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kpolli:
Great, one more thing.... I am not a ma'am

Ok NOW am embarrassed. .A thousand apologies to u...Am vry sry...

kpolli:
So what do you wanna do? Or rather what is he suggesting?

Hi kpolli...I hve put in notice yesturday to cancel the petition and moving on with my life.

kpolli:
Now the ball is in your court, do you get him deported (which I strongly suggest) and let the Indonesian lady handle his immigration or forgive him and move on but if he does anything wrong, remember you're his visa sponsor and will be implicated too

PS: Did he meet her on the flight to you and get her pregnant then or he got her pregnant in Nigeria (only thing that makes sense)

No ma'am. My apologies for the confusion. .Our paperwork was approved and he was still in malaysia. This came out of nowhere of him leaving. That was when the confusion started with me ( but no longer confused now). I couldn't understand why all of a sudden he left. Then again I can remember a couple of months ago in June I expressed restless nights with myself like something wasn't right. He told me it was the devil and we needed to pray it out.at first I felt confused and embarrassed Now that I think about it I thank God because maybe it was a warning for me .

kpolli:
I hope you know you have the power to void his visa.... He can't get a work permit without you.... Inform immigration that he never arrived, absconded or you're not interested in marrying him again and they will cancel his visa.... He will deported once found

You're his visa sponsor and he is dumb

Just an update..He sent me a yahoo message and said he mistakenly impregnated an indoneisan woman. He said he was so so sorry and was too ashamed to tell me.
What's pitiful because he didn't have to change his number and never talk to me. All that we been through and he does this? It's like he has now opened up old wounds...but at least I got closure. What the embarrassing part is I have nigerian friends that was helping me prepare for his arrival and now I have to express reason why he isn't coming with dry eyes....smh.

Hi misspicy..Ur so right! Lol

God bless

Hi adeh39..I do apologize but have retold it after emotions simmered down...I don't think I can go any more elementary than that.
God bless

Hi omotayor123..no what I saw on facebook was him with suitcases talking on his phone (mind u I mentioned the phone number I have now says not in service) and others bidding congrats and safe journey. Looking at a totally different profile of him with different name. No woman on there..just an updated pic of him...This is my woman senses going off.. (Just wish it was working before 6 yrs passed...lol).
God bless

Hi..Baralatie..thanks for the advice. I have to admit it hurts but i know God is my comforter and I will be ok. May need to go pray for removal of bitterness..I don't want to carry this with me and miss out on what and who God has for me...
God bless

Hi bqlekan...Thanks..I certainly will..
God bless

Hi donx001...
Am glad i was able to construct better verbiage. Lol as am sure u and everyone else could tell I wrote this shortly after I found out. Lol.. Thanks for the advice..I was a lost for words and was beating myself up for devoting my time like that.
Have definitely learned. .but I guess I can be glad I got a couple of vacations out of this.
God bless

Hi afrok....so true. .God bless

Hi donx001...I am not offended at all...I do apologize for the misunderstanding. .long story short..met someone. .I was reluctant to talk to but decided to give it a try. Almost 6 yrs later..After two trips visiting him (one of those he paid for) it became a mutual decision to file for a fiance visa ..completed all paperwork got approval. He told me his visa was being blocked in malaysia and he needed to go fix it. After not hearing from him for a few days I became concerned and tried to contact him with no luck. After talking to his friend I noticed on his friends facebook page he had a different cell phone and was getting ready to take a trip. After asking his friend about it he took down the pics however that's when I knew. I wasn't coming on here to bash anyone however I was confused because I don't see any gain for him to do me the way he did. After all if he was scamming me he wouldn't have paid for my trip nor sent me money when I needed it. Hope that clears it up. Am ready for any and all harsh remarks u have...God bless

Hi thamees...thx for the reply..thought it was mutual as he has contacted me , paid for my fare there and everything.. but again thx for the reply

Hi itsmrike...it would have been quicker to do a fiance visa which was 6 months vs marrying which would have taken over a year.

Truly have learned and needed to hear these harsh comments..ty

Hi justified 19...that's good and all. I just wished he would have told me.

Good evening all...I have enjoyed this site for a number of years now. I was mostly interested in the cheating nigerian men forums. I often thought I can't believe that because I was involved in a beautiful relationship. Started just about 6 yrs ago. I was a little hesitate at first but soon warmed up to it. Moving forward I visited him twice completed our paperwork for fiance visa after several times. Well this year it finally got approved and was waiting for him to get his paperwork. He told me he was having to go to another state due to his visa being blocked. He said he would leave on Thursday and will call me once he return. I didn't hear from him so I immediately started to pray and ask God to please be with him on this journey. I thought the worst like he got put in jail or something. .I tried to call him but the line rung and rung then said service not available.
Puzzled I went online went to his friends facebook page and there it was...my soon to be fiance being budded farewell and safe journey and congratulations all over the page. I noticed in the pics he was carrying a cell phone and was on it. My heart broke. I sent his friend a message asking him to plz help me understand this ...He immediately deleted the pics and nvr replied. I even seen where my fiance had a Facebook profile and people were congratulating him there. I sent him a message and he didn't reply....Am devastated . I would nvr say that all nigerian men cheat but sadly I can say mine did. ...God bless... modification. .I should have nvr posted pic...my apologies