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Casham:
My cousin just told me last night that she just got raped on Sunday afternoon/evening (6th July, 2025).

I stay with them for now. She's 18, the first of two daughters and was still virgin (as far as I know). Her only [older] brother is in school.

She's been acting funny since on Sunday evening. She couldn't hold it in anymore and, since there is no one else she could actually confide in, she confided in me. Now she's begging me not to tell anyone and not to cause trouble. She only wants me to help her get a drug (if any) that will prevent pregnancy.

She told me about the man coming to see her in her mother's restaurant and said she was going to talk to the man about getting me a job, but when she went into his car, he forced himself on her.

Honestly I am angry right now! I am angry at three things:

First, I am angry at my family. I have a family where the children are afraid to open up, because if you do, you will be blamed and castigated upon. I understand her fear and apprehension about letting other people know, but I just can't let this go.

Secondly, I am angry at our society. How can a man confidently feels he can force himself on a lady and get away with it? What kind of society do we have?

Thirdly, I am angry at myself. I am angry because I feel helpless. I can't let this thing go. I have to deal with this man, but I don't know how to do it without putting my cousin in a difficult position. I have tried to let her know that it is not her fault and that the man needs to pay for this, but she's been begging me to just let it go. She only confided in me because she's really scared of getting pregnant.

According to her though, there was never any real penetration, but the man (who is a high ranking government official) actually "released" ON her, not IN her. (Does that even make sense?)
How can I handle this issue right now? For me, I am planning to go all out and let hell break loose and let the heavens fall if they have to.

He ejaculated into her. Samples of his semen can be taken for DNA test purpose while a medical examination is done to establish bruise or violent penetration. The man can then be arrested and served a court paper after. He will be left to rot in jail

KingCold:
Please quote where I whined about the presence of Nigerians in South Africa in this post you quoted.

Nigerians have the worst reputationof all Africans boss, and many countries do complain about your presence... ie India, Malaysia, . some countries have even banned you purely for your predisposition to crime.. nobody wants Nigerians in their countries and I repeat nobody, you're at best tolerated, so don't make this a South Africa thing..

Why do you keep bragging to me on how many of these European countries have Nigerian populations? It really doesn't impress me.. it's not a flex you think it is.. the UK you're bragging about is also fed up of you because of your crimes so says your former president Buhari..

If black South Africans have a " hate" problem I shudder to think what y'all have over there since y'all don't even like each other tribally... "Igbo man cant be this and that in Lagos yoruba land" blah blah.. . You're the last people to lecture us about hate my brother, Nigeria is one of Africa's most tribalistic countries so which PTSD yall suffering from? Which side effects from which regime? Yall pointing fingers at us but ignore you own stench at home... we didn't wakeup and started disliking Zimbos and Nigerians in SA.. the dislike was earned... tell me why hate on your fellow yoruba or igbo compatriot..start there!!

1) name one country that has banned Nigerians from entry and provide the url of the govt agency that indicate this ban

2) name one western country that is sick of Nigerians and the news channel or poll where you got such info

3) there is no other nation on this planet where whites are still hated till today for colonization that ended years ago except SA

4) no nation on earth beside SA has this level of traumatic and PTSD relapse which makes them always want to pick up fight with migrants either

5) what moral rights do SA (which has the highest number of rapists in the world and highest rape turnover rates) have to condemn Nigeria for drug smuggling. Both nations sin differently but are equally bleeped. Treat your internal problems, arrests the rapists amongst you, fight your world highest hiv problems before you think of fighting outsiders who sin differently from yours. Is it only drug that is crime in SA? Is rape not a crime there? So SA people are the worlds filthiest and most despicable, most abhorrent human beings for their rape crimes. No country wants a south African rapist . They earned that reputation. What do you think?

6) I understand SA worship Indian settlers amongst them but hate the European settlers amongst them. But telling me Indians hate Nigerians is laughable. You are listing some poverty stricken 3rd world country popularly known for fraud especially cyber fraud and who also are on every country in the world hustling for daily bread. A people known for bad manners and maltreatment of their own people who work under them. India and SA are birds of a feather in that they both share in the hate problem, have racist ideologies and have the world highest rates of rape and HIV. India is like Nigeria in that it is a breeding point for globetrotting cyber fraud czars and is poverty stricken country whose citizens are on every street in the world hustling and are even here in Nigerian streets hustling. How is such a country your model? Be ashamed please

KingCold:
LOL, Now this is laughable.. travelling" has absolutely nothing to do with being "civilised" absolutely nothing! The great British empire spread high and wide but they did so pillaging displacing and enslaving, and overall being barbaric.. People travel all over the world for nefarious things, trafficking drugs, for sex tourism, to smuggle or to steal ,so equating traveling with being civilised is the most absurd thing I've heard all day!

Yes, Nigerians are all over the world as you rightly claim but there's also nothing civilised with this group of people, Nigerians aren't even civilised in their home country of Nigeria, you can't compare a Norwegian traveller with a Nigerian one, let's not act as if Nigerians aren't all over the world because their country has failed them, a Nigerian has no problem leaving a bank job in Nigeria to be an au pair or a janitor in Dubai... it's an indictment of your country boss

Contrary to a popular myth, black South africans do travel, I see on my Instagram black south africans in different countries everyday, black South africans teach English in countries like China and Korea, We have nurses in the UK, students in the US etc, we are just not as Japa mad or obsessed with the West or white countries as you are... we're also hellbent remaining and making our country work instead of fleeing to countries built with the sweat of other men.

South Africa is probably the most cosmopolitan country on the continent, we rub shoulders with every culture on the planet, so to claim we're "unexposed" just because we're unwilling to drown in oceans reaching for Europe is ridiculous

There are more Nigerians in UK, Cameroon, Ghana than there are in SA, but only SA cries & whines over their presence. Do you know the population of Nigerians in the US, Canada, UK, Italy, Germany? How come those countries are not crying and aren't going nuts and even crazy about Nigerians like SA do?

Perhaps, black SA suffers from hatred problem and inferiority I am aware you guys equally hate Zimbabweans and the white minorities amongst you. So, hate is more of a culture for you guys.

The apartheid system put you in combat/aluta mode and you have never recovered since then. It's now likely the recurrence of several episodes of national PTSD disorder after the struggles for liberation of SA. After fighting with the colonial leaders, you got to pick other leaders in continent to fight else there won't be any purpose of living. In this case, the next leader is Nigeria.

I do hope a national recovery programme could be carried out for those who survived the arpatheid and their descendants to effectively manage , cure and prevent a relapse of the PTSD disorder which now manifests in form of hate amongst black SA people.

Due to the post apartheid PTSD, you guys are still in combat mode after winning the arpatheid war, you are yet to gain full mental and emotional recovery. You need urgent national medical attention to calm down the aggression and come out of this "struggle mode" - the struggle for freedom

RandDigital:
Lol, if you've got so many options then why are you hellbent on dying at the hands of xenophobes in SA? Reeks of desperation. Keep telling yourself you're a 'traveller' - you're more a beggar especially now under tinubulation.

You guys hype this ZA so much. I personally have no intention to visit south Africa. So I am surprised reading the comments of my south African brothers. It makes it look like every Nigerian wants to come there. In Nigeria we have 200m population and 300 tribes. But those travellers coming to south Africa and committing crimes there are mostly from just two tribes - Igbo and yoruba. The Igbos are responsible for the drug frauds over there. The Yoruba are responsible for the cyber fraud over there. The combined population of Igbos and yorubas in Nigeria is about 50m. How could you condemn 258 tribes and 150m people with different cultures and ethnic backgrounds for the crimes committed by people of just 2 ethnic backgrounds with 50m population? We are different from those guys.

Have you ever seen a drug dealer in south Africa who was caught and identified as a Hausa man from northern Nigeria? Have you ever seen a cyber fraudster or drug dealer in your country who was caught and they identified as an ijaw tribe from Nigeria. Those are the number 1 and number 4 most populated tribes in Nigeria but you can never see them commit such fraud. I am just trying to let you see how diverse Nigeria is. You will hardly see these tribes travel out of Nigeria. The globetrotting tribes are the number 2 and 3 in population here, the Igbo and yoruba and they are responsible for most crimes you are accusing many innocent Nigerians of - especially the other tribes that don't like travelling for criminal purposes

JaceBlaze:
Morocco? If there are better countries in Africa then why is everybody and their wobbling-knee uncles flood ours this much.That right there is the part that kills me every time,and some of you are coming from countries that are million miles away from South Africa but some way some how you always end up right here in RSA🇿🇦 not to mention the overstaying of the visits because you know deep down you do not wanna go back to where you came from🤔

Make that make sense 🤔

Do you know how many Malians, Senegalese, Cameroonians, Chadians, & even Niger nationals that currently live in Nigeria? Virtually more than half of the tricycle riders in nigeria come from those countries. Besides, there are no countries in the world without a sizeable Nigerian population. Ask Kenyans, ask Ghanaians, ask Libyans, ask Americans, ask the Britons, ask the Italians. It is because black south Africans are unexposed, local and have no travel experience, that's why they think Nigerians see something special in south Africa. Nothing special there. Travelling is just our way of life.

Civilised people all over the world are known for their great travelling experience. There are more Jews in South Africa, USA, UK, Germany, India, Russia than there are in the land of Israel. The Irish population today is lower than the Irish population of the 18th century because of rich travel experience. Even south Africa has mixed race due to the travel nature of civilized Europeans. The lack of travel experience amongst south African blacks is majorly responsible for their closed mind, local reasoning and hatred towards the intelligent and well travelled Nigerians

KingCold:
. First of all, I doubt you've been to any of these countries you purport as being "more beautiful." You've certainly also not been to SA that I can tell .. South Africa has been named one of Earth's most beautiful countries by various sources a number of times, for a number of years now, which should tell you something, not Morocco, not Seychelles, but South Africa!. Cape Town alone has been voted: the most beautiful city on earth" more than any African city, actually the only city in Africa with that distinction! which, again, should tell you something. Granted, Morocco and Seychelles are stunning countries, I particularly love Casablanca, but you're using them to mask your ill-feeling towards South Africans, particularly black South Africans, that's why you're here insulting us over a survey conducted elsewhere, heal bro

The beloved "white argument" is also tired, and it's borne of the national psyche of inferiority you guys have for the white man.. White South Africans are a part of South Africa, A fact you guys seem to be forever struggling with. They are part and parcel of the building of South Africa, same with other South Africans of all races.. But ofcourse, you're only concerned about the white man's input? How convenient

You call yourselves "Giants of Africa" at every given turn, but have a problem when we "feel fly" because our country is beautiful? South Africa is beautiful, get over it!

LOol, you say in terms of beauty, we're tied with Egypt at 4th, and other countries are far more beautiful than us Ok, no problem with that, but at the same breath, we must thank the white man, thank him for what? For being the 4th most beautiful country?

And black South Africans do know about Morocco and other African countries, some of our footballers play in Morocco and Egypt..because we know how developed those countries are, our players have no problem ekeing out a living over there and as much as we know about war-torn Sudan and Libya, we know about the beauty and development of Kenya, we know about the rapid rise of Ethiopia and Rwanda, the stable and peaceful government of our neighbours Botswana...and we also do know about your under-development ........the crux of why you're spweing this bile,, so please don't patronize us, you've never even met a black South African so please don't dare speak for us

why are you weeping on the internet over a simple comparative analysis? Bro take heart. Get well soon

Morocco , Mauritius beats south Africa hands down. Seychelles too is part of a few more African countries that leads in terms of beauty while SA follows them from behind. Egypt and South Africa both share number 4 position. We thank God for white SA nationals, if not they could have been far behind cape Verde, Kenya, Tanzania, Algeria

The SA blacks don't know anything about those countries listed above - that's why they feel fly. The idea of Africa they know is war thorn Sudan, terrorism plagued Nigeria and the rest of corrupt and misgoverned parts of africa. A black SA doesn't even know that there are better governed countries in Africa. Countries doing better than SA without any white man input

Unlike SA, those countries spill no bile on other Africans over the internet

This presenter I swear has a Yoruba blood in him. Only someone with a Yoruba blood panics at the mention of the word "Igbo"

I am urhobo but urhobo leaders must wake up and protect urhobo interests on other fronts rather than looking for areas wey money dey and fight with general urhobo nation name only to corner the money to one or two person pocket

Warri south LGA is 90% urhobo owned but the general urhobo will not join hands with the agbarha okere people to flush the tiny itsekiri coming from the sea to steal land from them. They have never ever put mouth on that matter but are here talking about tantita because say money dey I side.

Just like ethnic Yoruba, the itsekiri are hateful and tribalistic to a toxic level. But worse than Yoruba, they are anarchist, liars and alarmists who thrives on stealing lands from border communities while raising false alarms

UPU should seek how to ensure that govt job I. Urhobo land must be given to 95% urhobo sons thesame way the Olu of itsekiri insisted 100% of jobs in FMC warri annex (ugbuwangue) are given to only itsekiris. Even that ugbuwangue land taken away from the urhobos of ogunu axis and are still oppressed there by the tiny itsekiri. What is wrong with UPU? Is their interests only driven by greed?

Goo0dHardDick:
Dude will soon claim okonjo iweala is his family.

She is probably related to nkojo iweala husband family. Nkojo is from ogwashukwu town of delta state same state and same community he said his father hails from. Also, In ogwashi okonjo is a family name. So if he can contact any of okonjo iweala husband relative, they can help him trace his father

Look more like a business pitch. There is no mention of existing food products but only mentions proposed products. You will do better as a creative writer for companies

This is the new way of advertising on nairaland without paying a dime

God1000:
Please What is the difference between IDF and Fulani herdsmen in Nigeria? both are commiting atrocities, killing babies, women and children. We criticize our government in Nigeria for handling herdsmen with kids gloves but celebrate the genocide going on in Gaza


Thank God there is judgment day, everyone will give accounts of their actions.

Show me links to articles where you condemned the Muslim govt of tinubu and buhari for handling Muslim terrorists with kids gloves

Tinubu not wike. The armed forces only takes order from Mr president

Mental illness and fame seeking is what drives people into lying against God

Yoruba supposed to have their own country, Fulani too. A nation without these two tribes is going to be a peaceful, prosperous and scientific nation

Klinee:
Why is my Domiciliary Visa ATM card can't make payment to so many countries?
And how do I rectify it?

If it's first bank web payment are not enabled by default

Dem no dey resign for Nigeria like that. He may have a problem with tinubu

BeginsAtHome:
You see developmental politics (talking about taking the hq of SSDC to A Ibom state)

Use your office well.

Omo-Agege no fit even influence borehole to his community.

Deltans and bad leaders

Are you okay?

Did you vote agege in last election? Or you are just a critic

Agege right now does not hold any public office? How do you expect him to influence project while you hatefully did not support him to come back to office

Agege in his highest political reign was just a deputy senate president but he has outperformed all those who held such positions

Agege influenced a federal polytechnic, defence space school, electricity step down to his home town. He influenced federal university of medical science now built in kwale. He also ensured FG takeover of warri airports to save it from collapse. Other projects he influenced but are not being implemented by tinubu govt include federal university of education,isiokoro and Nigeria law school for delta state. the university of education had buhari approval. Who in the PDP in delta state including those like James manager of warri south, mutu, agodah the ijaws man who were in the national assembly for 24 years we're able to achieve what agege achieved in 8 years?

Right now agege is no more in office. Take your hatred and bile to your party members who are now in the senate, house of rep and are not able to achieve anything. so far, sobotie, keyamo, Dafinone, Thomas, ned nwoko, onowakpo,are the ones in Abuja and they have not delivered a single project. If you have sense, hate those ones rather than hate agege who currently occupies no office and have nothing to leverage on to deliver projects any longer

Pootle:
i swear man is gone, and he may not have an estate, if true things dey happen

there is this duplex in my area from story i heard the man and his wife lived in the house had couple of couple of cars, he moved out with his cars and they never returned, people started staying in the BQ later some broke into the main building sold stuffs in the house and started staying in the house till date they did not return the gate man was collecting rent from occupants he later died now the house people dey live there for over 2decade now. i wonder what happen to the couples and maybe they not Nigerians

my great grand father was a successful business man who was childless until the wife left him due to her family pressure. The woman conceived unknown to them both and later put to birth in the village after leaving her husband. The son was a clear copy of the husband. Now my great grandfather was unaware of this till old age. The man was a very successful business man with lands and properties in warri. You know what, at old age when news got to him that his wife later gave birth to a son months after seperation who looked exactly like him, he was overjoyed and located his son to the village. Parked all his property to the village and tried to no avail to convince the son (my grandfather) to come to warri and take over his lands and houses now that he is too old. Why? My grandfather was equally a business person, successful in his own right who had three trucks and other vehicles travelling to the north and east to deliver goods. He was also into construction and was not willing to abandon his trade to go take over his father business. Those properties in warri are were lost after the man's death. No one else had an idea of where the lands and houses are located. My great grandfather traded with the British importers

nnamdi640:
I like your thoughts, but if the bandit is dead, who now deleted the whole social media account, again, if it was a ransom payment, police would have traced the owner of the account where the money was paid to

You are right. A dead person cannot delete his own account after death.

This is strange unless again,

A kidnapper used the victim phone to search random car dealer on tick tock, forcibly made thesame victim or another victim to do transfer of 45 million to the car dealer, then tried to delete evidence of his interactions by deleting chats and deactivating page. But is afraid to proceed to car dealer after later learning he can still be tracked by the bank record. It appears no call record ever occurred between the car dealer and car buyer

It might be a kidnapper/bandit. They search car dealer online to stay anonymous. Ask victim to transfer money to car dealer account and confirm it before you have it police tracks the bandit to their hideout. Bandit dies

Wonderful. What a business. Nigerians will rather pay $2 for jkrtklinic.com domain than pay $100 for a 10 to 20 years plumclinic.com domain with high ranking. One reason is ignorance al the value of domain age to domain ranking. Second reason is poverty. They just can't afford it. The third reason is lack of appreciation for technology amongst senior executives / health care managers

So your marketing of this domain is okay but only less than 0.0001% of nairaland users understand what you are selling. How can they buy when they don't understand, don't know the value or are even too poor to pay? Please take this business to those who understand the product you are selling

TILUMBU is the greatest misfit of all time. Most woeful president Nigeria ever had both past and future.

Two budgets in one year
Because tinubu failed to disburse money for capital projects that will bring road, healthcare, education to masses but he disbursed money for recurrent expenditures such as his yatch, cars,VP office renovation 100%. Even 70k minimum wage not yet implemented by the scammer administration

Tinubu, If I am not mistaken, is the biggest shame to ever arise out of Yoruba land only seconded by his nairaland fanatical mobs and supporters

MaxInDHouse:
Who did Jesus prayed to? Luke 6:12
Who raised Jesus' dead body? Act 2:32

All knees must bow to Jesus including your very knees no matter how deviant you are to accepting he is God. Bible already said, God has put all things under him and that all knees including yours will bow to him. Angels have been commanded to worship him, so who are you?

How shameful it will be to bow to an oga you refused to submit to not out of your own volition but because you are forced to. The day is coming that you will bow. Scripture cannot lie

And that day, you will have to explain to yourself the difference between bow and worship