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That doctor deserves life imprisonment and not just suspension.
Some of these doctors drink too much alcohol. Some even do hard drugs, some are occultic and into Ritualism

Afikoo:
Thank you. Is a phase bro. Last year I couldn't even talk about getting a car.
YouTube changed my life

Check dm

anonimi:
How can you accuse Tinubu's Fulani brothers when you did not see any cow at the crime scene

Some of u need mental evaluation honestly.
You think everything is a joke right?

Just three days back, Fulani kidnappers shot at a Young guy and whisked away with his wife and less than year old baby in otukpo, Benue State.
Luckily, the guy didn't die from the gunshot. He's at the hospital . But nobody has heard from the captors yet

brain54:
I don't think it should be about the mother though...

The mom has made bad decisions. But it's about the boy. If he can help he should forget about the mom and do so.


The dilemma is him not financially capable enough to do so. He shouldn't rub the sins of the mom on the boy. He is his brother!

You've spoken wisely Sir.
Thank you.
I'll do all I can make him a better person.
I'll treat him like my own biological son, nurture and groom him. After all, I'm 13yrs older than him, if not more

Pootle:
you may be the person to straighten that young boy life, even as you not buoyant accept him teach him street who knows maybe tomorrow he can blow through you.

I pray so.

Thanks for your input sir

chyeexcel:
Wow wow! Glory to God.There is always a joy in heaven over a soul that repent. Jesus reigns, Hallelujah

Lead me to Christ

Afikoo:
Like ehh. He thinks it's normal banter stuff

Na jealousy wan kpai am

All these do not matter as long as our Army aren't properly taken of, there will be no improvement in the security issues bedeviling the country

APC suppressing the common Nigerians

Mcslize:
They call him a gentle man. When ladies say they need a gentle man, this is what they mean. It means they need a mumu man that will take all their bullshits and still beg them to spend his hard money on them. Something like baby please naaa, please chop my money na.

What type of man do you want?

Girls: I need a gentle man = mumu man I can cheat on and he won't have the balls to walk away.

God help ladies.

You've said it all my brother.
Ladies of these days are so so Terrible. I no longer pity any lady who is suffering in their marriage because they brought it upon themselves.
When a lady sees a nice guy who genuinely loves her, she will start mistreating and disrespecting the guy. She will frustrate him, toy with his emotions, then break his heart. She continues like that until she ends up with the wrong man. Afterwards, she begins to insult men and name shame them.
Ladies are evil

Pootle:
we live for a reason, and life is hope. no one have it all we keep striving till death come knocking

I mean what to live on

Pootle:
fingers are not equal, that how life works some dogs are pets and cherished while some roam the street without any care

Like today, no hope of finding anything

My landlord is about to push me out. My rent is 150k and I already paid half of it last month, he now wants to refund me the money so I can pack out if I can't balance it. My rent is three months overdue.i don't have money to be dragging with him in court. I'm a peace loving person.
I have no helper.

Stop inflicting emotional, mental and physiological injuries on these little kids

Afikoo:
Is everything okay at home ?
Why sounding this bitter and angered?

I am shocked at his comment. Some persons are not just ok mentally

Congratulations Sir.

Some are financially ok and thinking about buying a car, while some are still struggling with what to eat and how to survive.
God 🙏

Osiris12:
The guy was forced. If you know, you know

You're not being serious here.
Forced ?
How.

Is he a child?
Was a gun put in his head to accept her back?
Force how?

Is this Man not a Proper Simp?
How do you eat your cake and still have it back?
This man deserves some Hot Sllapps.
Does this man not have a Family to advise him?

Is this what most ladies call an intentional/Solutionary man?

Is he a matured man, according to today's Nigerian ladies?

churro:
But why do you want to kill yourself with problems at such a young age? Considering how you were abandoned by your mum, you still care for her by sending her funds from your meagre income. Is that not enough?

I am shocked you are even considering bringing an obviously spoilt teenage boy into your home to feed, house, care for, physically, financially and emotionally. Na wah for you o!

Your half-brother is not your responsibility. He even has two parents, unlike you, at his age. Let his two parents take care of the son they birth and over-pampared and ill-trained.

Just say NO!

Honestly, If I was financially ok, this wouldn't have been an issue. But I'm Not, at least for now.

Caaz:
What a mother!!!!!!Op please kick against her demand with every fibre in your body.

🙏

We4all:
Your mom abandoned you guys, but now she wants to reap where she didn't sow. Imo, any widow that abandons her kids to remarry is not only irresponsible, but also wicked.

She never bought even a pen for us

Sonnobax15:

Bro,no need to write all these long epistle.

Just tell your mom you aren't financially okay right now and you can't shoulder the load she's about to place on you.

I was once in your shoe, talking about last year....but in my case,it was my elder sister's son.....I'm talking about the same sister who never supported any of us after the death of our mother.....Now ,she wanted me to help her take care of her over pampered and spoilt child.....I refused instantly even when my lady was insisting....

Today,I'm bad person and I don't care......

Wow..
People just like to make others look bad. I don't know why

Stephen0mozzy:
Then let him come on probation and see how it goes - for you and for him.

Sometime, kids just needs someone to inspire them to be better - alot of factors may have contributed to his behavior at your brother's side when he was there.

May God guide you.

Thanks so much Bro 🙏
I appreciate

Stephen0mozzy:
Be sincere, you already know what's best for you. But you want us to support that innate decision.

There's a lot of advantage and disadvantage to allowing him come stay with you. But if you can answer the next question correctly to yourself, then you have your answer.

"If the young boy, spoiled and all that was your brother (same father and mother), will you allow him come stay with you knowing that you're a disciplinarian who wants the best for him".

If the answer is yes, then let him come stay - on probation. Tell your mum you'll watch his attitude for 3months, if he behaves, he stays. If he misbehaves, he goes back to the village.

But make sure you're kind to him, them no dey use wickedness correct stubbornness.

Trust me, I've never seen him as a Step brother. I don't even know the difference between a blood brother and step. We were birthed by same woman, so I don't discriminate. I treat him like my other siblings and I even try to do more for him, so he wouldn't be thinking it's because he's not our blood that's why I don't care about him.
God sees my heart

Hi, Guys!

Sincerely, I'm a bit confused here. My younger brother, the last born of the family wants to come over to the city to live with me.

My kid bro just graduated from secondary sch last year July. He is actually my step brother, as my mum had to remarry a year later after the passing of my dad many years ago. This brother is the only child my mum has for the Man.

The man is a retired state govt teacher, my mum is his second wife. He's not being responsible over the years and this has caused lots of issues between himself and my mum. Sometimes, if not most times, I'll always have to step in to broker peace between them.

My mum abandoned us to marry this man. At some point she even had to send my blood sister away from the man's house. My kid sister was just four years and needed the presence of a mother in her life, but since my mum so much cherished her new husband at the time, she said that my kid sister wouldn't live with her. So she had to send my sister to stay with our grandma(maternal). I felt so sad about this. Today same sister is married with two kids.

My mum never supported any of us through sch. We are four, plus this step brother of mine, five in total. As a matter of fact, while I was leaving for the city after the completion of my university education, she was nowhere to be found because I was in some financial mess at the time and I needed her to support me financially so I can go to city to hussle. I also wanted her to give me that motherly blessings and pray for my success as I embark on the journey for success. But she was nowhere to be found.

I managed to source for funds and left the village for the city. I'm not four years here. I send her money almost every week. I also send her mother(my grandma) money and ensure I take good care of her since she's the only grandparent I have now.

There's almost no time I speak with my mum that she doesn't come up with one financial complaint or the other. Sometimes I avoid her calls for weeks. It's not like I'm doing well here in the city, but I keep meeting her needs. I don't complain to her even when I'm down. I already know she can't help me, so what's the point complaining?. She can have money Hidden somewhere while you're in dire need of it, but she won't tell or give u. She can be doing business and making money secretly without telling you. Sometimes I only get to hear about such businesses from outsiders. She does this so we wouldn't ask her for any help. She never bought us even a notebook or Pen while we were in sch.

Now she wants my kid Bro to come live with me. Living with me isn't a problem. But my mum already spoilt my step brother. He was so pampered as a child and he often disrespects my mum. They asked him to learn Barbing. After sch, he would go there and return in the evenings. But this boy wasn't consistent. At some point, he even stopped. Our mum instructed him to go back and continue, but he refused. His father is so weak and can't discipline him. Four years back, same brother went to live with my immediate younger brother in Lagos and after two weeks he said he wants to go back to the village just like that.

I want him to further his studies but I don't have the resources yet. I want his father to take up that responsibility first, while I also support.
He knows I'm very strict and he can't be disrespectful to me. But my mum already corrupted him. If he comes and I start to discipline and disciple him, it would look like I'm antagonizing him because he's my step brother.

Again, and most importantly, I'm not working now, I'm just managing myself, hustling here and there just to survive. Sometimes I don't even get what to eat. I mange myself. Due to this, I wouldn't want to add another burden to myself. He eats a lot and if he comes here, it will now look like I'm starving him. My mum knows I'm just managing my life. I asked him to be a bit more patient and stay back in the village till I get something tangible to do, so I can take care of him when he comes to town, but he's insisting that he's already tired of staying in the village.

Considering what he did when he visited my immediate younger brother the other time, he wouldn't be able to go back there again.