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VEXT:
I pity you.. Iam not concern about the number of guys she had sex with.. But the abortion stuff is a "NO" for me.. Free her..

I don't want to make excuses for her cos it will look like am not talking with my clear senses but then we're all guilty of something, at least she was honest cos most girls will wait till after marriage or even till you find out in an embarrassing way

luscioustrish:
Well....all her cards are on the table, no lies,no pretense, no bullshi.t

and I respect her for that

LadySarah:
Be grateful she told you. Atleast you know what you are dealing with.

yes I'm very grateful for her honesty

DenreleDave:
Did she tell u dt??

Or u frnd told u dt dey didn't had sex

I know that a 100%

DenreleDave:
My brother, lemme advise you

thanks sir for the contribution.she didn't sleep with my friend thou.

thorpido:
You never can tell.She said she did those things in her past and she was honest enough to tell you.Some will hide it.

If you really think her past has no effect on you and you really love her and would like to settle with her,then date her.While dating her,use your head and study her behavior and movements.

God bless you for the advice, I really appreciate it.

I'll make it straight and simple...

I met this girl age 22 some months ago, she said she had a crush on me since her childhood, we got talking but I wasn't really giving her the green light in her defence so she got close to my friend within that same month of meeting me (online due to Covid-19)..things didn't work out between them, I met a friend of hers and we got talking which made her jealous but honestly nothing is going on between us..

now the main wahala started about a month ago when I got to know her for real, she loves me thou and I have equally fallen in love with her but don't want to show it too much to avoid being heartbroken or used. I was talking with her and found out she has slept with about 10 guys and had three abortions at just 22 yrs, now this is scary for me cos i have had sex once after which I promise to keep it clean till I find the person I was going to spend the rest of my life with( to avoid Baby mama or having a kid raised by a single parent)...she also made mention of sleeping with men for money and that got me mad cos I don't think sex should be all a lady has to offer.

She apologized for all she said and did in the past and I forgave her sincerely cos I know life wasn't easy for her. I think everyone deserves a second chance, even Hosea was asked to marry a prostitute, Mary Magdalene was a repentant LovePeddler and so on.

I'm madly in love with her and want to relocate to the u.s or Canada with her to start a family.. I'm 27 yrs, I make a decent income for myself, I have a small business, I'm good looking, and think is time to settle down.

My fear is will she run back to men in my absence or when I don't have the money?

Will she be a good mother to our kids?

Will she be a good wife?

Will she leave me?

Am I making the right decision? Etc.

We're currently not in talking terms cos I need some time alone to think or even get over her but I'm honestly in love with her.