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LinLinGentle:
Disclaimer: I AM NOT HERE TO TELL YOU THAT I AM A SAINT AND MY WIFE IS THE DEVIL. I AM JUST A VICTIM OF MATRIARCHY WHICH MANY WOMEN LIKE TO PRACTICE WHEN THEY MOVE ABROAD...

I have been hustling abroad for a few years while wifey was working in Nigeria and living with children. Marriage has always been turbulent and we even almost got divorced after I travelled out. We somehow worked on our issues with the help of pastors, family and friends, and after a few years of ''roughing'' it abroad to pave way for them, I succeeded and they finally arrived a few months ago.

I used to be hot tempered, but I have had enough time to gain insight into my inadequacies and I have now significantly calmed down as per ''abroad levels'' and due to determination. My wife on the other hand is fully taking advantage of me and the environment w e find ourselves in. First thing she did when she got here was to cut of my family. She said she doesn't want to have anything to do with any of them anymore. She has also not been too keen to kickstart her career as well, as all she does is endless picture taking and editing for social media hyping. You would never even think for a second that she is a married woman if you check her profiles!

She has become even more toxic person than she ever was in Naija. Now very bossy, never backs down, always the attacker, ever ready for a fight, lazier, always on social media, communicates with me as little as possible, embarrasses me in the neighbourhood with the constant noises from our house, and finally her threats have now tripled! Madam is now so fierce that I have become the house chicken. Just within a few months of being here o! She tells me that she will show me for all the ''gra gra'' I used to do back in Nigeria. Friends advised me against bringing this woman here but I no wan hear word as per responsible family man wey I dey claim to be.

The popular threat is usually ''I will end your career''. I wasn't taking this too seriously initially, but she then started following through with the threats by constant calls to the police and other services, making spooky and baseless career ending accusations and allegations against me.

I have never been the one to first lay my hands on her, but I have spilled drinks on her before when she attacked me. My wife now gets very physical without having any element of self control, fear or restraint after the simplest argument and sometimes, she damages things out of anger. She does this so often and never hesitates to dare me to do my worst.

I discovered that she has signed up on dating sites and when I even caught her chatting about sex to a particular guy in our area, she said that it was all my fault. She did not apologise for this. She even referred to it one time after an argument that if I am convulsing like this over just a sex chat, she's waiting to see what I'd do when I see a man on top of her.

My productivity at work has declined significantly and I am now on the verge of depression. Neighbours called the police on us one time after a lot of noise from out house. She accused me of domestic violence. The police had to separate us and I was stuck at home for an extended period and could not go to work due to this. I am now being investigated for domestic violence, which is a serious crime as madam wants it and I have had to report the situation to my company! The whole thing is so messy that I am scared that I have not seen the worst yet.

I am so afraid of losing it all and returning to Nigeria broke cos I spent my last card and even racked credit card debt to bring them here hoping to pay off gradually. I still have a few years to get my Pali and if I lose my job now, that is the end for all of us!

For now, I don't know what is going to happen to us, as this woman is so determined to cause great and irreparable damage that could ruin our lives, just to get back at me and she is being cheered on by her family and friends.

OUR SITUATION IS SO MESSED UP!

How much will it cost you to have rented a trailer home and moved out. That sham you called a marriage doesn't even exist in the first place that you didn't mention a single part of you being happy in it. If you lose your career or die in it, it's your choice. Simp

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iLegendd:
Because of lack of money to buy food, look at the rubbish I'm eating with my visitor tonight.

Please, let a good Samaritan send me money — I'm broke.

#Tears

Before we know you'll start advertising a new ebook

Brilliant thinking government

Can't you communicate what you need so people can know how to counsel you

It is finished

OkoroPeugeot:
Your story is common.

Men just don't talk about how badly their women treat them.

Preach. Many men in this generation see pepper but just don't say it

zeus2412:
God help me, my wife and my children. bless my marriage. many of us go through things. that's why many ladies getting eager to marry out there, u need to be prepared to face the war. only the fittest can survive. *PRAYER IS THE KEY*

Why should marriage be a war in the first place

Ceasardgreat:
Me

Told my girlfriend to send me a certain amount of cash to my account, was at the hospital and having transfer/network difficulties and she did.
Later on in our conversation she asked me when we'll resume work again, maybe insinuating that I don't have the cash and wouldn't pay back.
Anyways, she did and when the network was through I sent it back Asap..

But that was a red flag for me and she started acting funny (I laugh). I'm taking my time and her behavior is not far from what this man complained about her wife.

My brother. Thesedays I've subjected all my friends and everyone around me to such test o. Once they fail, disconnect straight up. Life is short

dayleke:
First of all, let me say I'm sorry for having quoted you in the first place. It was this one I saw first that I quoted to debunk what you said but after reading subsequent quotes, I can only say SORRY.

With this kind of warped mentality and interpretation that you are giving that verse in the bible, I can only say WOW!!!!.

"Eating out of my wife's sweat"?
"An infidel" if I can not provide for the family?
This is the 21st century for crying out loud.
A wife/husband that you both said "in sickness, in health till death do you part"?
So pulling resources together as a family is now an abomination?
Like I said before, what works for you may not work for someone else but do not put the other person down or say their way is wrong.
You live in an environment in which you wanna have a better life for you and your family and you find out pulling all resources together by both of you can make you accomplish that, you call that eating out of the wife's sweat?
Just check this out.
Wife works dayshift, husband works night shift.
Husband gets the kids ready for school in the morning while wife gets ready for work.
Husband takes the kids to school and is home when they come back. Assist the kids with homework and cook for the family before wife comes back from work.(Since he is home, why will d wife who's been working all day will come and start cooking again?). Kids attend public schools cos you pay taxes and they are good schools too.
Husband goes to work for his own shift.
Household chores are shared as need arises.
All bills are paid from a common purse. Everyone is happy. So which one be INFIDEL there now?
If wife's medical insurance plan is better than the hubby's, all family members are put on the insurance including the "infidel".
My sister, if you find yourself in an environment whereby you have to do the right thing to survive and enjoy your life to the fullest, you have to do it.
God bless you and say you wanna do it by yourself and not be an "infidel", na "dead infidel" you go be sef.
In marriage, love and understanding is not enough, good financial planning is needed too.

I wonder what you will say to a man who has been shouldering everything for his family for years and suddenly have a debilitating illness like a stroke or something and can not do so anymore. Should the wife not work and take over the running of the family affairs?
Or she should just go and find another man to take care of her?

Like I said in my first quote, "God bless your family" but please do not use your own yardstick for other marriages out there and please also stop quoting that verse.

Shalom.

God bless you

Ybaby:
My husband did not have moments of trial longer than 3 months.

Join those women ma.
Feel free to feed him for 100 of years.
It is a free world madam

Bad vibes swerve. Don't be quick to brag just yet. You have sons I believe. And you can't guarantee a day of your future


Peace

Ybaby:
You want the truth?

Any woman will act like OP wife... the husband may just never find out but she will seek masculine energy somewhere else
Usually from her boss at work.

You haven't answered the question. Why didn't you tow her line during your husbands moments of trial?


Trust me. I know atleast ten women around not given their husband this treatment even in similar trying moments

Ybaby:

Invariably if a working man can't make ends meet and the attitude of his lover changes doesn't this qualify as psychologically unstable and only conditioned to stick around in good times. Common I just said your story and truth be told your marriage and the Ops marriage aren't far apart during those trying times except the mentally sick and unbalanced woman the OP calls a wife.

For even Jesus said, if you don't/can't suffer with me, you can't share in my glory


Whatever happened to loyalty, honor, integrity, dignity, faithfulness, honesty


Cc Liliantalks

Ybaby:
You have not learnt your lesson and it is quite unfortunate because it is not about you - it is about the nature of the woman.

Women are programmed to submit - she naturally wants to submit to a man who toils and provides. She wants her man to rule over her but he must toil and sweat to provide then he can rule over her.

If he does not rule over her by providing and inspiring her respect then she will rule over him like your wife ruled over you and it is bad thing to happen to both wife and husband.

Your wife is not a bad woman .... it is her programme. Your programme had a virus (no funds) which then corrupted her programme (treating you like an infidel)

Bible : Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you."

CHoccolaTE

Smh. What sound wisdom

emmaodet:
But this is very bad. What is marriage when we can't have each others back? Why should marriage be one sided to favour only women when things are good?

Why should we encourage a system that wants women to just be there with a man when he has money. That means - Owo epo laraye bani la, wan kin bani la teje. People will only lick your sugar hand and not bloody hand.
Life is all about you rub my back, i rub your back.
Ki owo jowo ni owo fin mo - you can only get a fully clean hand when you use both hands to rinse thoroughly and not just one.
If my wife won't be there for me when things are down, support me, raise a loan for me in her cooperative then there is no point marrying in the first place.
Let me enjoy my life a lone when i have so that i will suffer a lone when i don't have.
This is really bad and i don't encourage it.
Life is never a straight line graph. Today am working and earning, tomorrow i may run into turbulent times and lose my income or businesses or investments too.
Nothing is 100% predictable bro

Preach

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