₦airaland Forum

Its been established that both your mother and wife were wrong to fight. Please bear in mind though, that neither you nor I knows what really happened, but unfortunately u seem to have chosen to believe the other women's story and have not told us what your wife's side of the story was. Was she fighting your mom, or was she defending herself from being beat up by your mom?

Nevertheless, this is what you need to understand.

Your mother is asking you to do this:
1. Give up on a woman you have committed and vowed to God to spend your life with.
2. Separate your children from their mother and subject them to a life of instability
3. Create an enormous amount of stress for yourself as a single parent. Yes, she may help you and/ or get someone to help you but you still bear the entire burden of providing for everyone and nurturing your own heart which if its not broken now, will be broken sooner or later when your wife is forced to move on to another relationship and you have to face that.
4. Give up your choice and preference for hers.

You need to step away emotionally from all of this and ask yourself some candid questions.

Whose interest is your mother looking out for in all of this? Has she made up her mind that for your peace of mind, she will love your wife as her child or is she trying to have her own way in your home...ie take whatever pictures she wants when she wants it, etc. Your mom appears to feel so entitled to what you own that she would hit your wife because she wasnt given pictures?

What kind of mother puts her own selfish need for control over her sons needs? What kind of mother threatens to withold her love and contact with her son if he doesn't obey her command.

Your decision is simpler than you think. You need to decide if you are the man and the maker of decisions in your home or if your mother is the one who decides how you run your home and who lives in it. I can make it even simpler...if you made a vow at your wedding, you now have to decide whether your commitment to obeying your mother supersedes your vow to God of for better for worse.