you paid the bills, you’re not in a relationship.
You’re in a long-term business deal with worse customer service.

Let’s look at my big brother (cousin) as a real example…

When he started dating his now-wife, she wasn’t sitting back waiting for him to “provide” like some queen on a throne.
She was all in from early days. Constant calls, constant texts, random gifts, checking up on him.

When he lost big on a business deal and went into debt, he borrowed from me. When she found out, she got genuinely angry… not at him for failing at the business, but for not asking her for money first.

Her exact words: “Why are we in a relationship if you can’t ask me for money?”

She told him to return my money immediately and gave him hers instead.

That’s not “I’ll help you because I’m nice.”

That’s raw desire in action… a woman who sees her man struggling and feels compelled to step up because she actually wants him to win.

Online fellas would say, “A woman doesn't care about your struggle”

That's true only if she doesn't truly likes you. If she genuinely likes you, she will care. I'm speaking from experience.

My big brother and his wife have been married four years now with two boys. They run a joint family account where both of them put in 60% of their salaries every month for the house, the kids, and the relationship. Real partnership. Real provision from both sides.

After four years, she’s still the one disturbing him for sex. That's because she has raw, consistent desire for him. Not obligation.

That’s what happens when a woman genuinely wants you. She doesn’t make you earn sex like it’s a performance bonus. She gives it because she wants to. She protects the relationship because she wants to.


If you’re in a situation where you have to “provide to get sex and companionship,” you didn’t build a relationship. You built a transaction. And transactions always leave one party feeling used eventually.

CaveAdullam:
Cold Approaching or Genuine Desire


The moment you approached a woman, she automatically becomes the PRIZE. There's no second thought about this.

How you decide to play the game and turn the table to make you the man become the prize is a tedious work of seduction that should either be saved or channelled to a woman that first like you.

The thing is that women have a particular men they love. This is aside financial and physical status. Meet any mature woman today, and she will tell you she loves this particular man. She will not wait for that man to approach her, rather she will get closer to the man and send greenlights. Another man chasing this kind of woman is mere wasting his time.

The humiliation ritual you'll face when cold approaching and the later rejection affects you psychologically no matter how much you all try to form Brocks Lesnar. "Oh, her lose, not mine". Bro shut the Bleep up! It is actually your lose because you were the one that approached her, she never cared about your existence not until you decide to jump into her radar.

This is where manipulative women are able to play their script, because they know that it's the man doing the chasing and as a hunter he will try all means to get her down to satiate his ego and increase his notch counts, and in this same process, alter these men into simps.

Not entirely disproving cold approaching women. But the ROI is extremely low and poor. Your only advantage is if you've good aesthetics in looks and good financial standing. You must be constantly showcasing your status to draw women's attention and as well understand how seduction works. And in most cases you end up being a simp. Because you're trying to force a relationship to happen where there should be none in the first place.

This doesn't means you can't seduce a stranger into your bed, but that's possible if you're doing it on a mutual ground, that's after creating some form of rapport rather than just jumping into her front and starts giving lines. She will definitely see you as a 🤡.

Fun fact: every man also has one or two women vying for their attention. The problem is that men don't know how to pick signals from women and/or these women making sexual advances are not sexually appealing to the men.

It's a dilemma: the woman you lust over don't love you; the woman who loves you, you don't lust over.

The thing here is that, in the intersexual dynamics, the relationship moves easier when it's the woman that likes you first. She'll do everything to make the relationship work. That's what is termed Genuine desire.
Reverse cannot be the case because women want to give reverence and adulation for their men and end up being protected by these men.

Stop shooting aimlessly.

Look for the few women that have genuine desire for you and you'll enjoy the game of seduction and the interplay of love and romance.

You’re fundamentally wrong when you say “the moment you approach a woman, she automatically becomes the prize.”

That statement sounds clever, but it’s complete rooted in fear, not reality.
I'll get back to that in a moment… Let’s start with the basics you conveniently ignored.

First, cold approach is when you initiate conversation with to a complete stranger.... a woman who has zero prior knowledge of you. Yes, that comes with higher rejection risk.

But here’s what you’re missing: most Naija guys don’t even do cold approach

Go outside for one full month. Walk through malls, markets, streets, campuses, ShopRite, anywhere women gather during the day. Count how many guys you see walking up to a random girl they don’t know. You’ll be shocked… it’s extremely rare.

Most Nigerian guys are waiting for “interest signals,” church connections, or the girl to make the first move. They lack the balls to approach a female stranger.

So when you complain that cold approach has low ROI, you’re mostly talking about a very tiny minority of men who actually have the courage to even try. The rest are just spectators making excuses.

Now, back to your main claim: “The moment you approach, she becomes the prize.”

Firstly…

Female psychology doesn’t work that way. Forget the “I don't need a man” crap they are putting out there. Most woman see the guys they're attracted too on a daily basis. The reason why most women don't wanna approach these guys first is not because they are the prize, but because women are scared of rejection and being viewed as cheap...

Single women actually dress up, do makeup, take pictures, and go out HOPING a man with balls will approach them and sweep them off their feet. They are low-key scanning the environment, secretly wishing for the guy who has the balls to break the script.


Secondly…

The real reason most guys would get poor ROI from cold approach is not because it's cold approach… it’s HOW they do it. They’d spam approaches trying to harvest something (a phone number, validation). That desperate energy is what kills attraction.

The correct mindset for cold approach is TESTING THE WATERS , not harvesting.

For example…On last Friday evening, I saw a fine light-skinned girl pricing yam from a Hausa seller. When I got closer to her, I said, “Thank God you’re handling the yam. Let me go buy eggs so we can make yam and egg sauce this evening.”

Two possible outcomes:

1. She gives attitude, dry face, or ignores the bait: she failed the test. I smile, walk away, and continue my day. No ego damage, no wasted time.

2. She smiles, laughs, or plays along: she passed. Now I know she’s open to interacting with a stranger. From there, I express real intent and flow naturally.

She passed.

Most of my actual girlfriends and sexual experiences came from this exact mindset: test the waters fast, invest only in those who pass, move on from those who don’t.

With that approach and mindset, she's not the prize... I just gave her opportunity to follow my lead or get lost.

One last thing…

Most women would rather Bleep (or date) guys OUTSIDE their social circle so they can keep their dignity and avoid sexual judgment from people who know them.

Social circle game often comes with gossip, reputation risk, and pre-existing baggage.

Cold approach gives her a clean, exciting, “nobody has to know me and have Bleep” experience.

Meanwhile, the decent and good guy often goes through long dry spells.

What do you think is really going on here?

mirrael68:
So my dear writer, do you think you know more than our creator who gave the rules for marriage in Ephesians chapter 5?
Where He commanded a husband to love his wife as Christ loved the church and gave His life for her? For wives to respect their husbands, for the two to submit to one another? Etc, Or have you read Christian love as expounded in 1 Corinthians. Chapter 13:4-7?
All you have written is a worldly opinion in error. It can never engender a happy home.
Submit to what's in the Bible if you are a Christian and see the Lord's power give you a stable home.
Thank you.

My post isn’t worldly error...

It’s calling out the husbands who twist “love your wife” into “tolerate anything she throws at you so she stays happy.”

That’s not Christ-like leadership; that’s people-pleasing cowardice.

Ishilove:
Trash. When e reach your turn roar like lion. You think marriage is about all this nonsense you are writing? Go to married men who have been happily married for decades to learn what makes a marriage work, not from internet bros who have mummy and daddy issues.

Shior. You have a lot of growing up to do.

"Roar like lion when e reach your turn" is the excuse men tell themselves after 15 years of swallowing disrespect and wondering why their wife looks at them like a roommate.

Liverpoolfc:
The same boss, pastors even G.Os , and gym instructor face worse from their wives than you can imagine. Don't let one unmarried guy destroy your marriage with unrealistic write up. Manage your wife in the best way you can have peace for the sake of your children.

You're speaking with full chest… on an empty brain.

I hope you don't learn the hard way. I hope so.

As a Man, You can pay her bride price with blood, sweat… You can slave 12-hour days, six days a week working to provide for her, to fund the house bills, the kids' school fees and feeding, take care of her expenses, send money to her family back home….

You can literally stand in front of a truck to save her life, die for her without a second thought…

Regardless of that… She'd still raise her voice at you in your own house. Still roll her eyes when you open your mouth, as if your words are already beneath her notice.
Still talk back to you with that sharp, cutting tone she’d never dare use on her boss, her pastor, or the gym instructor who barks orders at her. Still dismiss your opinion mid-sentence, like it’s background noise, like you’re her annoying younger brother instead of the man who carries the roof over her head.

And worse…sometimes even straight-up punish you by locking her legs and denying you sex for days, weeks or months, just to prove a point.


Meanwhile, the same woman walks into her boss's office, softens her tone, nods quickly, says "Yes sir" without hesitation, stays late if asked, absorbs criticism from her Boss calmly.


The same woman sits in church, hangs on every word her pastor drops, kneels down for him to lay his hands on her, calls him "My Daddy in the Lord," never dares interrupt or question his authority.

The same woman shows up to the gym, lets the instructor bark orders, correct her by sexually touching her hips, ass, thighs, laps… and she obeys, sweats, smiles through the pain, says "Thank you sir" after.

Why?

Why does she highly respect her Boss, Pastor and gym instructors but disrespect you her husband/ loyal boyfriend?

Because her Boss, Pastor and gym instructors occupy frames of unapologetic dominance, consequence, and zero emotional neediness…

Her boss doesn't need her approval to exist. He doesn't plead for her respect. He demand it with consequences baked in: miss a deadline and the salary vanishes… He can fire her tomorrow. Demote her. His world doesn't collapse if she walks away angry. So he gives orders, expects compliance. She feels his dominance. That dominance triggers respect, and subconscious attraction in her.

Her pastor doesn’t need emotional support from her. No “honey, do you think I should bla bla bla?”. He doesn't need her approval… He stands on a pulpit and speaks with confidence, as if he and God just ate breakfast that morning.

Her gym instructor… Same thing. He pushes her limits, doesn't care if she likes him… he cares if she progresses. He punishes laziness with more reps, more pain. No negotiation. No "please babe, can you bla bla bla?" He literally just gives raw directive energy.

Lions roar and the pride moves. Sheep bleat and hope someone listens. Most husbands bleat. Most husbands are Sheeps.

Here's the bitter truth…

The moment you become her "husband," is the moment you lose the very polarity that made her wet for you in the first place.

Why?

Because society, church, media, aunties tell you "husband" means:

- Provider first, leader second (or never).

- Soften your masculinity to "keep peace."

- Avoid conflict at all costs ("happy wife, happy life".

- Seek her agreement before making any decisions.

- Apologize even when you're right.



This is how a husband becomes predictable, needy for her sex, her “yes.” You trade being a demanding lion for being her accommodating sheep… and then act surprised when the jungle laws still apply.

Remember, lions sit at the top of the food chain. So lions get the best food. That’s exactly why her pastor, her boss, and her gym instructor get her best behavior: submissive, eager-to-please version of her… the soft voice, the quick “Yes sir,” the bowed head, the extra effort…



Look, Men…

Women are wired (evolutionarily, psychologically, call it what you want) to feel a raw attraction toward men who demand… not beg, not negotiate, not explain themselves...

Demanding men create tension. Tension creates heat. Heat creates sexual attraction or submission.


Boss demands output… she delivers or loses income. That create tension and heat. So she works hard to please her Boss.


You: the husband or the loyal boyfriend , demand nothing real from her.
Or when you do, it sounds weak like this:
“Please don’t talk to me like that…”

No consequence. No grounded dominance.

So she frustrate you,. She pushes. She argues. She gives you attitude.

Not because she’s evil. Not because she’s a bad wife. But because something primal in her is whispering:
“Why does this man feel so weak?” or “Did I marry a man… or a boy who needs my approval to function?”

And every time you fold, over-explain, bribe with gifts, or avoid confrontation to “keep the peace,” you don’t create peace.
You confirm your own weakness.

And female attraction doesn’t attach to weakness. It slowly detaches from it. Then she starts cheating on you.

Be wise, brothers...

Stay blessed

thesolutions:
Marriage was cultural and religious obligation.
But it has become something else now.
The married believe responsibility starts when you are married.
Religion and culture maintain that two is always better than one. But civilization has so much destroyed both religion and culture that the statement now reads 'two good heads is better than one '!. Who spoiled the heads?

So it’s no longer “two heads is better than one.”

It’s now: two heads that genuinely like each other and truly want to support one another are better than one person who just wants the title of wife.

As a man, there are exactly three types of married men who will ever give you advice about marriage.

Type 1: The Misery Recruitment Squad (“Go and marry!”)

These are the loudest ones. They’ll hit you with:

“Bro, go and marry.”

“When are you joining us?”

Translation: They are jealous as hell.

They hate it that you're moving freely, keeping your money, dating who you want when you want, and coming home to peace instead of interrogation.


Type 2: The Honest Minority (The ones who actually care)

They don’t sugarcoat. They honestly tell you things like…

“Don’t rush it, bro. Wait until you’re financially capable of handling the bills that come with growing a family.”

“Marriage is not for boys who still need peace of mind every day.”

“I love my kids… but if I could rewind time, I would not have married my current wife.”

These men are truthful. They’re not trying to save face or protect the institution. They’re trying to save you… sometimes from yourself.

Listen to these ones.

Type 3: The Silent Ones (The walking ghosts)

They never talk about marriage… good or bad. Either they have a good marriage… or they are suffering in absolute silence.

You’ll never know which. They smile like diplomats and change the topic like professional politicians.

My final truth...

When a married man opens his mouth about marriage, don’t ask yourself, “Is he telling the truth?”

Ask yourself one question only:

Which type is he… and what does he gain by me believing him?

Answer that honestly, and you’ll know whether to listen… or run.

Be wise brothers.

Zabiboy:
I'm also a big fan of genuine desire, but even attraction also has an expiry date and unfortunately, social media has reduced the attraction/desire window drastically.
Also, one of my theories is that genuine desire in third world countries are mostly fake due to survival instincts.

First, the idea that raw attraction or genuine desire has an “expiry date” like carton milk…

Nah…That's totally false…

You're confusing temporary “interest” vs raw desire.

They are two totally different things…


First off…

You're right… Interest can wear off because of life's stress, arguments, familiarity… She might pull away, stop texting first, or wherever… but that’s interest dying. Not raw desire.

Raw desire doesn’t just evaporate because time passed or Instagram flooded her feed with male options.

Raw desire can go dormant. It can get buried under resentment or life circumstances. But it doesn’t expire like a coupon code.

Here’s the key difference:

You can lose interest in a woman who’s smoking hot…maybe because she disrespected you, maybe you got distracted with work and hustle…and then, one day, you catch a glimpse of her in those sexy tight jeans, smell her perfume… and boom. That raw pull hits you again like a truck. You never “lost” the raw desire. It was just sleeping.

Same for women. A woman can lose interest in you, because she got bored, annoyed, distracted by life… and still have that raw desire flood in back the second you flip the right switches again.

That’s why exes who “moved on” suddenly get wet when you show up looking sharper, acting dominant, reminding her “body” why it reacted to you in the first place.

Look, Zabiboy… Social media didn’t shorten the “desire window.” It only shortened the attention span window.

Abundance of male options on social media makes women flake faster on mild interest. But raw desire is biological, not algorithmic. A woman scrolling past 1,000 cute guys on TikTok doesn’t erase the imprint you left on her nervous system if you genuinely triggered her raw animalistic circuits once.


Now, you said the “third-world desire is fake because of survival instincts” line…


Lolz… you're wrong…

But true, women prioritize providers more openly. They’ll admit it outright, like my Bleep buddies did, she told me: “I’m marrying the rich guy even though I don't desire him sexually.” That’s hypergamy on full display: securing resources while secretly chasing raw desire.

So no…raw desire doesn’t expire.

That’s why a woman can swear she’s “over you,” block you, marry someone else… and still melt the second she sights you because your presence triggered that emotion and primal desire in her.

Interest comes and goes. Raw desire stays forever.

Gerrard59:
If I'm not mistaken, Sabinus was dating the lady before he "blow". Moreover, he has been grinding and behind the scenes for other then reigning celebrities in the region like Duncan Mighty and Nigga Raw. AY has always been accused of being a notorious cheat, which he should have tackled with polygamy considering his cultural origins. Basket Mouth also got divorced. Where am I getting to? I don't really think it's a geninue desire thing, which is an essential factor in relationships/friendships, especially in the long term, but life changes whether in physical appearance, finances or ideologies.

Today's women have drastically changed, whether for the good, bad or ugly.

Your response, only proves that you don't truly understand female sexual nature, or you're unaware of how dangerously manipulative many women can be.

Please read this with an open mind. I hope it removes the scales from your eyes.

First of all...

What does it mean for a woman to have genuine, raw desire for you?

Genuine raw desire is that primal “I want to rip your clothes off” energy. It’s involuntary physical reactions: dilated pupils, racing heart…when she thinks about you or is near you, not because you pay her bills or elevate her status, but because something in your presence, masculinity, or raw essence triggers her deepest anomalistic circuits.

Many men only experience affection tied to the provision and security they offer a woman, yet they mistake that genuine, raw desire.

She stays with you for years… you think she genuinely likes you. She gives you sex… you think she desires you. She says “I love you”… you think it’s true love.

But remove the financial security or social status you provide…or once she’s finally gotten what she wants from you…and suddenly her true colors suddenly emerge.



I have female Bleep buddies who are getting married to men they’re not attracted to at all.

One time, I asked one of them, “Babe, why are you settling down with a man you’re not sexually attracted to?”

She looked at me like I had three noses. Her reply: “Na sexual attraction I go chop? Abeg, leave me. The man has money, biko. I’m the firstborn, I want a man who’ll take care of me and my siblings.”

Another Bleep buddy, who was marrying an “odogwu,” told me she can’t even stand his ugly face and big stomach, but she needs to secure her future first.,


I'm gonna tell you the truth:

Women know how to separate the concept of “love” from “raw desire”.


Women rarely marry the man who triggers genuine raw desire in them…this is because the man have sexual options and are often not in a haste to commit to one woman.

So women, often relegate him to the role of secret lover, low-key affair partner, or occasional sexual escape.

They reserve marriage for the “nice guys” and “good providers” and available men who offer her financial security, stability, and emotional safety.

But these women secretly cheat on her stable provider boyfriend/husband for men who turn her on and give her nothing but intense feelings.

These women often regret it logically later… but the desire overrides logic.

Raw sexual desire very vital for long term relationships e.g marriage.

Without it, you’re basically signing up for a slow death by roommate syndrome.

Think about it:

If she never had that primal, clothes-ripping hunger for you in the first place, what exactly do you think is going to sustain the spark after years of bills, kids, stress, and routine?

You think is Friendship? Commonality ? Maybe But that’s not what keeps couples tearing into each other at 2 a.m. ten years in.


When raw desire is missing from the start, women often settle for security, stability, and “he’s a good man.” And for a while, it works.

She convinces herself that raw desire isn’t that important. Until one day, some raw confident smooth talking dude talk to her in way that triggers that animalistic desires in her and make her panties wet for no logical reason, and suddenly she’s “confused” about her feelings you — who has invested in her for years.

Smh.

Don't be fooled... Genuine Raw desire is important for all kinds of romantic relationship, whether is marriage or just short-term affairs.

Be wise, brothers.

dreamxhaser:
So, let me share one of the advantages of experience. Some things we read here can never be fully understood or implemented without experiencing the "horror" of women first-hand. 😂I’ve experienced women and know how "corny" they can be, my brain is on high alert.

A few months ago, I noticed this new girl liking my pictures and videos on TikTok. She was checking my profile from time to time. I wondered who she was, so I checked her profile, realized she was attractive, and sent her a DM. She replied very fast. I asked how she was doing, she replied, and then I actually forgot about her. To be honest, I really did forget because I was very busy.

Around November, I noticed she was still checking my profile and liking my pictures. I also saw her reposts/reshare a lot, maybe it was the algorithm. I checked her profile again and noticed she had posted some new pictures. Damn, she is hot, for real. I figured, why not go back? So, I messaged her again. She replied almost immediately and we started to vibe like we’d known each other for a long time. It was cool, man.

I thought, "This girl is really into me," because she seemed obsessed. I stylishly asked what her "spec" in a guy was, and she described me: dark skin, etc. That was cool for me because the game just got easier. I figured at this point, I could just lay back and let her do the work.

It reached a point where she suggested taking things to another level, and was like, "Let’s give it a try." I didn't want to play hard to get since she was giving me the green light. But I told her straight up, "Okay, but I won’t be spending any money on you because I have other things to focus my funds on."
She said that was fine, that she can wait till I am stable enough. We continued vibing; I gave her a grace period and didn’t see any "billing" coming from her side.

To be honest, I am not emotionally invested in her; I even view the s***x aspect as secondary now, like a bonus. The truth is, I just enjoy her company because I’m at a stage where I hardly socialize, it's just me at home grinding. I don’t know if you guys understand where I am coming from, but it just isn’t love.

The girl has taken this relationship quite far too; she has started discussing marriage, sending me wedding videos, and a lot more. I can’t give all the details here, but I can tell she is already imagining settling down with me.

She’s a student, by the way. She said she wanted to visit me. I told her that after school, I moved back to my parents' place last year, but I offered to lodge her in a hotel. She was okay with it, but one thing led to another and it ended up not working out. It’s all on me. Also, when we were talking about her visiting recently, she mentioned coming on Thursday and leaving on Sunday.

Now, this is where it gets interesting. On Thursday night, she didn’t chat with me or even reply to any of my reels on TikTok. At that moment, I knew something was fishy. I didn’t say a word and just continued with my life. Then, I noticed she didn’t come online on all social media on Friday. Based on my past experiences, I knew something was up, but I gave her the benefit of the doubt and decided to call her just in case something had happened to her.

Well, it rang once, then the call ended, and after that, the line wouldn’t go through. I just burst out laughing. I knew instantly that she went to see another guy and blocked me so I couldn't reach her.

I am sure she will message me on Sunday and start telling me a story about her phone being damaged, forgetting that she was originally supposed to be visiting me from Thursday to Sunday a few weeks back. Which is the same Thursday to Sunday her phone went off this week, meaning she was def with someone.

If I were as naive as I was years ago, I would have been worried, thinking something had happened to her, and I would have started blowing up her phone. But because I’ve experienced a similar script with a woman in the past, I just knew.
Honestly, the younger guys should get out there and experience women for themselves. Otherwise, you will see the warnings that the "red pill" teaches you and either ignore them or cover them up with an excuse.

You're totally right… Younger or less experienced men really need to get out there and rack up real-world interactions with women. No amount of redpill theory can replace it.

Low-experienced guys overanalyze everything. They believe there's always a “reason” behind a woman’s behavior towards him.

Examples:

- If she agrees to hang out, he believes the reason is because his seduction game is fire, that his teasing worked.

- If she doesn’t reply to his text, he will be devastated. He thinks: “Damn! I bleeped up, I texted too soon. I should’ve waited two days. I said the wrong thing. I’m an idiot.”

That’s how low-experienced guys think.

There’s a quote from my old mentor that used to confuse the hell out of me. He said: “The more experienced you are, the less control you have.”

At first I thought it was bullshit. Shouldn’t more experience mean more control?

But after hundreds and thousands of interactions with new women, I finally got it. Women’s behavior is full of contradictory patterns that no amount of “game” or even “redpill” can fully predict or control.

On the negative side:

I’ve had women all over me: touching, giggling, saying “You’re exactly my type”.... then vanish into thin air for no absolute reasons.

On the positive side:

I’ve had women criticize me, give cold or negative reactions initially, then suddenly flip, drag me home, and desperately begging me to pound them.

I’ve had “good church girls” who act like saints around other men but eagerly drop their panties for me… even on their period.

I’ve slept with women who swore they loved their boyfriends with all their heart… yet cheated with me without a second thought.

All these contradictions killed something in me. That’s why I’m almost bored or soulless when talking to women. I’m not excited or anxious anymore because I’ve let go of the illusion of control.

You can’t control what contradicts itself.

Women are deeply contradictory beings.

Beginners try to force control and make women’s behavior consistent.
Experienced men accept the chaos and flow with it.

The moment you know you’re truly experienced is when:

- You don’t feel special or superior when a woman chooses you.

- You don’t feel no atom hurt or rejected when a woman ignores or rejects you.

emmaodet:
I attended a wedding febraury this year.
What saddens me is that a man processed UK visa for this lady in late 2023 and spent 15m to get it for her.
He is a UK based man trying to bring a good lady from home (Nigeria) abroad to make his wife.
I don't know how they met - maybe online or connection by friends.
15m in 2023 is roughly 25 to 30m in todays naira value. SO we can have an idea of what that man spent all in the name of Love and relationship.
Guess what?
Immediately the lady got the visa, she broke up with him Right here in Nigeria before even touching London.
This is not a nollywood script rather what happened within my circle.
And as if that is not bad enough, she got engaged and did introduction to a new man she met at the train station in UK just 6 months arriving there.
Can you imagine that?
Just 6 months of breaking up with someone who has spent 15m on you to come into that country and you are already dating and engaged.
People were dancing in the wedding hall because it was a virtual wedding. The couples only joined us online watching through projector while both families were in the hall with their guest, musician, foods and drinks etc
I only pity the new man. Only if he knows what the lady did to the last man before he came in. I am sorry but he better watch his back.

The funny thing is, most guys think this kind of incident only happens in Nollywood movies.

It's pathetic, and I genuinely feel sorry for the previous guy in this story who spent millions doing a visa for her. If only he had understood the true nature of women.

That bolded part caught my attention: you said you pity the new man and that he better watch his back.

Well, the only reason he needs to watch his back is if he’s also spending millions on her like her ex did. But if he’s spending little or nothing to keep her around, then he has nothing to worry about.

Most men think women are evil or bad people. That’s not true. Women are simply following their feminine nature. The real problem is that many men are not living according to their true masculine nature.

Look, God designed male-female sexual dynamics a certain way. His plan is for men and women is... to desire each other, mate, and multiply.

As a man, you will meet two types of women:

1. The woman who has genuine, raw desire for you.
2. The woman who does not.

There's nothing in-between.

Here’s the hard truth: your desire for her doesn’t matter nearly as much as her desire for you.

It’s funny, and sad… how most men foolishly believe that if they really want a woman, they can use money and financial provision to make her desire them. That’s completely wrong. That’s trying to cheat God’s design for sexual attraction. And when you try to cheat the system, you pay the price… usually in the form of her cheating, exploiting you, or dumping you.

If a woman has no genuine raw desire for you, but you still commit to her thinking your money will keep her, here are the three possible outcomes:

1. She uses you until she gets what she wants (money, business setup, visa, property, etc.), then dumps you immediately. Example: the lady who got her UK visa, broke up with the guy before even landing in London.

2. She stays until you hit a financial low point and can’t provide like before… then she leaves.

3. She stays for the money and comfort, but cheats on you with a man she actually desires sexually.

Here’s the truth: when a woman has no real desire for a man, having sex with him feels disgusting to her deep down. It feels like eating bitterleaf or drinking strong agbo when you’re sick. She squeezes her face inside, even if she’s smiling outside.

But women are masters at pretending. She’ll fake enjoyment in bed just to keep accessing your money. Then, to satisfy her real sexual needs, she’ll cheat with men she genuinely desires.

Look at some recent Nigerian celebrity breakups:
- Ciara Chapman divorcing Sabinus
- AY Makun splitting with his wife Mabel
- Regina Daniels and Ned Nwoko separation.

These women are all very beautiful and attractive. But one thing you probably didn’t notice: they never had genuine raw desire for those men from the start. Those men thought money could lock the women down.

Now these women are walking away after securing the bag: Sabinus paying child support to his UK wife. And trust me Regina Daniels and Mabel Makun are walking away with assets, wealth, connections. Women are not foolish.

That marriage or relationship was just a business and wealth accumulation strategy.

When they leave, they play the victim card: “he cheated,” “domestic violence,” or whatever accusations they can put on the Man just to look innocent while portraying the man as the villain. But the truth is… They’ve milked what they wanted and are now free to enjoy the men they actually desire.

Lesson for every man reading this:
If you notice a woman doesn’t have genuine raw desire for you, walk away early. Don’t invest time, money, or commitment thinking your provision or “good personality” will change how she feels. It won’t.

Your money can buy her presence and cooperation. But only genuine desire gets her real passion, loyalty, and respect.

Choose wisely, kings.

luminouz:
Yes I agree with the mental stress on men. That is why I usually tell young dudes that being born a man in this world is basically 2-goals down. We develop the strength and mental toughness that ultimately makes you a man. The road is usually hard, rough and tough. If you are lucky to meet people who care about you as a man, then you are lucky indeed because men are not loved because they are men but for the value they can provide. I knew this ages ago. Everyone wants you to be a provider, protector, sacrifice for everyone but you rarely see anyone giving a hoot about your pain, fear and wants. That is why being a man is literally the toughest job out there because most times you are alone and expected to figure it out alone.

I will never get that part though. The part where men get small money and they rush to get married, especially to the same ladies who rejected them when they were broke. It's almost like men have this innate desire to watch themselves suffer. Then they still stayed in these marriages despite knowing they are not loved but tolerated because they can provide. The same set always tell me 'you better marry, you are not a complete man if you don't ' and when I point out how fvcked up their marriages are, they are like 'fear who no fear woman oh' and my mind is why dafuq did you have to marry who doesn't love or respect you? And you knew this yet you went ahead.

All in all, this community is one of the saving graces to help men grow and see their own value.

You're making sense...

But the bolded caught my attention...

The truth is...

Being a man is tough only if your main approach to dating or relationship is presenting yourself as a provider.

One of the worst things that can happen to you as a man is to be an intentional guy with “good intentions” toward a woman.

Why?

Because most women despise men who have good intentions for them.

Sounds bleeped up, but hear me out.

Having “good intentions” basically means you’re serious, you want commitment, you’re ready to invest and build something long-term. On paper, nothing wrong with that.

But here’s the brutal truth most men miss:

When women say they want a man with “good intentions,” they mean they want those good intentions from a man they already have raw, primal sexual desire for.

If you come in with good intentions toward a woman who does NOT already feel that raw desire for you, she immediately slots you into the “provider” category.

And providers tend to suffer at the hands of women.

She’ll expect you to pay bills, handle her financial needs, boost her social status, be her emotional tampon… all while in return: she cheats on you with a man she has raw sexual desires for.

Most women have sky-high standards, long lists of rules and requirements… but those rules are almost exclusively for the men they DON’T actually want to Bleep.

Those rules are for the “good intention” guys…the betas( and providers) orbiting them.

I once had a light argument with a girl I was already smash**g. She posted on her status: “For God’s sake, if you don’t have money, stop asking me out.”

In other posts she laid out her demands: her man has to pay her a weekly “girlfriend allowance,” among other shit.



I laughed… Well, I don't blame her. She's in her prime, so she has lots of male options and her beauty has really gotten into her head.

I asked her:

“You know all these guys sliding into your DMs actually have good intentions for you, right? They’re serious about you.”

She said, “Yeah, I know.”

So I asked, “Then why do you set all these insane standards for men who have good intentions for you… but you don’t demand any of that from me, the guy who’s already pounding you?”

Her response: “Ah, you’re different from those other men..”

Translation: “I actually want to Bleep you, so I don’t need you to pay for access. I just want your dick and the excitement that comes from being around you.”

What made me “different”?

Simple: I only trade sex for sex.

I don’t buy access to pussy with money or promises of commitment.

The provider guys trade resources: money…in exchange for (usually mediocre) sex.

I trade good sex for good sex. Nothing more, nothing less.

As a man, never build your game around money or “providing.”

Build it around raw sexual desire.

Make her want to Bleep you first.

Everything else: commitment, marriage, “showing good intentions” — only works successfully when the woman has raw sexual primal desire for you.

If that raw desire for you doesn't exist in a woman, you'll suffer at the hands of her later.

Men, You've been warned.