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I AM WRITING IN CAPS TO DRAW ATTENTION TO THIS RESPONSE.

I HAVE READ THE POST ABOUT THIS MAN’S MARRIAGE TO HIS WIFE, AND AM AMAZED AT THE VAST MAJORITY TELLING A GROWN MAN WHO HAS COME TO A FACELESS ONLINE FORUM TO GIVE A TINY TINY FRACTION OF WHAT COULD POSSIBLY BE LIES BECAUSE HE NEEDS ENABLERS TO CEMENT HIS INTENTIONS AS A COWARD.

LET’S START WITH THE WIFE (AND I AM SPEAKING FROM VERY CLOSE EXPERIENCE - SO CLOSE THIS ALMOST SOUNDS ALIKE) - THIS MAN HAS PAINTED THIS WOMAN LIKE THE DEVIL - AND I CAN BET YOU THAT IF SHE HAD ANY MOTIVES OR ILL INTENTIONS TOWARDS PEOPLE CLOSE TO HIM, THEY MOST LIKELY WON’T BE MARRIED. HE SAW SOMETHING HE LIKED AND ADMIRED.

SOME WOMEN CAN DEFINITELY CHANGE IN MARRIAGE AND RIGHTFULLY SO - THE OP HAS LEFT OUT A VERY CRUCIAL PART OF WHAT MADE HIS WIFE CHANGE. SO I WILL GIVE A STORY OF THE CLOSE EXPERIENCE TO PERHAPS JUGGLE HIS MEMORY SO HE CAN SHARE THE REAL TRUTH.

THIS COUPLE MARRIED ABOUT 8/9 YEARS AGO AND IN TRYING TO SETTLE DOWN AND KNOW EACH OTHER, THERE WAS DEEMED TO BE ARGUMENTS WHICH ARE QUITE NORMAL FOR NEW COUPLES.

BUT THE HUSBAND STARTED GOSSIPING TO HIS FRIENDS AND FAMILY MEMBERS EVERY SINGLE THING THAT HAPPENED IN THEIR HOME EVERY TIME THERE WAS A MISUNDERSTANDING. THE WIFE TRIED TO GET THEM TO COMMUNICATE AND SEE WAYS ABOUT RESOLVING ISSUES WITHOUT THIRD PARTIES INVOLVED (MEANWHILE IN ALL OF THE GOSSIPING, THE HUSBAND WOULD LIE AGAINST THE WIFE AND PUT HER IN A BAD LIGHT TO GAIN SUPPORT FROM WHOMEVER HE WAS TELLING AN ISSUE TO)

WISE PEOPLE KNOW TO NEVER GET INVOLVED IN A COUPLE’S ISSUES EXCEPT THEY BOTH HAVE AGREED TO BRING THEM IN - OTHERWISE WHEN ONLY ONE PERSON COMES TO TELL YOU STUFF ABOUT THE OTHER PERSON, THERE ARE USUALLY LIES INTERTWINED.

FOOLISH PEOPLE OR EVEN THOSE WHO KNOW THE TRUTH, USE THE OPPORTUNITY THE ONE SPOUSE HAS GIVEN WITH THE OPEN GOSSIP AND START TELLING THE HUSBAND WHAT HE WANTS TO HEAR AND IN OTHER WAYS, DISRESPECT AND VIOLATE THE WIFE’S PLACE IN HER HOME.

LIKE SOMEONE SAID ABOVE, THE AFRICAN MENTALITY OF MOST MEN’S RELATIVES IS ASTOUNDING- THEY TRY TO GET THEIR NEEDS MET AND WHEN THEY MEET RESISTANCE FROM THE WIFE WHO PROBABLY IS TRYING TO BUILD HER NEW MARRIAGE AND HOME WITH RESOURCES THAT THEY WANT FOR THEMSELVES, THEY TAG HER BAD AND THE HUSBAND NOT BEING ABLE TO HAVE BOUNDARIES, ALLOWS LOOPHOLES WHICH USUALLY CAUSES A WIFE TO FORM A DEFENSE MECHANISM AROUND HER - WHICH SOMETIMES MEANS THAT SHE DOES NOT FEEL COMFORTABLE BEING NEAR (ESPECIALLY IN HER HOME) PEOPLE WHO DON’T MEAN HER WELL; HAVE DISRESPECTED HER WHEN GIVEN THE CHANCE, AND WANT HER OUT OF HER MARRIAGE.

LET THE OP BE TRUE TO HIMSELF. YOUR POOR ACTIONS HAVE MADE YOUR WIFE DEFEND HERSELF. YOU MOST LIKELY DID NOT PROTECT HER OR DEFEND THE TRUTH ABOUT WHY SHE FEELS OR ACTS THE WAY SHE DOES.

YOU WERE NOT READY FOR MARRIAGE, AND HAVE A LOT OF GROWING UP TO DO.


SHE IS RIGHT TO ONLY FEEL COMFORTABLE WITH PEOPLE WHO TELL HER THE BITTER TRUTH WITH GOOD INTENTIONS AND NOT THE ONES WHO GOSSIP BEHIND HER BACK LIKE YOU HAVE DONE.