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This keke is a hit and run keke
He just ran after hitting me

Love800:
You need to create your own spark. Your maturity and principle in life are your biggest leverage towards women. You still need money but your view(principle) of life is the perfect magnet.

And note, not all women will want to date you. From your character and direction in life, your right woman will start admiring you when you speak and will definitely fall for you.

Thank you for this.


I appreciate it more original content

ayoncox:
That means it's time for you to change your environment and break into new circles. Normally having relationship with ladies have to do with demand and supply, the scarcier and less available you are the more needed you are

Well you are right but then again this ladies move on

ayoncox:
May be because you either look broke or you are not faking it well

Well this was true about 5 years ago but not now

At my age now 30+
Most ladies I talk to tell me this “I like you but I can’t date you”

AllBlack:
If you like do it 100 times.
if your game is lame, it is lame.

I admit my game is lame

So I have spoken to 4 ladies now. They all don’t pick my calls neither respond to my chats
I give up

My major problem has always been communication

Kobojunkie:
It is OK to admit to yourself that you are lacking in emotional and social intelligence. Most people out there struggle in the same areas, but somehow think that by faking it, they can make it. Unfortunately, they are also the majority out there who end up embittered and miserable in a relationship. Being honest with yourself is the best way to go, and this is the first step towards obtaining the know-how/skills you need. 🥱🥱🥱

If you are not able to access YouTube channels to get the training in Emotional and Social Learning, you can download books on each of the subjects, using that as a guide to help you do the heavy inner work that you need to train your mind and brain to become a better human being overall. Consistency is the key, and self-discipline is needed to ensure success. 🥱🥱

P.S. -the same skills you need to make good male friends are pretty much the same skills you need to make good female friends, and eventually decide romantic partners.🥱🥱🥱

See you are right

I have been watching videos since my 18th birthday it’s a decade + later now I have still not have a grasp of the least social and emotional skills

I don’t think I can ever

Seems i have configured my life to be single even tho i desire relationship
But it seems it impossible for me to have one

I lack basic skills of having a partner
Like communication skills
Leadership skills

I don’t even know how to woo a lady or talk to them

May be this is due to my childhood mindset that if don’t talk to girls I will make heaven now all my efforts on ladies dies on first trial

Merry100:
Most ladies who are genuinely in love find it hard to burden their partner financially, especially when they know he's going through tough times. But if a man has money and still makes no financial effort toward his partner, it can come across as a lack of love or emotional investment because most men who are truly in love naturally go out of their way to show it, including through giving.

At the same time, a woman who is truly in love will also give in her own way. She may buy her partner gifts or even support him financially during hard times; not out of obligation, but because she genuinely cares. Love is never just about receiving; it's about mutual effort and care.

It's actually a good thing he left her. He should find someone who genuinely loves him. At the same time, love shouldn't be one-sided. He needs to be kind and emotionally present too.

Many women are emotionally expressive, and once they're in love, it becomes quite visible. A relationship shouldn't just exist for the sake of it; it should have depth, meaning, and mutual care. It is important to put in effort to nurture the relationship. Often, it's the little things a man does that make a woman feel loved and secure.

When two people are truly in love, they tend to understand each other almost effortlessly. Even the standards they initially set can naturally soften over time. More often than not, it's external factors; like jealousy, gossip, or third parties; that create conflict between them, not the absence of love.

True

SpencerForbes:
Real truth and to add to that, avoid broke girls 💯
Atleast your woman should be hardworking so anytime you don’t have, she’ll understand.

Even as a man, you can’t satisfy anyone’s wants. Human wants are insatiable. So just look for the lesser evil. Mind you, no matter how a lady loves you, you must still spend. Just look for the lesser evil that’s all.

Your last sentence is correct 💯.

But I am scared and worried so I won't be heartbroken again.
Besides I haven't healed!!!

mariobalotelli09:
Women will continue to test you, manipulate you and bill you until you meet the one who is genuinely interested in you. The one intrested in you will be the one ready to see you successful and grow in all areas of your life. One in a while she may ask for something but she wouldn't pressure you and if you tell her you don't have it wouldn't be an issue. Stop chasing women and allow them chase you. If you check very well, there is a lady giving you green light just that maybe you don't fancy her.

You last statement is correct 💯

I know myself I am not STINGY.
I am feel I am been manipulated be these ladies

I am really concerned about this.
My last relationship ended like my first.
Billing!
Ok, so this lady called me that we should be in a relationship. I was excited about it and we started dating.
We haven't had sex we are both Christians.
This particular week she started testing me financially. First she said she is hungry, later she said her phone spoilt then she said she needs a new laptop.
What made us breakup was when she said she needed airtime. And as at then I didn't even have any available money except my savings I said I don't have
She then told me she deserves to be taken care of that she hasn't asked me directly of anything than this airtime. It shows I am stingy...and if it's happening like this this early we might have to cutoff. She said is it because we both work in same place and we earn same salary? ,she said I should take care of her
So I thought about her statements and I told her we should break up. That I am not ready.
I

This same scenario happened to me in my first relationship. I really loved my first love. But she pressured me financially. Which led me to all end it.

seanery:
NO.....

Ok

seanery:
TV na gold now ooo

54Inches Begium i buy 5years ago was 50k
Now i dey hear 170k

And the TV still dey serve me well up till now.

LIGHT NO DEY EVER AFFECT AM.

Is it a smart TV?

RealityKings1:
You can get a LG 42 inches

Ok

Kindly suggest a good television I can get between 150k to 200k and where

Kindly suggest the most affordable and durable blender I can use to blend pepper and bean.

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M

Valarmugulus:
I don't think so.

Why?

Ishilove:
Na because you get bad character. Change your character, or go to Shiloh

😂 It's not even like a character thing sha. I am not meeting single ladies na only married or engaged ladies

helinues:
The question is are you a good guy. It's very easy to yes but you need to think deeply before answering

I know I am not a bad guy

I have been single for a while.

Most ladies I approach are either in a relationship or they are married. I end up getting disappointed.
I have observed that most ladies 20 or above are in a relationship.

I dont even see single ladies

The only single lady I found was so rude and disrespectful. I had to abort any relationship because it the thing I can never tolerate.

ukaface:
You have filled your life with negativities
You have become the negativities

So you don’t see anything good about yourself?
The way you carry and see yourself is the reason you don’t have friends, no one wants a person that has negativities as his/her lifestyle

Why no see the good about you and change your own perception about yourself.
What you wrote up there is worrisome, I’m sure your self esteem is 0.

If you desire change, first purge your mind and rid it off all those nonsense you wrote.

Well I know this my self esteem is cooked...
But!!!!?

ukaface:
You have filled your life with negativities
You have become the negativities

So you don’t see anything good about yourself?
The way you carry and see yourself is the reason you don’t have friends, no one wants a person that has negativities as his/her lifestyle

Why no see the good about you and change your own perception about yourself.
What you wrote up there is worrisome, I’m sure your self esteem is 0.

If you desire change, first purge your mind and rid it off all those nonsense you wrote.

Maybe....

I don't have any friends
Not in a relationship
I have addictions.
I always buy fake things with big money more like I am always cheated.

I don't have good cloths even with the fact that I spend a lot on clothes.
When I try my best to get a good cloth they don't fit. Or the tailor will make an oversized cloth or under sized cloth.
My shoes don't last 1 months before they start chopping off at the sole.

I buy things that end looking like a waste I.e they
spoil quickly or get faded... Even when I don't have enough money

I am skinny even when I try my best to eat a lot so I can add just a little weight.
Not the most attractive
I don't do things perfectly.
I make mistakes.

I

I am just tired of all this.

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dungas30:
simple oooo guys are just fumbling

Who says I don't have money?