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[quote author=Missy ♥ B link=topic=524130.msg6886210#msg6886210 date=1286366613]They've said it all - Tell him and keep hoping.

Meanwhile, I'm sending a big hug your way. https://l.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/6.gif[/quote]I finally told him.

Thanks Missy B for that hug. It feels so good.

Vic2k3:
Eh yah! Poster send ma best wishes to God when u reach there.

lol, It’s alright, for sure I will send your warm regards to Him. And you may drop me your e-mail so I could tell you how would feels like in heaven. But make sure, you take care of yourself, God forbid we don’t know exactly the time of our death, who knows you might be the first one to go. Hehhehe, sorry im just joking too.  Peace!

Omolola1:
This is so sad! let him know about your sickness, two heads is beta than one, who knows, he might have a solution

He knows already and somehow he is a solution too coz he lessens my pain.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Lol. Sorry but sometimes, people unconsciously 'want' to be babied so that they can keep convincing themselves that they are doing something good and totally selfless. [/color]

Thank you Ms. Iice, for that reply and for giving me the spank which I needed most. You have blatantly strike me straight, and I honestly appreciate it coz you made me realized I was actually selfish which I though I’m not.

Ubiero:
Oh dearie.I emphathize with you.The right thing will be for you to tell him about it,if possible should be done in person.
I'm not relegating your plight but it kinds of remind me about the story in Sweet November but with a different ending in sight.And if in the end,nothing or something happens,You can be sure that he would move on but he'll never forget you.

Oh yes, I remember that movie, its been such a long time. It's heavy drama. Anyway, thank you dear for the advice.

[quote author=Inked_Nerd link=topic=524130.msg6862577#msg6862577 date=1286038625]Rizah, I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. How you have to the strength to keep going is beyond me. I agree with ZIM DRILL, you need to tell this man that your dating. Imagine how it would feel if it were the other way around. This is truly one of the saddest things I've read on NL. I've thought this scenario before and I just don't know if I could be strong enough to deal with such a thing. Stay strong my dear [/quote]Sorry Dear, I made you cry. Don’t worry I am stronger everyday.

REALITY101:
Be strong sweetie and have faith. I have a word or two for you. I don't wanna leave my cell phone number here but you can reach me via this E- mail charlestylson@yahoo.com

Herewith is a smile to let you know how thankful I am.

Ujujoan:
Jeez Iice, the girl's dying cut her some slack!

My dear, please tell him. Trust me, it's better!

Thanks and I trust your word. I’m so glad and feel better after I finally broke the news to him and my family last Sunday.

Thank you guys for all your kind and comforting words. I appreciate your prayers, I knew I need it more than anything else.

REALITY101:
@ Op what kind of illness is this, this is a faceless forum who know there may be a solution somewhere you may not know. I feel your pain sister. But know this scripture and meditate on it depending on your believe. Jeremiah 32:27 “Behold, I am the LORD, the God of all flesh. Is anything too hard for me?
and trust me the answer is NO Exodus 15:26 he made us to know that He is the God our healer if listen and obey.

I wish your God's healing and best of luck in your relationship. Share your pain with him if he truly love he will understand and stand by your side.

I have cancer. I prefer not to say what type as it is irrelevant in the end.

MRbrownJAY:
@poster
what do you think is worse: not telling him that you are sick, making him believe that everything is ok while he is making plans in something that is false OR being truly honest with the person you love (who would surely understand the situation).
here is something for you to consider: there may be MANY things that this person wants to tell you before its too late,many things that this person want to live/cherish with you before its too late and you are simply taking all of this away from him.

btw: questioning god has nothing to do with your illness because if u read the bible in the right manner you would understand that god doesnt hold grudges on its subject questioning their faith.

You hit me exactly, I am fully guilty on that. I know I am so unfair to him. Am just short of words and teared out as I make this reply. Thanks for hitting me on the spot, I was really moved.

As to questioning God, I must admit I was wrong during the time I questioned Him for that. It's easy to say, but do you know how it feels the moment you know that you are dying? The feeling, range from denial, to fear, to guilt, to anger, to sadness and to acceptance. Thank God, I found the strength of Acceptance as a relief. Knowing, I would not have to deal with the roller coaster ride of emotions, the ups and downs.

I know in time, I will have the courage to tell him.

Dyt:
Try tell him,if he is gonna stay he ll n if he is gonna do oda wise,its beta now dan later

Dyt, thanks! In my heart, I believe he will stay with me. But the thing is I want to push him away from me.

ZIM DRILL:
by not telling him you hurting him just tell him you never know he might give your last better days

Thanks Zim! I really wished for it. That "last better days" means a sacrifice on his part, he has to give up his job. We are several miles away, its really difficult. I don't want to be selfish.

I am sick enough that dying anytime would not be a surprise. Well, it’s too painful to admit but I already accepted my fate, after a long battles with God for I have questioned my faith on Him.

I am currently in a very loving and committed relationship with a Nigerian guy. Though we are in a long distance relationship, we both managed to keep and overcome the obstacles. We are both working and preparing ourselves (emotionally & financially) for the future and plan to get married in two years time. Sadly, I know it will no longer happen.

My guy doesn’t know that I am sick and I don’t have any plan and even the courage to tell him. I love this guy so much and I don’t want to hurt him.

I have been a frequent follower of NL and it's quite a relief that I was able to share this. I would appreciate very much to have your views and thoughts on this situation.