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pocohantas:
Relatives cannot completely hijack a bride price payment. Except parents are dead.l or the father is very weak. Which is the case in many stories like this. Also the ihe nna is spelt out, so nothing like the guy expected it to be "symbolic". I am an Ada and my sister's husband asked (through her) what I want _I said nothing. But they went ahead to buy me a jewelry set which I reckon should be like 10k. What I see here is a greedy uncle and couples who didn't think he would go this far. I can guarantee you that marriage would have held, but tempers rise quickly on BP day that if you don't hold yourself, everywhere would scatter. That is why conversations are usually had at the backend. To familiarise with each other and know what is expected on the D-day. They never had the friendly match.

Also, Grooms who try to take lead and control the dowry/ traditional process are the ones that suffer most. Usually, the Groom relies heavily on his kinsmen, including his parents who are very experienced in this process and they will get everything sorted without issues.

This particular scenarios usually play out when the Groom wan take over everything, I am speaking from experience of being a part of numerous dowry bargaining. Usually, the Groom tells his Kinsmen what his pocket can afford after looking at the list and Kinsmen take care of the rest..Na dem sabi the work. At the end of the day, the bride goes home with her husband.

pocohantas:
Ihe nna is not BP.
It is not technically the same.

In Igbo, there is a saying that addresses this issue. "Anaghi a lucha nwanyi alucha", loosely translated to "Dem no dey marry wife finish".

I usually don't believe 3rd party reporting incidents like these. The person speaking isn't the Groom and that is why 3rd party reporting is dangerous.

Like you and Izzou have rightly said, there is no place in Alaigbo where BP is 1.2M, in some places e no pass N500 sef. Can everything on that list amount to 1.2M? Yes, but everything that makes up that 1.2M, except the BP in most instances can be bargained, if the groom is prepared because "Anaghi a lucha nwanyi alucha".

For the life of the marriage the groom is going to return to his inlaws to celebrate. Examples include, the birth of a child. In my place, we announce the birth of a child with gun shots, some families pay the baby's maternal side for that as well.

Amigoos1:
Barcola actually created problems. How long will Arsenal continue to get away with all these favorable decisions. Something suspicious is actually going on.

How did Nyoni play that game without a red card?

HERE WE GO AGAIN!

@A40! WHERE U AT!!!!

GO ON YOUR KNEES! I AM DONE LISTENING TO YOUR EXCUSES!

REVERENCE THE GOAT!!!

COYG!!!!

Ref blow this thing na..

diggz:
Arsssnal players suppose collect cards for there

So did Liverpool

Credit to the guys, esprit they see this through. They have worked their socks off today.

Raya wetin be that. Shey that one follow for tactics too?

6 minutes

Just see off the game

Nice work MLS but that was a heavy pass.

Great performance by Tzolis today.

Havertz is arriving the box extremely late.

Nice shot Tzolis

Excellent work MLS

Even Timber high for Madueke

Jacque saved that chance

Myles give up the damn ball!

Havertz isn’t helping us at all. Alaye stop with these nonsense dives, the refs are not calling it.

Rice na real conductor. Man is ensuring everyone is properly positioned.

Just look at Havertz

What is Isak debating? That was a foul..

Havertz has spent more time hugging the grass than helping us stay up to cover spaces and press.

iamoyindamola:
What a coward approach
Typical Arteta style

If this continues, it is only a matter of time before a concede.

Nyoni should have gotten at least for some of those tasteless tackles.

iamoyindamola:
Oloshi mumuduke tzolis was through

Worsestill, the werey isn’t helping Timber..

Madueke na mad man I swear

I hate this approach. We have essentially conceded possession and inviting Liverpool to come score. Sooner or later, they will take one of these chances.

The refs are calling a PK for the next Arsenal infraction inside the box..

That was the wrong call. Definitely not a CK

Omo we look lethargic and struggling with the Liverpool press.

The refs are going to call one these fouls. They are reckless and silly. Easily should have been a PK against us. What was Timber thinking!

Load that shot na Bruno

We are struggling eh!