How to know if a guy is taking you serious, or if you’re just another random name to him.

How do you know where you really stand with a man?

How does one get so sure that she is her boo’s boo, and not just a sidechic hidden away from family and friends who know who his real partner is?

Are you sure he is not just playing along, waiting to kick you to the curbs when he can no longer keep up the pretence?

If you aren’t sure, the five points below will help you know if indeed you have the same place in that guy’s life that he does in yours.





1. He doesn’t reach out if you don’t

Communication is pretty key in a relationship and for the guy that fears losing you, he will be dedicated to constantly keeping in touch and being a part of your life on a day to day basis.

If your ‘boyfriend’ does not do this, and the only time you communicate is when you reach out, there could be a problem.



2. He never gets jealous

How does it happen in a normal balanced relationship that a guy does not ever get jealous about you?

I really do not care how calm and collected the guy is, there definitely will be an exhibition of healthy jealousy when it comes to you.



If a guy does not ever get jealous about you, even when he absolutely has reasons to ask questions and all that, he could be letting you know that you are free to do what you want, because as far as he is concerned, what you have is just temporary anyway.

3. No labels

When a guy says he’s not into labels, it means one clear thing – you are simply not seen as his babe. At least, not yet.

Forget the grand explanation he gives or how he tries to wriggle out of it with some silly explanation.

You are simply not as special to him as he might be to you. Maybe sometime in the future, but not yet.



4. He doesn’t flaunt you at all

There have been several office events, many occasions that required him to go with a companion but he does not take you. Never.

Why? He wanted to appear single and very willing to mingle at those events, or to be able to go with his real partner — that’s why.



5. Just a steady supply of sex

Again we get to the issue of the opportunistic knacks. The one he sees as his ‘sare wa gba’ [This is an emerging Yoruba slang which loosely translates to ‘booty calls.’



As a matter of fact, this might just be the reason why he is even making the little attempts to stay in touch and keep you around.

Hence, whenever he manages to create little time, [or sometimes after you have pestered him for a date or hangout] he wants not much else asides touching and torching that body as much as he can.

Be informed!

Source
https://www.nigerialog.com/romance/how-to-know-if-your-boyfriend-is-only-leading-you-on/

February 14 is marked as the most romantic day of the year when lovers appreciate themselves with gifts and love.

It is a day the privileged in the society take time out to show love to the less privileged in the spirit of St. Valentine, a Roman lover whose name continues to reverberate whenever love is mentioned.

But, nowadays in Nigeria, especially among youths, Valentine’s Day is viewed with the eyes of sexual liberty in which many young girls easily lose their self-esteem to obsession.
Instead of sharing gifts, clubhouses are opened 24 hours for promiscuity and of course unprotected sex.

It's imperative to know that no matter what happens, even if it's the parents giving condoms to the kids or their peers laughing at them for not partying. The sole reason for "val" celebration is NOT lust, is NOT sex, is NOT immorality. It is LOVE!

Love for yourself, family, lovers, friends, country and most importantly for God!

Happy valentine to all nigerialoggers!

Most shattered families began with an unhealthy and bad relationship during dating and courtship.
Many people will put up with their partner’s bad behaviour, either because it is cute, at the time or because they believe they will change when they tie the knot.


Bad behaviour, poor choices and lifestyle habits that affect a relationship should under no circumstances be tolerated. Ignoring these habits at the beginning of the relationship demonstrates ignorance and sets partners up to a life of misery ending in an unhealthy relationship, instead of thriving as God intended.

Relationships in dating and courtship stage are beautiful and they ought to be nurtured and enjoyed. However, it is at this point that you should watch out for some very important fundamentals. Relationships have the potential to give individuals great joy and sometimes greatest pain, you have the power to make the best decisions concerning your life partner to avoid the potential pitfalls.​

It is important to acknowledge whether a relationship is worth working on and recognising signs of an unhealthy relationship and making the right choices. The indicators of an unhealthy relationship may go unnoticed; the assumption is they are normal, cultural, traditional or simply a family pattern. Unhealthy relationships are toxic; they cause physiological and psychological challenges.


These relationships can cause so much strain causing a volcano of emotional stress, damaging one’s self esteem and eventually threatens their total well-being that affects their performance in every area of life. It is therefore important to tell the signs of an unhealthy relationship and do something before it takes toil on you and your partner.

Check your attitude

While it’s true that a healthy and happy relationship should do your self-esteem a lot of good, if your self-esteem is not good to begin with, there isn’t much your partner can do for you. They may do all they can, care, love and affirm but you will find it hard to receive because of a poor self-image. You will tend to feel your partner is too good for you, and you are therefore not worthy of their love. Such feelings can seriously damage a relationship. Check out “who am I” walk through the stages of affirming yourself and seek ways to find good in yourself before others can find good in you. Relationships begin with self-acceptance, seek it.

Do you feel respected?

If you constantly feel disrespected and devalued in your relationship, take action. Do not generalise your circumstances, that all relationships endure the same. Verbalise and communicate your feelings, expecting some results. If this does not change, then consider leaving. Emotional or physical abuse should not be tolerated in the onset of a relationship, staying only encourages continuous abuse. Many think when you get married, then abuse stops because the partner is no longer insecure. Unfortunately, this is never the case. An abuser continues to abuse and gets worse when unexposed. Do yourself a favour and leave before it is too late.

Is trust broken?

Trust is the foundation of any relationship and the glue that holds it together. When trust is broken in courtship, it is important to have a reality check. Measure the level of broken trust and be real. Is it worth working on? It could be a sign of the individual’s moral compass and indication of their behavior and lifestyle habits. Without trust, love, care, concern, commitment, and communication cannot effectively happen. If a partner continues violating trust, choose to end the relationship. Mutual trust is essential in every relationship and both partners must be committed.

Do you feel depressed or unhappy most times?

Aspiring for a good and healthy relationship is what motivates humans as they engage in relationships. There is a hunger for love, acceptance and happiness. If a relationship infuses more of negative energy and sadness, then it is not beneficial and it is important to choose to let it go. Wellness is crucial and so be true to yourself and measure your levels of satisfaction in line with your expectations. Relationships should be enjoyed not endured.

https://www.nigerialog.com/romance/is-your-relationship-healthy-or-unhealthy-here-is-how-to-know/

Love is beautiful thing. So they say. People are bound to do some weirdly stupid things when they are smitten.
Let’s admit it, we’ve all been there at one point at our lives. Somehow, when we fall in love, sense tends to leave our heads and we end up doing what we wouldn’t have imagined doing.

Here are some stupidly ridiculous things people do when they fall in love:

Smiling stupidly at your phone​

Yeah, this could be due to receiving a message from your lover or it could be as a result of going through your previous chats hence reminiscing on some memorable times you had. Sometimes it has nothing to do with the chats, you just remember something cute your better half does and you end up smiling. You stare at your phone to cover-up.

You become a snoop and a stalker

You will silently stalk them on all social media platforms. You want to know exactly when they are online and whom they are chatting with. You literally want to know every detail of what they are up to.

Develop interest in things you didn’t have interest in

You find yourself ‘investing’ in your partner’s hobbies just to make them happy or just to spend more time with them doing things that they enjoy. Never mind you never at any given time in your life considered doing some of these things.

You have to consider your partner before making any decision


Your better half is literally always on your mind. They are somewhere lurking in the shadow of your brain. Any decision you make no matter how insignificant you have to consider them. Such is falling in love.

You go exceedingly out of your way

Even if you have to make crucial sacrifices, it does not matter so long as you get to please your partner. You can go to some extremes that when the love dies you look back and curse yourself for some of the things you did all in the name of love.

When the above are not all the weird things people do when they fall in love, they are some of the most common. Even though love is the warmest thing that could happen to you, it is advisable to be cautious and go slow on the ‘stupid things’.

Source

https://www.nigerialog.com/romance/funny-but-true-stupid-things-young-lovers-do/

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