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Cristina Yang to Lexie Grey (GreyS Anatomy S4E15)

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His lyrics and delivery is fantastic.
He's been keeping me up these days

Chuck Seasons 1-5
Boston Legal

May his soul rest in peace

FIRDAUS3:
hello..........

Do you have any available 3bedroom flat along ring road axis?

mekula:
DJDOLA, may your soul rest in peace, Amen.

@ Seun Osewa
I have a suggestion to make. Please, and please if you would be so kind to allow a small banner for TEHN's charity projects to be displayed on front page always, so that NLers would always be abreast with TEHN's projects. If a banner would be too much to ask, is it possible to write an algorithm to always have current TEHN's project threads displayed on the front page? This would help ensure speedy response to critical situations as some of us only visit the front page. Some people didn't even know about Hameed's case until his demise. Too many lives are lost in Nigeria needlessly. May God continue to bless you abundantly as you consider this suggestion or something better.

I thank all the NLers who assisted Hameed in one way or the other, contributions, prayer, time, support and all. God will reward you all even if you don't believe in him. He never turns his eyes away from good deeds.

I am moved to tears as I type this. This shows that despite all the bickering and fights, we are still one. God bless you Seun for this platform. Nairalanders are real fighters with great compassion.

Gboliwe, Chair cover, pickabeau, r231, jaybee, idowuogbo, e.t.c all the TEHN crew, thumbs up. Please PM me if there's need for any donations/assistance in future projects.

May God console his family at this time of need. Hammeed rest on brother! Rest on!

Kindly visit this thread.

www.nairaland.com/2110709/please-safe-folake-urgent

Present Sir

There are more children than we can bear to imagine that get abused everyday: sexually, physically, emotionally and otherwise. And can I say that a sadder part is that majority of these children are abused by someone that is known and trusted by them and even other family members. This person is even more often than not a family member. This makes the acknowledgment of a child’s abuse even more difficult especially by the parents of the child.

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Different things drive child molesters but then that’s not the topic of discussion today. Just want to say a thing or two about how we can protect our kids from being victims of sexual abuse.

Firstly, I’ld like to remind you (especially for those that still live in oblivion) that child molesters are everywhere. You need to let that sink in. Some women have entrusted their young children in the care of new boyfriends and their children were sometimes raped to death before they got back from work. From school to home to regular everyday life, these people have gradually become people that we know and sometimes even love. This therefore drives the need for guardians and parents to be extra observant. I do not blame some parents who give their kids whistles to blow if anybody is behaving suspiciously towards them or give them cellphones when they are as little as 4 or 5 (with the emergency phone number eg 911 and their numbers already integrated into the speed dial).



A child especially in the early stages is usually as plain as a book. Some children become very withdrawn especially when a molester just initiated contact with them and warned them not to tell anyone. BEING OBSERVANT comes into play here. When a child that is normally playful and friendly suddenly turns moody and a loner, you should know that something’s up.

Sometimes, it could be that your child is no longer free with an adult he/she used to be free with and when you ask why, your child becomes dodgy or defensive….or when your child no longer wants to go to the house of an uncle or aunty that he regularly liked going to.



In the last instance especially, some parents force their kids to go. This in my opinion is wrong. When a child doesn’t want to go, you shouldn’t force him/her to. I know of someone that this used to happen to. It was an uncle who ‘came in’ when her family was emotionally vulnerable. He would come meet her at the house she lived in with her family…and do things. It was when she heard what he told someone, “I only want to play with her, I won’t fvck her” that she summoned courage to start avoiding him which included fighting off being forced to go to his house for vacations without telling her mum why (even when it was only his house she didn’t want to go to of all her uncles and aunties)

Needless to say, molestation/abuse can cause untold damage in a child’s life moreso when he/she thinks that nobody cares. I don’t need to start giving details on these and other stories because I’m sure you have an idea of how it ends. It is also noteworthy at this point that a molester can be any gender and your child whether male or female can be molested.



Regardless of how busy schedules are, the first and probably best preventive measure is being your child’s friend. Be reliable. More importantly, be someone that your child can talk to honestly and playfully. Your child should not be scared of you talkless of him/her thinking that you will hurt him or not be on his side if he reports a sexually  abusive individual to you even if it’s his dad! Some children have been beaten by their mums whom they reported abusive dads/step-dads too. In short, be your child’s friend. That’s where this generation is headed anyways.



A vital point I must mention also is that we need to educate our children. Let them know that nobody is permitted to touch them in their sensitive areas. If anyone does, they should scream, shout or even tell them to stop or that they are not supposed to touch them there. Molesters would be surprised by children speaking against them boldly. If you are your child’s friend, they will tell you that this happened.

Bottom line, your child is at risk. Be observant. At the end of the day, you can do so many things to prevent your child getting molested today….even more than your child can.

Yours truly,

M.

Happy birthday sir