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Olasyke:
seun wtf?

what's with your bots and posting fake stories??

did the OP genders or wtf happened to your 100k salary and fiverr life or the 35k bolt?

https://www.nairaland.com/6522872/been-having-suicidal-thoughts-tired

fuxn kids

*this a real life story of someone closed to me, i posted it to get different views, we have advised but seems shes not listening, so i posted it soi hshe could read replies herself

dawnomike:
Where is your location? First, you need a good job to think straight!

Oju-ore, Ogun State

Hello Nairalanders, please I need your suggetions on this.

So I have left my baby's father since February 2022, prior to that time, I left earliar in March 2019. Anytime I leave this man alone, he always comes bac begging and calling some of my family memebers to plead with me. I have three kids with him, of which my first son is 9 years and my last is 3 years, I wasnt willing to have the last child, but it was due to pressure on going bac to meet him, I got pregnant. Since I met this man after my secondary school, he was at first a caring and supportive man, because we stay on the same street and attended the same secondary school, so my family nows his too. We were all cool till I had my first pregnancy, that crippled me and made my life journey paused, I had to go stay with him, in his parents house, because my dad was so angry with me then and wasnt wanting to see me, to cut the long story short, I gave birth, and startede taing care of the baby in his parents house still. Later on we went to reconcile with my dad and he promised coming to pay my brideprice soon, then my boyfried was learning how to be a furniture man, but still staying under his parents. After my baby became 7 months, I had to start hawking cold zobo drinks to also make ends meet for myself and gather some money, (that is what my mum does too, so I do assist her sometimes then, so I already learnt from her). When my baby was 1 year nd 3 months old, I had to speak to my boyfriend for us to leave the house, because it was a one room face me i face you apartment she was staying with me and her children including my boyfriend and my baby, so we rented a one room apartment on the same street. I paid half of the money from the savings I gather, the rent was 30,000, I paid 15,000 and he completed the other part. I got pregnant again with our second child. I had to reduce the way I hawk my zobo drink. I know that my husband is a lazy man but I thought because he was still staying under his mum and she was providing for him, but when we started staying on our own, this man became so lazy that he doesnt even go to work at all, not that he he is not good in furniture making, but he will sit at home and be waiting for me to provide for my children, when i reported him to his mum he became agile for like 3 months and was droping 200 naira for me to manage with my two kids for a whole day, I had to singlehandedly pay the rent for our house two times, till I parked out of his house the first time which he was even happy with, his mum came to carry my kids, later on after 4 months he came begging and said he will be a changed man, i went back with him, got pregnant again, I wanted to abort but I was getting visions of dying if i try to abort because I new late about the pregnancy, I was just so disappointed in myself, I gave birth to my third child. Not long long after the birth of my third child, he started with is nonchalant attitude, I became a an hungry slave in his house with 3 kids, he will go out early in the morning, come back around 1 a.m sneak i n and just sleep, next morning hes out, doesnt care about his family, rent on standby, landlord coming to disturb everyday, i became a laughing stock in the neighorhood, his mum had to help me find a job has a sales girl somewhere close, i had to do contribution to pay our rent, my children school fees and sort out bills in the house, and this man will still come home sitout side and by food outside, eat full before sneaking in to sleep, i got fed up and spoke to his mum, my mum and him about it. My mum asked me to come back home, and he said I am going nowhere with my 3 children, I disagreed, because I know they will not be taking care of, until his mum offered to take the kids in with her, I then left the house in the early hours of 11th Febraury, 2022, he watched me has I parked all my load that night, ,didnt say a word, till I left in the morning.

Now this same man his trying to guilttrip me to come back to meet him that I dont care for my kids, that he doesnt want another woman to train our kids, and that he wants me back with him. I spoke to someppl in our area who are famiuliar with him, they said I should watch him, but he may be truly a changed man, I told him to go get a place of his own first of all before I think of coming back to him, I traveled down to his mum's place last week to see my kids, because thats how I do monthly. He came to meet me there and took me to a house that he ahs rented, and was pleading with me to come back to him and using our kids as a main point. Now I dont know what to do, I am confused, I just left my last job which I was doing as a bar sales girl because of poor pay, since all this while my kids has been with his mum I do send 9,000 to her monthly for feeding of the kids, and she still do call me to complain about other things, sometimes I pay their school fees too, infact the 3 of them last school fees, I was the one that paid it, and my salary is just #20,000. So I am just confused although am looking for a better job, but himself is telling me i am worthless in the society because I left my kids with him which he refused me carrying them and that i wont be respected by anybody because i left my babby fathers who is irresponsible house, please I need ytour advice, what should I do in this situation, I am confused.

pegix:
is blood an organ?
Is blood an irreplaceable part of the body

Donating blood is primarily for help to save a life not for money intented for rituals

remember this in next quite blood is not an organ
And the purposes are diff

SO YOUR TOE IS AN ORGAN RIGHT?
TOE IS REPLACEABLE

that means I selling or donating my blood is barbaric too according to you

pegix:
We've seen worst in. Nigeria

Sometimes ago it was kidney

Asians sell most organs in the world china peaking the list

This is barbaric and a show of gross foolishness

See what poverty and bad governance has caused us in Africa

Funny enough there's no shit like ritualism

Please where you able to do this? What was the process involve if you did it successfully? I am also looking towards changing my name, and the name in my certificate. Nigeria is too tribalistic. I want to change it to this ppl native name so i can get this stuff

darkhorizon:
[url][/url]Hello all I want to change my name completely, I mean my surname, first name and middle name.

I have two reasons for this, firstly I don't really like the meaning of the names. Secondly, they are all Muslim names and I am no longer a Muslim. I want to change them to my ethnic names (still given to me by my parents).

What legal consequences is there if I change the name, because I am a graduate presently serving and I already have my certificate with the name I want to change.

Lawyers and experienced folks in the house, please I need your advice.

RealityKings:
hello everybody. My name is Arizona but my surname is LOUD

Arizona or Loud cant ill you, young man

maasoap:
Why not go back to this? Must it be your own car?

Car that I've been looking for since January, but haven't gotten any

I don't know the kind of feeling I've been getting these days, I'm in my worst feelings. I've never felt like this all my life, in fact in reality I have never been so down financially and emotionally all my life.
Here's a brief story of my life; I came to Lagos in 2015 when I gained admission to my MSc program, at first I didn't want to do an MSc immediately after nysc, I wanted to work because then I think it was easy for parents to link me up with a friend of theirs who's a big shot in the federal government for employment, but they all insisted I go for an MSc first of all, I agreed and went, during the MSc, it wasn't easy surviving due to lack of funds, so I learned content marketing and writing then began freelancing on Fiverr until my account was deported and I sold it. After MSC, I started working at a firm in which I was been paid 100k monthly before the company closed down and retrenched all its staff. I tried applying for jobs upon jobs but no feedback, I had to even edit my CV into 3 formats of which I had to remove my MSc qualification from one, and the other I removed my BSc qualifications so I could apply for any job, luckily enough I got a driving job that paid me 30k monthly, I did it for about 4 months until a friend told me about the ehailing service in Lagos which was more lucrative than the driving job I was doing, so I applied to be a bolt driver and I got an offer for a car, I then immediately left the driving job and then began ehailing driving in Lagos, I was doing very fine, making money comfortably and paying my car owner 35k weekly until a close client of mine gifted me a car last year, I fixed the car and started using it, but the car gearbox got spoilt after few months, changing it has become an issue for me, I've weekend for funds from every family and friends I know but all to no avail. Now I've been jobless since last year, I've been so broke, I eat once a day most times, my rent has expired, my landlord told me today she's going to throw me out if I can't provide her with her money before the middle of next month. I've been having several suicidal thoughts and I'm just so confused. I even tried seeking spiritual help, if this my situation is spiritual, but money was still demanded of which I just had to leave. I'm just so tired and frustrated. The time is 3:26 AM Nigerian time and I'm just sitting outside my compound just thinking of what to do and I just decided to open a nairaland account and seek help on what to do. I'll appreciate your comments. Thanks. By the way, I'll be 30 by this year.