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While individuals maybe highly brilliant and talented, few of us in a vacuum; therefore our ability to develop relationships with others determining how successful will be in our workplaces and in our relationship outside of work.

People are not born with natural abilities to develop and build a good relationship with others. This are skill like any other can learn and master it.


We can all become a better relationship builders by clearing our minds and practicing a few basic necessary action


1. BECOME A GREAT LISTENER: everyone has the basic desired to be heard and understood. We naturally bond to people who listen , hear us and we want to spend time together.

2. ASK THE RIGHT QUESTIONS: the best way to let people know we hear them is to make sure we
understand what they are saying. To do this we dig deeper and ask right questions.

3. PAY ATTENTION TO THE WHOLE PERSON: we tend to remember and appreciate people who always ask us, is everything ok ? Even we haven't told them anything is wrong. This tell us they are paying attention to us.

4. REMEMBER THINGS THAT ARE IMPORTANT TO OTHERS : there is no more beautiful sound to our ear than the sound of our own name. Remembering people name is the first step building relationships.

5. BE CONSISTENT AND MANAGE EMOTIONS : people who have hot temper have difficulties in building relationships. Regardless of how we are feeling we need to keep it aside and be able to engage with others

6. BE OPEN AND SHARE WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT: we know people who tell us the whole story of their life within 5 minutes even though we don't have interest. To build a good relationship we need to Pace ourselves and share when it is appropriate and at a level that is consistent with the depth of the relationship.

7. BE GENIUE, CONFIDENT, HUMBLE, TRUSTWORTHY, POSITIVE, AND FUN : people who build great relationship always feel good about who they are and always look for the positive in their world.they genuinely want the best for others and see them to succeed.
The energy of people who are comfortable in their own skin,upbeat, and positive create an atmosphere where feel good, want to be around, and want to spend time with them.

What set us apart is how we do things differently. And this what differentiates happily married couple from those that are not happy with their union. Also how we end a day, have a great impact on how we lead our life. So let look for few things happily married couple do before bed.

1. They go to bed same time. Couple that sleep together stay to together.

2. They never entertain phone calls or messages.

3. They never go to bed angry. Going to bed angry, this is a very bad habit that can mess up home gradually and destroy relationship.

4. They do not carry work to the bedroom. If you always think about work or always on laptop please do not do it when going to bed..... Let tomorrow worries by itself.

5. They keep their bedroom clutter free and gadget free. Because bedroom is place where you spend wonderful time together.